6 Zvinhu Zvaunofanirwa Kugaro Kumbira muhukama

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Mu Tsamira nguva, isu tave takakurudzirwa kuti tizive chaizvo zvekukumbira vakuru vedu kuti vasvike kune inotevera rung pane yebasa manera. Asi kana zvasvika pakukurukura zvatinoda neSO yedu, zvakaoma kuve pamberi-kunyangwe kana zvichikosha sekugutsikana nebasa kumufaro wedu. Asi kujekesa pane zvaunoda muhukama hwako kunovimbisa kuti iwe nemurume wako mune peji rimwe-uye kuti chisungo chenyu chichava chinogutsa uye chinogutsa sezvinobvira. Pano, nyanzvi dzinogovera zvinhu zvaunofanira kukumbira.

Kutendeseka

Usarume rurimi rwako kana ari kufunga nezvekufamba-famba nyika iwe usingambozvifungidzire uchigara muLos Angeles. “Kuvimbika kunowanzo parara muukama nekuda kwevavariro dzakanaka; mukwanyina anoda kuti mumwe munhu afare, saka vanogona kukanganisa chokwadi kuti vadzivise kunetsana,” anotsanangura kudaro Ellen Kenner, Ph.D., mumwe munyori webhuku. Iyo Yeudyire Nzira Yerudo: Maitiro Ekuda Nekuda uye Kufunga. Mukufamba kwenguva, kunyarara pamanzwiro aunoita kunogona kutungamira kune chigumbu uye kure. Kwete kuchera kuyambuka-nyika kufamba? Panzvimbo pekungomutarisana naye, mubvunze kuti anofungidzira sei kuti danho richachinja hupenyu hwake. Nenzira iyo, iwe unogona kugovera zvaunotya pamusoro pekuti kufamba kuchaita sei hukama uye kugovera pfungwa dzako, saka inova convo pane kukakavara.

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Pamwe izvo zvinoreva orgasm nguva dzese. Pamwe zvinoreva kuwanda kwekutamba, kana kugumhana pasi pezvivharo mushure mekuita chiitiko. Chero zvazvingava, kukwanisa kutaura zvinokukanganisa chinhu chakakosha, anodaro Jenni Skyler, Ph.D., murapi wepabonde uye hukama hukama uye director kuThe Intimacy Institute muBoulder, CO. "Kune vazhinji vakaroorana, kutaura nezvebonde. Zvakaoma kupfuura kuva nazvo, "anodaro Skyler. Pedzai manheru mumubhedha, muchiongorora miviri yemumwe nemumwe uye muchiudzana, pachiyero chimwe kusvika kugumi, zvinonzwa eh zvinokatyamadza.

Nguva Yekuva Iwe

"Hukama hwakawanda hunopunzika pasi pamutsetse nekuti vadyidzani vanoputirwa muhukama zvekuti vanorasa tarisiro yezvinoita kuti vafare sevanhu vamwe. Kunyange zvakanaka kufunga nezvako sevanhu vaviri, kuva nezvido zvakasiyana kwakachengetedza hunhu uye kusarudzika izvo akakukweverai mose kune mumwe nemumwe pakutanga," anotsanangura kudaro Kenner. Ita shuwa kuti imi mese munokuitirai nguva dzose. Nenzira dzose, mumukokere kumhondi yako Spin kirasi uye edza mutambo weFrisbee gorufu naye, asi zvive zvakanaka kuva nezvako zvekuzvivaraidza nazvo uye nekubatanidza zvakare gare gare. Hazvisi chete izvi zvakanaka kune chisungo chako-iwe unenge uine zvinhu zvitsva zvekutaura uye kudzidza nezvazvo-asi zvinoita kuti ugare wakatendeka kwauri zvakare.

Kujeka Kwemari

Hatisi kuti iwe unofanirwa kuburitsa kiredhiti kadhi rako rechikwereti pazuva rekutanga, asi kana uchinge waunganidza mari, zvakakosha kuti hapana kana mumwe wenyu ari kuviga chero chinhu - uye imi mese muri muchirongwa chenguva yemberi, kungave kuri kubhadhara yemuchato wako kana kuisa pasi muripo paimba. “Kusavimbika mune zvemari kunogona kukuvadza zvikuru muukama nokuti kunoparira kusavimbika,” anonyevera kudaro Kenner. Kuronga rwendo pamwe chete inogona kunge iri nzira yakanaka yekukwikwidzana kusangana kwemari uye kutaura nyaya sezvavanomuka mune yakaderera-kiyi nharaunda. Paunenge uchinge wadzidza kutaura kuburikidza nemari kana iwe uchinge uchishandira kune chakanangwa chinangwa-senge yegungwa vaycay-iyo toni yakagadzirirwa kuisa pamusoro pezvinhu zvakakomba zvinhu.

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Chikamu chekubatanidza hupenyu kubatanidza mhuri, uye zvinowanzoitika kune dzimwe nguva kunetsana nemhuri yevamwe vako vakakosha. Asi nyanzvi dzinobvumirana iwe unofanirwa kugara uchinzwa kunge mukomana wako ane musana wako kutanga, uye haazobvumidze amai vake kana baba vake kukumanikidza iwe kuita chimwe chinhu. "Kunzwa senge uri chikamu chetimu kwakakosha," anoyeuchidza Kenner. Tanga nokuita kuti azive manzwiro aanoita: Nemhaka yokuti akajaira kukurukura navo, angasaziva kuti tsinhiro dzomubereki wake dzinogona kududzirwa sedzinotsoropodza, anodaro Kenner. Zvadaro, muudze zvingaita kuti zvive nani-zvichida ndiye ari kutungamirira mukukurukura nyaya inonetsa pakati pako naamai vake pane kuti arambe akanyarara iwe uchizviita.

Kunakidzwa!

Mumazuva ese, zviri nyore kurasikirwa nerudo, kupusa, uye mafaro akakukwezvai mese kune mumwe nemumwe pakutanga. Asi izvi hazvireve kuti zvakanaka, zvinoyeuchidza Skyler. Kuita kuti huve hwekutanga-husiku hwemazuva, mameseji akanaka akanyorwa pagirazi, kutora zuva rekuzorora pamwechete kuti vatandare pamubhedha- inovimbisa kuti haizorasika mukushuva.

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