Ndinogamuchira Kushushikana Kwangu, Nekuti Icho Chikamu Changu

Zvemukati

• Wakatanga rini iwe kuona kuti iwe wanga uchinetseka nekuzvidya mwoyo?
• Kwenguva yakareba sei iwe wakarwa nayo nayo wega usati wawana rubatsiro?
• Sei wanga uchizeza kuva wakasununguka pamusoro pekuzvidya mwoyo kana kuwana rubatsiro rwaunoda?
• Chii chaive chikonzero chekutyora?
• Vanhu vaikukomberedza vaigamuchira zvakadii kune chokwadi chekuti une chirwere chepfungwa?
• Chii chaunofunga kuti ndiyo kiyi yekukunda kunyadzisa kunoenderana nekurwara nepfungwa?
• Ongororo dzichangobva kuitika dzinoratidza kuti chirwere chepfungwa chiri kuwedzera, asi iko kuwana kurapwa kunoramba kuri dambudziko. Iwe unofunga chii chingaitwe kuti uchinje izvo?
• Iwe unofunga iwe ungadai wakagadzirisa kushushikana kwako zvinhu zvisati zvasvika kumusoro kana nzanga seyakazara yakavhurika nezve hutano hwepfungwa?
• Chii chaungati kune mumwe munhu achangobva kuongororwa ane kana achangobva kuziviswa nezvehutano hwepfungwa?
• Kufambira mberi sei

China McCarney aive nemakore makumi maviri nemaviri paakatanga kuongororwa aine generalization kunetseka uye kutya chirwere. Uye mumakore masere kubvira ipapo, akashanda nesimba kuti abvise ruzvidzo rwakakomberedza chirwere chepfungwa uye kubatanidza vanhu kune zviwanikwa zvavanoda kuti varwisane nazvo. Anokurudzira vanhu kuti vasarwe kana kushaya hanya nemamiriro avo (sezvaakange aita), asi kuti vagamuchire mamiriro avo sechikamu chevari zvavari.

Muna Kurume 2017, China yakavamba iyo isingabatsiri Vatambi Vanorwisa Kushushikana uye Kushungurudzika (AAAD). "Ndakaona kuti ndaifanira kutora basa rekubatsira kugadzira chikuva apo vanhu vanogona kugovana nyaya yavo," anodaro. "Ndakaona kuti ndaifanira kubatsira kugadzira nharaunda umo vanhu vakapiwa simba rekugamuchira zana muzana yavo."

Mumushandirapamwe wayo wekutanga wekupa, iyo AAAD yakasimudza mari yekutsigira Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA), iyo yaanopa mbiri nekumupa tarisiro neruzivo rwaaida kubata noutano hwake hwepfungwa. Takabata China kuti tidzidze zvakawanda nezverwendo rwake nekushushikana uye kuti kuziva hutano hwepfungwa kunorevei kwaari.

Wakatanga rini iwe kuona kuti iwe wanga uchinetseka nekuzvidya mwoyo?

China McCarney: Kekutanga nguva yandaive nekuvhunduka kurwisa yaive muna 2009. Ini ndanga ndamboona zvakajairika kunetseka uye tsinga kusvika panguva iyoyo, asi kuvhunduka kurwisa chinhu chandakanga ndisati ndambobata nacho. Ndakanga ndichisangana nekushushikana kukuru neshanduko yebasa rangu rebaseball, uye ndiri munzira yekuenda kuNorthern California, ndainzwa sekunge ndichafa. Ndakatadza kufema, muviri wangu wakanzwa sekunge uri kutsva kubva mukati nekunze, uye ndaifanira kubuda munzira kuti ndibude mumota ndiwane mweya. Ndakafamba kwemaawa maviri kana matatu kuyedza kuzviunganidza ndisati ndafonera baba vangu kuti vauye kuzonditora. Icho chave chiri chiitiko chekubata-uye-kuenda kubva musi iwoyo makore masere apfuura, uye hukama hunogara huchichinja nekuzvidya mwoyo.

Kwenguva yakareba sei iwe wakarwa nayo nayo wega usati wawana rubatsiro?

CM: Ndakanetseka nekushushikana kwemakore mazhinji ndisati ndawana rubatsiro. Ini ndanga ndabata nayo off and on, uye saka handina kufunga kuti ndaida rubatsiro nekuti zvaisaenderana. Kutanga pakupera kwegore ra2014, ndakatanga kubata nekushushikana nguva dzese uye ndikatanga kudzivisa zvinhu zvandakaita hupenyu hwangu hwese. Zvinhu zvandakanga ndanakirwa nehupenyu hwangu hwese zvakangoerekana zvatanga kundityisa.Ndakaiviga kwemwedzi, uye pakati pa2015, ini ndakanga ndakagara mumotokari yangu mushure mekuvhunduka kurwisa uye ndikafunga kuti zvakakwana. Yakanga iri nguva yekuwana rubatsiro rwehunyanzvi. Ndakasvika kuna chiremba musi uyu ndikatanga kuraira ipapo ipapo.

Sei wanga uchizeza kuva wakasununguka pamusoro pekuzvidya mwoyo kana kuwana rubatsiro rwaunoda?

CM: Chikonzero chikuru chandanga ndisingade kuvhurika pamusoro pekuzvidya mwoyo ndechekuti ndainyara uye ndainzwa mhosva kuti ndaibata nazvo. Ini ndaisada kunzi "kwete zvakajairika" kana chero chinhu chakadai. Kukura mumitambo, iwe unokurudzirwa kuti usaratidze manzwiro, uye uve "asina moyo". Chinhu chekupedzisira chawaida kubvuma ndechekuti iwe waishushikana kana kutya. Chinhu chinonakidza chaive, kumunda, ndainzwa kugadzikana. Handina kunzwa kunetseka kana kuvhunduka mumunda. Yakanga iri kunze kwemunda uko ini ndakatanga kunzwa kuwedzera uye kuwedzera pamusoro pemakore, uye ndakavanza zviratidzo nedambudziko kubva kune wese munhu. Kushoreka kwakanangana nenyaya dzehutano hwepfungwa kwakatungamira kwandiri kuvhara kusagadzikana kwekushushikana nekushandisa doro zvisina kufanira uye kurarama hupenyu hwakareruka.

Chii chaive chikonzero chekutyora?

CM: Iyo yekutyora pandiri yaive apo pandakatadza kuita zvakajairika, zvakajairwa, zvezuva nezuva mabasa, uye pandakatanga kurarama nzira yekudzivirira-yerudzi. Ndakaziva ndaida kuwana rubatsiro uye kutanga rwendo ndakananga kune chaiye ini. Rwendo irworwo ruchiri kuchinja zuva rega rega, uye ini handicharwi kuyedza kuviga kana kurwisa kunetseka kwangu. Ini ndinorwa kuti ndigamuchire sechikamu changu uye ndinogamuchira zana muzana rangu.

Vanhu vaikukomberedza vaigamuchira zvakadii kune chokwadi chekuti une chirwere chepfungwa?

CM: Icho chave chiri chinonakidza shanduko. Vamwe vanhu vaigamuchira zvikuru, uye vamwe vakanga vasingagamuchiri. Ivo vanhu vasinganzwisise vanozvibvisa pahupenyu hwako, kana iwe unozvibvisa. Kana vanhu vakawedzera kuzvidzwa uye negativity yenyaya yehutano hwepfungwa, hapana chakanaka pamusoro pavo kuve varipo. Isu tese tiri kubata nechimwe chinhu, uye kana vanhu vasingakwanise kunzwisisa, kana kuyedza kuve, ruzvidzo haruzomboperi. Tinofanira kupa simba kune mumwe nemumwe kuti ave zana muzana redu pachedu, kwete kuyedza kudzikisira humwe hunhu kuti hukwane hwedu pachedu uye zvatinoda.

Chii chaunofunga kuti ndiyo kiyi yekukunda kunyadzisa kunoenderana nekurwara nepfungwa?

CM: Kupihwa simba, kutaurirana, uye varwi vanofarira kugovera yavo nyaya. Tinofanira kuzvipa simba isu nevamwe kugovana nyaya dzedu nezve izvo zvatiri kusangana nazvo. Izvo zvichatanga kuvaka nharaunda yevanhu vanofarira kutaura pachena uye vakatendeseka nezvehondo dzavo dzehutano hwepfungwa. Izvi zvinogonesa vanhu vazhinji kuti vauye kumberi vagogovana nyaya yavo maringe nemararamiro avo uye vachirwira nyaya yehutano hwepfungwa. Ini ndinofunga ndiyo imwe yemafungiro makuru asiri iwo: Vanhu havafunge kuti unogona kurarama hupenyu hwakabudirira uchirwirawo nyaya yehutano hwepfungwa. Hondo yangu nekushushikana haina kupera, kure nazvo. Asi ini handirambi kunamira hupenyu hwangu zvakare uye kumirira kuti ndinzwe "ndakakwana."

Ongororo dzichangobva kuitika dzinoratidza kuti chirwere chepfungwa chiri kuwedzera, asi iko kuwana kurapwa kunoramba kuri dambudziko. Iwe unofunga chii chingaitwe kuti uchinje izvo?

CM: Ini ndinotenda kuti nyaya iyi ine chekuita nevanhu vanoda kusvika kuti vawane kurapwa. Ini ndinofunga kuti ruzvidzo runoodza moyo vanhu vazhinji kubva mukutsvaka rubatsiro rwavanoda. Nekuda kweizvozvo, hapana mari yakawanda uye zviwanikwa zvakagadzirwa. Pane kudaro, vanhu vanozvirapa mishonga uye havawanzo kuwana rubatsiro rwechokwadi rwavanoda. Handisi kuti ndinopesana nemishonga, ndinongofunga vanhu vanotendeukira kune izvo kutanga vasati vaongorora kurairwa, kufungisisa, kudya kunovaka muviri, neruzivo uye zviwanikwa zvinopihwa nemasangano akaita seHealthline neADAA.

Iwe unofunga iwe ungadai wakagadzirisa kushushikana kwako zvinhu zvisati zvasvika kumusoro kana nzanga seyakazara yakavhurika nezve hutano hwepfungwa?

CM: Zana muzana. Dai kukura kwaive kwakave nedzidzo yakawanda uye kuvhurika pamusoro pezviratidzo, zviratidzo zvekuyambira, uye kwekuenda kana iwe uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinetseka Ini handifunge kuti manhamba ekurapa angave akashata, chero. Ini ndinofunga vanhu vanowanzo enda kuhofisi yechiremba akazvimirira kuti vanowana mishonga pachinzvimbo chekutsvaga kurairwa kana kutaura nevadiwa vavo nekuti vanonyara uye hapana dzidzo yakawanda inokura. Ndinoziva, kwandiri, zuva randakatanga kunzwa zvirinani ndipo pandakatambira kuti kufunganya chaive chikamu chehupenyu hwangu ndikatanga kugoverana pachena nezvenyaya yangu nekutambudzika kwangu.

Chii chaungati kune mumwe munhu achangobva kuongororwa ane kana achangobva kuziviswa nezvehutano hwepfungwa?

CM: Zano rangu raizove rekusanyara. Zano rangu raizove rekugamuchira iyo hondo kubva pazuva rekutanga uye woziva kuti kune toni yezvekushandisa kunze uko. Zviwanikwa senge Healthline. Zviwanikwa zvakaita seADAA. Zviwanikwa senge iyo AAAD. Usanyara kana kunzwa uine mhosva, uye usahwande kubva kuzviratidzo. Hupenyu hunobudirira uye nehutano hwepfungwa hondo hadzifanirwe kuve dzakaparadzana kubva kune mumwe nemumwe. Unogona kurwa hondo yako mazuva ese uchirarama hupenyu hunobudirira uye uchiteedzera zviroto zvako. Mazuva ese ihondo kumunhu wese. Vamwe vanhu vanorwa hondo chaiyo. Vamwe vanhu vanorwa hondo yehutano hwepfungwa. Kiyi yekubudirira kukumbundira hondo yako uye kutarisa pakuita zvaunogona mazuva ese.

Kufambira mberi sei

Kushushikana kusagadzikana kunokanganisa vanhu vanopfuura mamirioni makumi mana muUnited States moga - vangangoita 18 muzana yevagari. Kunyangwe iri iyo yakajairika fomu yechirwere chepfungwa, chete chetatu chevanhu vane kusagadzikana vanombotsvaga kurapwa. Kana iwe uchinetseka kana uchifunga kuti unogona, svika kumasangano akaita seADAA, uye dzidza kubva munyaya dzevanhu vari kunyora nezvezvakaitika kwavari nemamiriro acho.

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