Ace Yako "Kwatakasangana" Nyaya

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Asi sekureva kwechangobva kuitwa Pew kudzidza, mumwe mu10 maAmerican akashandisa yepamhepo kufambidzana app kana saiti, uye iyo nhamba iri kuwedzera. Asi kana iwe dzimwe nguva uchinzwa kukwidziridzwa neshamwari dzako dzave kufambidzana kubva kuchikoro chegiredhi, kana shamwari yako yakasangana naVaWonderful pa chairlift, pamhenderekedzo yegungwa yeBahamian, kana muCentral Park (iwe unowana poindi), inguva yekudzosera yako. mindset. "Chinokosha ndechekuti kusangana pamhepo hachisi chekunyara nacho," anodaro Laurie Davis, muvambi weFlirt Nyanzvi uye munyori we Rudo pakutanga Click. "Asi kana ukaswedera pairi uchibva kunzvimbo inonyadzisa, saka vanhu havasi kuzokufarira."

Heino nzira yekupindura mubvunzo usingadzivisiki, "makasangana sei vaviri?" kuona yako nyaya yemusangano inokwikwidza neRom-com.

1. Reka Nyaya Yekakavha

Kugadzira nyaya-yekuvhara nyaya-ichiti makasangana pamakasvika mese Iyo Goldfinch panguva imwechete-inogona kudzoka kuzokuruma. "Hazvisi kuzobuda sezvazviri," anodaro Davis. "Uye ndicho chikonzero nei vanhu vasingazofariri iwe, nekuti mufaro wehukama hausi kuuya."

2. Seta Inzwi

"Paunenge uchitsanangura kuti wakasangana sei nemumwe munhu, zvisinei kuti wakasangana kupi, zvese zviri maererano nezwi raunoshandisa," Davis anodaro. "Zviri pamusoro pehukama kuvimba mune zvese pane kwawakasangana." Panzvimbo pekubvuma kunyara kugadzira yako yepamhepo yekufambidzana nhoroondo mushure mekurambana kwekupedzisira kwakashata, isa nyaya yako nekutaura kuti wakafara sei kuvhura chitsauko chitsva chehupenyu hwako uye edza chimwe chinhu chakasiyana-chete kusangana naye mavhiki gare gare. "Kana iwe ukaona musangano wako kubva kune yakanaka lens kana zvisina kunaka, izvozvo zvinoita mutsauko wese pasi," anodaro Karen Ruskin, chiremba wezvepfungwa, uye nyanzvi yehukama. Mikana ndeyekuti, yako mhuri uye shamwari vanozoratidzira iwo manzwiro iwe kuratidza, saka varatidze kufara, kwete kunyara.

3. Inzwa Simba

Nekufambidzana pamhepo, unenge uchishingairira kutonga hupenyu hwako hwerudo-uye hachisi chinhu chekunyara nacho. "Uri kushandisa kufambira mberi kwetekinoroji kuti usangane nemumwe munhu," anodaro Ruskin. Paunenge uchitaura nyaya yako unogona kuratidza zvakanakira kusangana pamhepo-senge maitiro aunogona kuburitsa kunze varume vanogona kunge vakave chepfu kwauri kana kune avo vasina kugovana tsika dzako. Taura chimwe chinhu chakadai, "Ndaiziva kuti ndaida murume aiva pedyo nemhuri yake," uye tsanangura kuti nhoroondo yake yakabata sei pfungwa dzako uye yakakukwevera mukati pakarepo.

4. Tarisa paNyaya

Kunyangwe kana Match.com ikakusvitsa kune yako yakakosha imwe, pane imwe nguva, imi vaviri makabuda kunze kwenyika, mukasangana mumunhu, ndokuenda pane chaiyo yekutanga zuva. Tarisa pane izvo. “Munhu wese ane nyaya,” anodaro Davis. Iyo nyaya inogona kunge yakatanga mune yekutanga meseji inosekesa yaakatumira, asi zvakaitika pazuva rako rekutanga uye misoro yawakanyatso batanidza pamusoro ichikamu cheiyo nyaya futi, anodaro. Vaudze nezvese ehukama husina kujairika iwe wawakaona kuti wainge wabva pabhat kana kuti wakakwanisa sei kudurura ketchup pahembe yako maminetsi gumi mukudya. Kuudza zvekare zuva rako rekutanga kunotendera vanhu kuti vaone kupfuura kwekutanga mavambo.

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