Kuve Vegetarian kuMukomana Wangu Yakanga iri Sarudzo Yakaipisisa

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Hapana chakaipa nekutevera kudya kwemuriwo, asi kuve wakajeka pane sei uri kuita shanduko ndiyo yakakosha. Chinhu chauri kuda zvechokwadi here, kana kuti chinokurudzirwa nechishuvo chokuita zvinodiwa nomumwe munhu? Zvinowira papi paurongwa hwako hwezvaunokoshesa?

Pandakatanga kudya miriwo, handina kuzvibvunza mibvunzo iyi, uye handina kufungidzira matambudziko andaizosangana nawo. Pazera remakore makumi maviri nemaviri ndakanga ndisati ndadzidza kunzwira tsitsi-kana nemuviri wangu-uye ndakanetseka nekunzwa kukodzera rudo. Kudanana kwehukama kwainetsa, asi mu semester yangu yekupedzisira yekoreji, ndakazviwana ndichidanana nemukomana ane makore mashoma kundipfuura.Ndakasvika pakumuziva kuburikidza neshamwari dzepedyo (uye MySpace meseji, nekuti vanhu vairamba vachibatana sei muRima Ages). Paakatama achibva kuBoston achienda kuNew York, ndakarega zvirongwa zvangu zvapashure pokupedza kufunda kuti nditsvake basa kuMassachusetts, uko shamwari dzangu dzakawanda nevandaishanda navo vaivapo, uye ndakatamira kuBrooklyn. Ini ndanga ndisiri kuita sarudzo iyi nekuda kwemukomana chete, ndakazviudza-zvaive nemusoro, nekuti mhuri yangu yaive kuNew Jersey, nekuti ndakanga ndawana inobhadharwa internship uye basa renguva-pfupi kuti ndipedze kusvika ndawana. "basa chairo." Zvinhu zvose zvakanga zvava kuda kuitika zvakanaka.

Kashoma nemwedzi mushure mekufamba kwangu, iye neni takasarudza kukanda dzimba. Imba inodhura ine nzira yekumhanyisa sarudzo hombe dzehupenyu, kunyanya kana iwe uchienda kuguta nyowani uko iwe kwausingazive chero munhu uye usingafungidzire kuti uchazombosangana sei nechero munhu mugungwa zihombe revausingazive. Kunze kwaizvozvo, ndaiva nemakore 22 uye ndaifunga kuti ndiri murudo. Zvimwe ndanga ndiri chaizvo. (Zvakabatana: Kufamba Pamwe Chete Kunokanganisa Hukama Hwako?)

Kugovera hupenyu hwako nemumwe munhu kunopa marudzi ese ezvinetso, mutsauko mukudya pakati pavo. Ini ndave newaya yekushuva steak uye kuda whisky. (Hei, munhu wese ane "urombo, kwete urombo" vaanofarira). Iye, kune rimwe divi, aive akadhakwa miriwo. Ndinoyeuka ndichiyemura chirango chake nokuzvipira, uye ndaida kuva musikana akanaka, anotsigira. Kusachengeta doro mufurati kwaisave dambudziko zvachose. Hongu, ndinoda kuravira kwewhiskey, asi kunyangwe zvisiri pamutemo, Ndakavenga kunzwa kudhakwa, saka ini ndainyanya kunamatira kuodha chinwiwa ndiri kunze.

Chinhu chenyama chakazove chikamu chakaoma. MuBoston, ndaigara ndega uye ndajaira kuzvibikira chero zvandaida, kungave izvo zvaireva kutambanudza chikafu cheChinese chakasara nemazai akakangwa nemiriwo yakaomeswa nechando kana kupisa nyama yenguruve uye kuyedza kugadzira mashizha eRomaine paGeorge Foreman. Paakatanga kutamira kuNew York uye ini ndanga ndichiri kupedzisa chikoro, ndaidya nyama kana ndichimuona nekuti ndaiziva kuti ndaigona kudya nyama mushure mekunge taonekana. Chandakanga ndisina kuziva ndechekuti ini ndaizogadzira maitiro: Akandijairira ndichidya nzira yake nekuti ini ndaichengeta maitiro angu chaiwo ekudya kubva kwaari uye nehukama hwedu. (Onawo: Iyo Bhenefiti yeFlexitarian Kudya)

Zvaive pachena ipapo kuti patakatama tese akatarisira zvakafanana. Aive nyanzvi lacto-ovo yemuriwo (mumwe achiri kudya mazai nemukaka) asi akavenga mazai zvakadaro, saka ndaisabvumidzwa kubika nawo. Nguva shoma dzandaidya ivo vakatenderedza mukomana wangu, akaita ruzha rwekudzokorora kunge zvingaitwa nemwana mudiki kune broccoli. Ndakaedza kuzadza nyama nehove patakaenda kunodya nemhuri yangu, asi kana taingova isu vaviri, aigaro simbirira kuti tigovane chinopinda kuchengetedza mari, uye yaigara iri nyama. Kana menyu isina zvinyowani-zvine hushamwari sarudzo, imwe rant yaizotevera pamusoro pekuti vanhu vasingakoshese varimi vari munzanga.

Chokwadi, haana kumboti "enda unodya miriwo, kana zvisizvo," asi aisada-zvaiva pachena kuti mukomana wangu airamba nzira dzangu dzese. Aive aine pfungwa dzakasimba kwazvo nezvechikafu chaive uye chaisave "chechokwadi" uye chinogamuchirwa. Kunyange zvichikwanisika kugarisana murunyararo nemumwe munhu ane tsika dzakasiyana dzekudya, izvi zvinonyanya kuitwa nekusave jekita pane zvaunofunga zvakanaka. Ini ndaida kunzvenga kukakavara, saka ndakaedza kutsvaga miriwo yekubikisa iyo yaizondigutsa ini nedumbu rangu riri kuhukura. Zvaiva nyore pane kurwa. Amai vangu vakatofara kubika mabikirwo emidziyo yemhuri dzinodiwa pazororo kuitira kuti anzwe kugamuchirwa uye saka ndaisazonzwa sekunge ndaifanira kusarudza pakati pake kana ivo.

Nepo shamwari dzangu dzaive kunze uko dzichidanana uye kupembera uye kufamba munzira yepashure-koreji, ini ndanga ndichidzidza kuisa mhando chaiyo yekudya kwemanheru patafura. Mhuri yangu neshamwari vakafunga kuti ndaifara, asi ini ndaiviga chokwadi chekuti ndaive nemisangano yekuchema zuva nezuva uye ndaiita sarudzo dzakawanda nekuwanda zvichibva nekuti ndaifunga kuti achandishora here. Yakanga isiri yezve chikafu chete, chero-Yaivewo mbatya dzangu, kuseka kwangu kwakaoma, kufarira kwangu nyeredzi. Kwaive kunyora kwangu uye zvandaida kuita nehupenyu hwangu. Zvese pamusoro pangu zvaive pasi pekukurukurirana pamusoro pekuti ndaigona sei kugadzirisa.

"Ndinotsoropodza nekuti ndine hanya," akadaro.

Ndainzwa semumwe munhu akasiyana. Muviri wangu wakanzwa kupwanyika, uye pfungwa dzangu dzakanzwa fog. Ndaive nenzara Zvese. Iyo. Nguva. Ndichitarisa kumashure, ndaive ndisina kudya zvakakwana-mumuviri uye nemupfungwa. Ngatisatombotaura nezve izvo zvisina kudya zvinovaka muviri kune yako libido. Kuona mifananidzo kubva panguva iyoyo muhupenyu hwangu kunondisuwisa. Bvudzi rangu harina kutsvuka uye rakaoma, uye maziso angu ane iyi yaneta, yakadzikira.

Pandakafunga kudzokera kuchikoro kuma 23 kuti ndinotora tenzi wangu mune zvekudya zvinovaka muviri uye ndive chiremba wezvekudya, akaedza kutaura kuti ndibve pazviri, ndakatsamwa kuti ndakanga ndisina kutaura naye ndisati ndanyorera nekubvunza kana ndaingozviitira vabereki mvumo (chimwe chinhu chandisina kumbonetsekana nacho, chakanaka kana chakashata). Chandaitya kurutsa ndechekuti dzidzo iyi yaimiririra (inodhura kwazvo) rusununguko kubva pakubvunza kwake kwese.

Handisati ndave nechokwadi kuti chii chakaita kuti ndimirire izvi pandakanga ndisingakwanisi kutenga katoni yemukaka wesoya pasina kunyungudika (Waive mukaka wesoya chaiwo here? Angati ndawana mhando isiriyo?) . Zvakadaro, ndakatumira cheki yangu yekutanga yechikoro uye ndikatombochinja mapepa kuti nditange semester pamberi pezvainge zvarongwa. Ini handina kumirira kuti nditange kudzidza sainzi iri kumashure kwekuti chikafu chinokanganisa sei huropi nemuviri, nekuti icho chaive nenzira yekukanganisa kuzvikoshesa uye hukama.

Pandakanga ndiri makumi maviri nemana uye rinenge gore muchirongwa changu chekudya zvinovaka muviri, ndakaenda kunoona chiremba wangu nekurwadziwa kwekurwadziwa kwandakanga ndichisangana nako mumaoko maviri. Akadaidza "kushushikana kwekuita," inova iri padhuze-yekupererwa nekushushikana kupunzika. Asi nei? Kubva chii? Marwadzo acho akaita kuti zvive zvakaoma kurara, uye ndaitotadza kubata peni, iyo, semunyori, ndainzwa kunge kupera kwenyika. Ndaizodzokera riini kujournaling? Kubata banga remubiki mukirasi yangu yekugadzira chikafu yezhizha kwaininipisa. Ndaizomboita yoga zvakare here?

Ndakaramba ndichiedza kubvisa kukuvara, asi manheru ega ega ndairara ndakasvinura muNew York kupisa (mukomana aivenga mhepo yekufefetera) ndichizvituka nekusangwarira. Nechemumoyo, ndaiziva kuti zvaiva nechokuita nezvokudya zvangu, asi ndaitya kunyatsobudisa pfungwa idzodzo. Izvi zvaizoreva kukanganisa rugare rwusina kugadzikana rwandakashanda nesimba kuti ndiwane muhukama hwangu.

Kubva kuchikoro changu chekudya zvinovaka muviri, ndaiziva kuti ndaifanira kukwenya protein, calcium, uye vhitamini D kugadzirisa mapfupa, asi zvaive zvakaoma kushandisa ruzivo irworwo. Ndinoshuva kuti dai ndanzwa ndawana simba rekumira pane zvandinoda pane kuramba ndichitevedzera mitemo yepamba isina nyama. Ndingadai ndakatenga zvirinani, toti, mapuroteni hupfu kana yogati yechiGreek panzvimbo yeiyo yenguva dzose (uye isingadhuri) yogati "yakatenderwa". Ndaishuva huku nemazai nehove sekupenga uye ndakatozvinyengerera kuti ndizvihodhe ndiri kunze kunodya neshamwari kana mhuri, asi ndairamba ndichinzwa inzwi rake nguva dzose.

MunaGunyana wacho, ndakazoona chiremba wangu nezvekurwadziwa kwainge kwapararira uye kwave kubvunda nemuviri wangu wese, uhwo hwakauya hwakazara nemusoro, musoro wakareruka, uye kunzwa senge madhiri ese arambwa. Mukomana wangu akandiudza kuti zviri nani ndisadzoke "nechirwere che, senge, fibromyalgia, kana chimwe chinhu." Mhedzisiro yerabhu yakadzoka nekukurumidza-Ini ndakanga ndakaderera muvhitamini B12 uye vhitamini D-yakajairwa kushomeka nekudya-kwekudyara. Chiremba wangu akasimbisa kuti kushomeka kungangodaro kwakakonzera kukuvara kwandakaita paruoko. Zvekuwedzera zvakabatsira, asi hazvina kugadzirisa nyaya yaivepo: Kudya uku kana hukama uhu hwakanga husina hutano kwandiri.

Raive zuva rangu rekuzvarwa makumi maviri nemashanu pandakazofunga kuita shanduko. Ndakaseka manje kuti mazai akanga ari mavambo ekupedzisira. Iyo inonyara hafu-gumi nemaviri-yemhando-yemazuva ekuzvarwa chipo kwandiri - yaizotora nzvimbo diki mufiriji, asi ndinofanira kunge ndakasimudza ndokuisa katoni pasi kagumi ndisati ndazoiisa mudengu rangu ndichifamba kuenda kunyoresa. Aizoti kudii? Panguva iyoyo, ndakangozviudza kuti nehunyanzvi, mazai aive achiri nemuriwo-ane hushamwari uye aisakwanisa kushandura chero chinhu.

Asi zvinhu zvakachinja, uye kwete nekuda kwemazai chete. Isu takadzikama takatanga kukura takaparadzana, uye kutaura chokwadi, ndinofunga kuenda kumichato sere chirimo icho chakatisunda isu vaviri kubvunza ramangwana redu pamwe chete. Tose takanga tachinja. Uye hazvina kuita setsaona kuti pandainzwa zviri nani, ukama hwedu hwakawedzera. Pasati papera gore mushure me "mazai," akatama.

Ini ndaitarisira kusuwa, asi ndainzwa kufara. Chokwadi, imba yangu yakaita maungira uye ndaifanira kuwana matani emabasa ekuzvimiririra kuti ndivhare chikamu chake cherendi, asi ndakanzwa ... ndakasununguka, netarisiro yekuchenjera ichipfuura nepakati pemuviri wangu pane kurwadziwa kwakadzika kwebhonzo kwandaida. kurwisana negore rapfuura. Zvakanditorera mwedzi kuti ndinzwe kugadzikana kubika nyama zvakare, uye izwi rake rakaramba riri mumusoro mangu pandakaongorora zvinyorwa nemamenyu, asi kufungisisa kwakanyungudika zvishoma nezvishoma.

Iye zvino ndinonakidzwa nezvikafu zvinovaka muviri zvinosanganisira nyama, hove, mazai, uye mukaka pamwe nezvikafu zvakawanda zvisina nyama. Ndakawanawo rudo rwemaPilates kuburikidza nemushonga wemuviri, uye ini ndakazopedzisira ndadzokera ku yoga uye kudzidziswa simba, ndichivaona zvakanyanya sekuzvichengeta pane kungo shanda ikozvino. Ndinonzwa ndakadzikama, ndachena musoro, uye ndakasimba.

Kungoti ndakaita zvakaipa hazvirevi kuti zvinofanira kuva zvakadaro kana iwe nemumwe wako muine madyiro akasiyana. Vanhu vane kudya kwakasiyana vachigara pasi pedenga rimwechete unokwanisa ita kuti ishande-inongoda kutaurirana, kugamuchirwa, uye humwe hunyanzvi hwekugadzira. Tsvaga waunowirirana uye shanda kubva ipapo. Izvo zvakakoshawo kuti utarise iwe pachako kuti uve nechokwadi chekuti hukama, sekudya kwako, ndiko kwakaringana. Uye nekuda kwef***, kana chipo chako che "Happy Milestone Birthday to Me" chiri kutenga mazai matanhatu, saka chimwe chinhu hachina kunaka. Iye munhu akakukodzera iwe anozoda kuti iwe unzwe senge wako wepamoyo, zvisinei kuti chii chaunosarudza kuisa mundiro yako.

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