Um, Sei Vanhu Vari Kuwana 'Death Doulas' uye Kutaura Nezve 'Rufu Rwerufu?'

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Ngatitaurei nezverufu. Inonzwika seyakashata, handiti? Pane zvirinani, inyaya isingafadzi, uye imwe iyo vazhinji vedu tinodzivirira zvachose kusvika tamanikidzwa kuitirana nayo (BTW, ndosaka tichitora kufa kwevanhu vane mukurumbira zvakanyanya). Iyo yazvino hutano-yekurarama maitiro iri kuyedza kushandura izvo.

Inodaidzwa kuti "kufamba kwakanaka kwekufa" kana "kufa kwekufa," uye kungoisa, inotanga nekubvuma kuti rufu chinhu chakajairika muhupenyu.

"Kuita nerufu kunoratidza chishuwo chechisikigo pamusoro pechimwe chinhu chatichasangana nacho munguva yedu yehupenyu," anodaro Sarah Chavez, director director wesangano rinonzi The Order of the Good Death uye co-founder weRufu & the Maiden, chikuva chevakadzi kukurukura nezverufu.

Vanhu vari kutungamira kufamba uku havana hanya nerima rima; kutaura zvazviri, zvakapesana chaizvo.

"Tinotaura zvakawanda nezverufu," anodaro Chavez, "asi nenzira isinganzwisisike, hazvisi zvakanyanya nezverufu pamunhu, asi nezvekuvandudza hupenyu hwedu."

Global Wellness Institute yaisanganisira mushumo wakazara wakanzi "Kufa Zvakanaka" mune yayo 2019 Global Wellness Trends nhepfenyuro, yakaburitswa kutanga kwegore rino. Izvo, zvakare, inoti kufunga nezverufu inzira yekugadzirisa nzira yatinofunga nezve hupenyu. (Yakabatana: Tsaona Yemotokari Yakachinja Nzira Yandinofunga Nezve Ndira)

Beth McGroarty, director wezvekutsvagisa kweGWI uye munyori werondedzero, anonongedzera kuzvinhu zvishoma zvinokonzeresa kufamba kwerunyararo. Pakati pavo: kusimuka kwetsika nyowani dzakatenderedza kufa senge vanhu vazhinji vanoziva se "zvemweya" pane kuti "vechitendero;" kurapwa uye kusurukirwa kwerufu muzvipatara uye dzimba dzekuchengetedza; uye Vacheche Boomers vakatarisana nekufa kwavo uye vachiramba yakaipa yakaipa yekupera-kwehupenyu chiitiko.

McGroarty anoti iyi haizi imwe nzira iyo ichauya iende. "Nhepfenyuro dzinogona kutaura zvisina tsitsi kuti 'rufu rwapisa izvozvi,' asi tiri kuona zviratidzo zvekumutswa kunodikanwa pamusoro pekuti kunyarara kwakatenderedza rufu kunokanganisa sei hupenyu hwedu nenyika yedu - uye mabatiro atingaita kudzorera humwe hunhu, hutsvene. uye isu pachedu kukosha kwedu parufu, "akanyora muchinyorwa.

Kunyangwe iwe wakazvifunga kana kwete, chokwadi chinoshungurudza ndechekuti munhu wese anofa — uye munhu wese achasangana nerufu rwevadiwa uye nhamo inotevera. "Chaizvoizvo kusada kwedu kutarisana kana kutaura pachena nezverufu izvo zvakabatsira kugadzira indasitiri yemariro inosvika mabhiriyoni makumi maviri emadhora isingabatsire vanhu vazhinji," anodaro Chavez.

Chimwe chikonzero isu tisingataure nezverufu chingatishamisa. "Vazhinji vedu tine mashura kana zvitendero zvinoita kunge zvakapusa pamusoro," anodaro Chavez. "Zvinoshamisa kwandiri kuti vanhu vangani vanonyatsotenda kuti hautaure kana kutaura nezverufu nekuti rwunounza rufu pauri."

Pamwe chete nefambo positive movement, kwave nekukwira kwerufu doulas. Ava ndivo vanhu vanokutungamirira kuburikidza nekuguma-kwe-hupenyu kuronga (pakati pezvimwe zvinhu)-zvinoreva kuti vanokubatsira iwe kugadzira gwaro chairo, papepa, rinoratidza kuti unoda kubata sei nezvimwe zvinhu zvekufa kwako pachako. Izvi zvinosanganisira zvinhu zvakaita serutsigiro rwehupenyu, kuita sarudzo dzekupedzisira, kuti unoda mariro here kana kuti hausi, kuti unoda kuchengetwa sei, uye kuti mari yako nezvinhu zvepfungwa zvinoenda kupi. Zvitende kana usazvitenda, izvi hazvisi zvevabereki vako navanasekuru chete.

"Pose paunoziva kuti rimwe zuva hupenyu hwako huchapera, ndiyo nguva yakanaka yekuonana nevanofa," anodaro Alua Arthur, gweta rakachinja-chinja-rufu doula uye muvambi weGoing with Grace. "Sezvo pasina mumwe wedu anoziva kuti tichafa riini, zvanonoka kumirira kusvikira warwara."

Kubva Arthur paakatanga kumushandira makore matanhatu apfuura - zvichitevera kupera kwebasa rake semuchengeti wemukuwasha wake, uyo akashaya - anoti iye "akanyatso" aona kuwedzera kwekuti vanhu vangani vari kumusvikira vese vari vaviri uye yekudzidziswa (anoitawo chirongwa chekudzidzisa vamwe maitiro ekuva rufu doulas). Kunyangwe kambani yake iri muLos Angeles, anoita kubvunzana kwakawanda online. Ruzhinji rwevatengi vake vanhu vadiki, vane hutano, anodaro. "Vanhu vari kunzwa nezve [death doula] pfungwa uye vachiziva kukosha kwayo."

Kunyangwe usiri kugadzikana nepfungwa yekukurukura nezvekufa kwako, kuunza rufu pachena - kungave kuri kutaura nezvazvo zvine chekuita nezvipfuyo zvako, vabereki vako, sekuru nasekuru - inzira yekusvika pakubata neako kufa kwako, anodaro Chavez. (Zvakabatana: Uyu Murairidzi Webhasikoro Akafambisa Nenhamo Mushure mekufirwa naAmai Vake kuenda kuALS)

Saka izvi zvese zvinoenderana sei nehutano, zvakadaro? Pane chaizvo mamwe akakosha anoenderana. Vazhinji vedu tinoedza kuita sarudzo dzakanaka pamusoro pekuchengeta miviri yedu muhupenyu, "asi vazhinji vedu hatizivi kuti tinoda kuchengetedza sarudzo dzedu dzerufu zvakare," anodaro Chavez. Bato rehutano hwerufu rine chekuita nekukurudzira vanhu kuita sarudzo nguva isati yasvika - sekusarudza kuvigwa girini, kana kupa muviri wako kusainzi - kuti kufa kwako kusimbise izvo zvaive zvakakosha kwauri muhupenyu.

"Tinotora nguva yakawanda tichironga kuzvarwa kwemwana, kana muchato, kana zororo, asi pane kuronga kushoma kana kubvuma nezverufu," anodaro Chavez. "Kuti usvike pazvinangwa zvaunazvo, kana kuda humwe hupenyu hwehupenyu munguva yekufa, [iwe] unofanirwa kugadzirira uye kuita hurukuro dzakakomberedza izvo."

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