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Zvemukati

• Chisarudzo chinoshandura hupenyu
• Hupenyu-hunoshandura kuongororwa
• Izwi rakanaka rekuziva nezveHIV

Ndakasangana nemumiriri weHIV Kamaria Laffrey muna2012 pandakashanda semudzidzisi wehutano hwepabonde kune vechidiki. Laffrey akataura pachiitiko chatakapinda tese, kwaakataura nezve hupenyu hwake kusvika pakuonekwa kwake kweHIV.

Ndakafadzwa nekushinga kwake kuburitsa pachena mamiriro ake nezveHIV pamwe nematambudziko aakatarisana nawo ekurarama nehutachiona - nyaya inotya kutaurwa nevanhu vazhinji vaneHIV. Iyi inyaya yaLaffrey yekuti akabata sei hutachiwana uye kuti yakachinja sei hupenyu hwake.

Chisarudzo chinoshandura hupenyu

Nepo hunhu hwepabonde hwachinja zvakanyanya mukati memakumi mashoma apfuura, kuchine zvakawanda zvinotarisirwa, kuora moyo, uye nemanzwiro anoenderana pamwe nebonde, kunyanya kana zvasvika kune yakasarudzika husiku humwe kumira. Kune vakadzi vazhinji, mhedzisiro yekumira-kwehusiku kumira dzimwe nguva inogona kutungamira mukuzvipa mhosva, kunyara, uye kunyara.

Asi kuna Laffrey, kumira kwehusiku humwe kwakachinja zvakanyanya muhupenyu hwake kupfuura manzwiro ake. Yaive nemhedzisiro paari nekusingaperi.

Mumakore ake ekoreji, Laffrey anoyeuka aine shamwari dzinoyevedza, asi achigara achinzwa kunge asiri panzvimbo. Humwe husiku, mushure mekunge waaigara naye aenda kunotandara nemurume, Laffrey akafunga kuti naiyewo aifanira kumbofara.

Aive mukomana waakasangana naye kumafaro vhiki yapfuura. Achifadzwa nekufona kwake, Laffrey haana kuda zvakawanda kuti azvitengese. Mushure meawa, aive panze akamirira kuti amutakure.

"Ndinoyeuka ndakamira panze kuti ndimumirire. Ndakaona rori inotakura pizza ichidarika mugwagwa nemarambi ayo… iyo mota yakagara ipapo ndokugara ipapo," anoyeuka. “Iyi pfungwa isinganzwisisike yakauya pandiri uye ndakaziva kuti ndaive nenguva yekumhanya kudzokera kukamuri rangu ndokanganwa zvese. Asi zvakare, ini ndaive nechinangwa chekuratidza. Ndiye [murori yepitsa] ndikaenda. ”

Husiku ihwohwo, Laffrey neshamwari yake nyowani bato-vakasvetuka, vachienda kudzimba dzakasiyana kuti vatandare nekunwa. Sezvo husiku hwakadzikira, ivo vakadzokera kunzvimbo yake uye, sekureva kwechirevo, chimwe chinhu chakatungamira kune chimwe.

Kusvika panguva ino, nyaya yaLaffrey iri kure nekusiyana. Izvo hazvifanirwe kuuya sekushamisika kukuru kushomeka kwekushandisa kwemakondomu uye kunwa zvese zviri zviviri zvinoitika pakati pevechidiki vekoreji. Mune yekushandisa kondomu uye kunwisa zvakanyanya pakati pevadzidzi vekoreji, makumi matanhatu muzana evatori vechikamu vakataura kuti havawanzoshandisa kondomu panguva yepabonde. Chidzidzo ichi chaisanganisira kukanganisa kwedoro pakutora sarudzo.

Hupenyu-hunoshandura kuongororwa

Asi kudzokera kuna Laffrey: Makore maviri mushure mekumira kwake kwehusiku humwe, akasangana nemurume mukuru ndokudanana. Aive nemwana naye. Hupenyu hwaive hwakanaka.

Ipapo, mazuva mashoma mushure mekuzvara, chiremba wake akamudana kuti adzokere muhofisi. Vakagara naye pasi vakaratidza kuti aive neHIV. Itsika yenguva dzose yekuti vanachiremba vape vanaamai-vanove bvunzo yezvirwere zvepabonde (STDs). Asi Laffrey haana kumbotarisira kuwana mhedzisiro iyi. Mushure mezvose, aingoita bonde risina kuzvidzivirira nevanhu vaviri muhupenyu hwake: mukomana waakasangana naye makore maviri apfuura kukoreji nababa vemwana wake.

"Ndainzwa kunge ndakundikana muhupenyu, ndaizofa, uye pakanga pasina kudzokera shure," anoyeuka Kamaria. “Ndainetseka nemwanasikana wangu, hapana kana aimbondida, kusaroorwa, uye zviroto zvangu zvese zvisina zvazvinobatsira. Munguva iyoyo kuhofisi yachiremba, ndakanga ndatanga kuronga mariro angu. Kunyangwe ndichibva kuHIV kana kutora hupenyu hwangu, ini ndaisada kusangana nekuodza moyo vabereki vangu kana kushamwaridzana nerunyararo. "

Baba vemwana wavo vakaongororwa vasina hutachiwana hweHIV. Ndipo Laffrey paakatarisana nekushamisa kwekuziva kuti husiku hwake husiku chaihwo hwaive hwaro. Mukomana ari mutiraki repizza anga amusiya aine kusuwa kupfuura zvaaigona kufungidzira.

"Vanhu vanobvunza kuti ndinoziva sei kuti aive iye: Nekuti ndiye ega munhu wandakange ndiinaye - pasina dziviriro - kunze kwababa vemwana wangu. Ndinoziva baba vemwana wangu vakatestwa uye vari negative. Akaitawo vamwe vana kubva mwana wangu aine vamwe vakadzi uye vese vari negative.

Izwi rakanaka rekuziva nezveHIV

Nepo nyaya yaLaffrey iri yeimwe yezvakawanda, pfungwa yake ine simba rinoshamisa. inoshuma kuti muUnited States moga, mune vanhu vanosvika miriyoni nezana nezana remazana vanorarama nehutachiona hweHIV, uye munhu mumwe pavanhu vanomwe haazive kuti anayo.

Zviri kunyange kana amai vane HIV. Mushure mekuongororwa kwakawanda kweHIV uye kunyatsoongorora, zvakatemwa kuti mwana waLaffrey aive asina HIV. Nhasi, Laffrey ari kushanda kudzidzisa kuzviremekedza mumwanasikana wake, chimwe chinhu chaanoti chine chikamu chakakura muhutano hwepabonde. "Ini ndinosimbisa maitiro aanofanira kutanga kuzvida iye uye asingatarisiri kuti chero munhu amuratidze nzira yekudiwa," anodaro.

Asati asangana neHIV vakatarisana, Laffrey haana kufunga zvakanyanya nezve STDs. Nenzira iyoyo, anogona kunge akafanana nevazhinji vedu. “Ini chandaingonetsekana nacho nenjovhera ndisati ndaonekwa ndechekuti ndaingonzwa chero zviratidzo ipapo ndinofanira kunge ndagwinya. Ndakaziva kuti paive nezvimwe zvaive zvisina zviratidzo, asi ndaifunga kuti vanhu 'vane tsvina' chete ndivo vane izvo, ”anodaro.

Laffrey ava mutsigiri wekuziva nezveHIV uye anogovera nyaya yake pamapuratifomu mazhinji. Ari kufambira mberi nehupenyu hwake. Kunyangwe iye asisiri nababa vemwana wake, akaroora mumwe munhu ari baba mukuru uye murume akazvipira. Anoenderera mberi achitaura nyaya yake mutariro yekuponesa kuzvidzora kwevakadzi - dzimwe nguva kunyangwe hupenyu hwavo.

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