Kufungisisa Kuti Uwane Mwoyo Wakazaruka

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• Vhura Kufungisisa Kunotungamirirwa Nemoyo
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Mwoyo wako imhasuru, uye kungofanana nemamwe ose, unofanira kuugadzira kuti urambe wakasimba. (Uye nezvo, isu hazvireve kuti moyo uwedzere-kuwedzera cardio, asi izvo zvinobatsira zvakare.)

Kunyangwe iwe uri "kudzidzisa" moyo wako kudanana kwerudo, #kuzvida iwe, kana rudo rwechikafu, nzira yakanakisa yekuchinjisa iyo inodziya moyo-mhasuru ndeyekufungisisa. (Uye kana chikafu-rudo chiri jam yako, gwara iri rekuti ungadya sei zvine hungwaru ndiyo kiyi.)

Kunyangwe paine mhando dzakasiyana dzekufungisisa, iyi yakavhurika-yemoyo tsika inoshandisa kufunga kwekufungisisa, izvo zviri zvese nezve kutarisa pamusoro pekunzwa kwekufema, anodaro Lodro Rinzler, munyori we Rudo Runokuvadza: Bhudhi Mazano eVane Mwoyo Vakaputsika uye co-muvambi weMNDFL, studio yekufungisisa muNew York City. "Zvese ndezvekudzoka, kakawanda, kusvika panguva ino." (Ichi ndicho chikonzero nei munhu wese achinetseka pamusoro pekufunga.)

Iyi tsika inobatsira kune hukama hwese muhupenyu hwako-kunyangwe iyo inobhururuka pasi pe radar. Kufungisisa kwemoyo wakavhurika uye mutsa werudo kunogona kukubatsira iwe kukudziridza kusagadzikana, moyo murefu, uye tsitsi, uye kuve nehunhu kune wese waunosangana naye nzira, anodaro Patricia Karpas, muvambi weMeditation Studio app. (Tarisa uone aya mamwe gumi nemana emashiripiti hutano hutano hwekufungisisa.)

Kunyanya iwe kudzidzisa kufunga kwako, paunowedzera kugona kuratidza kune vese vanhu muhupenyu hwako uye uve uzere uye uve wechokwadi paunenge uinavo (kunyangwe iri zuva rekutanga, kudya kwemanheru newedu-wenguva refu mukadzi, kana kubasa nemunhu wausingazivi), anodaro Rinzler. "Zvakaita sekutora moyo kuenda kujimu; iwe unoedza nekuvhura moyo yedu kune vanhu vaunoda, vanhu vausingazive kwazvo, uye kunyangwe vanhu vausingawirirane navo."

Uye kunyangwe iine mabhenefiti ehupenyu hwako hwezuva nezuva, rudzi urwu rwekufungisisa runogona kukubatsira kugadzirira kwenguva huru, zvakare-sekuita hurukuro dzakaoma kana kupona pakurwa-anodaro Karpas. "Kukurukurirana kwemwoyo wakazaruka dzimwe nguva kunoreva kungobvuma zvakanyanya maonero emumwe uye kuenderera mberi." (Rudzi rwekufanana kana iwe ugere patafura yekudya kwemanheru nasekuru vako vanove "yuuuge" mutsigiri waTrump.)

Pano, Rinzler anokutungamira kuburikidza nekuvhurika-kwemoyo kufungisisa uko kusingori kuongorora hukama hwako nemunhu waunoda, asiwo nemumwe munhu waunogona kupokana naye- angave ari ex, nhengo yemhuri, kana mukuru waunotungamira naye wenguva dzose. (Unoda nhungamiro yekunzvera? Edza odhiyo pazasi Yekuvhura Kufungisisa Kwemwoyo naErisha Goldstein uye iyo Yekufungisisa app.)

Vhura Kufungisisa Kunotungamirirwa Nemoyo

1. Tora mafemo matatu akadzika. Mukati kuburikidza nemhino uye kunze kuburikidza nemuromo.

2. Ita kuti urangarire mufananidzo wemunhu waunoda kwazvo. Ita kuti ive visceral-funga nezve mawanzo mapfekero, maitiro avanonyemwerera, uye nemabatiro avanoita vhudzi ravo; zvese zvine chekuita naye.

3. Nyorovera moyo wako kumunhu uyu uye dzokorora chishuwo chiri nyore: "Dai iwe unakidzwe nemufaro uye usunungurwe kubva mukutambura." Paunenge uchidzokorora uyu mutsara, unogona kufunga, "Zvakamira sei munhu uyu?" "Chii chingamufadza kana kuti nhasi?" Ramba uchidzoka mukushuvira pachako, uye pakupera kwemaminitsi mashanu rega kuona kwacho kunyungudike.

4.Unza mupfungwa mufananidzo wemumwe munhu wausinga fanane naye. Gara nemufananidzo iwoyo kweminiti, uchirega pfungwa dzekutonga dzichienda. Zvadaro tanga kunyora zvinhu zvakanaka zvinoshuviwa nemunhu uyu. Pakupera kwechinhu chimwe nechimwe, wedzera matatu mazwi emashiripiti: "seni." Somuenzaniso: "Sam anoda kufara ... seni." kana "Sam anoda kunzwa kuda ... seni." Ndinovimba izvozvo zvinokanganisa imwe nzira yekunzwira tsitsi munhu uyu.

5. Wobva waenderera kune dzimwe nzvimbo dzinogona kunge dzisiri nyore kuitabvuma: "Sam anonyepa dzimwe nguva ... seni," kana "Sam ainyanya kuzvikudza ... seni," kana "Sam akarara nemunhu waaisafanirwa kunge ... ... seni." Pamwe hauna kunge uchizvikudza kwemavhiki kana kurara nemumwe munhu zvisina kukodzera mumakore. Asi kana wakadaro nokusingaperi wakaita zvinhu izvi kana chimwe chinhu chausingazodadire, ingova neyako kwechinguva. Gara nayo. Mushure memaminetsi mashoma ekufunga kuti munhu uyu akafanana newe sei, donhedza fungidziro, simudza meso ako mudenga, uye uzorodze pfungwa dzako. Zorora chero manzwiro akabuda. (Unoda kuburitsa kutsamwa? Edza iyi NSFW kutsamwa kufungisisa kunoita kuti zvive zvakanaka kuti pfungwa dzako dzive ne zero firita.)

Kana iwe uchingodzidzira maitiro ekufungisisa, zvinogona kutora imwe tsika kudzikamisa pfungwa dzako uye kutarisa pachinhu chimwe chete (nekuti, ngatitendesei, pfungwa dzedu dzinowanzove neanosvika zviuru gumi tabo yakavhurika). Asi chikamu chakanakisa ndechekuti iwe haugone kuita kufungisisa zvisizvo. Maererano naRinzler, chikanganiso chete chinogona kuitika chaunogona kuita "kuzvitongesa nehasha. Ndizvozvo."

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