Zvemagariro Midhiya Iri Kuuraya Shamwari Dzako

Zvemukati

• Iko kune kugona kwehukama, kunyangwe online
• Kune mhedzisiro kumazinga ako esimba kana uchiita mune zvakataurwa
• Zvese zvaunoda uye hapana kutamba kunogona kuita chizvarwa chega
• Zvemagariro midhiya inyika nyowani, uye ichiri kuda mitemo

Iwe unongofanirwa kuve uine shamwari zana nemakumi mashanu. Saka… ko pasocial media?

Hapana munhu ari mutorwa pakadzika kwakadzika mukati meiyo Facebook tsuro gomba. Iwe unoziva mamiriro acho ezvinhu. Kwandiri, Chipiri manheru uye ndiri kuzorora ndiri pamubhedha, ndisingafungi kupuruzira "zvishoma," kana hafu yeawa gare gare, handisi padyo nekuzorora. Ini ndichataura pane shamwari shamwari uye ipapo Facebook inoratidza kushamwaridzana newaimbova mukirasi, asi pachinzvimbo chekuita izvo, ini ndichapururudza kuburikidza neprofita yavo ndodzidza nezve makore mashoma apfuura ehupenyu hwavo ... kudzamara ndaona chinyorwa chinonditumira pasi yekutsvaira inotenderera uye chikamu chemashoko chinosiya huropi hwangu pahyperdrive.

Mangwana acho, ndinomuka ndaneta.

Zvichida mwenje webhuruu unovhenekera kumeso kwedu apo isu tichipfuura nepakati pefidhi uye shamwari zvine mhosva yekukanganisa nguva yedu yekurara. Kusasununguka kunogona kutsanangura grogginess nekutsamwa munhu kwaanako. Kana zvinogona kuva chimwe chinhu.

Pamwe, sezvatinozviudza kuti tiri online kuti tigare takabatana, isu tisingazive tichipedza simba redu rehukama mukubatana-kwevanhu. Ko kana zvese zvakafanana, moyo, uye mhinduro yatinopa kune mumwe munhu paInternet iri kutora kubva kusimba redu kune hushamwari hwepamhepo?

Iko kune kugona kwehukama, kunyangwe online

Nepo uropi hwedu hungaudza mutsauko pakati pekukurukurirana pamhepo uye ne-munhu-kushamwaridzana kushamwaridzana, hazviite kuti isu takagadzira zvimwe - kana rakaparadzaniswa seti - simba kungo re social media use. Iko kune muganho wekuti vangani vanhu vatiri kunyatso kubatika navo uye vane simba ravo. Izvi zvinotoreva kuti nguva dzehusiku-dzehusiku dzakapedzerwa mukukurukura nevasingazive online zvinotora kubva pasimba ratinaro rekutarisira vanhu vatinoziva chaizvo kunze kwenyika.

"Zvinoita sekunge isu tinokwanisa chete kubata dzinosvika 150 shamwari, kusanganisira nhengo dzemhuri," anodaro R.I.M. Dunbar, PhD, purofesa muDhipatimendi reKuongorora Psychology paYunivhesiti yeOxford. Anotaurira Healthline kuti uyu "muganho wakaiswa nehukuru hwehuropi hwedu."

Sekureva kwaDunbar, ichi ndicho chimwe chezvipingamupinyi zviviri zvinoratidza kuti tine shamwari ngani. Dunbar nevamwe vaongorori vakasimbisa izvi nekuitisa zviongororwa zvehuropi, vachiona kuti huwandu hweshamwari dzatinadzo, kure uye nepamhepo, hune hukama nehukuru hwedu neocortex, chikamu chehuropi chinotarisira hukama.

Chipingaidzo chechipiri inguva.

Zvinoenderana ne data kubva kuGlobalWebIndex, vanhu vari kushandisa avhareji yemaawa anopfuura maviri pazuva pasocial media nekutumira mameseji muna 2017. Iyi hafu yeawa inopfuura muna 2012, uye inogona kuwedzera sezvo nguva ichienderera mberi.

"Iyo nguva yaunodyara muhukama inotara kusimba kwehukama," Dunbar anodaro. Asi ongororo yaDunbar ichangoburwa inoratidza kuti kunyangwe hazvo pasocial media inotibvumidza "kupaza nepahwindo regirazi" rekuchengetedza hukama hwepamhepo uye kuve nenzvimbo dzakakura dzekudyidzana, hazvikunde kugona kwedu kwehukama.

Kazhinji, mukati memuganho zana nemakumi mashanu tine madenderedzwa emukati kana zvidimbu zvinoda imwe nhanho yekudyidzana nguva dzose kuchengetedza hushamwari. Kunyangwe kuri kutora kofi, kana kungoita imwe mhando yekudzokera-uye-mberi hurukuro. Funga nezve ako wega denderedzwa uye vangani veavo shamwari dzaunofunga sepedyo kupfuura vamwe. Dunbar anopedzisa kuti denderedzwa rega rega rinoda huwandu hwakasiyana hwekuzvipira uye kudyidzana.

Anoti tinoda kudyidzana "kanokwana kamwe pasvondo kuitira mukati memukati mematanho mashanu, kanokwana kamwe pamwedzi kune rinotevera reshamwari dzepedyo gumi neshanu, uye kanokwana pagore kune dura guru re50 'shamwari chete. '”Kunze kwekunge inhengo dzemhuri uye hama, dzinoda kudyidzana kusingagumi kuchengetedza hukama.

Saka chii chinoitika kana iwe uine shamwari kana muteveri nhamba yakakura kupfuura zana nesocial media network? Dunbar inoti iri nhamba isina zvarinoreva. "Tiri kuzvinyengera," anotsanangura kudaro. "Unogona kunyoresa vanhu vazhinji sezvaunoda, asi izvozvo hazviite shamwari. "Zvatiri kuita chete kusaina vanhu vataizofunga sevanhu vatinozivana navo pasiri pamhepo."

Dunbar inoti, sezvatinoita isu takatarisana-pasi, tinopa hukuru hwekudyidzana kwedu pasocial media kune vanhu gumi nevashanu vari padyo nesu, pamwe ne40 muzana yekutarisa kwedu tichienda kumabheti edu mashanu uye 60 muzana kune edu 15. Izvi zvinobatana mune imwe yeakare nharo dzinotsigira vezvenhau: Zvinogona kusawedzera huwandu hwehukama hwechokwadi, asi mapuratifomu aya anogona kutibatsira kuchengetedza nekusimbisa zvisungo zvedu zvakakosha. "Zvemagariro enhau zvinopa nzira inoshanda kwazvo yekuchengetedza hushamwari hwekare kuenda, saka hatifanire kuigogodza," anodaro Dunbar.

Imwe yezvakanakira zvemagariro enhau kugona kuita zviitiko zvakakosha zvevanhu vandisingagare padhuze navo. Ini ndinogona kuve muoni wezvese kubva panguva dzakakosha kusvika kuzvikafu zvisina kujairika, zvese ndichifamba zvangu zvezuva nezuva. Asi pamwe nekunakidzwa, mafidha angu akazadzwawo nemusoro wenyaya uye nekutsamwa kwekutaura kubva kuhukama hwangu nevasingazive - hazvidzivirike.

Kune mhedzisiro kumazinga ako esimba kana uchiita mune zvakataurwa

Kushandisa simba rako mukudyidzana kwemagariro enhau nevanhu vausingazive kunogona kunge kuchikanganisa zviwanikwa. Sarudzo dzapera, ndakafunga vezvenhau mukana wekugadzirisa zvematongerwo enyika. Ndakagadzira zvandaitarisira kuti zvairemekedzwa zvematongerwo enyika nezvekodzero dzevakadzi uye shanduko yemamiriro ekunze. Yakadzosera kumashure apo mumwe munhu akandimomotera nemishumo isina kugadzikana yakananga, zvichikonzera adrenaline yangu kusimuka. Ini ndaifanira kubva ndabvunza nhanho dzangu dzinotevera.

Kuita mhinduro kune hutano kwandiri uye nehukama hwangu?

2017 yanga iri, pasina kupokana, rimwe remakore akaomesesa ekubata pamhepo, ichichinja hurukuro dze URL kuita IRL (muhupenyu chaihwo) mhedzisiro. Kubva pagakava retsika, rezvematongerwo enyika, kana rehunhu kusvika kureurura kwe # metoo, tinowanzotsamwiswa kana kunzwa kumanikidzwa kuti timbopinda mukati. Kunyanya sezvo zviso zvakajairika uye manzwi akabatana nedivi rakapesana. Asi zvakadii isu pachedu - uye kune vamwe?

"Vanhu vanogona kunzwa vachimanikidzwa kutaura kutsamwa kwavo online nekuti vanogamuchira mhinduro yakanaka yekuita kudaro," anodaro M.J Crockett, chiremba wezveuropi. Mubasa rake, anoongorora mashandisiro anoita vanhu pasocial media uye kuti kunzwira tsitsi kwavo kana kunzwira tsitsi zvakasiyana pamhepo pane pamunhu. Mumwechete akafanana kana chirevo anogona kunge achiitirwa kusimbisa maonero, asi anogona zvakare snowball uye kukanganisa hukama hwako hwepamhepo.

Chikwata chekutsvaga cheFacebook chakabvunzawo mubvunzo wakafanana: Nhau dzezvemagariro dzakanaka here kana zvakaipa kuti tigare zvakanaka? Mhinduro yavo yaive yekuti kushandisa nguva kwainge kwakaipa, asi kushingairira kutaurirana kwanga kwakanaka. “Kungotepfenyura mamiriro ezvinhu hazvina kukwana; vanhu vaifanirwa kudyidzana-ne-mumwe nevamwe munetiweki yavo, ”David Ginsberg naMoira Burke, vaongorori vepaFacebook, vanotaura kubva kuimba yavo yenhau. Vanoti "kugovana mameseji, zvinyorwa, uye kutaura neshamwari dzepedyo uye kufunga nezvehukama hwekare - zvine hukama nekuvandudzwa kwehupenyu."

Asi chii chinoitika kana kudyidzana uku kuchinge kwaora? Kunyangwe usinga shamwaridzane nemumwe munhu pamusoro pekupokana, iko kudyidzana - pane zvirinani - kunogona kuchinja zvaunofunga nazvo uye nezvazvo.

Mune chinyorwa cheVanity Fair nezve kupera kwemagariro enhau, Nick Bilton akanyora kuti: “Makore apfuura, mukuru wepaFacebook akandiudza kuti chikonzero chikuru chinoita kuti vanhu vasafambidzana inyaya yekuti havabvumirane pane imwe nyaya. Executive akataura achiseka achiti, 'Ndiani anoziva, kana izvi zvikaramba zvichiitika, pamwe tinopedzisira tave nevanhu vanongova neshamwari shoma paFacebook.' ”Munguva pfupi yapfuura, aimbove mutungamiriri weFacebook, Chamanth Palihapitiya akaita misoro yekuti," ndinofunga isu vagadzira maturusi ari kubvarura mashandiro enharaunda mashandiro… [Zvemagariro evanhu] zviri kukanganisa nheyo dzehunhu hwevanhu kuzvibata pamwe nekudyidzana. ”

"Pane humwe humbowo hwekuti vanhu vanonyanya kuda kuranga vamwe kana vachitaurirana kuburikidza necomputer interface kupfuura zvavari pavanobatana vakatarisana," Crockett anotiudza. Kuratidzira kutsamwa kwehunhu kunogona zvakare kuvhura mhinduro dzisina kunaka mukudzoka, uye kubva kune vanhu vangangodaro vasina tsitsi zvakanyanya pamaonero akasiyana. Kana zvasvika pakuita hurukuro yekuparadzanisa, ungangoda kushandura kudyidzana kwepamhepo kuita zvepamhepo. Crocket akataura nezve "pane zvakare tsvagiridzo inoratidza kuti kunzwa manzwi evamwe vanhu kunotibatsira kurwisa hunhu mukati memakakatanwa ezvematongerwo enyika."

Kune avo vanofarira zvematongerwo enyika uye zvemagariro kutumira uye vanowana yakakwana resolution yekuenderera pasocial media, tora zano raCeleste Headlee. Makore ake ekubvunzurudza ruzivo paGeorgia Public Radio hurukuro yezuva nezuva yehurukuro "Pane Yechipiri Kufunga" yakamukurudzira kunyora "Tinofanira Kutaura: Maitiro Ekuita Kukurukurirana Kunokosha" uye kumupa hurukuro yeTED, Nzira gumi dzekuva Nhaurirano Iri Nani.

"Funga usati watumira," anodaro Headlee. “Usati wapindura pasocial media, verenga zvakatumirwa zvekutanga kanenge kaviri kuti uve nechokwadi chekuti unozvinzwisisa. Wobva waita kakutsvagurudza pamusoro penyaya iyi. Zvese izvi zvinotora nguva, saka zvinokuderedza, uye zvinochengetedzawo pfungwa dzako muchimiro. ”

Autumn Collier, anoshanda muAtlanta-anoshanda mushandi wezvekurapa anorapa varwere vane hutano hwevanhu midhiya vanonetseka, anobvumirana Kutumira zvematongerwo enyika kunoda simba rakawanda nekudzoka kushoma pane iyo mari, anonongedza. "Inogona kunzwa seinopa simba panguva iyoyo, asi wozobatwa ne'Vakapindura here? 'Uye kuita nhaurirano isina kunaka yekumashure nekumberi. Zvingave zvine musoro kuisa simba iri muchinangwa kana kunyorera tsamba kune vezvematongerwo enyika. ”

Uye dzimwe nguva, zvingave zviri nani kusava nehanya nenhaurirano. Kuziva nguva yekubva uye kuenda kunze kwenyika kunogona kuve kiyi kune yako hutano hwepfungwa uye kuchengetedza hushamwari hweramangwana.

Zvese zvaunoda uye hapana kutamba kunogona kuita chizvarwa chega

Kana zvasvika pakuramba uchitaurirana neshamwari, zvakare zvakakosha kuti uzive nguva yekuita kusangana-kumeso kusangana zvakare. Kunyange Dunbar akarumbidza zvakanakira pasocial media, kune zvekare boka riri kukura rekutsvaga nezve zvakashata mhedzisiro yenhau, sekuwedzera kushushikana, kushushikana, uye kunzwa kwekusurukirwa. Aya manzwiro anogona kuverengerwa kuhuwandu hwevanhu vaunotevera uye nekuita navo, shamwari kana kwete.

"Nhau dzezvemagariro dzinozvishambadza sechiwedzera hukama hwedu kune mumwe nemumwe, asi ongororo dzinoverengeka dzinoratidza kuti vanhu vanopedza nguva yakawanda pasocial media vanonyanya kusurukirwa, kwete kushoma," anodaro Jean Twenge, munyori we "iGen: Nei Mazuva Ano Super-Yakabatanidzwa Vana Vari Kukura Vashoma Vanopandukira, Vanoshivirira, Vasinganyanyi Kufara - uye Vasina Kugadzirira Kuita Vakuru. ” Chinyorwa chake cheThe Atlantic, "Ko Smartphones Dzaparadza Chizvarwa?" akaita mafungu kutanga kwegore rino uye akakonzera mamirioni mazhinji uye postmillennials, kuti aite chaizvo izvo zvinogona kunetsa vanhu: Ratidza kutsamwa kwetsika.

Asi tsvagurudzo yaTwenge haina hwaro. Akaongorora mhedzisiro yekushandisa vezvenhau pane vechidiki, achiona kuti chizvarwa chitsva chiri kushandisa nguva shoma kutandara neshamwari uye nenguva yakawanda vachikurukura online. Iyi tsika ine kuwirirana kune zvakawanikwa zvevechidiki kushushikana uye manzwiro ekudzima uye kuwedzera kusurukirwa.

Asi nepo pasina chimwe cheizvi fundo chichisimbisa kuti pane chinokonzeresa, pane kunzwa kwekujairika. Kunzwa ikoko kwakagadzirwa seFOMO, kutya kurasikirwa. Asi hazvina kuganhurirwa kuchizvarwa chimwe chete. Kushandisa nguva pasocial media kunogona kuita zvakafanana kune vanhu vakuru, kunyangwe ivo vakuru.

FOMO inogona kushanduka kuita yakaipa kutenderera uye kusaita. Zvakaipisisa, zvinogona kukukonzera kuti urarame "hukama" hwako pasocial media.Panzvimbo yekunakidzwa yemhando nguva neshamwari, vanokosha vamwe, kana mhuri, urikutarisa nyaya uye Snaps dzevamwe nazvo zvavo shamwari nemhuri. Panzvimbo pekuita zvinhu zvekuvaraidza zvinokuunzira mufaro, uri kutarisa vamwe vachiita zvinhu zvekuzvivaraidza zvatinoshuvira kuti dai taikwanisa. Ichi chiitiko che "kutandara" pasocial media chingaguma nekuregeredza shamwari mumatunhu ese.

Rangarira kudzidza kwaDunbar? Kana tikatadza kudyidzana nevanhu vatinoda nguva dzose, "hunhu hweshamwari hunodzikira zvisingaite uye nekukurumidza," anodaro. "Mukati memwedzi yakati wandei yekusaona mumwe munhu, vanenge vadzikira muchikamu chinotevera."

Zvemagariro midhiya inyika nyowani, uye ichiri kuda mitemo

Star Trek inovhura zvine mukurumbira episode yega yega neiyi mutsara: "Space: yekupedzisira muganho." Uye nepo vazhinji vachifunga izvo seye renyeredzi uye nyeredzi kupfuura, zvinogona zvakare kureva internet. Iyo Yepasi Pose Webhu ine chengetedzo isingagumi uye, senge zvakasikwa, haina kumucheto kana miganhu. Asi nepo muganho ungasave uripo kune internet - simba redu, miviri, uye pfungwa zvichiri kugona kubuda.

Sekunyora kwakaita Larissa Pham akasimbisa muhutachiona tweet: anoda uye 40,755 retweets.

Nyika yakanyanyisa izvozvi, kunyanya kana iwe uchigara uri online. Panzvimbo pekuverenga imwe inoputsa musoro panguva, avhareji yekudya ichatsvaga kutitarisa nenyaya dzinopfuura dzakaringana, chero chinhu kubva kudengenyeka kwenyika kusvika kune imbwa dzakanaka kune avo maakaundi. Mazhinji eaya akanyorwawo kuti akonzere manzwiro edu uye nekuramba tichidzvanya uye kupuruzira. Asi hapana chikonzero chekuve chikamu chayo nguva dzose.

"Ziva kuti kubatana kunogara kuripo pafoni yako uye pasocial media hakuna kunaka kune hutano hwako hwepfungwa uye hwepanyama," Headlee anotiyeuchidza. "Zviitire nenzira yaungaita zviwitsi kana mafrizi echiFrench: Usapute." Zvemagariro midhiya ipfumo rinocheka nekwose.

Kuve uri pane yako smartphone kunogona kupedza simba iro raigona kunge rakashandiswa mukuita chaiko-kwehukama kudyidzana neshamwari dzako kana mhuri. Zvemagariro midhiya haambove iwo mushonga wekudzivirira kuremerwa, kushushikana, kana kusurukirwa. Pakupera kwezuva, vanhu vako vaunofarira vari.

Kutsvaga kunoratidza kuti hushamwari hwakanaka hwakakosha kuhutano hwako. Kunyanya zvakanyanya, kuva nehukama hwepedyo hunoenderana nekushanda zvirinani, kunyanya patinokura. Ongororo ichangobva kuitika yemuchinjikwa yevakuru vanopfuura 270,000 yakawana kuti kushushikana kubva kune hushamwari kwakafanotaura zvimwe zvirwere zvisingaperi. Saka usachengeta shamwari dzako pakureba kweruoko, dzakavharirwa mufoni yako uye maDM.

"Shamwari dziripo kutipa mapfudzi ekuchema kana zvinhu zvaparara," Dunbar anodaro. "Hazvina mhosva kuti munhu angave anonzwira tsitsi sei paFacebook kana kunyange paSkype, pakupedzisira iko kuva nebendekete chairo rekuchema naro zvinoita mutsauko pakukwanisa kwedu kutsungirira."

Jennifer Chesak ndeye Nashville-based freelance bhuku mupepeti uye murayiridzi wekunyora. Iye zvakare ari wekushanya kwekushanya, kugwinya, uye munyori wezvehutano kune akati wandei mabhuku emunyika. Akawana iye Master of Science muutapi venhau kubva kuNorthwestern's Medill uye arikushandira bhuku rake rekutanga rekunyepedzera, rakagadzwa mudunhu rake reNorth Dakota.