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• Kana iwe uchizotenda murume wako kana iye anoshanda anoshanda, iwe unofanirwa kuvandudza hupenyu hwako hwepabonde.
• Q. Ndave ndakaroorana nemufaro kwemakore gumi nerimwe uye ndine vana vatatu, asi kwemwedzi mitanhatu yapfuura handina kufarira zvepabonde. Pane chakaipa pandiri here?
• Q. Mukomana wangu anogara achida kuzviita mangwanani, asi ini ndinoda kuzviita manheru. Tingaite sei kuti hupenyu hwedu hwepabonde huenderane?
• Q. Bonde rinorwadza, saka ndanyatso mira kuva naro. Chii chiri kuitika? Nei ndiri kutambura nekusangana pabonde kunorwadza kudai?
• Mubvunzo.Handina kuita bonde kubva pakurambana kwehukama gore rapfuura, uye handichazvipotsa. Kutyaira kwangu kwaenda zvachose?
• Q. Ndinoshuva bonde zvakanyanya kupfuura zvinoita murume wangu. Kudzikira kwake libido kungareva here kuti haachandikwezve?
• Mubvunzo Zvingave zvangu zvakaderera libido kuve chikamu cheangu ekuzvarwa ekudzivirira mhedzisiro?
• Q. Vakomana vane Viagra. Pane chimwe chinhu chinogona kuwedzera libido yevakadzi?
• Q. Kwemakore ndaive nehupenyu-hwepamoyo hupenyu hwepabonde nevakomana vandakanga ndisiri kudanana navo. Iye zvino ndine murume wandinoda uye wandinoda kuroora, asi handidi kubvarura hembe dzake. Hukama uhu hwaparara here?
• Q. Ini handinzwe kutendeutswa kusvika ndaita bonde. Zviri normal here izvozvo?
• Verenga Chimiro kune rese ruzivo iwe rwaunoda kuti udzidze maitiro ekurunga hupenyu hwako hwepabonde uye kuva nehukama hunogutsa.
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Kana iwe uchizotenda murume wako kana iye anoshanda anoshanda, iwe unofanirwa kuvandudza hupenyu hwako hwepabonde.

Sekureva kwavo, iwe hausi kuita bonde rakawandisa sezvaunofanirwa. Bvunza vanaamai vashoma panzvimbo yekutamba, kunyange zvakadaro, uye vachave nekutora kwakasiyana zvachose panyaya iyi. Saka ndiani akarurama uye ndiani ari kukanganisa? Uye kana dhiraivha yako ichangobva kutora nosedive, pane chimwe chinhu chaunogona kuita nezvazvo? Takabvunza vaverengi zvavanoda kuziva nezve libido, ndokuzobvunza mibvunzo kune boka renyanzvi. Mhinduro dzavo dzinokuita kuti ufungezve zvinoreva "zvakajairwa" uye zvinokubatsira kuti unakidzwe nehupenyu hwakanaka uye hunopisa pabonde.

Q. Ndave ndakaroorana nemufaro kwemakore gumi nerimwe uye ndine vana vatatu, asi kwemwedzi mitanhatu yapfuura handina kufarira zvepabonde. Pane chakaipa pandiri here?

A. "Hazvina kudaro! Kuva mubereki ibasa renguva yakazara, saka hazvishamise kuti bonde riri kutora chigaro chemberi kumabasa ako," anodaro Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., purofesa wezvematongerwo enyika paUniversity of Washington. "Usati wazviziva, mwedzi mishoma yapfuura."

Kana iwe uchida kuvandudza hupenyu hwako hwepabonde, heino nhanho yekutanga kudzoreredza iyo lackluster libido: Ita nguva yako.

Bhuka sitter kwemasikati mashoma pavhiki kana bvunza murume wako kana shamwari yepedyo kuti vapinde mukati uye varove iyo gym. Kuita maekisesaizi hakungokupi iwe simba chete, kunogona zvakare kukurudzira mafungiro uye kuzvidzora kwako.

Paunenge uripo, ita zvinhu zvinoita kuti uwedzere kukwezva. Bata midzi yako, tora pedicure, kana kungoita spritz pamafuta ako aunofarira (kunyangwe iwe uri kungotora vana kubva kumutambo wenhabvu). Mushure memavhiki mashoma, unofanira kutanga kunzwa sewe zvakare panzvimbo pekuti "nhingi-amai uye kufarira kwako bonde kungangodzoka, anodaro Schwartz. (Kana izvo zvikasaitika, taura nachiremba wako kana murapi; nyaya hombe, sekushungurudzika, ndiyo inogona kunge iri iyo chikonzero.)

Chimwe chiitiko chekushanda muchirongwa chako chakabatikana: bonde. "Dzimwe nguva unofanirwa kuzvitsvaga kunyangwe iwe usiri mazviri," anodaro Terry Real, murapi muBoston. Panzvimbo pekumirira kutinhira kwechido, tsvodana nekupuruzirana uye rega zvinhu zvifambire mberi. Hapana chinogona kuuya cheichi nguva shoma dzekutanga, kana iwe ungangoda kuzvimanikidza iwe. Asi, sekuzvikwevera iwe kunzvimbo yekurovedza muviri paunenge uchida kugara pasofa, uchafara kuti wazviita.

Kuti udzivise kutyaira kwako kubva pakupera zvakare, ramba uchiveza "ini" nguva uye ronga vashoma vakura chete kupera kwevhiki nemurume wako (bvunza hama kana achigona kurara, wozotizira kuhotera yeko). Kana zvisingaite kuti ubve, bhuku sitter uye enda kunodya uye bhaisikopo.

Q. Mukomana wangu anogara achida kuzviita mangwanani, asi ini ndinoda kuzviita manheru. Tingaite sei kuti hupenyu hwedu hwepabonde huenderane?

A. Usati wagona kubata kuwiriraniswa, unofanirwa kufunga kuti sei nguva yako yakadzimwa. Vakomana vanowanzoda bonde nekuda kwekuti vanenge vabatwa nehope ( dudziro: vanomuka vane erection), nepo vakadzi vazhinji vachida kunzwa kusununguka kuti vapinde mumood chimwe chinhu chingangoitika kana kwasviba. Kusachengeteka kwemuviri uye kushushikana kunogona zvakare kuisa mabhureki pamangwanani emangwanani. Zvakaoma kuregedzera zvizere kana uchinetsekana nezvekuti abs yako inotaridzika sei muchiedza chezuva kana kuti uri kugadzira runyoro rwekuita mumusoro mako.

Iva akatendeseka kumukomana wako pamusoro pekuti sei musiri kuita zvepabonde mangwanani uye mubvunze kana muchigona kuchinjana kuzviita pamarongwa emumwe nemumwe,” anodaro Real. Chengetedza mimvuri pasi uye machira kumusoro kana zvichikuita kuti unzwe kugadzikana, asi edza kuyeuka kuti mukomana wako anokuda uye anokuwana uchikwezva uye kuti runyorwa rwako rwekugadzira runogona kumirira kusvikira wapedza kudya kwemangwanani. Kuti apinde muchikepe nezvikamu zvemanheru, edza kudya kudya kwemanheru uye kudzima TV mangwanani mashoma pavhiki. Ipa zvakare Mugovera kana Svondo masikati kuenda; vanogona kuva nzvimbo yepakati yakakwana.

Q. Bonde rinorwadza, saka ndanyatso mira kuva naro. Chii chiri kuitika? Nei ndiri kutambura nekusangana pabonde kunorwadza kudai?

A. Maoko pasi, chinonyanya kukonzeresa pakurwadziwa pabonde kusangana nekutsi kwemukadzi kuoma. Asi - uye apa ndipo painogona kuwana mhando yekuvhiringidzika - izvo zvinogona kunge zvichikonzerwa nemamiriro akati wandei.

"Chekutanga, iwe unoda kutonga kunze kwezvirwere zvemukadzi, zvirwere zvepabonde, utachiona husina kunaka, mamiriro akaita sevulvodynia kana endometriosis, uye matambudziko ehomoni, seperimenopause," anodaro Margaret Wierman, MD, purofesa wemishonga, physiology, uye biophysics paYunivhesiti. yeColorado.

Uya nerondedzero yezviratidzo kune wako gynecologist, uye tarisira kuti aite bvunzo dzechiuno pamwe nekuongororwa kweropa kunozoyera mahormone ako.

Usavhunduka: Mazhinji mamiriro echikadzi anorapika, uye chiremba akanaka anozokwanisa kuratidza nzira dzekuita bonde kuti rive rakasununguka panguva ino.

Kana bvunzo dzese dzikabuda dzisina kunaka, pamwe hausi kumutswa zvizere uye nekudaro haisi kugadzira girisi yakaringana. Izvo zvinogadzira kukakavara uye kunyangwe microscopic misodzi mune yemukadzi canal, izvo hazvishamise kuti inogona kuve chaicho zvakapambwa buzzkill.

Kugadzirisa dambudziko, shandisa girizi-yemvura, senge KY Brand Jelly (dzivisa zvigadzirwa zvepeturu, izvo zvinogona kukonzera kutsamwa uye zvakare kukanganisa makondomu eratex). Wobva wazvitora zvishoma: Pedza nguva yakawanda pane foreplay nemumwe wako, muchitsvodana nekubata bata. Iwe unogona kunetseka kumutswa nekuti uri kunetseka pabonde kunozorwadza zvakare, asi mushure mezviitiko zvishoma zvakanaka, kushushikana kunofanira kudzikira.

Mubvunzo.Handina kuita bonde kubva pakurambana kwehukama gore rapfuura, uye handichazvipotsa. Kutyaira kwangu kwaenda zvachose?

A. Nomufaro, kwete. Iwe unoziva kuti muviri wako unowana sei flabby kana iwe usingaite maekisesaizi? Zvakanaka, zvinoitika kuti libido yako inoenda zvishoma mushure mekurambana kwehukama nekuti hapana munhu ari pedyo kuti akusimudze.

Ongororo yeYunivhesiti yeVienna yakawana kuti mazinga ehomoni yekunzwa yakanaka oxytocin anowedzera zvakanyanya mushure mekunge waita orgasm, saka unenge uine chishuwo chakasimba chebonde kana uchinge wanyanya. Kana iwe usingakwanise kuyeuka roll yako yekupedzisira muuswa, uropi hwako hunogona kumira kukurudzira dhiraivha. Asi vimba nesu: Paunosangana nemurume anopisa uyo angotamira panext door, ichadzoka. Iwe zvirokwazvo haudi mumwe wako kuti bhora rikunguruke, hazvo; a little self-lovin' achaita kuti bonde rako rirambe rakasimba kunyangwe usina kuroorwa. “Paunogara uchinyandurwa, zvinovawo nyore kuti uropi hwako nomuviri zvitevedzere zvakafanana,” anodaro mumwe chiremba we<em>endocrinologist André T. Guay, M.D., mutungamiriri weCenter for Sexual Function paLahey Clinic muPeabody, Massachusetts. Kana iwe uchiona zvichinetsa kuguma paunobata wega, edza kushandisa vibrator, kana kurodha pasi erootic chick flick, senge Kufungidzira Kwemukadzi.

Q. Ndinoshuva bonde zvakanyanya kupfuura zvinoita murume wangu. Kudzikira kwake libido kungareva here kuti haachandikwezve?

A. Tinozvinzwa nguva dzose: Vakomana vanodzika uye vakasviba chero nguva, chero kupi. Kunyangwe ichokwadi kune vakawanda, kunyanya seti diki, hazvisi izvo zvinoitika. Vamwe varume vane nzara yekuda bonde, sezvinoita vamwe vakadzi. Asi kana murume wako akajairwa bonde dhiraivha achangobva kuenda kuchamhembe, panogona kuve panyama kana pamoyo chikonzero.

Anogona kunge achive nenguva yakaoma kuwana erection, izvo zvinogona kunetsa, angomira kuyedza kuita bonde. "High blood pressure uye matambudziko eprostate anogona kukanganisa kukwanisa kwemukomana kuwana erection kana ejaculate," anodaro Wierman. "Mishonga yakawanda yakajairika senge cholesterol- uye BP inoderedza zvinodhaka, pamwe nezvimwe zvinodzvinyirira zvinokanganisa kushanda kwe erectile." Kushanyira chiremba uye kumwe kuongororwa kweropa kuri nyore kunogona kuona chikonzero chemuviri cheyakaderera libido.

Chikonzero chepfungwa chakanyanya kuomarara kunongedza (tiri kutaura nezvevarume, shure kwezvose!). Anoratidzika kunge akanetseka zvakanyanya nguva pfupi yadarika here? "Kuzvidya mwoyo kunogona kukonzera kuderera kwe testosterone," anodaro Guay. Kusafarira kwake kunogona zvakare kubva padambudziko muhukama hwako. "Kana mukomana asinganzwe padhuze newe, haatombokuudza," anodaro Real. "Anozongoita kushoma pakuve padhuze."

Tanga kukurukura nezvenyaya yacho paunenge usiri pamubhedha. Edza kuudza murume wako kuti ungangoda kuita bonde kazhinji uye ubvunze kana paine chaungaite kumubatsira kuti afarire nezvazvo. Kana muri vaviri musingakwanise kugadzirisa dambudziko muri moga, tsvagai rubatsiro rwemurapi.

Mubvunzo Zvingave zvangu zvakaderera libido kuve chikamu cheangu ekuzvarwa ekudzivirira mhedzisiro?

A. Chokwadi zvinogoneka. "Hapana ongororo inoratidza kuti mishonga yekudzivirira kubata mukanwa inoderedza kutyaira zvepabonde, asi mimwe yemishonga iyi inoderedza mwero wemukadzi wekutenderedza testosterone," anodaro Wierman. (Hormone iyi inowedzera kuyerera kweropa kusikarudzi yako, zvichisimbisa mabatiro aunoita pakukurudzira bonde.) Nekuti vakadzi vazhinji vanonzwa piritsi iri kugovesa chishuwo chavo, mukana wekuti uri kurwara nemhedzisiro yekuzvara kwakakodzera kufunga.

"Taura nachiremba wako nezvekuenda kunodzivirira kubata pamuviri uye kushandisa kondomu kana diaphragm kwemwedzi mishoma," anodaro Guay. "Kana iwe ukaona kuvandudzwa, ipapo ungangodaro wawana mhosva yako." Kuchinja kune imwe mhando yepiritsi kunogona kubatsira? bvunza chiremba wako nezve mabhurandi ane fomu yeprogestin isinganyanye kukanganisa ako mazinga e testosterone.

Uye usatorere pasi chikamu chehukama hwako mune izvi: Kana iwe wakambove pamwe kwenguva yakati, iwe unogona kunge uri mune tsika. Sanganisa zvinhu (edza kuitora pane imwe nzvimbo kunze kwekurara kwako!) uye unogona kutanga kunzwa zvepabonde zvakare.

Q. Vakomana vane Viagra. Pane chimwe chinhu chinogona kuwedzera libido yevakadzi?

A. Kwete, asi iwe unogona kubheja vaongorori vari kutsva kutsvaga iyo mombe yemari. Mishonga yakaita seViagra inowedzera kuyerera kweropa kuenda kusikarudzi, zvichikonzera kumira. Tsvagiridzo inoratidza kuti mamwe madhiragi ane mhedzisiro yakafanana panhengo yemukadzi, asi nekuti isu tinoda zvinopfuura izvozvo kuti tibatidzwe, haina kukwana kuwedzera libido yevakadzi.

Testosterone ingave mumapiritsi, chigamba, kana chimiro chepamusoro chinoita sechinopa vamwe vakadzi kusimudza libido. Mune kumwe kuongorora, chigamba chakawedzera dhiraivha yebonde yevakadzi vaive vaiswa mukati mekuvhiya kuenda kumwedzi (vakabviswa maovari) neinenge makumi mashanu muzana. Asi hazvisi pachena kana iyo hormone inobatsira vamwe vakadzi zvachose. Zvakare, ongororo ichangoburwa yakawana kune zvimwe zvingangove zvisina kunaka mhedzisiro kune vakadzi vanoshandisa testosterone zvigadzirwa, zvinosanganisira mburwa uye abnormal bvudzi kukura.

"Hatizive kuti zvakaenzana sei testosterone zviri mumadzimai," anodaro Wierman. "Uye kunyange zvazvo testosterone yakaderera inogona kuderedza motokari yako, hapana uchapupu hwakasimba hunoratidza kuti kusimudza hormone mumuviri kunoshanda kana kwakachengeteka."

Q. Kwemakore ndaive nehupenyu-hwepamoyo hupenyu hwepabonde nevakomana vandakanga ndisiri kudanana navo. Iye zvino ndine murume wandinoda uye wandinoda kuroora, asi handidi kubvarura hembe dzake. Hukama uhu hwaparara here?

A. Chete kana iwe uchiramba uchienzanisa mukomana wako kune iwo ekare marimi. Icho chinhu chinosuruvarisa, asi kusawanika kunogona kukurudzira moto wechishuwo. "Kana mukadzi achinzwa kudiwa, obva arambwa, obva adiwa zvakare - zvakajairika muhukama husina hutano - bonde rinowanzo kuve rinodakadza," anodaro Schwartz. "Chii chiri kukuchidzira iko kusava nechokwadi kwekuti iwe uchawana kupi kutarisa ikoko zvakare."

Mukufamba kwenguva, anodaro Schwartz, iwe uchave unofara uye nekugutsikana nehukama hwakazvipira uye zvese zvinouya nazvo, sekuvimba, kushamwaridzana, uye kuyerera kwerudo uye rudo. Uye kana iwe uchikwezva kune mumwe nemumwe uye nehukama hwakabatana, bonde riri kungozoita nani nekudzidzira. Edza kuyedza natsva nzvimbo dzepabonde, matoyi, uye nzvimbo. "Itai rudo pamhenderekedzo yegungwa kana kugeza pamwe chete," anodaro. "Pfungwa ndeyekugadzira mhando nyowani yechishuwo."

Q. Ini handinzwe kutendeutswa kusvika ndaita bonde. Zviri normal here izvozvo?

A. Zvakakwana. Vamwe vakadzi vanomutswa nekungofunga nezve kukochekerana, nepo vamwe vachida kumbosimudzirwa panyama kuti vatange ivo. Hazvina mhosva kuti uri mukadzi rudzii, zvakajairika, anodaro Wierman. Matanho ako e testosterone anogona kunge ari mashoma pazasi, achikugonesa kugamuchira bonde asi usiri kuchichiva chaizvo. Uye icho hachisi chinhu chikuru. Mubvunzo chaiwo ndewokuti, chokwadi chekuti mota yako iri mune zvematongerwo enyika chinokunetsa here? Kana zvisiri uye iwe unonakidzwa nekuve wepedyo uye kuva ne orgasm, libido yako "yakajairika" kwauri.

Verenga Chimiro kune rese ruzivo iwe rwaunoda kuti udzidze maitiro ekurunga hupenyu hwako hwepabonde uye kuva nehukama hunogutsa.

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