How to (Chaizvoizvo) Kuziva Mumwe Munhu

Zvemukati

• Bvunza mibvunzo yechokwadi
• Tarisa pane mibvunzo inowedzera hurukuro
• Dzivisa mibvunzo yekukurumidza
• Gamuchira kusagadzikana
• Shingairira teerera kumhinduro dzavo
• Maitiro ekuzviita
• Teerera maitiro avanoita
• Gara uripo
• Taura chokwadi
• Taura nezvako
• Chengeta kurumbidza kushoma - uye kwechokwadi
• Dzivisa kupa mazano
• Dzivisa mameseji kana mameseji zvakawandisa
• Isa simba mukuita zvirongwa
• Usamanikidze zvakanyanya pazvinhu zvinonetsa
• Dzidzira kunetseka
• Ipa nguva

Vamwe vanhu havana dambudziko kusvika pakuziva vamwe. Unogona kunge uine shamwari yakadaro.

Maminetsi gumi nemumwe munhu mutsva, uye vari kutaurirana vachienda sekunge vanga vachizivana kwemakore. Asi havazi vese vane nguva yakapusa yakadaro yekubatana nevanhu vatsva.

Paunenge uchiedza kutsvaga zvimwe pamusoro peumwe munhu mutsva, iwe unogona kuyedzwa kuti upfuure nerunyorwa rurefu rwemibvunzo. Nepo kubvunza mibvunzo ichokwadi yakanaka pokutangira, inongova chikamu cheiyo equation.

Heano maitiro ekutanga kuziva mumwe munhu padanho rakadzika pasina tani yehurukuro diki.

Bvunza mibvunzo yechokwadi

Zvakare, mibvunzo ita shandira chinangwa kana iwe uchinge uchiziva mumwe munhu. Muchokwadi, iwe ungangove uine yakaoma nguva yekutaurirana pasina kubvunza chero mibvunzo zvachose.

Asi zvakakosha kuti uve nechokwadi chekuti uri kubvunza mibvunzo iwe yaunofarira zvechokwadi. Kwete yakawanda yemunhu wemufirimu? Usanzwe sekunge iwe unofanirwa kubvarura zera-rekare "Waona chero mafirimu akanaka mazuvano?"

Tarisa pane mibvunzo inowedzera hurukuro

Funga kuti waizonzwa sei kana mumwe munhu akakubvunza mibvunzo yakawanda iyo yaiita senge isina chinangwa chakakura:

• "Zita rako repakati ndiani?"
• "Une mhuka dzinovaraidza here?"
• "Chikafu chaunofarira ndechipi?"

Iwe ungangodaro uchinzwa kuremerwa, kana kunyangwe senge iwe wakagumburwa mubvunzurudzo iwe wanga usina kugadzirira.

Panzvimbo pekubvunza mibvunzo isina kujairika, rega hurukuro yacho ikutungamirire, uye tsvaga zvinyorwa kubva kune mumwe munhu. Semuenzaniso, kana iwe ukaona waunoshanda naye aine desktop desktop yeimbwa, iwe ungati, "Ah, akanaka sei! Ndidzo imbwa dzako here? ”

Rangarira, iwe haufanire kubvunza zvese izvo zvinouya mupfungwa. Vanhu vanowanzo zivisa ruzivo nezve ivo pachavo nekufamba kwenguva.

Ukaramba uchitaura navo, pamwe unozopedzisira wawana mhinduro kunyangwe iyo mibvunzo yausina kubvunza.

Dzivisa mibvunzo yekukurumidza

Iti iwe wakangosangana nemumwe munhu anoita kunge mukuru chaizvo. Unogona kunyatso kuzviona uri shamwari, pamwe kunyange chimwe chinhuzve. Paunenge iwe uchinzwa iko kwekutanga kwekufarira kwekufarira, iwe unoda kuziva zvakawanda nezve ivo ASAP.

Asi kubvongodza pamibvunzo yakawanda kunogona kunge kusiri kufamba kwakanyanya. Chokwadi, iwe unozotsvaga zvakakosha nezve iye munhu, senge kwavakakurira uye kuti vane vana vangani vehama. Asi mumwe mubvunzo unofunga unogona kukupa iwe rumwe ruzivo.

Semuenzaniso, kana iwe uchida kubvunza nezvemhuri, unogona kuti, "Unopedza nguva yakawanda uine mhuri yako here?" Izvi zvingangowana iwe mhinduro iri nani pane kungobvunza kana vaine vanin'ina.

Gamuchira kusagadzikana

Vanhu vanowanzo kutadza kumhanya-mhanya, kubvunza kwekunyepedzera pavanonzwa kurerukirwa mukutaurirana. Asi kusagadzikana kwekutanga uku kwakajairika.

Chidzidzo cha2018 chakawana chinowanzo kutora panenge mwedzi kuti maitiro ehurukuro agadzikane kuita mutinhimira wakasununguka.

Panguva ino, edza kuti usaregedzeswe nenguva dzerunyararo kana kusagadzikana kunogona kuuya.

Kana iwe uine nguva yakaoma yekupfuura neaya ekutanga nguva dzinotyisa, Katherine Parker, LMFT, anoratidzira kudzidzira neshamwari yaunovimba nayo. Tanga nekuvhura, senge "Hei, ini ndinoda chigamba icho muhomwe yako. Ndiwe wakagadzira here? ” uye kudzidzira kuchengeta hurukuro ichienda.

Shingairira teerera kumhinduro dzavo

Kana iwe uchifarira zvechokwadi kuziva mumwe munhu, haugone kungovabvunza mibvunzo. Iwe zvakare unofanirwa kuteerera kune avo mhinduro. Unogona kushandisa hunyanzvi hwekuteerera kuratidza munhu waunofarira zvepachokwadi pane zvavanofanira kutaura.

Kuteerera uchiteerera zvinoreva kuti iwe unotora chikamu muhurukuro kunyangwe iwe usiri kutaura.

Maitiro ekuzviita

Ipa kuteerera kwekuedza edza na:

• kutarisa maziso
• kucheuka kana kuzendamira munhu aitaura
• kugutsurira kana kuita ruzha rwekusimbisa uku uchiteerera
• kumirira kutaura kusvikira vapedza
• kudzoreredza kana kunzwira tsitsi nezvavakataura ("Watyoka ruoko kaviri mugore rimwe chete. Izvo zvinofanirwa kunge zvaityisa, handigone kufungidzira.")

Teerera maitiro avanoita

Unogona kudzidza zvakawanda kubva pamabatiro anoita mumwe munhu kumubvunzo. Vanosendamira kuti vapindure here? Kuita kana kuratidzika kunge kune hupenyu pavanopindura?

Kana vachiita kunge vanonakidzwa, iwe pamwe wakasvika panhaurwa yakanaka. Kana vakadzora miviri yavo kana musoro, vakasiya mubvunzo, kana kupa mhinduro pfupi, vangangodaro vasina kufarira zvakanyanya.

Kudzidza kuziva danho remumwe munhu rekufarira kunogona kukubatsira iwe kubudirira zvakanyanya nekutaurirana. Mumwe munhu anogona kunge asina kufarira kutaura newe kana achifunga kuti ucharamba uchibvunza mibvunzo nezvezvinhu zvavasina basa nazvo.

Gara uripo

Isu tese tinonzwa kutsauswa uye kusagadzikana pane dzimwe nguva. Izvi zvinogona kuitika kunyangwe iwe uchiita chimwe chinhu chinonakidza, sekutaura kune mumwe munhu waunofarira kuziva.

Asi kugadzirirwa kunze kunogona kuuya sekusafarira, kunyanya kune mumwe munhu asingakuzive zvakanaka.

Kana iwe uchinzwa kutarisisa kwako kuchidzungaira, ramba chishuwo chekutora nhare yako kana neimwe nzira tarisa kubva mukukurukurirana. Pane kudaro, tora nguva yekufunga uye zviyeuchidze iwe zvauri kuita - uye nei.

Kana iwe usingakwanise kupa pfungwa dzako kune hurukuro, ingova akatendeseka. Iti chimwe chakadai, "Ndanga ndine zuva rakaomarara, uye ndinoda kupa hurukuro iyi kutarisisa zvirinani pane zvandiri kukwanisa izvozvi." Izvi zvinogona kubatsira mumwe munhu kuti anzwe achikosheswa. Ivo vangangodaro vanoremekedza kutendeseka kwako, zvakare.

Taura chokwadi

Zvinotaridzika kunge zvisina kukuvadza kufuratira chokwadi zvishoma kuti uwane kune mumwe munhu.

Iwe unoverenga "Iyo Nzara Mitambo," saka iwe unoshamiswa nezve madiro aunofarira dystopian vadiki vakuru enganonyorwa. Kana, pamwe iwe unoda kujoina rako rakanaka co-mushandi weboka rinomhanya, saka iwe unongotaura nezvako kumhanya mamaira mashanu mamwe mamwe mangwanani apo shangu dzako dzange dzakagara kumashure kwewadhiropu kwemwedzi.

Sezvo zvidiki sekuwedzeredza uku kungaratidzika, kukudziridza ruvimbo idanho rakakosha pakuziva munhu. Kana chokwadi chikabuda (uye chinowanzoitika), vanogona kushamisika kuti chiizve chawakawedzeredza, kana kana hushamwari hwako hwese hwakavakirwa panhema.

Haufanire kugara uchida zvinhu zvakafanana kuti uite kubatana. Rega nzvimbo dzekufananidza dziuye zvoga. Kana vakasadaro, unogona kugara uchizivisana kune izvo zvinhu zvaunofarira.

Taura nezvako

Hukama hwako hahufanirwe kuve hwerumwe-rutivi. Iwe hauzove nehukama hwakawanda kana mumwe munhu akasvika pakuziva iwe, zvakare. Pamwe nekubvunza mibvunzo, edza kugovana zvinhu pamusoro pako.

Iwe unogona kupa ruzivo rwezvako zvakasarudzika panguva yekutaurirana, kazhinji nekupindura kune zvinotaurwa nemumwe munhu. Semuenzaniso: “Unofarira kubika here? Zvinoshamisa. Handina moyo murefu mukicheni, asi ndinofarira kugadzira mbatya dzekudya. ”

Vamwe vanhu vanogona kunzwa vasina kugadzikana kana vachiziva zvishoma nezvekuti ndiani wavanotaura naye, saka kugovana zvinhu pamusoro pako kunogona kuvabatsira kuti vanzwe kusununguka.

Unogona kudzosa hurukuro yacho kune mumwe munhu nemubvunzo wakanangana, senge, "Wakazvidzidzisa iwe kubika here?"

Sekureva kwaParker, vanhu vanoona zvichinetsa kubatana nevamwe kazhinji vane dambudziko rekuzvibatanidza. Anopa zano kuvandudza zvaunofarira uye zvaunofarira kuti iwe ugone kuwedzera zviitiko zvako.

Chengeta kurumbidza kushoma - uye kwechokwadi

Kurumbidza mumwe munhu kungaita senge yakanaka nzira yekuita kuti vakude iwe, asi iwe haudi kuzviwedzeredza. Izvi zvinogona kuve kure-kuisa, nekuti zvinowanzoita kunge kusiri kwechokwadi. Zvakare, zvinowanzoita kuti vanhu vasagadzikane.

Iwo murawo wakanaka wechigunwe ndechekuita kurumbidza kune chinangwa uye kwechokwadi. Rumbidzo yemwoyo wese inogona kubatsira kutanga hurukuro inopa mukana wekuziva mumwe munhu zvirinani.

Shandisa hanya paunenge uchirumbidza chitarisiko. Kunyangwe paine kazhinji pasina chakaipa kuyemura chipenga chakasiyana kana zvishongo, dzivisa kutaura pamusoro pechitarisiko chemunhu kana saizi, kunyangwe iwe uchifunga kuti uri kutaura chinhu chakanaka.

Zvakare ramba uchifunga kuti kutaura pamusoro pechitarisiko hakugare kwakakodzera munzvimbo yebasa.

Dzivisa kupa mazano

Kana mumwe munhu wawakasangana naye nguva pfupi yadarika akatanga kukuudza nezvedambudziko ravari kusangana naro, wako gut gut reaction ingave yekupa rairo. Asi zviri nani kungoteerera nekunzwira tsitsi, kunze kwekunge vakanyatso bvunza zvaunofunga kana zvaungaite mumamiriro akafanana.

Kana iwe uchinyatsoda kubatsira, iti "Izvi zvinonzwika kunge zvakaoma. Kana iwe uchida chero chinhu, ndiudze. Ndiri kufara kubatsira kana ndichigona. "

Zvinowanzova zvakanaka kuti urege kukumbira mazano akawandisa iwe, zvakare.

Pamwe iwe unoda kuratidza mumwe munhu iwe waunokoshesa mifungo yavo uye yekuisa. Asi kugara uchibvunza "Unofungei pamusoro pazvo?" kana "Ndoita sei?" kana kuti "Unofunga kuti ndakaita chinhu chakarurama here?" unogona kuisa mumwe munhu panzvimbo kuti apindure vangangonzwa kusununguka kupa.

Dzivisa mameseji kana mameseji zvakawandisa

Kutumira mameseji kunogona kunzwa senzira yakanaka yekudzivirira kusanzwisisika kwekutanga uko dzimwe nguva kunouya nekuziva mumwe munhu. Asi edza kusanyanya kuvimba zvakanyanya nerudzi urwu rwekutaurirana, kunyanya mumatanho ekutanga. Kana daro iri nyaya, funga kukurukura vhidhiyo.

Pese pazvinogoneka, chengetedza mameseji ekugadzira kana kukurumidza "Hei, ndanga ndichifunga nezvako." Unogona kurega mumwe munhu akutungamire pano. Kana imi mose muchifarira kutumira mameseji, chiendai nazvo.

Ingotarisira kuchengetedza mwero. Rangarira, iwe uri kuita hurukuro, saka edza kudzivirira mameseji emadziro uye upe mumwe munhu mukana wekupindura. Sevha hurukuro dzakanyanyisa dzekutaurirana nevanhu-mukati kuti dzibatsire kuti usataure zvisirizvo.

Dzivisa kutumira akawanda magwaro usati wagamuchira mhinduro. Vanhu vanobatikana, uye kudzoka kune gumi nemaviri mameseji mushure mezuva rimwe chete vanogona kunzwa zvakanyanya.

Kana mumwe munhu achitotora nzvimbo kubva kumameseji ako, kutumira zvimwe hakuzobatsire mamiriro acho.

Isa simba mukuita zvirongwa

Paunenge uchigadzira zvirongwa nemumwe munhu mutsva, kushandisa zvinhu kubva mukutaura kwako kana zvimiro munzvimbo mavo zvinogona kubatsira.

Kofi inowanzo kuve sarudzo iri nyore, asi kuuya nehurongwa hwakawanda hunoratidza kuti wanga uchiteerera. Izvi zvinogona kubatsira kuti mumwe munhu anzwe kusununguka paunenge uripo. Semuenzaniso, kana imi mese muine imbwa, mungangokurudzira kuenda kupaki yembwa.

Kushandisa nzira dzekutaurirana kunogona zvakare kukubatsira iwe kuziva zvaunofanira kudzivirira kutaura. Iwe haungade kukurudzira kusangana kubhawa kune mumwe munhu ataurwa kuti agare akasvinura, semuenzaniso.

Panogona kuuya nguva apo iwe unononoka kusvika kana kuti unofanirwa kukanzura zvirongwa zvako, asi edza kusarega izvi zvichiitika kazhinji. Kusvika nenguva uye kuchengeta zvisungo zvinoratidza kuti unokoshesa nguva yemumwe munhu.

Usamanikidze zvakanyanya pazvinhu zvinonetsa

Vamwe vanhu vanofarira kutaura nezvematongerwo enyika, chinamato, hukama hwapfuura, hukama hwazvino, kana chero imwe nhamba yezvimwe zvingangove zvisina kusimba misoro. Vamwe havadaro. Vanhu vazhinji havanzwi vakasununguka kutaura nezve idzi nyaya kusvikira vaziva mumwe munhu zvakanaka.

Kunyangwe iwe uchida kupinda mukati chaimo mune dzakadzika, zvine musoro zvidzidzo, zvinowanzo kuve nehungwaru kungwarira paunenge uchingosvika pakuziva mumwe munhu.

"Saka unofunga kuti chii chinoitika patinofa?" inogona kunge isiri nyaya yakanakisa kekutanga paunosangana nekofi. Sevha iyo yeiyo cozier yekupedzisira-husiku chat iwe yaunogona kunge uine mavhiki mashoma kana mwedzi pasi pemugwagwa.

Zvakanyatsonaka kuunza misoro yakaoma nenzira yakajairika, kunyanya kana iwe uchida kuziva manzwiro anoita mumwe munhu nezvezvimwe zvidzidzo kubva pakutanga.

Asi teerera maitiro avanoita. Kana vakapa mhinduro pfupi, enda kune imwe nyaya. Kana ivo vakangoti ivo havangataure nezve chimwe chinhu, remekedza icho uye chinja hurukuro.

Dzidzira kunetseka

Kana iwe uchida kusvika pakuziva mumwe munhu zvakanyanya padhuze, maitiro ako haafanire kuve akaenzana. Mune mamwe mazwi, haugone kutarisira kuti mumwe munhu agovane ruzivo rwemunhu kana iwe usiri kuda kuita zvakafanana.

Iwe unowanzo fanirwa kupa imwe nhanho yekushushikana mumwe munhu asati atanga kunzwa akasununguka akakukomberedza.

Izvi hazvireve kuti iwe unofanirwa kuvhura pamusoro inorema kana yakakomba misoro ipapo. Asi nekufamba kwenguva, iwe unogona zvakasununguka kutanga kugovana rumwe ruzivo nezve izvo zvinhu zvakakosha muhupenyu hwako.

Zvakangonaka chete kuti uchengete zvinhu zvisina kujairika uye zvisina moyo, kana iri mhando yeshamwari yauri kutsvaga. Asi kana iwe uchida kuti kuzivana kwako kutsva kuve hushamwari hwepedyo kana kutodanana, ungatotadza kusvika ipapo usina kunetseka.

Kune rimwe divi, ita shuwa kuti uri kuremekedza miganhu yavo. Kana vakakuudza kuti havadi kutaura nezvechimwe chinhu kana kuita sevanofuratira paunounza imwe nhaurwa, usasundire iyo.

Ipa nguva

Zvinotora maawa anodarika zana mukati memwedzi mitatu kuti hushamwari huvepo.

Ehezve, kungopedza nguva uine mumwe munhu hazvireve kuti iwe uchaumba hurefu hushamwari hushamwari, asi mikana yako yeushamwari inowanzo kuwedzera kana iwe uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge

Zvinonzwisisika kuda kuswedera padyo nemumwe munhu ipapo ipapo, asi kurega zvinhu zvakasikwa zvichikura zvinogona kuve nemhedzisiro iri nani pane kumanikidza hushamwari.

Ingotarisisa kushandisa nguva nemunhu waunoda kuti uzive, uye shandisa iwo matipi ari pamusoro kubatsira kuti nguva iyoyo iverenge.

Zvakare chengetedza mupfungwa kuti hushamwari hunogona kusashanda nguva dzose. Sezvo vamwe vanhu vasingaenderane sevanodanana, vamwe vanhu zvakare havawirirane seshamwari, uye zvakanaka.

Kana iwe wakamboedza asi vaviri venyu musingaite sekuti munodzvanya, zvinogamuchirwa zvakakwana kurega kupa kukoka uye ingoita hurukuro ine hunyoro paunovaona kuchikoro, kubasa, kana chero kumwe kunhu. Rega ivo vasvike kwauri kunotevera, kana vachiri kuda kutsvaga hushamwari.