Ini 'Ndakadzosa Muviri Wangu' Mushure mekuzvarwa, asi Zvaive Zvakashata

Zvemukati

• Yakatanga sekudya
• Kurumbidza kutyisa kwaamai vatsva, kwete muviri wavo

Kurara kwekutadza chikamu chehukama hutsva, asi kushomeka kwekoriori hakufanirwe kuve. Inguva yatinosangana netarisiro "yekudzosera kumashure."

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Muviri wangu waita zvimwe zvinhu zvinoshamisa. Pandaive nemakore gumi nemashanu, yakaporeswa kubva pakuvhiyiwa kwemaawa masere. Ndakanga ndine scoliosis yakakomba, uye nzvimbo yakaremara yomusana wangu yaida kusanganiswa.

Mumakore angu makumi maviri, yakanditsigira kuburikidza nemarudzi mazhinji. Ndamhanya mamwe marathoni, hafu yemarathoni, uye mashanu ne10Ks kupfuura zvandingaverenge.

Uye mumakore angu makumi matatu, muviri wangu wakatakura vana vaviri. Kwemwedzi mipfumbamwe, moyo wangu wakabata nekusimbisa yavo.

Ehezve, izvi zvaifanira kunge zviri chikonzero chekupemberera. Mushure mezvose, ndakabereka mwanasikana ane hutano uye mwanakomana. Uye pandakanga ndichitya nekuvapo kwavo - kumeso kwavo kuzere uye zvimiro zvakakomberedzwa zvaive zvakakwana - ini handina kunzwa pfungwa imwechete yekuzvikudza muchitarisiko changu.

Mudumbu mangu makanga makatsemuka uye musingaoneke. Chiuno changu chaive chakafara uye chakakura. Tsoka dzangu dzainge dzakazvimba uye kusasununguka (kunyangwe kana ndiri kutaura chokwadi, magumo angu ezasi haana kumbobvira akatarisa zvakanyanya), uye zvese zvaive zvakapfava.

Ndainzwa kuvava.

Midsection yangu yakadonha sekeke risina kubikwa.

Ichi chi zvakajairika. Muchokwadi, chimwe chezvinhu chinoshamisa kwazvo pamusoro pemuviri wemunhu kugona kwawo kushandura, kushandura, uye kushandura.

Zvisinei, vhidhiyo vanobudisa zvimwe. Models dzinoonekwa pamigwagwa uye magazini inovhara masvondo mushure mekuzvara, ichitaridzika isina kuchinja. Vafuridzi vanogara vachitaura nezve #postpartumfitness uye #postpartumweightloss, uye nekukurumidza kutsvaga kweGoogle kwezwi rekuti "kurasikirwa nemwana uremu" kunopa zvinopfuura mamirioni zana mhedzisiro… mune isingasviki sekondi.

Nekudaro, ndainzwa kuwanda kwekumanikidzwa kuti ndive ndakakwana. Ku “dzosera kumashure.” Zvakakura zvekuti ndakasundidzira muviri wangu. Ndakafa nenzara muviri wangu. Ndakatengesa muviri wangu.

Ndaka "pora" mukati memasvondo asingasviki matanhatu asi zvakakanganisa hutano hwangu hwepfungwa nemuviri.

Yakatanga sekudya

Mazuva ekutanga mushure mekubereka aive akanaka. Ini ndaive nemanzwiro uye ndakarara-ndisingabatwe uye ndaishungurudzika zvakanyanya kutarisirwa. Handina kuverenga macalorie (kana kukwesha bvudzi rangu) kudzamara ndabuda muchipatara. Asi pandakasvika kumba, ndakatanga kudya, chimwe chinhu chisina amai vanoyamwisa vanofanira kuita.

Ndainzvenga nyama tsvuku nemafuta. Ndakaregeredza nzara. Ndaiwanzoenda kunorara nedumbu rangu richigunun'una uye richigunun'una, uye ini ndakatanga kurovedza muviri.

Ndakamhanya mamaira matatu mazuva mashoma ndangozvara.

Uye kunyangwe izvi zvichinzwika sezvakanaka, pabepa - ini ndaigara ndichiudzwa kuti ndaitaridzika "ndakakura" uye "ndaive nerombo rakanaka" uye vamwe vaindirova maoko nekuda kwe "kuzvipira" kwangu uye kutsungirira - kuda kwangu kwehutano kwakakurumidza kuve kwakanyanya. Ndakanetseka nechitarisiko chemuviri chakamonyoroka uye chirwere chekudya mushure mekusununguka.

Handisi ndega. Zvinoenderana neongororo ya2017 kubva kune vanotsvagira paUniversity yeIllinois uye Brigham Young University, makumi mana neshanu muzana amai vatsva vanoshungurudzwa nemuviri wavo wekubereka. Chikonzero?

Maitiro asiri echokwadi nemifananidzo yevakadzi vane matoni avo "vakadzokazve" masvondo mushure mekuzvara vakavasiya vachinzwa kushaya tariro uye kusava netariro. Iko midhiya inotarisa nezve nhumbu yakaitawo basa.

Asi chii chatingaite kuti tichinje nzira iyo vakadzi vanozviona ivo pachavo? Tinogona kusheedzera makambani anosimudzira zvisizvo zvisizvo. Tinogona "kusateedzera" avo vanodzidzisa mapiritsi edhayeti, zvinowedzera, uye mamwe marudzi ehupfu pasi pechirevo chehutano. Uye isu tinogona kumira kutaura nezvevakadzi mushure mekusununguka miviri. Nguva.

Ehe, izvi zvinosanganisira kuombera kwekuberekwa kwehuremu hwehuremu.

Kurumbidza kutyisa kwaamai vatsva, kwete muviri wavo

Iwe unoona, vanaamai vatsva (uye vabereki) zvakanyanya kudarika chimiro, saizi, kana nhamba pachiyero. Tiri vabiki, vanachiremba, varairidzi varairi, manesi akanyorova, vadikani, uye vachengeti. Tinodzivirira vadiki vedu uye nekuvapa nzvimbo yakachengeteka yekurara - uye ivhu. Tinofadza vana vedu nekuvanyaradza. Uye tinoita izvi tisingafunge kana kubwaira.

Vabereki vazhinji vanotora aya mabasa kuwedzera kune yakazara-nguva, yekunze-imba basa. Vazhinji vanotora aya mabasa pamusoro pekuchengeta vamwe vana kana vabereki vakwegura. Vabereki vazhinji vanoita mabasa aya vasina rutsigiro rudiki kana vasina.

Saka pachinzvimbo chekutaura nezvechitarisiko chemubereki mutsva, taura nezvavakaita. Vaitei vazive basa guru ravari kuita, kunyangwe dai zvese zvavakaita kusimuka vopa yavo isu bhodhoro kana chipfuva chavo. Pemberera budiriro inooneka, senge shawa ravakatora mangwanani iwayo kana chikafu chinodziya chavakasarudza kudya manheru iwayo.

Uye kana iwe ukanzwa amai vatsva vachishushikana nemuviri wavo, uye iwe uchitaura nezve zvinoonekwa, muyeuchidze kuti dumbu rake rakapfava nekuti rinofanirwa kunge riri. Nekuti, pasina iyo, imba yake ingadai yakanyarara. Iyo yekupedzisira-husiku macos uye cuddles zvaisazovapo.

Yeuchidza iye kuti ake anotambanudza mamaki ibheji rekuremekedza, kwete kunyara. Mitsetse inofanirwa kupfekwa nekudada. Uye muyeuchidze iye kuti chiuno chake chakawedzera uye zvidya zvawedzera nekuti zvinofanirwa kusimba zvakakwana - uye kugadzika zvakakwana - kutsigira huremu hwehupenyu hwake nehwevamwe

Kunze kwezvo, vanamai vekusununguka, haufanire "kuwana" muviri wako nekuti hauna kuurasa. Zvachose. Yakagara iinewe, uye zvisinei nechimiro chako uye saizi, zvinogara zvakadaro.

Kimberly Zapata ndiamai, munyori, uye mumiriri wehutano hwepfungwa. Basa rake rakaonekwa pane akati wandei masosi, anosanganisira iyo Washington Post, HuffPost, Oprah, Vice, Vabereki, Hutano, uye Amai Vanotyisa - kutumidza vashoma - uye kana mhino yake isina kuvigwa kubasa (kana bhuku rakanaka), Kimberly anoshandisa yake yemahara nguva achimhanya Mukuru Kupfuura: Kurwara, Sangano risingabatsiri rinovavarira kupa simba kuvana nevakuru vechidiki vanotambura nemamiriro ehutano hwepfungwa. Tevera Kimberly on Facebook kana Twitter.