Nei Nehutano Hwako Pfungwa Usati uye Mushure MeMwana Uchikosha Zvakadai

Zvemukati

• Postpartum mood zvinetso hazvisarure
• Postpartum kushushikana hakukwane postpartum psychosis
• Bata hutano hwako hwepfungwa zvakafanana nehutano hwako hwepanyama
• Kumbira rubatsiro uye uigamuchire kana yapiwa
• Hausi wega
• Zvakanaka kuti usave wakanaka
• Kutora

Vakadzi vane nhumbu kekutanga vangangopedza yakawanda yavo yepamuviri kudzidza kudzidza kuchengeta mwana wavo. Asi zvakadii nezvekudzidza kuzvitarisira?

Pane mazwi matatu andinoshuvira kuti dai mumwe munhu ataura neni nezvangu pandaive nepamuviri: hutano hwamai hwepfungwa. Aya mazwi matatu aigona kunge akaita mutsauko unoshamisa muhupenyu hwangu pandakava amai.

Ndinoshuva kuti dai mumwe munhu akati, "Hutano hwepfungwa dzaamai vako hungatambura pre- uye mushure mekubata pamuviri. Izvi zvakajairika, uye zvinorapika. ” Hapana munhu akandiudza kuti ndezvipi zviratidzo zvekutsvaga, zvine njodzi, kana kwekuenda rubatsiro rwehunyanzvi.

Ndakanga ndisinganyanyo kugadzirira apo kusununguka kwekusununguka kwakandirova smack kumeso zuva rakatevera rekuunza kwangu mwana kumba kubva kuchipatara. Kushaikwa kwedzidzo yandakatambira panguva yepamuviri kwakanditungamira pakutsvaga kwekutsvaira kuti ndiwane rubatsiro rwandaida kuti ndipore.

Dai ndaiziva kuti chii chinonzi postpartum depression chaicho chaicho, vangani vakadzi chinobata, uye maitiro ekuchibata, ndingadai ndainzwa kushaya nyadzi. Ndingadai ndakatanga kurapwa nekukurumidza. Uye ini ndaigona kuve ndiripo nemwanakomana wangu mukati megore rekutanga iro.

Hezvino zvimwezve zvandinoshuvira dai ndaiziva nezve hutano hwepfungwa ndisati uye mushure mekubata kwangu.

Postpartum mood zvinetso hazvisarure

Pandaive nepamuviri pemwedzi misere, shamwari yepedyo yainge ichangoita mwana wavo yakandibvunza, "Jen, urikunetsekana nezvezvinhu zvekushushikana kwepashure pokusununguka?" Ndakabva ndangopindura ndichiti, “Kwete. Izvi hazvingamboitika kwandiri. ”

Ini ndaifara kuve amai, ndakaroora mudiwa shamwari, ndakabudirira muhupenyu, uye ndatova nematoni erubatsiro akarongedzwa, saka ndakafungidzira kuti ndakanga ndiri pachena.

Ndakadzidza nekukurumidza zvikuru kuti kusununguka kwepashure kwekubereka hakune hanya nechero zvipi zvacho. Ndakave nerutsigiro rwese pasi, asi zvakadaro ndakaramba ndichirwara.

Postpartum kushushikana hakukwane postpartum psychosis

Chikamu chechikonzero nei ndisina kutenda kusununguka kwepashure kwekubereka kunogona kuitika kwandiri ndechekuti ndaisanzwisisa kuti chaive chii.

Ini ndaigara ndichifungidzira postpartum kushushikana kunongedzwa kuna moms vaunoona panhau vanokuvadza vana vavo, uye dzimwe nguva, ivo pachavo. Mazhinji evaya amai vane postpartum psychosis, izvo zvakasiyana zvakanyanya. Psychosis ndiyo isinganyanyo kunetsa kushushikana kwepfungwa, ichingobata chete 1 kusvika 2 pavakadzi chiuru vanozvara.

Bata hutano hwako hwepfungwa zvakafanana nehutano hwako hwepanyama

Kana iwe ukawana kupisa kwakanyanya uye kukosora, iwe ungangoona chiremba wako usina kufunga. Iwe unoteedzera zvirevo zvechiremba wako pasina mubvunzo. Asi kana amai vatsva vachinetseka noutano hwepfungwa, vanowanzo nyara uye vanotambura chinyararire.

Postpartum mood disorders, senge postpartum kushushikana uye postpartum kunetsekana, ndidzo chaidzo chirwere dzinoda kurapwa kwenyanzvi.

Ivo vanowanzo kuda mishonga kungofanana nezvirwere zvepanyama. Asi vanamai vazhinji vanoona vachifanira kutora mishonga sekushaya simba uye chirevo chekuti vatadza kuva amai.

Ini ndinomuka mangwanani ega ega uye ndinotora mubatanidzwa wemishonga miviri yekudzvinyirira pasina nyadzi. Kurwira hutano hwepfungwa kunondisimbisa. Ndiyo nzira yakanakisa yekuti ndichengete mwanakomana wangu.

Kumbira rubatsiro uye uigamuchire kana yapiwa

Hwaamai hauna kuitirwa kuti uite wega. Haufanire kutarisana nazvo uri wega uye haufanire kunzwa uine mhosva uchikumbira zvaunoda.

Kana iwe uine postpartum mood disorder, iwe haikwanise iwe pachako kuti uwane zviri nani. Ndakatanga kunzwa zvirinani iyo miniti ini yandawana murapi uyo ainyanya kuita mushure mekusununguka kwematambudziko emanzwiro, asi ini ndaifanirwa kutaura ndichikumbira rubatsiro.

Zvakare, dzidza kuti hongu. Kana mumwe wako akazvipira kugeza nekuzunza mwana kuti ugone kurara, uti hongu. Kana hanzvadzi yako ichida kuuya kuzobatsira kuwacha uye kusuka ndiro, rega iye. Kana shamwari ikazvipira kumisikidza chitima chekudya, iti hongu. Uye kana vabereki vako vachida kubhadhara mukoti wevacheche, postpartum doula, kana maawa mashoma ekuchengeta mwana, gamuchira zvavo.

Hausi wega

Makore mashanu apfuura, pandakanga ndichisangana nekushushikana kwepashure kwekubereka, ini ndakafunga chokwadi kuti chaingova ini chete. Ndakanga ndisingazive munhu pachezvangu uyo ​​aive nekusununguka kwekusununguka. Handina kumbozviona zvichitaurwa pasocial media.

Chiremba wangu wechiremba (OB) haana kumbouya nacho. Ndaifunga kuti ndaikundikana pakuva amai, chimwe chinhu chandaitenda chakauya zvakasununguka kune vamwe vakadzi vese pasi pano.

Mumusoro mangu, paive nechakakanganisika neni. Ini ndaisada chero chinhu chine chekuita nemwanakomana wangu, ndaisada kuve amai, uye ndaitogona kumuka pamubhedha kana kusiya imba kunze kwekugadzwa kwevhiki nevhiki.

Chokwadi ndechekuti 1 mu7 amai vatsva vanokanganiswa nenyaya dzehutano hwemadzimai hwepfungwa gore rega rega. Ndakaona kuti ndaive chikamu chedzinza rezviuru zvemamoms avo vaibata nechinhu chimwe chete seni. Izvo zvakaita mutsauko mukuru mukurega kunyara kwandainzwa.

Zvakanaka kuti usave wakanaka

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Usachengeta zvakashata uye zvakashata zvikamu uye manzwiro ehuamai kwauri nekuti wega wega mumwe wedu anazvo. Havatiitire zvakashata moms.

Iva munyoro newe. Tsvaga vanhu vako - avo vanogara vachizvichengeta chaizvo, asi usatonge. Ndivo vanozokutsigira nekukugamuchira chero zvodii.

Kutora

Mifananidzo ndeyechokwadi. Iwe unofanirwa kuchengetedza yako wega oxygen mask usati wachengetedza yako yemwana. Iwe haugone kudurura kubva mukapu isina chinhu. Kana amai vakadzika, chikepe chose chinodzika.

Zvese izvi ingori kodhi ye: Hutano hwako hwepamoyo hwepfungwa hunokosha. Ndakadzidza kutarisira hutano hwangu hwepfungwa nenzira yakaoma, chidzidzo chakamanikidzwa pandiri nehurwere hwandisina kana ruzivo nezvazvo. Haifanire kunge iri seizvi.

Ngatigoveranei nyaya dzedu uye tirambe tichisimudza kuziva. Kuisa pamberi pehutano hwemadzimai hwepamoyo usati uye mushure mecheche zvinofanirwa kuve zvakajairwa - kwete izvo chete.

Jen Schwartz ndiye muvambi weThe Medicated Mommy Blog uye muvambi we MOTHERHOOD | KUZIVISISA, nhepfenyuro yemagariro inotaura zvakanyanya naamai vanobatwa nehutano hwemadzimai hwepfungwa - zvinhu zvinotyisa senge kusununguka kwekusununguka, kushushikana kwepashure kwekubereka, uye toni yezvimwe zvehuropi zvemakemikari zvinokanganisa vakadzi kubva mukunzwa saamai vanobudirira. Jen munyori akaburitswa, mutauri, anofunga-mutungamiri, uye anobatsira kuTODAY Parenting Team, PopSugar Moms, Motherlucker, Vane Simba, Vanobudirira Pasi Pese, Suburban Misfit Mom, neMogul. Zvake kunyora uye kutaura kwave kuratidzwa pese pese amai blogosphere kumawebhusaiti epamusoro senge Anotyisa Amai, CafeMom, HuffPost Vabereki, Mhoro Giggles, uye nezvimwe. Anogara ari New Yorker kutanga, anogara muCharlotte, NC, nemurume wake Jason, diki revanhu Mason, uye imbwa Harry Potter. Kuti uwane zvimwe kubva kuna Jen uye MOTHERHOOD-UNDERSTOOD, batana naye pa Instagram.