Tsamba kubva kuMupepeti: Iyo Yakaomesesa Trimester yeZvose

Zvemukati

• Zvandaishuwira ndaizviziva ipapo
• Kushaya mbereko ndicho chinhu chedu
• Ichi chi kwete isu
• Kunyarara hakusi kwakanyanya goridhe
• Tariro haina kumbobvira yakanzurwa

Zvandaishuwira ndaizviziva ipapo

Pane zvinhu zvakawanda kwazvo zvandinoshuvira dai ndaiziva ndisati ndaedza kubata pamuviri.

Ndinoshuva dai ndaiziva kuti zviratidzo zvepamuviri hazviratidzi nekukurumidza kana iwe ukatanga kuyedza. Zvinonyadzisa kuti kangani ndakafunga kuti ndaive nepamuviri pasina chikonzero.

Ndinoshuva dai ndaiziva kuti nekuda kwekuti ini nemurume wangu takadya zvine hutano uye tichirovedza muviri nguva dzose, izvo hazvikupe nzira iri nyore yekuzvitakura. Isu tiri chinwiwa-girini-majusi, kuenda-kumhanya-pamwechete mhando yevaviri - isu takafunga kuti taive mune yakajeka.

Ndinoshuva dai ndaiziva kuti kuchovha bhasikoro makumbo angu mumhepo kwemaminitsi makumi maviri mushure mekuita bonde kwaisazowedzera mikana yangu. Hei, pamwe izvo zvaive zvakanaka ab Workout kanenge?

Ndinoshuva dai ndaiziva kuti kubata pamuviri kunogona kuva kwakaomesesa chikamu cherwendo rwevabereki. Ndinoshuva dai ndaiziva kuti mumwe muvaroorani vanonetseka kubata pamuviri. Ndinoshuva kuti mumwe munhu andinyevere kuti kushaya mbereko chinhu, uye zvinogona kudaro vedu chinhu.

Kushaya mbereko ndicho chinhu chedu

Musi waFebruary 14, 2016, ini nemurume wangu takaona kuti taive pakati peavo 1 pavaroorani vasere. Isu tanga tichiedza kwemwedzi mipfumbamwe. Kana iwe wakamborarama hupenyu hwako hwakavakirwa pakuronga bonde, kutora yako yepashure tembiricha yemuviri, uye kutarisisa pamatanda eovulation zvinongoguma nekutarisa pakukundikana kwepamuviri bvunzo mushure mekundikana nhumbu bvunzo, mwedzi mipfumbamwe isingaperi.

Ini ndanga ndichirwara nekunzwa, "Iipe gore - ndizvo zvinotora nguva yakareba sei!" nekuti ndaiziva kuti hunhu hwangu hwaive hungwaru kupfuura chero nhungamiro. Ndakaziva kuti chimwe chinhu hachina kumira zvakanaka.

PaZuva raValentine, takagamuchira nhau kuti takanga tine nyaya dzekushaya mbereko. Moyo yedu yakamira. Chirongwa chedu chehupenyu - icho chataive takarovera zvakanyatsokwana kusvika apa - chakazopunzika.

Zvese zvataida kuita kukwana chikamu "kuva nemwana" mubhuku redu. Hatina kumboziva kuti yakange yave kuda kuve yenhau yayo, nekuti kushaya mbereko yaive hondo refu yatisina kugadzirira kurwa.

Ichi chi kwete isu

Kekutanga nguva yaunonzwa izwi kushaya mbereko, haugone kubatsira asi kufunga, hapana nzira, kwete ini, kwete isu. Izvo hazvigoneke. Pane kuramba, asi zvino kurwadziwa kwekubvuma chokwadi kuri kukurova zvakanyanya zvinotora mweya wako. Mwedzi wega wega unopfuura pasina kurota kwako uchizadzikiswa humwe huremu hwakawedzerwa pamapfudzi ako. Uye iyo huremu hwekumirira haigone kutsungirira.

Isuwo tanga tisina kugadzirira kushaya mbereko kuve rechipiri renguva yakazara basa. Isu taifanira kurwa kuburikidza nemazana ekugadzwa kwavanachiremba, kuvhiyiwa, kushushikana kwemoyo, uye kupfurwa mushure mekupfurwa tichivimba kuti yakawedzerwa mahomoni eIVF, huremu hwekuwedzera, kupera muviri uye kwepfungwa kubva pane zvese izvi kwaizoguma mucheche rimwe zuva.

Tainzwa kusurukirwa, kusurukirwa, uye kunyara nekuti nei zvaiita kunge munhu wese akatikomberedza ari kubata nhumbu zviri nyore? Tanga tiri isu chete vaviri vepanyika vari kuenda neizvi?

Izvo zvakanaka nezvakaipa zvacho: Isu hatisi isu chete. Kune musha kunze uko, uye vese vari muchikepe chimwe chete, asi isu takafanirwa kutenda kuti tinofanirwa kuramba takanyarara nekuti haisi nyaya isinganzwisisike, inonzwa-yakanaka.

Kunyarara hakusi kwakanyanya goridhe

Rwendo rwakaoma zvakakwana, saka kugara wakanyarara hakufanirwe kuve chikamu chehurongwa hwemutambo. Kana iwe uchinetseka kuve nepamuviri, Healthline Parenthood inoziva iwe unoda rumwe rutsigiro kuti unzwe kushoma uri wega. Chinangwa chedu ndechekushandura hurukuro pamusoro pekushaya mbereko kuitira kuti vanhu vanzwe kugoneswa kugovana nyaya yavo, kwete kunyara.

Ichi ndicho chikonzero isu takagadzira Iyo Yekutanga Yekutanga Trymester nekuti, kune vamwe vedu, kuyedza kubata nhumbu ndiyo yakaoma trimester yezvose.

Zvinyorwa izvi zvinoitirwa kubatana newe, kukutsigira, uye kukubatsira kuti unzwe kunge uri chikamu chemusha. Iwe unozonzwa kuraira nekurudziro kubva kune mumwe munhu anga aripo mutsamba iyi kune wake mudiki, kuti kushaya mbereko hakudi kuve chakavanzika futi, uye nyaya yemukadzi ane kutenderera kwakamiswa zuva rapamberi raaifanirwa tanga nekuda kwe COVID-19. Iwe unozowana rutsigiro rwezvigadzirwa kana iwe uchinetseka kuti chii IVF chinosanganisira, kwenguva yakareba sei mushure meIUI iwe yaunogona kuyedza, uye ndeupi rudzi rweyoga rwakanakira kubereka kwako.

Rwendo rwekushaya mbereko ndicho chinhu chakanyanya kubva pakufamba wega, saka tinovimba kuti zvinyorwa izvi zvinokukurudzira kuti ugovane nyaya yako, ingave iri pa Instagram kana kunze kunodya nevanoshanda navo. Vhura moyo wako kune chokwadi chekuti chero chaunogovana, kunyangwe ichingova chinhu chidiki chidiki, chinogona kubatsira mumwe munhu, uyezve chingakubatsira iwe kuwana musha wako.

Tariro haina kumbobvira yakanzurwa

Rwendo rwangu rwekushaya mbereko rwakandidzidzisa zvakawanda nezvekuti isu tiri vaviri sei, ini ndiri munhu, uye vatiri isu sevabereki. Pandakagara pano ndichinyora izvi, ndichiteerera yangu ikozvino ingangoita makore maviri ekubvira hari nemapani kunge madhiramu, ndinofunga nezve zvese zvinhu zvandinoshuvira dai ndaiziva panguva iyoyo. Kana iwe uchienda kuburikidza nechimwe chinhu chakafanana, izvi zvichave zvidzidzo zvaunotora munzira zvakare.

Simba rako rinokushamisa. Kune chete 1 muvanhu vasere vanoenda kuburikidza neizvi nekuti ndine chokwadi chekuti zvinotora munhu akakosha kana vakaroora vane simba kuti vakwanise kumuka mangwanani ega ega uye kusangana nekushaya mbereko mumaziso.

Rwendo rwakareba. Yakazara nemarwadzo emoyo. Asi kana iwe ukaisa ziso rako pamubayiro, uye moyo wako wakavhurika kune akawanda mikana yekuunza mwana pasi rino uye mumhuri yako, unogona kurega zvishoma zvevhu rako zviende.

Sevanhu vaviri, kurwa kwedu kwakangotiunza padhuze. Zvakatiita isu vabereki vakasimba nekuti kunyangwe kana paine mazuva nemwana mudiki akaomarara, hatimbotora imwe chete seyakareruka. Zvakare, apo isu taive tichipfuura nekushaya mbereko gehena, takapedza iwo matatu makore tichifamba kuti tione nyika, kuona shamwari dzedu, uye kuve nemhuri yedu. Ndichagara ndichionga nguva yakawedzerwa yatakave nayo - isu vaviri chete.

Nhasi inguva yakasarudzika yekurwira kushaya mbereko. Mwoyo wangu unorwadza kune avo vane kurapa kwekubereka kwakabviswa zvachose nekuda kwekonavirus. Asi pane chimwe chinhu chandakawana chiri kufamba pane ese ekushaya mbereko Instagram maakaundi andinoteera, uye ndizvo: Tariro haina kukanzurwa.

Uye izvi zvinoenda kune chero munhu arikuedza mwana izvozvi. Kunyangwe paine mukana wekunonoka kuita kuti zviroto zvako zviitike, usarase tariro. Chero nguva pataitambira nhau dzakaipa kubva kuna chiremba - izvo zvaiwanzoitika kupfuura - chikamu changu chakakoromoka, uye zvainetsa kuramba tichienda, asi takadaro, nekuti hatina kumbokanda mapfumo pasi patariro. Kana izvo zvichinzwa zviri nyore kutaura pane kuzviita izvozvi, isu tinonzwisisa. Isu tinovimba Hutano hweHurumende Parenthood inogona kuve musha wako izvozvi uye kukuyeuchidza kuti tariro haina kubviswa.

Jamie Webber
Edhiyo Director, Parenthood