Meghan Markle Akati "Haachazoda Kuve Mupenyu" Paaive wehumambo

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Munguva yekubvunzurudzwa pakati paOprah neyaimbova Duke uye maDuchess eSussex, Meghan Markle haana kana chaakadzosa - kusanganisira nehukama hwepamoyo hwepfungwa panguva yake sehumambo.

Aimbove maDuchess akazivisa Oprah kuti kunyangwe "munhu wese [mumhuri yehumambo] akamugamuchira," hupenyu sechikamu chehumambo hwaive hwakasurukirwa zvakanyanya uye hwakazviparadzanisa nevamwe. Zvakanyanya, kutaura zvazviri, kuzviuraya kwakava "pfungwa dzakajeka uye dzechokwadi uye dzinotyisa uye dzinogara," Markle akaudza Oprah. (Yakabatana: Kuwana Kusimba Kwakandidzosa Kubva kuBrink yekuzviuraya)

"Ndainyara kuzvitaura panguva iyoyo uye ndainyara kuzvibvuma kuna Harry. Asi ndaiziva kuti ndikasazvitaura, saka ndaizozviita," akatsanangura Markle. "Ini ndanga ndisisade kuve mupenyu futi."

Sekutsanangura kwakaita Markle mubvunzurudzo (uye nyika yakaona mumisoro mikuru), akakurumidza kubva pakuonekwa senhengo itsva inonakidza yemhuri yehumambo kuzoratidzwa semunhu ane nharo, anopokana. Paaivhura nezve kuongororwa kwaakasangana nako munhau dzeBritish, Markle akaudza Oprah kuti ainzwa kuti idambudziko kumhuri yehumambo. Nekuda kweizvozvo, akati "akafunga kuti [kuzviuraya] kwaizogadzirisa zvese kune wese." Markle akati akazopedzisira aenda kubazi rehumambo bazi rezvevashandi kuti angobatsirwa, akangozoudzwa kuti hapana chavangaite nekuti aive "asiri nhengo inobhadharwa yesangano." Kwete izvozvo chete, asi Markle akati akaudzwa kuti haakwanise kutsvaga rubatsiro rwehutano hwake hwepfungwa nekuti kuita kudaro "hazvingave zvakanaka kune iyo institution." Uye saka, mumashoko a Markle, "Hapana chakamboitwa." (Inoenderana: Yemahara Mental Health Services Inopa Inodhura uye Inowanikwa Rutsigiro)

Markle akayeukawo kuti zvakanga zvakaoma sei kuvanza matambudziko ake neutano hwake hwepfungwa pamberi pevanhu. "Isu taifanirwa kuenda kuchiitiko ichi kuRoyal Albert Hall mushure mekunge ndaudza Harry kuti handichadi kurarama," akaudza Oprah. "Mumifananidzo, ndinoona kubata zvakasimba mabvi ake kumativi angu. Tiri kunyemwerera, tichiita basa redu. MuRoyal Box, pakadzimwa mwenje, ndaichema."

Asati agovana zvaakasangana nazvo nepfungwa dzekuda kuzviuraya, Markle akazivisa kuna Oprah kuti kunyangwe pakutanga kwenguva yake samambo, akatambura nekusurukirwa kwakanyanya. Akataura kuti aida kuenda kunodya masikati neshamwari dzake asi akarairwa nemhuri yehumambo kuti varare pasi uye akashoropodzwa nekuda kweku "kuve kwese" munhau - kunyangwe hazvo, muchokwadi, Markle akati anga akasurukirwa mukati, chaizvo , kwemwedzi.

"Ndasiya imba kaviri mumwedzi mina - ndiri kwese asi hapana kwandiri ikozvino," akaudza Oprah wenguva iyoyo muhupenyu hwake. Munhu wose ainetseka ne optics - kuti zviito zvake zvingaratidzika sei - asi, sezvo Markle akagoverana naOprah, "pane munhu akataura nezvekunzwa sei? Nokuti iye zvino ndakanga ndisingakwanisi kunzwa ndiri ndoga."

Kusurukirwa hakusi kutamba. Kana ikaitika kwenguva refu, inogona kuunza migumisiro yakakomba. Kunzwa kusurukirwa kunogona kukanganisa kushandiswa kwe dopamine uye serotonin (neurotransmitters inoita kuti unzwe zvakanaka) muuropi yako; sezvo kushandiswa kwavo kunononoka, unogona kutanga kunzwa wakaderera, zvichida kuora mwoyo, kana kuzvidya mwoyo. Zvichitaurwa zviri nyore: kusurukirwa kunogona kuwedzera zvakanyanya njodzi yekuora mwoyo.

Muchiitiko chaMarkle, kusurukirwa kwakaratidzika kunge kwakanyanya kukurudzira kuzviuraya pfungwa dzaakati akasangana nadzo. Zvisinei nemamiriro ezvinhu chaiwo, zvakadaro, poindi ndeyekuti, sekuyevedza sehupenyu hwemumwe munhu hunogona kutaridzika pamusoro, haungomboziva izvo zvavanogona kunge vachinetseka nazvo mukati.Sezvakataurwa naMarkle kuna Oprah kuti: "Hauzivi kuti chii chiri kuitika kune mumwe munhu kuseri kwemasuo akavharwa. Iva netsitsi kune izvo chaizvo zvingangoitika."

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