Kurwara Nepfungwa Hachisi Chikonzero cheKunetsa Kuita

Zvemukati

• Hupenyu hwangu mamiriro muNYC yakanyatsoratidza nzira idzo vanhu vanogona kushandisa nadzo chirwere chepfungwa kunzvenga kuzvidavirira.
• Isu isu tinorarama nehurwere hwepfungwa tinofanirwa kuziva nezvenzira idzo kuedza kwedu kutsungirira kunogona kuendesa mberi kunetseka kwekutenda.
• Idzi nhoroondo dzinotibata isu, zvakare, kana isu tichiedza kutsvaga rutsigiro munzira yekutarisira kwedu, nekutibvisa kuzvitonga kwedu.
• Kuziva kuti tinogona (zvine chinangwa kana kusaziva) kushandisa edu epfungwa kurwara mutoro, ko kuve nekuzvidavirira kunoratidzika sei?
• Nezve izvi zvine simba mupfungwa, kuve nehunyanzvi kutenderedza hutano hwedu hwepfungwa kunoreva kuyedza kugadzirira matambudziko ehutano hwepfungwa pazvinogoneka.
• Senge chero mhando yekudyidzana nevanhu vakasiyana nesu, danho rekubvumirana rinodiwa.

Kurwara kwepfungwa hakuiti mhedzisiro yezviito zvedu.

"Rega ndigadzire ndikuratidze kuti 'zvakachena' zvakaita sei!"

Zhizha rapfuura, pandakaenda kuNew York kunopedzisa iyo internship, ndinoisa imba nemukadzi, Katie, wandakasangana naye paCraigslist.

Pakutanga, yaive yakakwana. Akasiya kuenda kubasa kwemwedzi mishoma, achisiira furati rese kwandiri.

Kugara ndega kwaive kunakidzwa. Izvo zvakajairika zvine chekuita neOCD zvandinazvo mukugovana nzvimbo nevamwe (Vachave vakachena zvakakwana? Vachave vakachena zvakakwana? Vachave vakachena zvakakwana ??) hazvisi izvo zvinonetsa zvakanyanya kana uri wega.

Nekudaro, paakadzoka, akatarisana neni neshamwari yandaive nayo, achinyunyuta kuti nzvimbo iyi yaive "nyonganiso yakakwana." (Yakanga isiri?)

Mukati me tirade yake, akaita mhirizhonga dzinoverengeka: kushatisa shamwari yangu uye achifungidzira kuti ndakanga ndakasviba, pakati pezvimwe zvinhu.

Pandakazomutarisana nemufambiro wake, akazvidzivirira, achishandisa kwake kuongororwa kweOCD sechikonzero.

Hazvirevi kuti ini ndaisanzwisisa chiitiko ichi. Ini ndaizviziva ndega kuti kurarama nechirwere chepfungwa ndechimwe chezvinhu zvinovhiringidza, zvinodzikamisa zviitiko izvo munhu zvaangapfuura nazvo.

Zvirwere zvisingadzoreke senge kushushikana, kushushikana, bipolar kusagadzikana, uye zvimwe zvirwere zvinogona kubira maitiro edu, zvichitikonzera kuti tiite nenzira dzisingaenderane nehunhu hwedu kana vatambi vechokwadi.

Nehurombo, chirwere chepfungwa hachiite semhedzisiro yezviito zvedu.

Vanhu vanogona uye vanoshandisa hunyanzvi hwekugadzirisa kubata kwavo hutano hwepfungwa hunovandudza zvimiro zvine matambudziko, sezvavanofanira.

Chirwere chepfungwa hachiregereri transphobia yako kana rusaruraganda. Kurwara kwepfungwa hakuiti kuti misogyny yako uye ruvengo rwevanhu venhema zvive zvakanaka. Chirwere chepfungwa hachiite kuti hunhu hwako hunetsekere hukanganisike.

Hupenyu hwangu mamiriro muNYC yakanyatsoratidza nzira idzo vanhu vanogona kushandisa nadzo chirwere chepfungwa kunzvenga kuzvidavirira.

NaKatie, kuunzwa kwake kwehutano hwepfungwa kurwira muhurukuro yaive kuyedza nemaune kukanganisa kuzvidavirira kwehunhu hwake.

Panzvimbo yekupindura kushushikana, kunyadziswa, uye kutya ndakataura ndichipindura kupopoterwa naye - {textend} mukadzi akachena murungu wandakanga ndasangana naye kamwe chete - {textend} akapembedza hunhu hwake nechisimba.

Tsananguro yake yemaitiro ake yainzwisisika - {textend} asi kwete zvinogamuchirwa.

Semunhu ane OCD, ndinonzwira tsitsi huwandu hwekushushikana kwaanofanira kunge akanzwa. Paakataura kuti ndirikuparadza imba yake, ndaigona kungofungidzira kuti kuve nemumwe munhu anosvibisa iyo nzvimbo iye (uye OCD yake) yaakagadzira inofanirwa kunge kwaive kutamba.

Nekudaro, maitiro ese ane mhedzisiro, kunyanya iyo inobata vamwe vanhu.

Transhobhobia yaakaburitsa nekunyengera muenzi wangu, anti-Dema iye akaitazve nekukanda matrope eangu fungidziro tsvina, hukuru hwevachena hwakamupa simba kuti ataure kwandiri, uye kuyedza kwake kugadzirisa gakava rangu nemisodzi yake - { izvi zvese zvine mhedzisiro chaiyo iyo yaaida kurwisana nayo, chirwere chepfungwa kana kwete.

Isu isu tinorarama nehurwere hwepfungwa tinofanirwa kuziva nezvenzira idzo kuedza kwedu kutsungirira kunogona kuendesa mberi kunetseka kwekutenda.

Pakati pekusagadzikana kwangu kwekudya, semuenzaniso, ndaifanira kurwisa kuti chishuwo changu chakasimba chekudzikisa huremu panguva imwechete chaipa simba rakawanda kune fatphobia. Ini ndanga ndichiita mukutenda kuti pane chimwe chinhu "chakashata" pamusoro pemitumbi mikuru, nokudaro zvichikuvadza vanhu vehukuru, zvisinei vasingadi.

Kana mumwe munhu aine kushushikana uye akabata chikwama chake achiona munhu Mutema, kuzvidya moyo kwavo kuri kuramba kuchisimbisa chitendero chekurwisa Kusviba - {textend} utsotsi hweruzivo rwekusviba - {textend} kunyangwe zvikakurudzirwa, muchidimbu, neyavo kusagadzikana.

Izvi zvinodawo kuti isu tishande pamusoro pezvitendero zvatinoita pamusoro pehurwere hwepfungwa pachazvo, futi.

Varwere vepfungwa vanogara vachipendwa sengozi uye vasingadzoreki - {textend} tinogara takabatana nekusagadzikana uye nyonganiso.

Kana tikasimudzira chirevo ichi - {textend} chatisiri mukutungamira kwemaitiro edu - {textend} tinozviita nemhedzisiro yakakomba.

Nekuchangobva kupfurwa kwevanhu vazhinji, semuenzaniso, zvakajairwa "chidzidzo" chaive chekuti zvimwe zvinoda kuitwa nezve hutano hwepfungwa, sekunge kuti ndizvo zvakakonzera mhirizhonga. Izvi zvinoputira chokwadi chaicho chekuti vanhu vane chirwere chepfungwa vanowanzo kuve vanobatwa, kwete vapari vemhosva.

Kutaura kuti hatina kuzviziva isu pachedu patinenge tichisimudza inotsigira pfungwa yekunyepa yekuti chirwere chepfungwa chakafanana nehunhu husina musoro, husina musoro, uye hune chisimba.

Iyi inova nyaya yakatokura kana isu tikatanga kurwara nemhando dzemhirizhonga se mamiriro panzvimbo pechisarudzo chaunoziva.

Kutenda kuti hunhu hwakaoma hwakanaka nekuda kwehurwere hwepfungwa zvinoreva kuti vanhu vane chisimba zvechokwadi "vanorwara" uye nekudaro havagone kuverengerwa maitiro avo.

Dylann Roof, murume akauraya vanhu vatema nekuti iye akachena supremacist, yakanga isiri rondedzero yakapararira zvakanyanya. Pane kudaro, aiwanzoonekwa achinzwira tsitsi, achitsanangurwa sejaya raive nepfungwa uye risingakwanise kudzora zviito zvake.

Idzi nhoroondo dzinotibata isu, zvakare, kana isu tichiedza kutsvaga rutsigiro munzira yekutarisira kwedu, nekutibvisa kuzvitonga kwedu.

Kutaura kuti vanhu vane chirwere chepfungwa havasi kudzora kwezviito zvavo uye havagone kuvimbwa zvinoreva kuti vanhu vanezvigaro zvemasimba vane mvumo yezviitiko zvekushungurudzwa.

Fungidzira kuti takavezwa sevane hunyengeri kune rusununguko rusina basa rwekupfura kwevanhu uye hatigone kudzora zvakakwana kuzvidzora.

Vangani (zvimwe) vedu vangazopedzisira vava nepfungwa dzepfungwa dzinopesana nezvatinoda? Vangani (zvimwe) vedu vangaurayiwa nemapurisa vanoona hupenyu hwedu sengozi, kunyanya vanhu vatema?

Zvakawanda sei (zvimwe) zvatingazogumisirwa kana tichingotsvaga rutsigiro nezviwanikwa zvehupenyu hwedu? Vangani (zvimwe) vanodzikisira varapi vanofunga kuti isu hatigone kuziva zvakatinakira?

Kuziva kuti tinogona (zvine chinangwa kana kusaziva) kushandisa edu epfungwa kurwara mutoro, ko kuve nekuzvidavirira kunoratidzika sei?

Kazhinji nguva, danho rekutanga kugadzirisa ndere kubvuma kuti kunyangwe zviome sei zvirwere zvedu zvepfungwa, hatisi kuregererwa kuve nemhosva uye tinogona kukuvadza vanhu.

Hongu, OCD yaKatie yaireva kuti anogona kunge akawedzera kutsamwa kupfuura munhu wepakati nekuona mutorwa munzvimbo yake.

Zvisinei, achiri kundikuvadza. Tinogona kuramba tichirwadzisana - {textend} kunyangwe hazvo zvirwere zvedu zvepfungwa zvichityaira maitiro edu. Uye iko kukuvadza kuri chaiko uye kuchiri kukosha.

Nokubvuma ikoko kunouya kuda kugadzirisa zvakaipa.

Kana isu tichiziva kuti isu takakuvadza mumwe munhu, sei isu sangana ivo kwavari kururamisa zvikanganiso zvedu? Chii chavanoda kuti vanzwe sekunge isu tinonzwisisa mhedzisiro yezviito zvedu, kuziva kuti isu tinotora manzwiro avo zvakanyanya?

Kuedza kukoshesa zvinodiwa nevamwe kwakakosha mukukanganwirana, kunyangwe mudutu remunhu rinogona kubata chirwere chepfungwa.

Imwe nzira yekuzvidavirira ndeyekugadzirisa zvinetswa zvehutano hwepfungwa, kunyanya izvo zvinogona kukanganisa vamwe.

Chirwere chepfungwa hachimbobata munhu mumwe chete, asi chinowanzo bata zvikamu, ingava mhuri yako, shamwari, nzvimbo yekushanda, kana mamwe mapoka.

Nezve izvi zvine simba mupfungwa, kuve nehunyanzvi kutenderedza hutano hwedu hwepfungwa kunoreva kuyedza kugadzirira matambudziko ehutano hwepfungwa pazvinogoneka.

Kwandiri, ndinoziva kuti kudzokedzana kukuru mukusagadzikana kwangu pakudya kwaisazongova kunorwadza zvisingaite kwandiri, asi zvakare kunokanganisa madenderedzwa akasiyana andinoshanda mairi. Zvingareva kusava nehanya nemhuri yangu, kuzviparadzanisa nekuita hutsinye kushamwari dzangu, kushaya huwandu hwakawanda hwebasa, pakati pezvimwe zviitiko.

Kugara ndichiita zvinoenderana nehutano hwangu hwepfungwa (kuchengeta zvandingawana mupfungwa) zvinoreva kuronga hutano hwangu hwemanzwiro kudzivirira kuperevedza kudiki kubva pakuva zviitiko zvakakomba.

Nekudaro, kumisikidza tsika yekuchengeta inzira mbiri-nzira.

Kunyange hazvo zvirwere zvedu zvepfungwa zvisiri zvikonzero zvekukuvadza vanhu, vanhu vatinopindirana navo vanofanirwa kunzwisisa kuti hutsanana hwehurwere hwepfungwa hunogona kunge husingaenderane nemagariro akasimbiswa.

Kune vanhu vanopinda nekubuda muhupenyu hwedu, vane basa kwatiri kuti tinzwisise kuti kurwara kwedu kwepfungwa kunogona kureva kuti tinorarama hupenyu hwedu zvakasiyana. Tinogona kuve nehunyanzvi hwekugona kubata - {textend} kuomesa, kutora nguva yega, kushandisa zvakanyanya sanitizer yekushandisa - {textend} iyo ingaite senge iri kure-kuisa kana kutotuka.

Senge chero mhando yekudyidzana nevanhu vakasiyana nesu, danho rekubvumirana rinodiwa.

Ehezve, kwete kuwirirana kwehunhu, miganhu, kana zvimwe zvakakosha - {textend} asi pane kubvumirana pane "kunyaradzwa."

Semuenzaniso, kune mutsigiri wemumwe munhu ane kushushikana, muganho wakasimba iwe waungave usiri kutora basa remurapi panguva yekuora mwoyo episode.

Nekudaro, nyaradzo yaungave uchifanira kukanganisa inogara iri kusarudza zviitwa zvine simba zvakanyanya kuti zviitwe pamwechete.

Kunyangwe iwe uchigona kuvasarudza, kunyaradzwa kwako kungangoda kukanganiswa kuitira kuti utsigire uye urangarire hutano hwepfungwa neshamwari yako.

Iripo nechirwere chepfungwa kazhinji chinokanganisa agency. Asi kana paine chero chinhu, zvinoreva kuti tinofanirwa kuve nehunyanzvi pabasa rekugadzirisa - {textend} kwete zvishoma.

Nekuda kwekukurumidza kufunga kunoshanduka kuve manzwiro uye manzwiro anotungamira kune maitiro, zviito zvedu zvinowanzo kutungamirirwa neguvhu uye nemoyo maitiro kune nyika yakatikomberedza.

Nekudaro, semumwe munhu, isu tinofanirwa kuzvibata isu pachedu nekuzvidavirira pamaitiro edu nemhedzisiro yavo, kunyangwe kana vachikuvadza vasingadi.

Kutsungirira chirwere chepfungwa chinhu chakaomesesa. Asi kana hunyanzvi hwedu hwekurwisa huchiunza marwadzo nekutambura kune vamwe, tiri kubatsira ani kunze kwedu?

Munyika umo kurwara nepfungwa kunoramba kuchishoresa nekunyadzisa vamwe, tsika yekuchengetwa pakati pekugara kwedu patinofamba nezvirwere zvedu yakakosha kupfuura nakare kose.

Gloria Oladipo mukadzi mutema uye munyori akazvimiririra, achifungisisa nezvese zvinhu rudzi, hutano hwepfungwa, murume nemukadzi, hunyanzvi, uye mimwe misoro. Iwe unogona kuverenga zvakawanda zvemifungo yake inosetsa uye maonero akakomba pa Twitter.