Chii chinonzi Narcissistic Hasha, uye Ndeipi Nzira Yakanyanya Yakanaka Yekugadzirisa nayo?

Zvemukati

• Chakaita sei?
• Chii chingatungamira kuzvikamu zvehasha yekunyepedzera?
• Kukuvadza kuzviremekedza kana kuzvikoshesa
• Chinetso pakuvimba kwavo
• Sense yekuzvida inobvunzwa
• Iyo NPD inoonekwa sei
• Maitiro ekugadzirisa narcissistic hasha kubva kune mumwe munhu
• Kubasa
• Muhukama hwehukama
• Mune shamwari
• Kubva kumunhu wausingazive
• Hasha dzenarcissistic dzinorapwa sei?
• Kutora

Hasha dzeNarcissistic kuputika kwehasha dzakanyanya kana kunyarara kunogona kuitika kune mumwe munhu ane narcissistic hunhu kusagadzikana.

Narcissistic hunhu kusagadzikana (NPD) inoitika kana mumwe munhu akawedzeredza kana kuwedzeredza pfungwa yekukosha kwavo. Izvo zvakasiyana ne narcissism nekuti NPD yakabatana ne genetics uye nharaunda yako.

Mumwe munhu ari kusangana nehasha dzekusvotwa anogona kunzwa kuti mumwe munhu kana chiitiko muhupenyu hwavo chiri kutyisidzira kana zvinogona kukuvadza kuzviremekedza kwavo kana kuzvikoshesa.

Ivo vanogona kuita uye vanzwe hukuru uye vakakwirira kune vamwe. Semuenzaniso, vangangoda kurapwa kwakasarudzika uye kukudzwa kunyangwe zvikaita sekunge vasina chavakaita kuti vachiwane.

Vanhu vane NPD vanogona kuve nepfungwa yekusagadzikana uye vanonzwa vasingakwanise kubata chero chavanoona sekushoropodza.

Kana yavo "yechokwadi" ikaratidzwa, munhu ane NPD anogona zvakare kunzwa kutyisidzirwa, uye kwavo kuzviremekedza kwakapwanywa.

Nekuda kweizvozvo, ivo vanogona kuita nemhando dzakasiyana dzemanzwiro nezviito. Hasha ndidzo chete dzadzo, asi dzinowanzo kuve dzinoonekwa.

Kudzokorora kusanzwisisika maitiro kunoitika kune vanhu vane mamwe mamiriro, futi. Kana iwe kana munhu waunoda uchiwanzo kuve neizvi hasha zvikamu, zvakakosha kuti uwane kuongororwa kwakakodzera uye uwane kurapwa kwakanyanya.

Chakaita sei?

Isu tese tinoshuvira kutariswa uye kuyemurwa kubva kuvanhu vakatikomberedza.

Asi vanhu vane NPD vanogona kuita nehasha dzekupenga kana vasina kupihwa hanya kwavanofunga kuti vanokodzera.

Hasha idzi dzinogona kutora nzira yekupopota uye kupopota. Kusarudza kunyarara uye kusazvibata-zvine hukasha kunzvenga kunogonawo kuitika ne narcissistic hasha.

Zvizhinji zvezvikamu zve narcissistic hasha zviripo pane hunhu kuenderera. Kune rimwe divi, munhu anogona kunge ari ega uye asingadi. Chinangwa chavo chinogona kunge chiri chekukuvadza mumwe munhu nekusavapo.

Kune rimwe divi kuputika uye zviito zvinoputika. Pano zvakare, chinangwa chingave chekushandura "kurwadziwa" kwavanonzwa kuve kurwisa mumwe munhu senzira yekudzivirira.

Izvo zvakakosha kuti urangarire kuti havazi vese vanoputika nehasha zvikamu zvehasha dze narcissistic. Chero ani anokwanisa kuve nekutsamwa kwehasha, kunyangwe kana vasina hunhu kusagadzikana.

Hasha dzeNarcissistic ingori chinhu chimwe chete cheNPD. Mimwe mamiriro ezvinhu anogona zvakare kukonzera zvikamu zvakafanana nehasha dze narcissistic, kusanganisira:

• fungidziro yekunyepedzera
• bipolar kusagadzikana
• kuora mwoyo zvikamu

Chii chingatungamira kuzvikamu zvehasha yekunyepedzera?

Pane zvikonzero zvitatu zvekutanga kuti hasha dze narcissistic dzinoitika.

Kukuvadza kuzviremekedza kana kuzvikoshesa

Kunyangwe paine maonero akawandisa pamusoro pavo, vanhu vane NPD vanowanzovanza kuzviremekedza izvo zvinokuvara zviri nyore.

Kana ivo "vakuvara," narcissists vanowanzoita sevanopenga semutsetse wavo wekutanga wekudzivirira. Vanogona kunzwa kuti kucheka mumwe munhu kunze kana kuvakuvadza nemaune nemashoko kana mhirizhonga kunogona kuvabatsira kuchengetedza avo vanhu.

Chinetso pakuvimba kwavo

Vanhu vane NPD vanowanzoedza kuvaka chivimbo mavari nekuramba vachienda kure nekunyepa kana vanhu venhema.

Kana mumwe munhu akavasundira uye oburitsa pachena kushaya simba, vanhu vane NPD vanogona kunzwa vasina kukwana. Iwo manzwiro asina kugamuchirwa anogona kuvakonzera kupopota sedziviriro.

Sense yekuzvida inobvunzwa

Kana vanhu vakaratidza kuti mumwe munhu ane NPD haagone kana tarenda sezvavanogona kunyepedzera kuva, kupokana uku kune kwavo pfungwa kunogona kukonzera kucheka uye hasha kuputika.

Iyo NPD inoonekwa sei

NPD inogona kukonzera nyaya muhupenyu hwemunhu, hukama, basa, uye mamiriro emari.

Vanhu vane NPD kazhinji vanogara nemifungo yehukuru, hukuru, uye kodzero. Ivo vanogona zvakare kutarisana nedzimwezve nyaya senge yekujairira maitiro uye narcissistic hasha.

Asi hasha dze narcissistic uye zvimwe zvine chekuita neNPD hazvisi nyore sekutsamwa kana kushushikana.

Anopa hutano kana wepfungwa nyanzvi seyechiremba kana chiremba wepfungwa anogona kuongorora zviratidzo zveNPD. Izvi zvinogona kubatsira mumwe munhu ane NPD uye zviratidzo zvehasha kuwana rubatsiro rwakakodzera rwavanoda.

Iko hakuna kujeka kwekuongorora bvunzo. Pane kudaro, wako mupi wezvehutano anokumbira uye ongorora nhoroondo yako yehutano pamwe nemaitiro uye mhinduro kubva kuvanhu vari muhupenyu hwako.

Nyanzvi yehutano hwepfungwa inogona kuona kana uine NPD zvichibva pa:

• yakashuma uye yakacherekedza zviratidzo
• kuongorora kwepanyama kubatsira kubvisa kunze kwechikonzero chemuviri chinogona kukonzeresa zviratidzo
• kuongorora kwepfungwa
• inoenderana nzira muDiagnostic uye Statistical Manual yeMental Disorders (DSM-5) neAmerican Psychiatric Association
• zvinowirirana zviyero muInternational Statistical Classification yezvirwere uye Matambudziko Ehutano Akabatana (ICD-10), rondedzero yezvokurapa neWorld Health Organisation (WHO)

Maitiro ekugadzirisa narcissistic hasha kubva kune mumwe munhu

Vanhu muhupenyu hwako vane NPD uye episodes zve narcissistic hasha vane zviwanikwa zvakawanda kuti vawane rubatsiro.

Asi dzimwe nguva zvinogona kunetsa kuwana rubatsiro rwakakodzera, sezvo nzira zhinji dzekurapa dzisina kusimbiswa nekutsvaga.

Sekureva kweshumo ya2009 yakaburitswa muPsychiatric Annals, hapasati pave nezvakawanda zvakaitwa pakurapwa kweNPD uye nevanhu vanoona kushatirwa kwechiratidzo sechiratidzo cheNPD.

Saka nepo psychotherapy ingashande kune vamwe vanhu, hazvireve kuti inoshanda kune vese vanhu vane NPD. Uye havazi vese vashandi vehutano hwepfungwa vanotobvumirana nezve chaiyo nzira yekuongorora, kurapa, uye kugadzirisa chirwere ichi.

Chidzidzo chegore ra2015 chakaburitswa muThe American Journal yePsychiatry inoratidza kuti zviratidzo zvakasiyana zvinogona kuitika mumunhu mumwe nemumwe neNPD zvinogona kuita kuti zviome kunyatsoongorora kuti ndeupi "mhando" yeNPD mumwe munhu ane:

• Zunza. Zviratidzo zviri pachena uye zviri nyore kuongorora pamwe neiyo DSM-5 maitiro.
• Kuvhara. Zviratidzo hazviwanzo kuoneka kana kujeka, uye hunhu kana hutano hwepfungwa hunosangana neNPD, sekugumbuka kana kushushikana, zvinogona kunge zvakaoma kuongorora.
• "Kumusoro-kushanda". Zviratidzo zveNPD zvinogona kuoma kana kusakwanisika kufunga zvakasiyana nehunhu hwemunhu kana hunhu hwepfungwa. Vanogona kungoonekwa sevanowanzoita zvisina kujairika maitiro sekunyepa kwehutachiona kana kusatendeka kusatendeka.

Sezvo mamiriro akaita seNPD achiwanzo kuongororwa chete nekutarisa zviratidzo zvinoonekwa, panogona kuve nehunhu hwakawanda hwehunhu kana zviitiko zvepfungwa izvo zvisingakwanise kusekesa mukati mekuongororwa.

Asi izvi hazvireve kuti haufanire kutsvaga rubatsiro. Edza kutaura nevanoverengeka vehutano hwepfungwa uye edza matekinoroji akasiyana kuti uone kuti nderupi rudzi rwehurongwa hwekurapa hunoshanda zvakanyanya kwauri.

Uye nepo iwe kana munhu ane NPD muhupenyu hwako achishanda kuburikidza nemaitiro avo uye nhoroondo, vamwe vanogona zvakare kuona zvichibatsira kutsvaga rubatsiro rwehunyanzvi ivo pachavo.

Iwe unogona kudzidza hunyanzvi hwekugadzirisa narcissistic hasha pazvinoitika kana kugadzirira ramangwana zvidimbu kudzikisira kana kugadzirisa kusagadzikana kwepfungwa uye kwepamoyo kwaungangonzwa panguva yechikamu.

Kubasa

Deredza kusangana nemunhu wacho. Vimba nezvavanotaura asi simbisa kuti izvo zvavakakuudza ichokwadi kana nhema.

Vanhu vane NPD vanogona kutaura kumusoro kwavo kuita uye kugona. Asi kana iwe ukaona kuti havagone kana kusaita akakosha mabasa, zvigadzirire iwe kugadzirisa avo emangwana hushoma hunyanzvi.

Zvakare, chenjera mukupa yakananga mhinduro uye kushoropodza. Izvi zvinogona kukurudzira kuita kwakanyanya munguva, izvo zvinogona kukuisa panjodzi yemunhu kana yehunyanzvi.

Haisi basa rako kuti munhu wacho atsvake rubatsiro. Mhinduro yako kana kushoropodza inogona kunge iri imwe nzira yaunokwanisa kukurudzira munhu wacho kutsvaga rubatsiro.

Taura nemaneja wako kana maneja wemumwe munhu kana tsvaga rubatsiro kubva kubazi rekambani (HR) rekambani yako.

Heano mamwe marongero aunogona kushandisa kubata kudyidzana nevashandi pamwe navo vanogona kuve narcissistic tendency kana zvikamu zvehasha:

• nyora pasi kubatana kwese kwauinako navo zvakadzama sezvazvinogona
• usawedzere kukakavara nemunhu, nekuti izvi zvinogona kupedzisira zvichikonzera kukuvadza iwe kana vamwe munzvimbo yebasa
• usazvitore pachako kana kuedza kutsiva pamunhu
• usaburitse zvakawandisa ruzivo rwemunhu kana kutaura zvaunofunga kumunhu izvo zvavanogona kushandisa kukushora
• edza kusave mukamuri imwe chete navo kuitira kuti vamwe vagove zvapupu zvehunhu hwavo
• mhan'arira chero kushungurudzwa zvisiri pamutemo, zviitiko, kana kusarura kwaunozvionera wega kubazi rako reHR department

Muhukama hwehukama

Izvo zvinokwanisika kuve nehutano, hunobudirira hupenyu nemunhu ane NPD uye zvikamu zvehasha.

Asi imi mose mungangoda kutsvaga kurapwa uye kuvaka maitiro uye nzira dzekutaurirana dzinoshanda kuhukama hwenyu.

Vanhu vane hukasha hwe narcissistic vanogona kukuvadza. Kudzidza kutaura navo kunogona kukubatsira kuti uzvidzivirire kubva kukuvadzwa mumuviri uye nemupfungwa. Edza mamwe eanotevera marongero ekugadzirisa NPD:

• ipa chakanyanya kunyanyisa vhezheni yako kune mumwe wako, kudzivisa chero nhema kana unyengeri
• Ziva zviratidzo zveNPD mune mumwe wako kana iwe pachako, uye ita nepaunogona napo kutaurirana zviri kuitika nemusoro wako kana iwe uchiratidza mamwe maitiro
• usazvibata iwe kana mumwe wako kune zvakaoma kana zvisingaite zviyero, sezvo izvi zvinogona kuwedzera kunzwa kwekusachengeteka kana kusakwana uko kunotungamira kune narcissistic hasha
• gadza yakatarwa mitemo kana miganhu mukati mehukama hwako kuitira kuti iwe nemumwe wako muzive zvinotarisirwa kwavari semudiwa wepamoyo, pane kuita pane mamiriro asina chimiro kune zvaunotarisira
• tsvaga kurapwa vese vari vaviri uye sevakaroora kuitira kuti iwe ugone kushandira iwe pachako uye nehukama mune tandem
• usafunge nezvewe kana mumwe wako seane chero "chakaipa”Asi ziva nzvimbo dzinogona kukanganisa hukama hunoda basa
• iva nechivimbo pakupedza hukama kana iwe usisiri kutenda kuti hukama hwakagwinya iwe kana mumwe wako

Mune shamwari

Deredza kuratidzira kwako kune chero shamwari inokuisa kukuvadzwa mumuviri, nepfungwa, kana nemanzwiro kubva mukushatirwa kwe narcissistic.

Ungangoda kufunga nezve kuzvibvisa paushamwari hwako zvachose kana uchitenda kuti hushamwari hauchisina hutano kana kubatsira.

Kana iyi iri shamwari yepedyo ine hushamwari hwaunokoshesa, iwe unogona zvakare kutsvaga rubatsiro kubva kune wepfungwa chiremba.

Ivo vanogona kukubatsira iwe kudzidza maitiro anoita kuti kutsungirira kuve nyore. Iwe unogona zvakare kudzidza maitiro anogona kukubatsira zvirinani kugadzirisa kudyidzana uye kutaurirana neshamwari yako panguva dzezvipenga zvehasha.

Izvi zvinogona kuita kuti nguva yenyu pamwe chete isanetse uye igutsikane kana kuti ibudirire.

Kubva kumunhu wausingazive

Sarudzo yakanakisa ndeyekufamba kuenda. Iwe kana iye munhu iyeye hamungakwanise kusvika chero mhedziso inovaka kubva mukubatana kwako.

Asi ziva kuti zviito zvako hazvina kukonzera kuitirwa. Inotyairwa nezvakakonzera zvinhu zvausingatomboite pesvedzero.

Hasha dzenarcissistic dzinorapwa sei?

Nyanzvi yehutano hwepfungwa inogona kubatsira kubata zvese NPD uye hasha.

Ivo vanogona kushandisa yekurapa kurapa, kana psychotherapy, kubatsira vanhu vane NPD kunzwisisa kwavo maitiro, sarudzo, uye mhedzisiro. Varapi vanogona kuzoshanda nemunhu iyeye kugadzirisa zvikonzero.

Kutaura kurapa kunogona kubatsirawo vanhu vane NPD kugadzira marongero matsva ehunhu kukudziridza hutano hwakanaka uye hukama hwehukama.

• Vanhu vane NPD uye narcissistic hasha vanogona kukuvadza vanhu muhupenyu hwavo, kunyangwe kana vasingazvizive. Iwe haufanire kugara nekugara uchizvidya moyo nezve ramangwana hasha. Unogona kutora matanho ekuzvidzivirira.
• Kana iwe uchitya munhu ane NPD muhupenyu hwako anogona kuyambuka kubva mukutuka nekutuka kuenda mukushungurudzwa mumuviri kana iwe uchifunga kuti uri munjodzi pakarepo, fonera 911 kana yemuno emergency services.
• Kana kutyisidzira kusiri kukurumidza, tsvaga rubatsiro kubva kuNational Domestic Abuse Hotline pa800-799-7233. Vanogona kukubatanidza nevatapi vebasa, vashandi vehutano hwepfungwa, uye dzimba dzekugara munharaunda yako kana uchida rubatsiro.

Kutora

Rubatsiro runowanikwa kune vanhu vane NPD uye narcissistic hasha. Neyakakodzera kuongororwa uye kurapwa kunoenderera, zvinokwanisika kurarama hupenyu hune hutano, hunopa mubayiro.

Munguva iyi, hasha dzinoita sedzinopedza zvese uye dzinotyisidzira. Asi kukurudzira waunoda (kana iwe pachako) kutsvaga rubatsiro kunogona kukurudzira sarudzo dzakanaka kune iwe, ivo, uye nevamwe vese muhupenyu hwako.