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Zvemukati

• Kudurura iyo nguva taboo
• Tora kurwadziwa zvakanyanya, kunyangwe pazera diki
• Tweens nevechidiki: Kazhinji zvinokanganisa, asi hapana chinofanira kunyadziswa nacho
• Iwo ma20s: Kupinda mu groove
• Nguva yebonde: Kuva kana kusave nazvo
• Apo zviratidzo zvinogona kureva chimwe chinhu zvakare
• Iwo ma30s: Bhegi rakasanganiswa, asi rinenge dzvene
• Nguva yehurukuro yenhumbu
• Perimenopause
• Ma40s: Kutamba mutambo wekufungidzira
• Iwo ma50s: Uyai nekuguma kwemwedzi

Kudurura iyo nguva taboo

Hechino zvishoma zve trivia zveya: Courtney Cox ndiye aive munhu wekutanga kudaidza nguva yenguva pane terevhizheni yenyika. Gore? 1985.

Kuenda kumwedzi kwakave chinhu chinhu nguva refu isati yasvika makumi masere, zvakadaro. Kune akawanda magariro, tsika, uye tsika dzechitendero kupasirese nyika zvichiti zvinogona uye zvisingaitwe panguva. Uye pop tsika yave isina mutsa zvakafanana.

Nekutenda zvinhu zvishoma nezvishoma zviri kubata, asi zvakawanda zvichiri kusara zvichida. Imwe nzira yekudurura iyi nguva taboo ndeye kungotaura nezvazvo - ichidaidze zvazviri.

Haisi "Mainini Flo vanouya kuzoshanya," "iyo nguva yemwedzi," kana "svondo reshark." Inguva.

Kune ropa uye kurwadziwa uye dzimwe nguva kusununguka kana kusuruvara, uye dzimwe nguva zvese izvi panguva imwe chete. (Uye chimwe chinhu: Ivo havasi zvigadzirwa zvevakadzi zvehutsanana, zvigadzirwa zvekuenda kumwedzi.)

Takasvika kuna chiremba neboka revanhu vane zvibereko kuti vawane kudzikira pane zvazvakaita kuva nenguva - kubva pakuyaruka kusvika pakuenda kumwedzi uye zvese zviri pakati.

Tora kurwadziwa zvakanyanya, kunyangwe pazera diki

Tisati tatanga, zvingangoita vazhinji vedu vane chibereko marwadzo edu asina kutorwa zvakanyanya. Pamwe iwe wakadzidziswa izvi zvaingova sei nguva dzaizopera. Asi kurwadziwa kwako kunokosha.

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• marwadzo munzvimbo yepelvic
• nguva dzinorwadza
• kurwadziwa kwepashure
• kurwadziwa muzasi kwedumbu
• nguva refu
• nguva dzinorema

Zviratidzo izvi zvinogona kunongedzera kukusaenda kumwedzi.

Zvizhinji zvezvinetso zvinowanzoitika kumwedzi zvinozoonekwa mushure mehupenyu, senge muma20s kana 30s. Asi izvi hazvireve kuti ivo vakatanga kuitika panguva iyoyo - ingori apo chiremba akasimbisa.

Usazeze kuwana rubatsiro, zvisinei iwe wakura zvakadii. Iwe unofanirwa kurapwa.

Tweens nevechidiki: Kazhinji zvinokanganisa, asi hapana chinofanira kunyadziswa nacho

Paavhareji, vanhu muUnited States vanowana yavo yekutanga nguva kutenderera. Asi izvozvo chete avhareji. Dai iwe waive mashoma makore wakura kana mudiki, izvo zvakajairika, futi.

Zera rauri iwe paunotanga kuwana nguva yako rinoenderana ne, senge genetics yako, body mass index (BMI), chikafu chaunodya, kuwanda kwekuita muviri kwaunowana, uye kunyangwe kwaunogara.

Mumakore mashoma ekutanga, zvakajairika kuti nguva yako ive isina kujairika uye isingafungidzirwe. Iwe unogona kuenda mwedzi usina kana chiratidzo chazvo wozo boom, tsvuku Niagara Falls.

"Kutevera, kutanga kwemazuva, kuri kuratidza kunyanya kuenda kumwedzi nekuti pakutanga, uye pakupedzisira, hatisi kuzara," anodaro Mary Jane Minkin, MD, purofesa wekiriniki weOB-GYN uye nesainzi yekubereka kuYale Chikoro yeMishonga.

Yedu yekutevera inotungamirwa nemahomoni edu. Chiitiko chemuviri chenguva - kubuda ropa, kupwanya, kushushikana kwemanzwiro, mazamu manyoro - zvese zvinodzikira kune huwandu hwehomoni muviri wedu uri kuburitsa panguva ipi neipi. Uye mahormone maviri anonyanya kuraira kutenderera kwedu.

"Estrogen inokurudzira kukura kwechibereko chechibereko, nepo progesterone inodzora iyo kukura," anodaro Minkin. "Patinenge tisiri kubuda mazai, hatina mutemo wekutonga weprogesterone. Saka iwe unogona kuwana aya willy-nilly nguva. Vanouya, havauye. Ipapo panogona kubuda ropa rinorema, nepakati. ”

Katia Najd akatanga kutora nguva yake makore akati wandei apfuura paakanga aine makore 15. Pakutanga akasangana neakajairika - kunyangwe akajairwa - kutenderera.

"Nguva yangu yekutora yaive yakareruka pakutanga uye yakapedza kweinenge vhiki nehafu," anodaro Najd. "Ndakave nenguva mbiri pamwedzi, ndokusaka ndakafunga kunwa piritsi kuti ndigadzirise."

Zvakajairika kuti unzwe kunyara, kuvhiringidzika, uye kutogumbuka nezvenguva yako pakutanga. Izvo zvinoita zvine musoro. Icho chiitiko chitsva, chinowanzo shatisa chinosanganisira chikamu chepedyo chemuviri wako.

"Ndaiwanzotya kudonha pachikoro chepakati (ndakanga ndisati ndatombotanga kuenda kumwedzi, asi ndaitya kuti ndaizotanga ndobva ndadonha) zvekuti ndaizoenda kuchimbuzi senge hafu yeawa kungo tarisa," anodaro. Erin Trowbridge. "Ndakatya zvinhu zvakadaro kwemakore."

Achikura muMuslim, Hannah Said aisabvumidzwa kunamata kana kutsanya panguva yeRamadan paaienda kumwedzi. Anoti izvi zvakaita kuti anzwe kusagadzikana, kunyanya kana aine vamwe vanhu vechitendero. Asi nekuda kwerutsigiro kubva kuna baba vake, haana kudzidzisa zvakanyanya kusemwa.

"Baba vangu ndivo munhu wekutanga kuziva kuti ndakaenda kumwedzi uye vakanditengera mapedhi," anodaro. "Saka chagara chiri chinhu chandiri kusununguka kutaura nezvacho, kunyanya nevarume."

Saizvozvo, Najd anodudza rutsigiro rwemhuri yake sechimwe chezvikonzero chaasina kunzwa zvakashata nezvenguva yake.

"Ndine vanin'ina vangu vakuru vaviri, saka ndaive ndajaira kunzwa nezvazvo ndisati ndatanga," anodaro. "Icho chimwe chinhu chine mukadzi wese, saka hachisi chinhu chinofanira kunyadziswa nacho."

Iwo ma20s: Kupinda mu groove

Saka, nguva dzakazara pese panzvimbo pakutanga. Asi zvakadiniko nenguva shoma?

Yako 20s ndiyo yako yekuzvara heyday. Ino inguva iyo muviri wako wakagadzirira zvakanyanya kuve nemwana. Kune vanhu vazhinji izvi zvinoreva kuti macircuit avo anowanzo kuve akajairika.

“Sezvo munhu anokura padiki padanho rekutanga kuenda kumwedzi, vanotanga kubuda mazai. Paunotanga kuvhara mazai, zvichitadzisa chero chinhu chisina kujairika kuitika, unotanga kuita zvinogara zvichitenderera pamwedzi, ”anodaro Minkin.

Asi kana iwe uri muma20s, iwe unogona kunge uchiverenga izvi kufunga: "Hapana nzira yandiri kuva nayo nevana chero nguva munguva pfupi!" Chokwadi: kuva nevana kupfuura nakare kose.

Ndokusaka vanhu vazhinji vari muma20s vachiramba vachishandisa kuberekwa kana kupinda pairi. BC inogona kuwedzera kudzora yako kutenderera dai yaive pese penzvimbo yacho zvisati zvaitika. Nekudaro, zvinogona kutora chinguva kuti uwane mhando chaiyo yeBC.

Asi zvinoenderana nerudzi rwekudzivirira nhumbu uye munhu wacho, kutanga BC kunogona zvakare kugadzira marudzi ese ekuchinja - zvimwe zvisina kunaka zvakakwana kuti munhu achinje.

Aleta Pierce, ane makore makumi maviri nemasere, ave achishandisa yendarira IUD yekurapa kubereka kweanopfuura makore mashanu. “[Nguva yangu yekutevera] yakanyanya kurema mushure mekunge ndawana iyo IUD yendarira. Pamberi pacho, pandakanga ndiri pamahomoni ekudzivirira kuberekwa (NuvaRing, piritsi), yainge yakareruka uye isina chiratidzo. ”

Nguva yebonde: Kuva kana kusave nazvo

Pakati pemakore makumi maviri nemakumi maviri nepfumbamwe, inogona kunge iri nguva yakakosha yekuziva kukura - kusanganisira kuti ndeupi rudzi rwebonde unonzwa zvakanaka. Kune vazhinji, izvi zvinosanganisira kusarudza kuti vanonzwa sei nezvebonde renguva.

"Ini ndanyatso kusununguka iye zvino nebonde repakati kupfuura zvandaimboita," anodaro Eliza Milio, 28. "Ini ndinowanzo batirwa kurudyi pakutanga kwese kutenderera. Zvisinei, hazviwanzoitika kuti ndinoita bonde kana ndiri pamazuva angu maviri anorema ekutenderera kwangu nekuti ndinobva ndanyunyuka uye ndagwinha zvekuti chandinongoda chete kudya kudya ice cream mumachira ejuzi. Kwete chaizvo seksikäs. ”

Kuna Nicole Sheldon, 27, nguva yepabonde chinhu chaanogona nekusiya munguva yakapfuura.

“Bonde renguva nenguva hachisi chinhu chandinoita kakawanda. Ndaiwanzova nezvakawanda pandaive mudiki, asi izvozvi zvinongoita kunge zvine mutsindo kunze kwekunge ndiri kugeza, ”anodaro.

Iwe haufanire kudzivirira nguva yebonde kana iwe usingade, zvakadaro. Zvakachengeteka kuva nazvo - ingori yakashata dzimwe nguva. Ita zvinokunakira iwe nemumwe wako.

Apo zviratidzo zvinogona kureva chimwe chinhu zvakare

Makumi makumi maviri anowanzove makore gumi apo vanhu vazhinji vanoziva zvakanyanya kuti zviratidzo zvavo zvinogona kunge zviri chiratidzo chekuenda kumwedzi, senge:

• polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS)
• endometriosis
• fibroids
• premenstrual syndrome kana PMDD
• kubuda kweropa zvisina kujairika
• nguva dzinorwadza (dysmenorrhea)

Kana iwe uchiri kurwadziwa, kuyerera kwakanyanya kunorema, nguva refu, kana chero chimwe chinhu chinoratidzika kunge chinonakidza kana kudzima zvakajairika, tsvaga mupi wezvehutano.

Iwo ma30s: Bhegi rakasanganiswa, asi rinenge dzvene

Makore ako makumi matatu anogona kunge akasanganiswa bhegi kana zvasvika panguva yako. Pakutanga kwemakumi gumi, iwe ungangodaro uchingogara uchivhura uye unogona kutarisira kuti nguva yako ive yakafanana neyaive muma20s ako.

Kune vamwe, izvi zvinogona kureva kurwadziwa. Uye yakawanda yacho.

"[Ini ndinonzwa] kubaya, kunonetesa maronda muzasi uye kumazai, mazamu manyoro uye kushaya hope mumazuva anotungamira, uye mafungu akasimba emanzwiro, zvichindiita kuti ndicheme kudonhedza ngowani," anodaro Marisa Formosa, 31.

Asi kunyangwe kusagadzikana kwemuviri kunounzwa nenguva yake, Formosa anonzwa zvine chekuita nemweya kune kwake kwemwedzi kutenderera.

"Kwemakore, ndakagadzira kudada kunotyisa uye kuzvidzivirira kwenguva yangu," anodaro. “Zvinenge zvitsvene kwandiri. Ini ndinotenda inondisunga pasi, kumwaka, kumatenderedzwa mapatani uye macircule ehupenyu nerufu. Saka kunyangadzwa kwetsika uye kunyadziswa kwenguva, kwandakaisa mukati semunhu anotevera, kunonditsamwisa. ”

Nguva yehurukuro yenhumbu

Miviri yedu inogona kunge yakagadzirira vana vane makore makumi maviri, asi hazvireve kuti isu tese tiri. Muchokwadi, mwero wekubereka wevakadzi vecis muUnited States vanopfuura makumi matatu muna2016.

Kubata kunogona kuita nhamba pamuviri. Shanduko hadziverengeke uye dzakasiyana zvakanyanya kumunhu wega wega. Asi chinhu chimwe ndechechokwadi: Hapana munhu anoenda kumwedzi achiri nepamuviri. (Kunyangwe kumwe kuona kungaitika).

Mumwedzi chaimo mushure mekusununguka, unogona kutora nguva yako nekukasira, kana zvinogona kutora mwedzi kuti udzoke.

Minkin anotsanangura kuti kudzoka kwenguva yemunhu zvakanyanya kunoenderana nekuti ivo vari kungoyamwa chete, kuwedzera nefomula, kana kushandisa chete fomula.

"Paunenge uchiyamwisa, uri kugadzira hormone yakawanda inonzi prolactin," anodaro Minkin. "Prolactin inodzvinyirira kuumbwa kwesrogen uye inokuchengetedza kubva pakubata pamuviri."

Kuna Allison Martin, ane makore makumi matatu nemasere, kubereka kwaive kugamuchirwa kubva kwaari kuyerera kwakanyanya kunorema. Asi nguva yake payakadzoka, yakadzoka nekutsiva.

"Kwakave nemwedzi mitanhatu ine mbiri isina nguva nekuda kwekuyamwisa," anodaro. “Asi ikozvino kubuda ropa kwandakaita husiku kwakanyanya zvekuti dzimwe nguva ndairara pajira kudzivirira machira eropa. Izvi zvinowanzo kuve kwehusiku huviri chete kutenderera, uye ini ndichangobva kuwana hugest-mbichana mapadhi anozivikanwa pasi rese. Yakagadzirisa dambudziko iri! ”

Perimenopause

Kune vamwe, iyo yepakati-kusvika-kunonoka makumi matatu ndiyo yekukwira kurwendo rutsva: nguva yekupedzisira.

Yakatsanangurwa seye makore masere kusvika gumi anotungamira kuenda kumwedzi, perimenopause mhedzisiro yemuviri wako unoburitsa shoma estrogen uye progesterone.

"Pakupedzisira munhu anozosvika pakukwira kwenguva apo ivo vari kugadzira estrogen vasina kugadzira progesterone, kana kukura mutsetse wechibereko usingadzoreke," anodaro Minkin. "Saka zvakare unogona kuve neaya anopenga ekubuda ropa."

Kunyangwe zvakajairika kutanga perimenopause muma30s ako, vanhu vazhinji vanonyatsopinda mukobvu yacho muma40s.

Uye senguva dzose, kana iwe uchirwadziwa kana chimwe chinhu chisiri kunzwa mushe, bhuku musangano ne doc.

Ma40s: Kutamba mutambo wekufungidzira

Iwe haungatize makore ako makumi mana usingarasikirwe nemaviri mairi emadies nekuti, yakafanana nemakore apfuura nguva yako yekutanga, perimenopause iri pamusoro pekungobuda ropa uye kusingatarisirwe.

Kune mazhinji ehupenyu hwake hwevakuru, Amanda Baker aiziva zvekutarisira kubva panguva yake. Akadeura ropa kwemazuva mana, wekutanga achiremerwa uye matatu anotevera zvishoma nezvishoma achipera. Zvino pa45 akarasikirwa nenguva.

“Kubva ipapo, ndakapunzika, ndichiona zuva rega rega, kana kubuda ropa kusingafungidzike, kungobuda-kweropa kwerumwe rudzi. Svondo rino [kwave] nekubuda ropa zvakanyanya uye mahombe mahombe, akaita semichindwe, ”anodaro Baker.

Kunyangwe iwo makumi mana emakore inguva yakajairika yekuenda kumwedzi, Minkin anoyambira kuti nguva dzisina kujairika dzoga hadzikwani kutaura chokwadi kuti mumwe munhu ari kusangana nazvo.

Kana iwe uchifungidzira kuti uri perimenopausal, chenjera zvimwe zviratidzo zvinoenderana nezviratidzo, zvakadai se:

• mukadzi anoomesa-kupfuura-zvakajairwa
• kupisa kunopisa
• kutonhora uye kudikitira usiku
• kunetseka kurara
• kushushikana uye kushushikana kumusoro uye pasi
• kurema kuwedzera
• kuonda kwebvudzi uye ganda rakaoma
• kurasikirwa nekuzara kwemazamu

Iwe haufanire kuti ushevedze chiremba wako paunotanga nguva yekupedzisira, asi ivo vanokwanisa kunyorera mishonga kana zvichidikanwa. Izvo zvakajairwa go-tos - kurovedza muviri kazhinji kazhinji kwete, kudya chaiko, kurara zvakanaka- kunogona kuita zvakawanda kugadzirisa zviratidzo.

Iwo ma50s: Uyai nekuguma kwemwedzi

Nyanzvi zhinji dzinobvumirana kuti munhu zviri pamutemo aguma kuenda kumwedzi apo anga asina nguva yemwedzi gumi nemiviri yakateedzana. MuUnited States, izvi zvinoitika, paavhareji, pazera ramakumi mashanu nerimwe.

Vanhu vazhinji vanogona kutarisira zviratidzo zvavo zvenguva yekupedzisira kuti zvidzikame muma50s avo pavanosvika kumagumo eovulation. Vamwe vanoguma kuenda kumwedzi kare kare kana kuti zvikuru gare gare.

Aileen Raulin, ane makore makumi matanhatu nemasere, akaguma kuenda kumwedzi apo aive nemakore makumi mashanu. Kunyangwe iye asisakwanise kuenda kumwedzi, achiri kusangana nekuchinja kwehomoni.

"Ndisati ndapedza kuenda kumwedzi, pakati pekufamba-famba ndainzwa kusvotwa uye ndainzwa kusagadzikana mupfungwa," anodaro Raulin. "Iye zvino ini ndichiri kucherechedza iyo nguva yekutsamwa mwedzi wega, uye ndinofanira kupfeka padhi."

Minkin anoti sekureba sekunge munhu aine mazai, zvinokwanisika kuona kumwe kuita kwehomoni. Kunyangwe kune ruzhinji rwevanhu vanopfuura makumi matanhatu, hakuzove nebasa rakawanda zvachose.

Kupfuura nekumira kwemwedzi kunogona kuve kunonamira kusinganzwisisike, uye kwete kwete nekuda kwekuchinja kwehomoni. Tsika dzinomiririrwa nevanhu vane kumwedzi kuenda kunonetsa kuuya. Inowanzoita senge nyaya yatisingafanirwe kutaura nezvayo.

Ngatichinjei izvo.

Hatifanirwe kuita chero chinhu kupfuura kuva vakatendeseka uye vedu chaivo, sezvakaitwa naViola Davis nguva pfupi yadarika paakatsanangura kuenda kumwedzi. (Kuti Jimmy Kimmel aifanira kumubvunza iye kududzirwa kwekuguma kuenda kumwedzi imwe nyaya.)

Kutaura nezve kuyerera kwako, ungave unayo kana kuti hauna, kunobatsira iwe kuti uzive iwe pachako.

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