Nzira gumi dzeChitwasuka, Cisgender Vanhu Kuti Vave Neshamwari Dzakanakira paKudada

Zvemukati

• Kuzvikudza kuri kuchinja… izvi ndizvo zvaunofanira kufunga
• 1. Zvibvunze kuti sei uri kuenda
• Mibvunzo yekubvunza:
  
• 2. Google usati waenda uye chengetedza mibvunzo kuitira gare gare
• LGBTQ + kuverenga usati waenda Kudada:
  
• 3. Pikicha nepfungwa - kana kuti usatomboita zvachose
• 4. Tora chigaro chekumashure
• 5. Iva nenyasha
• 6. Zvizivise nezvisazitasingwi zvako
• Kuunza zvirevo, unogona kuti:
  
• 7. Iva nehanya nemutauro wako
• 8. Ipai kumasangano eLGBTQ +
• Funga kupa kune:
  
• 9. Uya nevana vako
• 10. Nakidzwa

Patova nemakore makumi mana nemapfumbamwe kubvira pakaitwa Pride yekutanga, asi Pride isati yavapo, paive neStallwall Riots, chinguva munhoroondo apo nharaunda yeLBBTQ + yakarwa ichirwisa hutsinye hwemapurisa uye kudzvanyirirwa zviri pamutemo. Gore rino rinoratidzira makore makumi mashanu emakore eiyo Stonewall Riots.

"Mabwe eRiwallwall akatanga June 28, 1969, uye akatungamira kumazuva matatu ekuratidzira uye kupesana kwechisimba nekuchengetedzwa kwemutemo kunze kweStonewall Inn paChristopher Street muNew York City," anotsanangura mutungamiriri wenharaunda yeLGBTQ, Fernando Z. Lopez, director director weSan Diego Kuzvikudza. "Zviitiko izvi zvinowanzo fungidzirwa sekuzvarwa uye kukurudzira kurwira kodzero dzengochani muUnited States."

Nhasi, zvinopfuura chiuru zviitiko zveKudada zvinoitwa mumaguta pasirese sungano yeRudzi rweLBBTQ + nharaunda dzakaenderera mberi nekuedza kudzvinyirira nekusashivirira. Nepo paine kufambira mberi, kuvengwa kwevanhurume nevanhukadzi uye transphobia ichiri nyaya yehurongwa muUnited States nepasi rose.

Mumakore mashanu apfuura, takaona mhirizhonga inouraya paLGBTQ + vanhu muUnited States:

• iyo Pulse husiku kirabhu kupfura kuwanda muna 2016
• transgender vanhu vakarambidzwa kubva muchiuto pasi pehutungamiriri hwaMutungamiri Trump
• vangangoita makumi maviri nematanhatu vanhu vakapondwa mu2018, vazhinji vacho vaive vakadzi vatema, vaine vangangoita gumi vakafa mu transgender kusvika parizvino mu2019.
• chirongwa cheTrump-Pence chekubvisa LGBTQ kuchengetedza kusasarura mukuchengetedza hutano

Ndosaka Lopez achiti: "Ichi chiitiko che50th chiitiko chakakosha munharaunda yeLBBTQ + uye nekupihwa kurwisa kwazvino uye kwazvino kodzero dzeLBBTQ +, kwakakosha sezvakamboita." Saka panguva yekuzvikudza gore rino, vanhu vachatenderera kunopemberera uye zvakare kurwisa - kurwisana nemhirizhonga uye kusarura pabasa, kodzero yekushanda pachena muchiuto nekuwana hutano, uye nekugamuchirwa kuwedzerwa, zvese.

Kuzvikudza kuri kuchinja… izvi ndizvo zvaunofanira kufunga

“Makore makumi maviri apfuura, Kudada kwaive kwevhiki kweLGBTQ + vanhu uye shamwari dzedu dzepamwoyo. Wanga uri mutambo wakanaka chose, uye mukana wekupemberera nekuve zvauri munzvimbo yainzwa yakachengeteka, "anodaro mutungamiri weFUSE Marketing Group uye gweta reLGBTQ +, Stephen Brown. "Zvino, Kudada kunoratidzika kwakasiyana."

Sezvo zviitiko zveKudada zvinokura, pave paine vanhu kunze kwenharaunda yeLBBTQ + vanopinda - uye dzimwe nguva, nekuda kwezvikonzero zvine chinangwa chakanaka, senge chikonzero chekutamba nekumwa kana kungoitira vanhu-tarisa.

“Zviitiko zvekudada hazviisirwe vanhu vakananga, cisgender vanhu. Kusiyana nenzvimbo zhinji nezviitiko zvavanofamba mukati nekunze, Pride haina kukoshesa [kana] kuitirwa vanhu vakananga cisgender uye nezviitiko zvavo, ”anodaro Amy Boyajian, mubatsiri pamwe nemukuru weWild Flower, yekutengesa bonde yekutengesa iri online ichangoburitswa yekutanga vibrator isina murume kana mukadzi, Enby.

Kunyange Kudada kusiri nokuti yakananga cisgender vanhu, LGBTQA + vanobatana zvirokwazvo vanogamuchirwa. “Ndinoda kuti munhu wese aende kuPride. LGBTQ + vanhu uye vatsigiri vakaenzana zvakafanana, ”anodaro J.R. Gray, munyori werudo rwemuzukuru unowanikwa muMiami, Florida. “Ndinoda kuti vatsigiri vedu vauye kuzopemberera nesu. Huya utiratidze kuti unoremekedza uye unoda zvatiri. ”

Asi, ivo vanofanirwa kutevera iyo yaanodaidza kuti "nhamba-imwe mutemo" wekuzvikudza: "Remekedza vanhu vese pabonde kana vanhukadzi varipo."

Izvi zvinorevei uye zvinotaridzika kuita mukuita? Shandisa iri gumi-nhanho gwaro kukubatsira iwe kuva anoremekedza uye anotsigira mutsigiri paunenge uchipinda Pride-mubatsiri iyo LGBTQ + nharaunda inoda uye inokodzera.

1. Zvibvunze kuti sei uri kuenda

Kuzvikudza haisi nzvimbo yekutarisa uye vanhu-tarisa. Kana, ino inzvimbo yekunhonga zvemukati zveiyo Instagram nyaya (iyo inogona kupedzisira yave kunongedza). Sekutaura kwaBoyajian, "Ndinofunga vakananga, vanhu vanoshamisika vanofanira kuzvibvunza mibvunzo mishoma vasati vaenda."

Mibvunzo yekubvunza:

• Ndiri kuenda kudada kushandisa queer vanhu sosi yekuvaraidza yangu?
• Ini ndinoziva nhoroondo yeRudado uye nei kupemberera uku kuchikosha kunharaunda yenharaunda?
• Ndiri wechokwadi mubatsiri wenharaunda yeGBBTQ +?

"Iyi mibvunzo inogona kubatsira vanhu kufunga nezve vavariro dzavo kuitira kuti vave nechokwadi chekuti vari kupinda munzvimbo yekuzvikudza nepfungwa uye nechinangwa," anodaro Boyajian.

Kana iwe uchizoenda kuPride kuratidza rutsigiro rwako uye uchikwanisa kupinda muchinzvimbo nekunzwisisa kuti chii Pride uye nei zvakakosha kuti queer vanhu, unogamuchirwa!

2. Google usati waenda uye chengetedza mibvunzo kuitira gare gare

Iwe une mubvunzo pamusoro pechikadzi, zvebonde, kana Kudada? Google iyo usati waenda. Haisi iro basa renharaunda yekumwe kuve vadzidzisi, kunyanya paPride. Zvinogona kuuya sekusava nehanya uye kusagadzikana kubvunza mumwe munhu nezvekuti, iko kuita kweye queer bonde, pakati pechirongwa (uye zvakare chero imwe nguva).

Saka zvakakosha kuti vabatirane vakananga kuti vazvitsvakire vega pane kungovimba neshamwari yavo yekupindura kuti vapindure mibvunzo yavo yese nezve nhoroondo yeLGBTQ, jenda, uye zvepabonde, anodaro Boyajian.

"Kuuya patafura waita yako tsvagiridzo inoratidza kudyara mu LGBTQ +, iyo inowedzera kupfuura Pride," Boyajian anonyora. Kune zviwanikwa zviripo kune avo vanofarira kudzidza, kusanganisira yako yemuno LGBTQ + zviwanikwa nzvimbo, gore-kutenderera-zviitiko uye internet. Izvo pazasi zveHealthline zvinyorwa inzvimbo yakanaka yekutanga:

LGBTQ + kuverenga usati waenda Kudada:

• Zvinorevei Kusanganisa Mumwe Munhu
• Ndokumbirawo Mira Kubvunza LGBTQ + Vanhu Nezve Hupenyu Hwavo Bonde
• Maitiro Ekutaura Kune Vanhu Vari Transgender uye Asiri-Bhinari
• Zvinorevei Kuita Bondexual Kana Bi?
• Ndeupi Musiyano uripo pakati peBonde neGender
• Zvinorevei Kuziva SeGenderqueer?

Sekutaura kwaLopez, "Zvakanaka kukumbira rubatsiro uye kutungamirwa, asi kutarisira shamwari / waunoziva weGBBT kuti azive zvese uye ave nechido chekukudzidzisa hazvifungi." Imwe mhinduro ndeyekurega kubvunza kuwanda kwemibvunzo yako kusvika post-Kuzvikudza.

“Kune vazhinji vedu, Kudada kunogona kuve nguva yerusununguko apo tisingafanire kutsanangura kana kuvanza zvimwe zvinhu zvedu. Hupenyu hwakaoma, uye hune njodzi kune vanhu vane humambo, saka Pride inogona kunzwa kunge zororo kubva pakurwadziwa ikoko. Kuzvitsanangura uye kuzivikanwa kwako kana kuzivikanwa nevamwe paPride kune vamwe hakuna zvakunobatsira kurusununguko rwunomirirwa nezuva, ”anodaro Boyajian.

3. Pikicha nepfungwa - kana kuti usatomboita zvachose

Kunyangwe iwe ungangoda kutora iyo nguva, zvakakosha kuti uve wakangwara kana uchitora mifananidzo yevamwe vanhu uye Vanodada varipo. Ipo parade uye zvimwe zviitiko zveKudada zvingaite senge hombe foto op, havazi vese vanoda kutorwa mifananidzo.

Funga zvinotevera: Nei ndiri kutora mufananidzo uyu? Ndiri kuzviitira kugadzira chiono kana kuseka kubva kune mumwe munhu uye / kana zvavakapfeka? Kutora nekutumira mufananidzo uyu zvinobvumirana here? Kutora kwangu uye kutumira mufananidzo uyu kunogona "kubuda" kune mumwe munhu kana kukanganisa chinzvimbo chebasa, kuchengetedzeka, kana hutano?

Kungoti nekuti mumwe munhu ari kuenda kuRudado, hazvireve kuti vanonzwa kugadzikana kugovana izvo nenyika. Vanogona kunge vachienda muchivande, uye mapikicha anogona kuvaisa panjodzi.

Saka kana uchizotora mifananidzo yemumwe munhu nguva dzose kumbira mvumo yavo kutanga, kana kungorega kutora mapikicha evamwe zvachose - uye kunakirwa nemhemberero! Vazhinji vanhu vanozofara kupfuura kutora foto newe, kana kutorwa mifananidzo, asi kukumbira pamberi penguva kunoratidza hwaro hwekutanga hwekuremekedza.

4. Tora chigaro chekumashure

Kuzvikudza ndekwekupemberera nekupa simba iro LGBT + nharaunda, kwete kutora kubva kwariri. Uye izvo zvinoreva kuti kugadzira nzvimbo yepanyama yeiyo LGBTQ + vanhu paPride kuti vazvipemberere ivo.

“Pakudada, kushamwaridzana kuri pamusoro pekusimudza LGBTQ + vanhu kumusoro, kutigadzirira nzvimbo, uye kwete kutonga nzvimbo. Panzvimbo yekuzvikudza tinokumbira vatinoshanda navo kuti vatipe nzvimbo, ”anodaro Lopez. Izvi zvinosanganisira nzvimbo yemuviri, sekusatora mutsara wepamberi. Kana kunyange wechipiri kana wechitatu mutsara. Panzvimbo iyoyo, ipa iwo ekutanga zvigaro kunharaunda yeGBBTQ +.

Ita shuwa yekutarisa pamapeji echiitiko usati waratidzawo. "Varongi vemitambo vakanaka chaizvo pakurondedzera zvaunofanira kutarisira kuita nekuita pamifaro yavo nemitambo yavo pamawebhusaiti uye pamapeji enhau, uye kuti ndiani anogamuchirwa," anodaro Gary Costa, director director weGolden Rainbow, sangano iyo inobatsira kupa pekugara, dzidzo, uye kunanga rubatsiro rwemari kuvarume, vakadzi, uye vana vanorarama neHIV / AIDS muNevada.

Zvakare ramba uchifunga kuti haisi nzvimbo dzese kana zviitiko panguva yekuzvikudza yakavhurika kune vanobatana. Semuenzaniso, zviitiko zvinogona kunzi maLeather Bhawa, Dyke Marches, Bear Parties, Trans Marches, Disability Pride Parade, S&M Mabhora, uye QPOC Picnics kazhinji hadzina kuvhurwa kune vanobatana. Kana iwe usina chokwadi, ingobvunza murongi kana nhengo yemunharaunda kana zvakanaka kuti iwe upinde, uye remekedza mhinduro yavo.

5. Iva nenyasha

Kutanga, izvo zvinoreva kusiya kufungidzira (kana kutya) kwekuti mumwe munhu asingazivikanwe semurume nemurume achakwezva iwe. "Saizvozvowo kwete kuti munhu wese wepabonde anokwezva kune wese murume kana murume, kuva padyo nemunhu anokwezva murume kana mukadzi zvauri hazvireve kuti munhu achakurwisa," anodaro LGBTQ + nyanzvi Kryss Shane, MS, MSW, LSW, LMSW.

Izvo zvakati, kumwe kuwanda kwekutamba kunoitika paPride nekuti inzira yakanaka yekuti vanhu vekumhanya kusangana nevamwe vanhu vekwidzi. “Kana iwe uri parunogamuchirwa rweimwe rudo isingadiwe, ramba zvine ruremekedzo sezvawaizoita kune chero munhu wausingafarire. Kukwezva kweQueer, rudo, uye rudo hazvina kuipa saka usazvitore sekudaro, ”anodaro Boyajian.

Zvakatoipisisa, usa "tsvage" kune vanhu vanogona kukubatsira kurarama zvaunofungidzira iwe pachako. Kuzvikudza haisi nzvimbo yevakaroora vakananga kuwana vhiri rechitatu. Uye haisi nzvimbo yevakarurama vanhu kuti vawane vaviri queer vaviri kuti vatarise vachiita bonde nekuti "iwe wagara uchida kuziva."

6. Zvizivise nezvisazitasingwi zvako

Iwe haugone kuudza mumwe munhu murume kana murume, zvebonde, kana zvirevo kungovatarisa. "Zviri nani kuti usambofungidzira zvirevo zvemunhu chero zvipi kana ani," anotsanangura Boyajian. Kana ukadaro, unoisa panjodzi yekuzvipa izvo zvinogona kunge zvichikonzera uye zvinoshungurudza.

Panzvimbo pekufungidzira, ingo bvunza - asi ita shuwa kuti iwe unotanga ako ekutanga zvirevo. Iyi inzira yekuratidzira kune vamwe kuti uri mubatsiri zvechokwadi, uye unoremekedza nekukudza zvese hunhu hwevakadzi. Uye mushure mekunge mumwe munhu ataura zvisazitasingwi zvavo, vatende nekuenderera mberi - usataure pamazita avo kana kubvunza kuti sei vachishandisa. Iyi tsika yakanaka kuve mumazuva makumi matatu nemazana matatu nemakumi matatu pagore, asi zvakanyanya kukosha kuna Pride.

Kuunza zvirevo, unogona kuti:

• "Ini ndinonzi Gabrielle uye ndinoshandisa iye / her / her pronoun."
• “Ndafara kukuziva, [X]. Ndiri Gabrielle uye mazita angu ndee / her / hers. Ndezvipi zvako? ”

"Ini pachangu, ini ndinogara ndichifanirwa kugadzirisa vanhu nemazita angu saka zvinoita mukurumbira kana mumwe munhu achizvisuma nemazita avo anosanganisira," Boyajian. "Kwandiri, izvi zvinoratidza rukudzo uye kusununguka kudzidza nezvangu."

Kusvikira panguva imwechete iyoyo, usafunge kuti vamwe varoorani vano "tarisa" vakatwasuka. Rangarira kuti imwe kana ese ari maviri anogona kunge ari bi, pani, transgender, kana asiri-mabhinari. Chaizvoizvo, usafunge chero chinhu nekuti, zvakanaka ... unoziva chirevo chekare.

7. Iva nehanya nemutauro wako

Panongedzo yekuzvikudza, unogona kunzwa vanhu vachizvidaidza ivo pamwe neshamwari dzavo mazwi anotorwa seanoshoresa, kana aimboonekwa seanoshoresa. Izvi hazvireve kuti chero munhu anogona kushevedzera chero chaanoda. Semubatsiri, iwe unofanirwa kwete shandisa mazwi aya. Kana iwe uchiri kushamisika kuti nei, heino tsananguro:

Vagara munharaunda yeGBBTQ + vanoshandisa aya mazwi senzira yekudzorera chimwe chinhu chakamboshandiswa sechinhu chinokuvadza chinopesana navo kana vamwe vese veLGBTQ + nharaunda-izvi zvinowanzoonekwa sechiito chesimba.

Semubatsiri, haugone kubatsira kudzoreredza izwi rinoshandiswa kupokana neboka rausingazive. Saka vabatsiri vanoshandisa mazwi aya vanoonekwa sechiito chemhirizhonga. Uye kana usina chokwadi kana izwi rakaringana kuti ushandise, usangoti rega hako.

8. Ipai kumasangano eLGBTQ +

Kunze kwekuenda kune Zviitiko zvekuzvikudza, zvibvunze kuti ndezvipi zvimwe zvauri kana zvaungave uchiitira munharaunda yeGBBTQ, ”anodaro Shane. "Kana iwe uchida kubhadhara kupaka kana Uber, pfeka t-sheti t-sheti kana mamwe mabheji ewuraraungu, uye utambe uchifamba apo mafambiro ari kupfuura neparaiti, ini ndinogona chete kukurudzira kuti iwe uve wakagadzirira kutsigira nharaunda imwechete kunyangwe apo inenge isinganakidzi uye isina kupenya kuderera. ”

Kusvika ipapo, Lopez anoti: "Tinokumbira vabatsiri vedu kuti vape kune zvatinoita, masangano anobatsira, uye mapoka."

Funga kupa kune:

• LGBTQ + vanhu vakananga kuburikidza neVenmo, Cash-App, uye Patreon
• chero eaya masangano eLGBTQ +
• yako yepano LGBTQ + nzvimbo

Kana iwe usina mari yekupa, Boyajian anokurudzira kufunga nezvedzimwe nzira dzaungatsigire nharaunda. "Izvi zvinogona kunge zviri zvekuratidzira zvine hungwaru uye kupa vatyairi kuenda nekudzoka kunzvimbo dzevamiriri, kudzivirira vanhu vekumukira kubva kune vanopokana neLGBTQ + varatidziri uye nevari kuyedza kutikuvadza pazviitiko zvekuzvikudza uye neimwe nzira, kana kuti tiwane mvura."

Izvi zvinogona zvakare kusanganisira kuve nechokwadi chekuti Zviitiko zvekuzvikudza zvinowanikwa kune vakaremara LGBTQ + vanhu, kukwidziridza manzwi enharaunda yeLBBTQ + nekudzorera zvakare / kutumira zvinyorwa zvavo, uye kuvhara vanhu vanoita majee nezve "Kwakarurama Kudada" kana neimwe nzira kuseka / kusvibisa / kumisikidza nharaunda yeLGBTQ + .

9. Uya nevana vako

Kana iwe uri mubereki, iwe ungangodaro uchinetseka, "Ndinofanira kuunza mwana wangu Kudada?" Mhinduro ndihungu! Chero bedzi iwe uchinge wakasununguka uchidaro uye imi mese makagadzirira kuunza kushingairira nerutsigiro.

"Kudada kunogona kuve inguva yakanaka kwazvo yekudzidza yevana nevechidiki," anodaro Boyajian. “Kuona vanhu vakuru vachidakadzwa chinhu chakajairika uye kuratidzira rudo rwehukama kwakakosha. Kuratidza vechidiki kuti kuva vanonyunyuta kunogona kuva chinhu chakanaka kunongovasimbisa kuti vakure kuva zvavasingade vasina kutonga. ”

Ita hurukuro nevana vako kutanga, Antioco Carrillo, director director weAids for AIDS yeNevada, anokurudzira. “Vatsanangurire kuti munharaunda medu mune hupfumi uye hwakasiyana sei uye zvakasarudzika sei kuwana mukana wekuenda kuchiitiko uko munhu wese achigamuchirwa zvechokwadi. Tsanangura nenzira yavanonzwisisa uye vorangarira kuti pane mukana wekuti vangave LGBTQ + ivo pachavo. ”

Costa anobvuma, achiwedzera, kuti: “Kana iri nzira yokutsanangurira nayo vana vako izvo zvavachaona hazvifaniri kuva zvakasiana pane kuti munhu aizoita sei kana vana vakaona chimwe chinhu chavasati vamboona paTV kana kuti mufirimu pamberi. Meseji inofanira kugara iri 'rudo rwakanaka'. "

Mukutsanangura kwako, isa Pride muchirevo. Tsanangura kukosha kwezvakaitika uye kukosha kweKudada, anodaro Shane. Ruzivo rwakawanda iwe rwaunogona kupa mwana wako zvisati zvaitika, zvirinani. "Nepo kuratidzira kwekuzvikudza kuri matani ekunakidzwa aine yakawanda muraraungu nemumhanzi, kana vana vako vasinganzwisise pane zvakawanda kune izvozvo pane kungoenda kumapati, urikushaya mukana wekuvapa ruzivo rwakakosha zvisingaite," anodaro.

10. Nakidzwa

Ukaenda Kudada, enda unofara! "Iva nenguva yakanaka, kutamba, kuchema uye kufara, kunakidzwa, kushamiswa nenhamba yevanhu vanotsigira nharaunda yeLBBTQ + uye vari ivo," anokurudzira Brown.

"Pride parade kupemberera kwerudo nekutambirwa, uye nhengo dzakasiyana dzinoratidzira rudo irwo nenzira dzakasiyana," anodaro Brown. "Kana ukazviratidza zvakakosha zvikuru kuti uchengete izvozvo mupfungwa nguva dzose." Uye kana ukadaro, mikana iwe unenge uchitsigira iyo LGBTQ + zvine hungwaru uye zvine ruremekedzo.

Ingo rangarira, shamwari, "Tinokudai gore rese. Hatigone kukunda kurwa uku pasina iwe. Kutsigira nharaunda yeLBBTQ uye kuva mubatsiri chaiye hazvingoreve kuisa masokisi emuraraungu kamwe chete pagore, "anodaro Lopez. “Tinoda kuti umire nesu uye nesu mugore rose. Tishandise mumabhizinesi ako. Sarudza vanhu vanozopasa masisitimu anovaka LGBTQ kukwana. Tsigira LGBTQ vane mabhizinesi. Regedza kudheerera nekushungurudza munzira dzako pose paunosangana nazvo. ”

Gabrielle Kassel ndeye New York-based bonde uye hukama munyori uye CrossFit Level 1 Mudzidzisi. Iye ave munhu wemangwanani, akaedza iro rese30 dambudziko, uye akadya, akadhakwa, akaswikwiswa nawo, akakweshwa nawo, uye akagezwa nemarasha - zvese muzita rezvenhau. Munguva yake yekusununguka, anogona kuwanikwa achiverenga mabhuku ekuzvibatsira, kudzvanya pabhenji, kana kutamba pole. Mutevere pa Instagram.