Vamwe Vakaremara Vakaputika 'Queer Eye.' Asi Pasina Kutaura Nezve Rudzi, Zvinopotsa Pfungwa

Zvemukati

• Sezvaunotarisa chingangoita mamineti makumi mana nemapfumbamwe, haugone kubatsira asi kukoshesa hunhu hwakajeka hwaWesley.
• Zvinogona kuve zvakaoma kufungidzira, saka, nei ichi chiitiko chakamutsa kukakavara kwakanyanya pakati pevasiri-vatema nhengo dzenzvimbo yakaremara.
• 1. Kumhanyisa (uye kushingairira) kwaakadaidzirwa nako - uye kuti zvii zvakatsoropodzwa zvakabva - zvaitaura
• Kuita kwakazoitika Wesley asati ataura zvaakasangana nazvo
• 3. Hapana nzvimbo yakaitirwa rwendo rwaWesley rwekutambirwa
• 4. Kusheedzwa kwakadzima nzira dzakasarudzika dzevanhurume veVatema vanomiririrwa muchikamu chino
• 5. Kukosha kwerutsigiro rwaamai vake kwakarambwa zvisirizvo kubva pane zvakaitika kune vakadzi vatema vachengeti
• 6. Chiitiko ichi chaikosha kumadzibaba evatema, kunyanya vanababa vatema vakaremara
• 7. Kukanganiswa kwakaitwa chikamu ichi (uye kudaidzwa) pavanhu Vatema vakaremara hakuna kutariswa
• Pandakataura naWesley, ndakamubvunza kuti mazwii aaive nawo evarume vakaremara vatema. Mhinduro yake? "Zviwane uri zvauri."

Mwaka mutsva weNetflix wepakutanga nhepfenyuro "Queer Eye" yawana yakawanda nguva pfupi yadarika kubva kunharaunda yevakaremara, sezvo ichiratidza murume mutema akaremara anonzi Wesley Hamilton anobva kuKansas City, Missouri.

Wesley akararama hupenyu hwekuzviti "mukomana akaipa" kusvika apfurwa mudumbu aine makore makumi maviri nemana ekuberekwa. Munguva yese yechiitiko, Wesley anotaurirana nezve hupenyu hwake nemaonero ake zvachinja, kusanganisira nemaonero aanoita muviri wake uchangobva kuremara.

Mukufamba kwemakore manomwe, Wesley akabva "mukurova makumbo ake kumusoro nekuti aive asina basa" achigadzira iyo isingabatsiri Disabled Asi Kwete Chaizvoizvo, sangano rinopa hutano uye zvirongwa zvehutano zvine chinangwa chekupa simba vakaremara.

Sezvaunotarisa chingangoita mamineti makumi mana nemapfumbamwe, haugone kubatsira asi kukoshesa hunhu hwakajeka hwaWesley.

Kubva pakunyemwerera kwake uye kuseka kwake kuda kuyedza zvinhu zvitsva, kubatana kwaanoita naFab Five sezvo ivo mumwe nemumwe vachishandura maitiro ake nemusha zvaizorodza kutarisa.

Tinomuona achiedza nembatya dzaaifunga kuti aisakwanisa kupfeka nekuda kwewiricheya yake; isu tinomuona achigovana nguva dzinotambudzwa naTan naKaramo, vachipokana nemafungiro chaiwo estoic, isina tsitsi mhando yechirume.

Isu tinoonawo rudo rutsigiro sisitimu yakakomberedza Wesley, kubva pakutora kwake uye amai vasingagumi vanodada kusvika kumwanasikana wavo uyo anomutora saiye Superman.

Kune ese aya zvikonzero uye nezvimwe zvakawanda, chikamu chiri kunyatsofamba uye chinonetsa akawanda ekufungidzira ayo Wesley - seMutema, akaremara murume - anotarisana nawo zuva rega rega.

Zvinogona kuve zvakaoma kufungidzira, saka, nei ichi chiitiko chakamutsa kukakavara kwakanyanya pakati pevasiri-vatema nhengo dzenzvimbo yakaremara.

Pakange paine kupopota kwakabvunza zita resangano raWesley, semuenzaniso, nekunetsekana nezvekuti chiitiko ichi chingakanganisa sei maonero ehurema kune vateereri vasina kugadzikana.

Aya ma critique akabuda chikamu chisati chabuda. Asi zvakadaro vakawana mukana wekubata pasocial media zvisinei.

Zvisinei, apo Nhengo dzakaremara dzakaremara dzemunharaunda dzakatanga kuona chiitiko ichi, vazhinji vakaona izvo "zvinopisa zvinotora" zvinobuda pasocial media zvakatadza kufunga nezve kuomarara kwekuve vese Vatema uye vakaremara.

Saka chii, chaizvo, chakange chapotswa? Ndakataura nemazwi mana akakurumbira munharaunda yevakaremara, avo vakashandura nhaurwa dzakatenderedza "Ziso reQueer" kubva mukushatirwa kwakaipa kuenda pakuisa zviitiko zvevanhu vakaremara vatema.

Maonero avo anotiyeuchidza nezvenzira dzakawanda, kunyangwe munzvimbo dzinofambira mberi, umo vatema vakaremara vanhu vanosundidzirwa mberi kumahombekombe.

1. Kumhanyisa (uye kushingairira) kwaakadaidzirwa nako - uye kuti zvii zvakatsoropodzwa zvakabva - zvaitaura

Sokutsanangura kunoita Keah Brown, munyori uye mutori wenhau, "Zvinonakidza kuti nharaunda inokasira sei pasi pehuro dzeVatema vakaremara vanhu pane kufunga nezve… zvazvinofanira kunge zvakaita kushanda nekuzvidzora kwako uye ruvengo."

Mhedzisiro yacho? Vanhu vekunze kwenharaunda yaWesley (uye nekuwedzera, akararama ruzivo) vakaita mutongo nezve rake basa nemipiro, kudzima kuoma kunouya nekuzivikanwa kwake kwerudzi.

"Paive nevanhu vakakurumbira vasiri vatema vane ruvara uye vachena vemunharaunda vemunharaunda vakafadzwa nemukana wekumubvarura neshinda paTwitter neFacebook," Keah anodaro. "Zvakaita kuti ndibvunze kuti vanoona sei vamwe vedu, munoziva?"

Kuita kwakazoitika Wesley asati ataura zvaakasangana nazvo

“Chokwadi vanhu vakasvetuka pfuti. Vakakurumidza kukanganisa murume uyu vasati vamboona chikamu ichi, ”anodaro Keah.

Zvizhinji zvei reactivity zvakabva kune vatsoropodzi vakaita fungidziro nezve zita rekuti Wesley risingabatsiri, Akaremara Asi Kwete Chaizvoizvo.

“Ndinonzwisisa zita rekuti bhizimusi rake harina kunaka, asi pamusoro, ari kukumbira chinhu chimwe chete icho tiri kukumbira: kuzvimiririra uye kuremekedzwa. Zvakandirangaridza chaizvo kuti munharaunda mune rusaruro rwakawanda rwekushanda narwo, ”anodaro Keah.

Ndakave nemukana wekutaura naWesley nezvezvakakomberedza zvakapoteredza basa rake uye episode. Chandakadzidza ndechekuti Wesley anonyatsoziva bopoto iri, asi haana kunetseka nazvo.

"Ini ndinotsanangura izvo zvakaremara asi kwete chaizvo. Ndiri kupa vanhu simba kuburikidza nekugwinya uye kudya kunovaka muviri nekuti zvakandipa simba, ”anodaro.

Wesley paakaremara, akaona kuti aizvikanganisira nezvaaifunga kuti munhu akaremara - pasina mubvunzo akaudzwa nekushaikwa kwekuonekwa kwevanhu vakaita saiye. Kusimba uye chikafu ndechekuti akawana sei chivimbo uye ushingi hwaava nahwo makore manomwe mushure mezuva rakaipisisa.

Chinangwa chake ndechekugadzira nzvimbo yevamwe vakaremara kuti vawane nharaunda kuburikidza nenzira idzo dzaimupa mukana wekuti ave akasununguka paganda rake - zvinoreva izvo zvakarasika pakatsoropodzwa zvirevo asati agona kutaura chiratidzo chake iye.

3. Hapana nzvimbo yakaitirwa rwendo rwaWesley rwekutambirwa

Kugadzirirwa kwehurema kwaWesley kwakaumbwa nemadzidzisiro aakaita muviri wake Mutema wakaremara. Kuva mumwe munhu aive awana hurema hwake mushure mehupenyu, kunzwisisa kwaWesley kuri kuchinjawo, sezvatakazvionera kubva kune zvake achitaura muchikamu.

Maelee Johnson, muvambi weChronicLoaf uye mumiriri wekodzero dzevakaremara, akataura nezverwendo rwakafambiswa naWesley achiti: “Kana iwe ukaona munhu akaita saWesley akazoremara mushure mehupenyu, unofanirwa kufunga nezvezvinoreva izvozvo. Semuenzaniso, akatanga bhizinesi rake achifamba mukati mekugona uye nzira yekutambira hunhu hwake hutsva hwakaremara. ”

"Zvinorehwa nezita rake rebhizinesi zvinogona kuchinja uye kukura naye, uye izvozvo zvakanyatsonaka uye zvinonzwisisika," Maelee anoenderera mberi. "Isu munharaunda takaremara tinofanirwa kunzwisisa izvi."

Heather Watkins, mutsigiri wekodzero dzevakaremara, anotsinhira mazwi akafanana. "Wesley zvakare chikamu chematanho ekukurudzira ayo anowanzo batanidza / kusangana nevamwe vanhu vanotarisirwa pasi, izvo zvinondipa fungidziro yekuti acharamba achiwedzera kuzviziva," anodaro. "Hapana kana mutauro wake uye kuzvidzora kushoma kwakandipa nguva dzinonetsa nekuti ari munzira."

4. Kusheedzwa kwakadzima nzira dzakasarudzika dzevanhurume veVatema vanomiririrwa muchikamu chino

Zviitiko zvakabudikira vazhinji vedu ndozvaive apo varume vatema pavaitaura chokwadi chavo kune mumwe nemumwe.

Kudyidzana pakati paKaramo naWesley zvakanyanya kwakapa kuona kwakasimba muhunhu hweVatema uye kushupika. Karamo akagadzira nzvimbo yakachengeteka yekuti Wesley ataure pamusoro pekukuvara kwake, kupora, uye kuve iye ari nani, ndokumupa kugona kunangana nemurume akamupfura.

Kushupika kunoratidzwa zvinosuwisa zvisingawanzoitika paterevhizheni pakati pevarume vaviri vevatema, chiitiko chatinokodzera kuona zvimwe zvacho pachiratidziri chidiki.

Kuna André Daughtry, Twitch streamer, kuchinjana pakati peVarume vatema pachiratidziro kwaive chiratidzo mukupora. "Kuyanana pakati paWesley naKaramo kwaive kuzarurirwa," anodaro. “[Zvaive] zvakanaka uye zvaibaya mwoyo kuona. Simba ravo rakanyarara uye kubatana ndizvo chirongwa chevanhu vatema kutevera. ”

Heather anoratidzira mafungiro aya, zvakare, uye simba rayo rekushandura. “Nhaurirano yakafambiswa naKaramo inogona kunge iri show yega yega. Iroro raive zano rakanyanyisa, [uye] raive rakafanana - uye akamuregerera, "anodaro Heather. “Iye [akataurawo] kuziva nezve kuzvidavirira kuzere kweupenyu hwake nemamiriro ake. Izvi zvakakura; uku kutonga kwekudzorera. Uku kwaive kupora. ”

5. Kukosha kwerutsigiro rwaamai vake kwakarambwa zvisirizvo kubva pane zvakaitika kune vakadzi vatema vachengeti

Amai vaWesley vaive vatora basa rakakosha mukupora kwavo uye vaida kuve nechokwadi chekuti Wesley aive nemidziyo yaaida kurarama akazvimiririra.

Pakupera kwechikamu, Wesley akatenda amai vake. Nepo vamwe vanhu vaifunga kufunga kwake nezvekusununguka kwaireva kuti kuchengetwa kwairemedza - uye kuti Wesley akasimbisa nekumutenda - vanhu ava vakapotsa chaizvo kuti nei zviitiko izvi zvaikosha kumhuri dzeVatema.

Heather anotsanangura mitsara iyi: "Kubva pakuona kwangu saamai uye muchengeti wemubereki akwegura, uye nekuziva kuti vakadzi vatema vanowanzoenda vasina kukokwa kana kunzi 'vakasimba,' sekunge hatimbove nemabhureki kana kurwadziwa, izvi zvakanzwa sekutenda kwakanaka . ”

"Dzimwe nguva kukutenda kuri nyore kwakazadzwa ne 'Ndinoziva kuti waive nemusana wangu uye wakapa zvakawanda zvako, nguva, nekutarisa pachinzvimbo changu' inogona kunge iri rugare uye mutsago wekuzorora," anodaro.

6. Chiitiko ichi chaikosha kumadzibaba evatema, kunyanya vanababa vatema vakaremara

Hazvishamise zvisingawanzoitika kana hurema nehubaba zvichioneka zvachose, kunyanya nguva idzodzo dzinosanganisira vatema varume vakaremara.

André anovhura pamusoro pekutarisa Wesley kuva baba kumupa tariro: “Ndichiona Wesley nemwanasikana wake, Nevaeh, hapana chandakaona kunze kwekugona kuita rimwe zuva ndikazoita rombo rakanaka rekuita vana.

“Ndinoona kuti zvinokwanisika uye hazvisi kure kure. Kuva nevabereki vakaremara kunofanirwa kuverengerwa uye kukwidziridzwa. ”

Heather anogovera chikonzero nei baba-mwanasikana vachiratidzwa kuve akajairwa aive nesimba mune zvaro. "Kuva baba vakaremara vatema vane mwanasikana anomuona segamba rake [kwaive] kunofadza, [kwanga kusiri] kusiyana nevazhinji baba-mwanasikana vachiratidzira mifananidzo."

Mupfungwa iyi, chikamu chinopa Vatema vakaremara vanababa saWesley kwete seVamwe, asi chaizvo sezvavari: vabereki vanoshamisa uye vane rudo.

7. Kukanganiswa kwakaitwa chikamu ichi (uye kudaidzwa) pavanhu Vatema vakaremara hakuna kutariswa

Semukadzi mutema akaremara, ndakaona vazhinji veVarume vakaremara varume vandakakurira navo muWesley. Varume vanga vachiedza kuzvifunga munyika yavanogona kutenda kuti yavo vhezheni yeVarume vechirume yakashatiswa nekuti vaive vakaremara.

Varume vaye vakashaya kuoneka kweVatema vakaremara masculinity zvaigona kuve zvakaburitsa pfungwa yekuzvikudza yavaida kuva nechivimbo mumitumbi nepfungwa dzavanadzo.

André anotsanangura kuti sei kuona Wesley pa "Queer Eye" kwaive kwakakosha kwaari panguva iyi yehupenyu: "Ini ndakanangana nekurwa kwaWesley kuti azviwane ari mugungwa rekuzivikanwa kweBlack uye huturu hunhu. Ndakareva nezvekukwirira uye kudzikira uye pfungwa yekuita basa paakatanga kuwana izwi rake. ”

Paakabvunzwa zvaaizotaura kuna Wesley maererano nekudzokera shure, André anomukurudzira kuti "arege kuteerera avo vasinganzwisise mafambiro ake ehupenyu. Ari kuita zvakanaka mukufunga hukama hwake nehurema uye nharaunda, uye kwake Kusviba uye kuva baba. Hapana chimwe chazvo chiri nyore kana chinouya negwara-nhanho gwara pane zvekuita. ”

Pandakataura naWesley, ndakamubvunza kuti mazwii aaive nawo evarume vakaremara vatema. Mhinduro yake? "Zviwane uri zvauri."

Sezvakaratidzwa nekuonekwa kwake pa "Queer Eye," Wesley anoona vatema vakaremara sevanhu vane simba rakakura. Kubva kubasa kwake, arikusvikira nharaunda yevakaremara vanhu iyo nzvimbo zhinji dzinofuratira kana kungotadza kusvika.

"Ndakapona husiku ihwohwo nechikonzero," anodaro Wesley. Maonero aya akanganisa zvakanyanya maonero aanoita hupenyu hwake, muviri wake mutema wakaremara, uye maitiro aanoda kuve nawo munharaunda isingatariswe uye inomiririrwa.

Ichi chikamu che "Queer Eye" chakavhura musuwo wehurukuro inodiwa zvikuru kuti iitike nezve anti-Kusviba, kupindirana, uye kuisa pfungwa dzevatema dzakaremara.

Ngatitarisirei kuti isu takangwara uye kwete kuramba tichipfuura kana kudzima zvikamu zvemunharaunda yedu apo paifanira kuve manzwi avo - hongu, manzwi akafanana neyaWesley - kumberi.

Vilissa Thompson, LMSW, mushandi wezvemagariro ane hunyanzvi kubva kuSouth Carolina. Ramba Izwi Rako! isangano rake kwaanokurukura nyaya dzinomukoshera semukadzi mutema akaremara, kusanganisira nzira yekudyidzana, rusaruraganda, zvematongerwo enyika, uye nei asinganetseki kuita dambudziko rakanaka. Mutsvage pa Twitter @VilissaThompson, @RampYourVoice, uye @WheelDealPod.