Hukama Hwako Hungave Huchikanganisa Muviri Wako Mufananidzo

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Kutsvaga munhu anokuda zvisingaite kunofanirwa kunge kuri kuwedzeresa chivimbo, handiti? Zvakanaka, maererano nechidzidzo chitsva, handizvo zvazviri zvese hukama, kunyanya huya mune mumwe mudiwa anoonekwa seanokwezva kupfuura mumwe. (Kurutivi rwechinyorwa: Ko mapikicha embwa angave chakavanzika chehukama hwakasimba here?)

Vatsvaguriri vechidzidzo ichi, icho chakangoburitswa mumagazini Body Image, ndaida kuongorora kuti hukama hwerudo hunogona kufanotaura sei mukana wevakadzi wekutanga kudya kusina kurongeka. Pakupedzisira, vakaona kuti vakadzi muhukama nevarume vanoonekwa sevanonyanya kukwezva vanonzwa kumanikidzwa kuve vatete uye kudya. Kudivi repafiripi, kana mukadzi ari muhukama achionekwa seanokwezva, havanzwi dzvinyiriro imwe cheteyo. Kicker? Varume havanzwe kumanikidzwa zvisinei nekuti ndeupi mudiwa anoonekwa seakanaka. Ugh.

Vanopfuura zana vakaroorana vachangobva kuroorana (uye vakashinga) vakabvumirana kuti vaongororwe zvichienderana nerunako rwavo. Munhu wese atora chikamu akazadza gwaro remibvunzo rakakwana raibvunza mibvunzo pamusoro pechimiro chemuviri, kana vaifara nematarisiro avakaita, uye kuti vakanzwa kumanikidzwa kwakadii kuti vaonekwe sevatete uye/kana kuti vanoyevedza. Mufananidzo wemuviri wakazara wemunhu wega wega wakatorwawo uye wakaongororwa kuti unokwezva (yakarongwa 1 kusvika 10) neboka rakazvimirira revanhu. Mukupedzisira, vakadzi vakanzi vashoma pane varume vavo vaive nemanzwiro ekunyanyisa pamusoro pavo uye vaine kurudziro yekudya. Womp womp

Asi sekutaura kwakaita Paul Hokemeyer, Ph.D., LMFT pakutanga kwegore rino: "Pfungwa yehukama kuenzanisa zvinhu nekuwana kuenzana sevanhu vaviri. Vanhu vaviri vakaparadzana vanobatana sechinhu chimwe uye kuwana mufaro mu nyika." Mune mamwe mazwi, mumwe nemumwe ari muwanano haafanirwe kunge ari *chaizvo* semumwe. Misiyano mukukwezva haina kungozivikanwa chete, ndeye 100 muzana yakajairika.

Asi chii chatingaite kugadzirisa mamiriro ekudya? Zvakanaka, mudzidzi wechiremba Tania Reynolds, aive mumwe wevanyori vanotungamira vechidzidzo ichi, anosimbisa kukosha kwevanhurume vanobata nguva yekutaura kutsigira kwavo vakadzi vavanodanana navo. "Imwe nzira yekubatsira vakadzi ava ndeyokuti vanobatana navo vasimbise zvakare, vachivayeuchidza, 'Iwe wakanaka. Ndinokuda pane chero uremu kana muviri, "Reynolds akadaro muhurukuro. Ehezve, aya manzwiro anofanira kupihwa mune chero hukama, asi pamwe pane kukosha mukuita chokwadi chekuzvitaura zvinonzwika uye kujekesa zvakanyanya nezvazvo, pane kungofungidzira kuti kugamuchirwa kwemuviri kunonzwisiswa. Uye kana mumwe wako akatsoropodza muviri wako nenzira ipi, inogona kunge iri nguva yekufunga nezvehukama. (FYI, heano maitiro ekukakavara-ekurara neumwe wako ari kukuvadza hutano hwako.)

Vanyori vanotarisira kuti nekuziva aya maitiro muhukama uye nekudzidzisa vamwe nezvezvinofungidzira uye zviratidzo zvekuyambira, vekurapa vanogona kunge vachikwanisa kupa rubatsiro pakutanga kwete pane gare gare kune vakadzi vanovandudza kusagadzikana kwekudya kana mamiriro emumuviri. "Kana tikanzwisisa kuti hukama hwevakadzi hunokanganisa sei sarudzo yavo pakudya uye vafungidziri vezvemagariro ekuvandudza maitiro ekudya asina kunaka," akadaro Reynolds, "ipapo tichakwanisa kuvabatsira."

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