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Zvemukati

• Nyora pasi
• Tevera kuburikidza
• Nekuremekedza Iti Kwete
• Rega Kuenda KweGuvhu
• Zvinhu Zvemhepo Kunze
• Kushamisa Mumwe Munhu
• Bata waunoshanda naye kuKudya
• Iva Nhengo
• Goverana Smile
• Shandisa Tekinoroji kune Yako Yakanakira
• Dzorerai Romance
• Ongororo ye

Iwe une mazana ekubatanidza paLinkedIn uye kunyange dzimwe shamwari paFacebook. Iwe unofarira avo mapikicha pa Instagram uye utumire kazhinji Snapchat selfies. Asi ndirini pawakapedzisira kutaura newe kune vakatarisana? Ndakafunga kudaro. Uye kushaikwa kwekubatana kwechokwadi kunogona kunge kuri kukuvadza zvakanyanya kupfuura zvaunofunga.

"Nepo kutaurirana kwemagetsi kuri chikomborero chikuru chezera redu, zvaisawo simba rehukama hwevanhu panjodzi nekubvisa kubata kwavo nekubatana," anodaro Edward Hallowell, MD, muvambi weHallowell Centers uye munyori we Batanidza: 12 Inokosha Tii Iyo Inovhura Mwoyo Wako, Kurebesa Hupenyu Hwako, uye Kudzamisa Mweya Wako. Kudamburwa uku kwakatora mutero wakakomba pahutano hwedu uye nekugara zvakanaka. Kuva nehukama husina kusimba hwehukama hwakaenzana nekusvuta midzanga gumi nemashanu pazuva, zvinokuvadza kupfuura kusaita basa, uye zvakapetwa kaviri kukunda kufutisa, sekuongorora kweBrigham Young University. Vanhu vane hukama husina kunaka vaivewo ne50 muzana yengozi huru yerufu mushure memakore manomwe nehafu. Kunze kwematambudziko makuru aya, avo vane mashoma ekudyidzana munharaunda vanotaura manzwiro akajairika ehurombo hwakazara muhupenyu hwavo. "Uchiri kupedza zuva, asi uri kufunga, 'Ndizvo chete zviripo here?'" anodaro Hallowell.

Kunyangwe uine purogiramu yakabatikana, une nguva yekusimbisa hukama hwako uye nekuvandudza hupenyu hwako kwese-uye inguvai iri nani kupfuura iyo Nyowani Nyowani? "Tsungirira kusimudzira hukama hwepfungwa uye kutaurirana kumeso," anodaro Hallowell. Nematanho akareruka aya, haungokohwe akasimba pasocial network, unogona kungonakidzwawo zvishoma.

Nyora pasi

Kufunga

Kune huwandu hwakawanda hwevanhu vanogona kusangana zvekare, saka tanga nevatatu, Hallowell anokurudzira, senge waunogara naye kukoreji, hama iri kure, uye waunoshanda naye. Nyora mazita avo uye maka zviyeuchidzo pakarenda yako kuti udane kana kutumira maemail mwedzi wega wega kana zvakadaro. [Tita matipi aya!]

Tevera kuburikidza

Kufunga

Vazhinji vedu vanokurumidza kutaura kuti, "Ngatiitei kudya kwemasikati" kana kuti "Tinofanira kutora chinwiwa" patinoona shamwari yekare kana watinozivana naye, asi isu hatitombozvipi kumazuva iwayo. Gore rino, isa nguva nenzvimbo yekubata kwako, uye tevera nayo.

Nekuremekedza Iti Kwete

Kufunga

Ehe, haugone "kudya kwemasikati" nemunhu wese wawakamboziva kana munhu wese waunopinda maari. "Zvakakosha kukoshesa hukama hwako," anodaro murapi ane rezinesi Julie de Azevedo Hanks, director weWasatch Family Therapy uye munyori we Mushonga Wekupisa: An Emotional Survival Guide kune Vakadzi Vakakurirwa. Funga nezvekubatana kwako semadenderedzwa akakomba, iwe uri pakati, ipapo hukama hwako hwepedyo, nhengo dzemhuri, shamwari, vaunoshanda navo vepedyo, zvichingodaro. Pedza nguva yakawanda nesimba uchitangira pakati, uye udzikise kunze. Saka kana iwe ukaona mumwe munhu ari kunze kwedenderedzwa, usadaro vimbisa kuungana. "Apa ndipo panowanikwa social media uye kutaurirana kwemagetsi," anodaro Hanks. Vaudze kuti zvakanaka kuvaona, uye shandisa Facebook kana Twitter kuti urambe uchibatana. [Tita matipi aya!]

Rega Kuenda KweGuvhu

Kufunga

Tese tine chero munhu mumwe chete watinonzwa akatikanganisira kare-gadzira 2014 gore raunoregerera mumwe wavo. "Kuregerera chipo chaunozvipa, sezvo icho chinokusunungura kubva kune chepfu yekutsamwa kusingaperi uye chigumbu," anodaro Hallowell, akanyora bhuku iri. Shingairira Kuregerera. Izvo hazvireve kuti iwe unokanganwa-kana kunyangwe kurerutsa-izvo zvakaitwa, anowedzera, urikungorega kuenda kwesimba rakaipa kuti zvikunakire. Kana iwe uchida kuchengetedza kuenderera kwehukama nemunhu uyu, zvakanak kukanganwira iwe pachako, asi pamamiriro ezvinhu anonamira, mumwe munhu haadi kuti umuzive-ruregerero iye mupfungwa dzako, uye enda mberi.

Zvinhu Zvemhepo Kunze

Kufunga

Sezvatinoziva toga, zvakajairika kuti pave nekusawirirana pakati peshamwari dzepedyo nenhengo dzemhuri. "Nehukama hwepedyo kunouya kunetsana, asi kunetsana kwakajairika-maitiro aunoita nawo ndizvo zvakakosha," anodaro Hallowell. Nyaya dzakakomba sekushungurudzwa, kupindwa muropa, kana kumwe kusashanda zvakanaka parutivi, iye anopa zano kuunza nyaya yako pachena kuitira kuti pakupedzisira usimbise hukama hwako.

Kana iwe wakanzwa uchinetseka nemukoma wako uyo akataura zvisina kufanira patafura yeKutenda kana shamwari yepedyo yakataura kumashure kwako, svika uye uti wasuwa uye unoda kutaura nezvazvo. Kusangana chiso nechiso kwakanakira kuti ugone kuwana zvisiri zvekutaura, Hanks anodaro, asi kana zvisingaite, edza kufona kana Skype, wobva watumira email, wobva watumira mameseji.

Svikira nyaya inobata senge tenesi, Hanks anopa zano achiti: "Chengeta bhora padivi rako redare. Iti, 'Ndakarwadziwa kuti pausina kusvika pakafa amai vangu gore rapfuura. Ndinoziva kuti wanga uine zvakawanda uchienderera mberi muhupenyu hwako, asi ndichiri ndakasuruvara kuti handina kunzwa kubva kwauri. govana manzwiro ako asina njodzi-kurwadzwa, kusuwa, kutya, kusurukirwa, Hanks anotsanangura. Kana vasingade kutaura, siya musuwo wakavhurika uchiti iwe uchave uripo kana vakambonzwa kugadzirira kubatanidza zvakare, kana kubvunza kana uchigona kudzokerazve navo mumwedzi mishoma.

Kushamisa Mumwe Munhu

Kufunga

Kana hukama huri kuda TLC diki asi isiri yakazara-moyo-ku-moyo, ratidza chishuwo chako chekubatanidza nekuratidza kuti une hanya. Svika nenzira shoma, isina kurongwa, Hallowell anokurudzira. Tumira chimwe chinhu chisingatarisirwi-bhasikiti yemichero, bhuku rinonakidza, kana kadhi rinokurudzira kumuita kuseka-kubatsira kuputsa ice.

"Ramba uchifunga kuti kunyangwe vamwe vangazvibata sei, iwe unogona kusarudza kuve rudzi rwemwanasikana, hanzvadzi, shamwari, kana mushandi uyo iwe Unoda kuva, "Hanks anodaro. Saka kana mukuru wako asingambokushuvira zuva rekuzvarwa rakanaka, nyora kadhi padhesiki rake. Kana iwe usinganzwe kubva kuna Tete vako Sally kazhinji, ronga kushanya kushamisika. Kana kungotumira yakapusa mameseji kushamwari dzako dziri kure nevamwe vaunoshamwaridzana navo kuti uti, "Kufunga nezvako. Ndinovimba wave nevhiki rakanaka! "

Bata waunoshanda naye kuKudya

Kufunga

Nzvimbo zhinji dzebasa dzakadzimwa mazuva ano, uye nharaunda dzebasa dzinonetsa dzinogona kutungamirira kumatambudziko ehutano hwemuviri nepfungwa. Chinhu chimwe chinogona kubatsira kuve neshamwari muhofisi - kana uine waunoshanda naye waunoda zvakanyanya, ungangonakidzwa nebasa rako zvakanyanya, Hallowell anotsanangura. Kumbira kutenga kofi cubemate kana masikati, uye kumuziva zvirinani, kana kutevedzera muenzaniso waHanks uye kutanga misangano yevashandi nehurukuro diki nezve hupenyu hwevanhu vese. "Zvakakosha chaizvo kuziva nekukoshesa vaunoshanda navo nevashandi sevanhu, kwete vanogadzira muhofisi chete," Hanks anodaro. "Vanhu vanoita basa riri nani uye vanofara pavanonzwa kuona, kunzwa, uye kukosheswa."

Iva Nhengo

Kufunga

Zvidzidzo zvinoratidza kuti kuve weboka kana sangano kunowedzera manzwiro ehupenyu uye chinangwa muhupenyu, anodaro Hallowell. Joinha chero chinhu-inogona kunge iri chechi, inomhanya boka, yerudo, kana yeruzhinji bhodhi-iyo inosangana kamwe chete pamwedzi. Mabhonasi mapoinzi kana iwe ukapinda mune chimwe chinhu chaunoda chaizvo. "Iwe unozonyanya kushamwaridzana nevamwe vanhu uye kutaura uye kusvika pakuvaziva zviri nani kana chiri chinhu chaunofarira mese," Hanks anodaro.

Goverana Smile

Kufunga

Kunyangwe kudyidzana kudiki kwazvo kunogona kuwedzera hukama hwako, akadaro Hallowell. Nyemwerera baba vaunopfuura nemumukaka wechitoro chegirosari, wosiya foni yako muchikwama chako uchiti mhoro kune mutorwa arimurift. "Nguva diki idzi dzinokupa simba rehupenyu hunogona kuita kuti ufare kuve mupenyu-uye kutonzwa kunge uri mupenyu," anodaro Hallowell. Kumwe kudyidzana kwemazuva ese kunogona kuita mutsauko: Mira mune imwecheteyo shopu yekofi kana dhiri, uye uzive varidzi nemazita. Iwo matatu maminetsi ekutaurirana ehushamwari anogona kuve nemhedzisiro huru pamanzwiro ako kwezuva rese. "Patinobatana nevamwe muhupenyu hwedu hwezuva nezuva, tinonzwa kuvepo uye takabatikana kupfuura patinorarama tichishandisa otomatiki mutyairi wendege," anodaro Hallowell.

Shandisa Tekinoroji kune Yako Yakanakira

Kufunga

Midhiya yemagariro inogona kuva chishandiso chikuru chekugara wakabatana kune vese vanhu vawakasangana navo mumakore apfuura kana kusaona kazhinji-uye zvinotora nguva shoma uye kushanda nesimba. "Ini ndinoda tekinoroji nekuti inokupa iwe kugona kutumira email kana kutaura pamufananidzo ipapo, kungozivisa mumwe munhu kuti uri kufunga nezvavo," akadaro Hanks. Udza shamwari iye anotaridzika kwazvo mune yake nyowani Instagram posvo, tumira inonakidza ecard, kana email email chinongedzo kuchinyorwa chakakuyeuchidza nezveaimbove mudzidzi.

Dzorerai Romance

Kufunga

Kana iwe wakanzwa kure nemurume wako kana mukomana munguva pfupi yapfuura, zvakapusa chiziviso iye, Hallowell anodaro. Wobva wamuzivisa ne "Nice tie;" "Ndinoda nzira yaunonditsvoda nayo;" kana "Unoita kunge wakaderera zvishoma. Pane chero chinhu chiri pamoyo pako?" Kutaurirana kwakakosha, saka usatya kukumbira izvo zvaunoda izvo zvausiri kuwana, pamwe nezvaanoda kwauri. Kupedza nguva muri vaviri kwakakoshawo kumutsiridza hukama. "Inogona kunge maminetsi matatu pamusoro pekofi, maawa matatu pakudya uye firimu, kana mazuva matatu parwendo rwevhiki, asi hapana chinotsiva nguva pamwe chete," anodaro Hallowell.

Ongororo ye