Kuenda kune Therapy saPsychiatrist Haana Kungondibatsira chete. Yakabatsira Varwere Vangu.

Zvemukati

• Ini ndini ndaifanira kubatsira vamwe - kwete imwe nzira yakatenderedza
• Kuvhura uye kutora 'nyowani' nyowani kwaive kwakaoma
• Ndakarererwa mutsika umo kutsvaga rubatsiro kwaishurikidzwa zvakanyanya
• Hakuna bhuku rekuverenga rinogona kukudzidzisa iwe zvakaita kugara pachigaro chemurwere
• Chinokosha

Mumwe chiremba wepfungwa anokurukura kuti kuenda kurapa kwakamubatsira sei iye nevarwere vake.

Pakati pegore rangu rekutanga semurapi wepfungwa anogara mukudzidziswa ndakatarisana nematambudziko mazhinji, kunyanya kusimuka kubva kumhuri yangu neshamwari kekutanga nguva.Ndakanga ndichinetseka kujairana nekugara munzvimbo nyowani uye ndakatanga kunzwa kushushikana nekusuwa kumba, izvo zvakazopedzisira zvadzikira mukuita kwangu kwedzidzo.

Semumwe munhu anozviona seakakwana, ndakaomeserwa pandakaiswa pakuongororwa kwedzidzo - uyezve pandakazoona kuti imwe yemitemo yekuedzwa kwangu ndeyekuti ndaifanira kutanga kuona murapi.

Ndichitarisa kumashure pane zvakaitika kwandiri, zvakadaro, chaive chimwe chezvinhu zvakanakisa zvakamboitika kwandiri - kwete chete kune hupenyu hwangu, asi nevarwere vangu 'zvakare.

Ini ndini ndaifanira kubatsira vamwe - kwete imwe nzira yakatenderedza

Pandakatanga kuudzwa kuti ndaifanira kutsvaga rubatsiro rwechiremba, ndinenge ndichinyepa kana ndikati ndakanga ndisiri nehasha. Mushure mezvose, ini ndini ndinofanirwa kunge ndichibatsira vanhu uye kwete imwe nzira yakatenderedza, handiti?

Zvinoitika, ini ndakanga ndisiri ndega mune iyi pfungwa.

Maonero akajairika munharaunda yekurapa ndeyekuti kurwa kwakaenzana kushaya simba, izvi zvinosanganisira kuda kuona murapi.

Muchokwadi, ongororo yakaongorora vanachiremba yakawana kuti kutya kumhan'ara kubhodhi rezenisi rekurapa uye kutenda kuti kubatwa uine hutano hwepfungwa kwainyadzisa kana kunyadzisa ndizvo zviviri zvezvikonzero zvepamusoro zvekusatsvaga rubatsiro.

Kuisa mari yakawanda mufundo yedu nemumabasa, mhedzisiro inogona kuve yehunyanzvi inoramba iri kutya kukuru pakati pevanachiremba, kunyanya sezvo mamwe matunhu achida kuti vanachiremba vape nhoroondo yezvirwere zvepfungwa uye kurapwa kumabhodhi edu ekupa marezinesi ekurapa.

Zvakadaro, ndaiziva kutsvaga rubatsiro rwehutano hwangu hwepfungwa kwaive kusingachinjiki.

Tsika isingawanzoitika Kunze kwevamiriri vanodzidzira kuve psychoanalysts uye mune mamwe mapurogiramu ekupedza kudzidza, kuona murapi panguva yekudzidzira hazvidiwe kudzidzira psychotherapy muAmerica.

Kuvhura uye kutora 'nyowani' nyowani kwaive kwakaoma

Ndakazowana murapi anga akandikodzera.

Pakutanga, ruzivo rwekuenda kurapi rwakandiratidza mamwe matambudziko kwandiri. Semunhu aidzivirira kuvhura nezvemanzwiro angu, kubvunzwa kuti ndiite izvi neasingazive zvachose munzvimbo yehunyanzvi zvainge zvakaoma.

Uyezve, zvakatora nguva kujairana nebasa semutengi, panzvimbo pekurapa. Ndinoyeuka nguva dzandaizove ndichigovana nyaya dzangu nachiremba wangu, uye ndaizoedza kuzviongorora uye nekufungidzira zvaizotaurwa nachiremba wangu.

Nzira yakajairika yekudzivirira yevashandi ndeyekuda kuita njere nekuti inochengetedza mhinduro yedu kuzvinhu zvedu pachedu pane kuzvibvumira kuti titarise zvakadzika mumanzwiro edu.

Neraki, murapi wangu akaona kuburikidza neizvi uye akandibatsira kuongorora iyi tsika yekuzviongorora.

Ndakarererwa mutsika umo kutsvaga rubatsiro kwaishurikidzwa zvakanyanya

Pamusoro pekushingirira nezvimwe zvinhu zveyangu yekurapa zvikamu, ini zvakare ndakarwa pamwe neyakawedzera stigma yekutsvaga rubatsiro kune hutano hwangu hwepfungwa sevashoma.

Ndakarererwa mutsika umo hutano hwepfungwa hunoramba hwakashurwa zvakanyanya uye, nekuda kweizvi, zvakaita kuti ndione murapi zvakandiomera zvakanyanya. Mhuri yangu inobva kuPhilippines uye pakutanga ndakatya kuvaudza kuti ndaifanira kutora chikamu mune zvepfungwa sechikamu chemitemo yekuedzwa kwangu kwedzidzo.

Kune imwe nhanho, zvakadaro, kushandisa ichi chinodiwa chedzidzo sechikonzero chakapa pfungwa yekusununguka, kunyanya sezvo vadzidzi vachiramba vari pamberi pekutanga mumhuri dzePhilippines.

Kupa varwere vedu mukana wekutaura zvinovanetsa kunoita kuti vanzwe kuonekwa nekunzwa, uye kudzokorora kuti ivo vanhu - kwete kungoongororwa.

Kazhinji, madzinza uye madzinza madiki havakwanisi kuwana hutano hwepfungwa, uye kunyanya vakadzi vashoma vanowanzo tsvaga kurapwa kwehutano hwepfungwa.

Therapy inogamuchirwa zvakanyanya mutsika dzeAmerica, asi maonero ayo ekushandiswa seumbozha hwevapfumi, vachena vanosara.

Zvakaoma zvakare kuti vakadzi vemavara vatsvake kurapwa kwehutano hwepfungwa nekuda kwehunhu hwetsika, hunosanganisira mufananidzo wemukadzi akasviba mutema kana fungidziro yekuti vanhu vanobva kuAsia ndivo "modhi vashoma."

Zvisinei, ndaive nerombo rakanaka.

Kunyangwe ini ndaive neapo neapo "iwe unongonamata" kana "ingova nesimba", mhuri yangu yakaguma ichitsigira angu marapiro zvikamu mushure mekuona shanduko yakanaka mumaitiro angu uye kuvimba.

Hakuna bhuku rekuverenga rinogona kukudzidzisa iwe zvakaita kugara pachigaro chemurwere

Pakupedzisira ndakakura ndakasununguka kubvuma rubatsiro rwechiremba wangu. Ini ndakakwanisa kurega kuenda ndikataura zvakasununguka pane izvo zvaive mupfungwa dzangu pane kuyedza kuve zvese murapi uye murwere.

Uyezve, kuenda kurapa kwakandibvumidza kuti ndione kuti handisi ndega mune zvakaitika kwandiri uye ndakabvisa chero nyadzi dzandaive nadzo dzekutsvaga rubatsiro. Ichi, kunyanya, chaive chiitiko chakakosha kana zvasvika pakushanda nevarwere vangu.

Hakuna bhuku rekuverenga rinogona kukudzidzisa iwe zvakaita kugara pachigaro chemurwere kana kunyangwe nezvekurwira kwekungoita kekutanga kusangana.

Nekuda kwechiitiko changu, zvakadaro, ini ndiri kunyatso kuziva nezvekuti kushungurudzika-kunogona sei, kwete kungo taura nezvezvinhu zvemunhu - zvakapfuura nezvazvino - asi kutsvaga rubatsiro pakutanga.

Pandinosangana nemurwere kekutanga uyo anogona kunzwa kutya uye kunyara kuuya, ini ndinowanzo bvuma kuti zvakaoma sei kutsvaga rubatsiro. Ini ndinotarisa kubatsira kudzikisira ruzvidzo rwechiitiko nekuvakurudzira kuti vavhure nezve kutya kwavo kwekuona chiremba wepfungwa, uye kunetsekana nezve kuongororwa uye zvinyorwa.

"Uyezve, nekuti kunyara kunogona kuve kwakazviparadzanisa nevamwe, ndinowanzo simbisa panguva yechirongwa kuti uku kudyidzana uye kuti ndichaita nepandinogona napo kuvabatsira kuzadzisa zvinangwa zvavo."

Kupa varwere vedu mukana wekutaura zvinovanetsa kunoita kuti vanzwe kuonekwa nekunzwa, uye kudzokorora kuti ivo vanhu - kwete kungoongororwa.

Chinokosha

Ini ndinotenda zvechokwadi kuti nyanzvi dzese dzehutano hwepfungwa dzinofanirwa kuwana kurapwa pane imwe nguva.

Basa ratinoita rakaoma uye zvakakosha kuti tigadzirise nyaya dzinouya mukurapa uye muhupenyu hwedu hwega. Mukuwedzera, hapana humwe hukuru hwekuziva kuti zvakaita sei kuvarwere vedu uye kuti rakaoma sei basa ratinoita mukurapa kusvikira tazogara pachigaro chemurwere.

Nekubatsira varwere vedu kugadzirisa uye kuvhura pamusoro pezvavanotambura, chiitiko chakanaka chekurapwa chinova pachena kune avo vakavakomberedza.

Uye kana tikanyanya kuziva kuti hutano hwedu hwepfungwa hunokosheswa, patinonyanya kubatsirana munharaunda medu uye nekukurudzirana kuwana rubatsiro uye kurapwa kwatinoda.

Dr. Vania Manipod, DO, chiremba-anozivikanwa wepfungwa, mubatsiri wepurofesa wezvepfungwa kuWestern University of Health Sayenzi, uye pari zvino muchivande muchiitiko muVentura, California. Iye anotenda munzira izere yekurapa kwepfungwa iyo inosanganisira nzira dzepfungwa, kurapa, uye mararamiro, mukuwedzera kune manejimendi manejimendi pazvinoratidzwa. Dr. Manipod akavaka anoteera epasi rose pasocial media zvichibva pabasa rake rekudzikisira runyararo rwehutano hwepfungwa, kunyanya kuburikidza naye Instagram uye blog, Freud & Fashoni. Uyezve, akataura nyika yese pamisoro senge kupisa, kukuvara kwehuropi, uye midhiya yemagariro.