Kudzinga Manyepo ekuti maVhinina eAsia ari Tight

Zvemukati

• Saka ngatiisei nhema mubhedha
• Vakadzi vazhinji vekuAsia vanotanga kusangana neyakajairwa iyi pavanotanga kurara nevarume
• Vamwe vakadzi veAsia, zvisinei, vanowana stereotype ichiwedzera kunetsa uye kusagadzikana.
• Asi kufa ngano hazvireve kuti mhedzisiro inonyangarika pamwe chete nayo

Hapana ngano inokuvadza kupfuura kutarisira kuve nemukadzi wakasungwa.

Kubva perennially mazamu anonamira kusvika kutsvedzerera, makumbo asina vhudzi, hukadzi hwagara huchiitiswa bonde uye uchiiswa kune zvisingaite zviyero.

Sayenzi yakaratidza kuti izvi zvisizvo zvisingaite zvine zvinokuvadza pamanzwiro evakadzi ekuzvikoshesa. Nekudaro, hapana kana chimwe chakave chinokuvadza, kana sekusazivikanwa, sekutarisira kuve nemukadzi wakasimba.

Vaginas vakasimba vanokosheswa mune ingangoita nzanga uye tsika ine midzi muhupombwe. Ivo vanoonekwa sevaratidziro yehumhandara uye hutsanana, yakabva pakutenda kwekuti vakadzi ipfuma, kuramba vasina kubatwa kunze kwekunge nevarume vavo.

Asi padanho repasi, mukadzi akasimba anoonekwawo sehunhu hunokwezva kuti vakadzi vekisiti vagare nekuda kwekuti zvinonyanya kufadza kuti cis varume vapinde. Kuvhiyiwa kwemukadzi kusangana nekutsiura, kutora iyo "murume kusona," kunyangwe inoita kunge ine hunhu Kegel kurovedza: Yese miitiro iyi inobva mukutenda kwekuti vakasimba vaginas vari nani vaginas.

Uye iyi stereotype inoita kunge inokanganisa zvakanyanya vakadzi veAsia kunyanya.

Comedian Amy Schumer akamboedza kuseka: "Hazvina basa kuti chii chamunoita, madzimai, mukomana wese ari kuzokusiya iwe kuva mukadzi weAsia… Uye vanozviunza sei kumba kuti uwane kuhwina? Ah, madiki nyini mumutambo. "

Akamuudza kuti aifunga kuti vasikana vemuAsia ndivo vaive vakanakisa nekuti vagina vavo vaive vakasimba.

Dr. Valinda Nwadike, MD uye obstetrics uye gynecology nyanzvi muCalifornia, Maryland, vanogona kuona kuti stereotype iripo sei, uye nemoyo wese haibvumirani nepfungwa. "Kutaura chokwadi usafunge [vakadzi veAsia vane vaginas vadiki] ichokwadi. Ini zvirokwazvo ndaisabvumirana neiyi stereotype. Isu hatitore sarudzo nezve saizi - isu hatina maAsia speculums. Izvo pachazvo zvaizokanganisa ngano. Inofanira kuradzikwa zvachose. ”

Saka ngatiisei nhema mubhedha

Hazvina kujeka kuti iyi ngano yakatanga sei, asi vazhinji vanofungidzira kuti yakadzika midzi mukolonialism. Patricia Park, weBitch Media, anoteedzera izvi zvekusangana pabonde kudzokera kuKorea neVietnam Hondo, apo United States payakagadzira huto.

Zviuru zvevakadzi veAsia, kusanganisira vakadzi vechiThai nePhilipina, vakatengeswa nekumanikidzwa kuita chipfambi nemasoja evachena eAmerica. (Iyo mhedzisiro yekukanganisa iri kunyanya kuoneka muThailand, uko kushambadzira kwepabonde vakawanda kwakagadzirwa kubhadhara zvikwereti.)

Nekuda kweizvozvo, kazhinji varume vachena kusangana kwekutanga kusangana nevakadzi veAsia kwaive mumamiriro ekukunda kwemauto uye kutonga pabonde.

MuJenali yeAmerican Philosophical Association, Robin Zheng anoburitsa pachena kuti nhoroondo iyi yakaumba nzira iyo vanhu vanoratidzwa kune vakadzi veAsia nhasi. Mafungidziro eHollywood anonyanya kupenda vakadzi veAsia sevane bonde, kubva kune anozviisa pasi musikana-mukutambudzika kuenda kuChina Doll uye dhiragoni mukadzi, kudzamara vazvara uye voita ingwe moms. (Ithaca College Raibhurari inochengeta rondedzero yakagadziridzwa yezviratidziro zvevaAsia mumafirimu, zvichiratidza mashandiro acho mashoma kune zvigadzirwa zvebonde, zvikwata, kana kudzimwa zvachose.)

Asi imwezve nzira nyowani uko mazhinji eaya mafungidziro anoenderera mberi nekuramba achienderera? Zvinonyadzisa, ivhu rinokurumidza kuve iro rekutanga sosi yekudzidzisa zvepabonde kune vechidiki.

Mumwe murungu ane makore makumi maviri nemanomwe murume muchena, uyo akabvunza kuramba asingazivikanwe, anogovera kuti iyi nzira yaive kupi kwaakadzidza pfungwa yekuti vakadzi veAsia vane vaginas vakasimba.

"Zvinonyadzisira zvinobatsira zvikuru papfungwa iyi," anodaro. "Kune zvakawanda zvekuona zvinonyadzisira, semuenzaniso, izvo zvichabatana vaviri vakadzi veAsia nevarume vatema, vachitamba zvinokanganisa zviya zvepabonde. "Saka ndinofunga ndicho chinhu chakabatanidzwa nevarume mundangariro dzavo."

Vakadzi vazhinji vekuAsia vanotanga kusangana neyakajairwa iyi pavanotanga kurara nevarume.

Nekudaro, iyi ngano haina kungotenderedzwa mukati mevarume madenderedzwa. Kunyangwe vakadzi vanosimudzira iyi stereotype.

Jenny Snyder, mukadzi ane makore makumi maviri neshanu-mukadzi weAsia zvakare anobva kuLouisville, anoti shamwari yake chena yechikadzi yakamubvunza kuchikoro chesekondari kana nyinyo yake yaive padivi. "Akandibvunza chaizvo kana nyinyo yangu yakanga yakatwasuka," Snyder anoyeuka. "Akafungawo kuti bhuti rangu rakatsemuka - rakaita sedama regaro pamusoro peimwe."

Michelle Eigenheer, mukadzi wechiKorea wehafu kubva kuLouisville, Kentucky, anoyeuka chiitiko apo gynecologist wake - mukadzi wewhite - akachinjira kune speculum inowanzo chengeterwa vechidiki pakati pekuongorora.

"Zvichida zvaive zvine chekuita nenyaya yekuti ndaishushikana pane kuita musiyano chaiwo," Eigenheer anodaro. "Asi zvakandishamisa - ichi chinhu chaicho here?"

Semudzidzi wezve gynecologist, Dr. Nwadike haasati ambosangana nekudiwa kwekuchinja ma speculums. "Zvinogoneka kuti havadyidzane nevanhu vazhinji veAsia. Zvinoenderana nekuti vagari vayo vanozviisa kupi, pamwe havana mukana wekuti vaone izvo zvabviswa, "anodaro, mushure mekubvunzwa kuti sei aifunga kuti stereotype iyi yakaramba ichienderera, kunyangwe mune zvekurapa. "Vanhu vazhinji vanofunga kuti varume vatema vane zvimwe zvinhu, uye ichocho hachisi chokwadi, asi chimiro chinoramba chiripo."

Vakadzi vazhinji vekuAsia vanotanga kusangana neyakajairwa iyi pavanotanga kurara nevarume

Grace Que, mukadzi wechiChinese ane makore 19 anobva kuChicago, anoti akange anzwa pfungwa "ichikandirwa kwakapoteredzwa nevanhu vashoma uye mutsika dzepop."

Asi haana kuzviona iye ega kusvikira atanga kuita bonde.Varume vake vaaitaura navo nezvekusunga kwake nekutaura mitsara iri pamitsara ye, "Ah mwari wangu, makasimba."

Jennifer Osaki, mukadzi ane makore makumi maviri nematatu wechiJapan American mukadzi akarererwa muLos Angeles, California, aive nechiitiko chakafanana. Akanzwa nezve stereotype kubva kuvanhurume vaaidzidza navo kukoreji, asi haana kuzviona iye ega kusvika paakadanana nemurungu gore rekupedzisira.

Akamuudza kuti aifunga kuti vasikana vemuAsia ndivo vaive vakanakisa nekuti vagina vavo vaive vakasimba.

"Ndakaiseka zvisingaite nekuti munguva yacho, ndakafunga kuti chinhu chakanaka," anodaro Osaki.

Uye zvirokwazvo, iwo mucherechedzo wekuva nemukadzi akasimba unogamuchirwa zvakanyanya uye unoonekwa se "chinhu chakanaka" nevakadzi vazhinji veAsia zvakare.

"Kana chikadzi chakasimba chiri chinhu, ndinovimba zvakanyanya kuti ndinacho," anodaro Que. “Zviripachena kuti bonde raizotonyanya kukosheswa nemumwe munhu kupfuura zvariri kuita. Shamwari dzangu zhinji dzevakomana dzakanaka dzinogara dzichiti zvakaomarara, zvakanaka kwazvo. ”

Sekufananidzwa kweiyo yakakosheswa nyini nyini, iyo "yakasununguka" nyini inosanganiswa nevakadzi "vakaipa" - vakadzi vane vakawandisa vanoita zvepabonde.

Zoe Peyronnin, mukadzi ane makore makumi maviri nerimwe ekuberekwa muAsia American mukadzi akarererwa muNew York, anodzokorora pfungwa iyi. Kunyangwe achitaura zvine chekuita neiyi stereotype inogona kuve nekwaniso yekuenderera mberi nekuita bonde vakadzi veAsia, anozopedzisa achiti, "Ini pachangu, iyo pfungwa yekuva nemukadzi wakasungwa yakanaka, kunyanya bonde."

Vamwe vakadzi veAsia, zvisinei, vanowana stereotype ichiwedzera kunetsa uye kusagadzikana.

"Kana iwe uine mhasuru dzakasimba zasi uko, izvo zvinotyisa," anodaro Phi Anh Nguyen, mukadzi weAsia American anobva kuSan Francisco, California. “Ndinofungidzira kuti ndicho chinhu chokudada nacho. Zvisinei, kusunga hunhu uhwu kuvakadzi veAsia kuti vanyanye kudiwa pabonde hachisi chinhu chine hutano. Zvinotishora. ”

Eigenheer anoti anonzwa kusagadzikana zvakanyanya kana varume vari paTinder vachiishandisa semutsara wavo wekuvhura, kana zvimwe vachimubata zvakasiyana zvichibva pamafungiro akanangana nezvekusimba kwemukadzi.

"Vanongoda kushamwaridzana patsva," anodaro. “Asi pachokwadi, ivo vari kudya muchirongwa chine hutsinye chaihwo kumadzimai. Mafungidziro aya akadzika midzi mumifungo yakasarudzika yakawanda iyo vakadzi vanotambura nayo. ”

Chishuwo chekuva nemukadzi wakasungwa chichiri kwakanyanya kuwanda munyika - uye zvine nharo, nyika - inobata vakadzi kwese kwese.

"Pane maonero aya ekuda nyini yakasimba," anodaro Dr. Nwadike. Kunyangwe anga asina varwere veAsia vachiita sarudzo dzehutano zvinoenderana neiyi stereotype, akasangana nedzimwe nhangemutange dzinoita chikumbiro zvichibva mungano yemukadzi wakasimba. "Ndave nevakadzi vekuMiddle East vauya vachida kuti vaginas avo anyanye, vachida kuvhiyiwa cosmetic nekuti murume wavo akazvikumbira."

Enzanisa stereotype yeiyo yakasimba Asia vagina kune stereotype yeakaregedza vagina. Sekupesana kweiyo yakakosheswa nyini nyini, iyo "yakasununguka" nyini inosanganisirwa ne "vakaipa" vakadzi - vakadzi vane vakawandisa vakawanda pabonde.

"Hakuna mukadzi anoda kuomesesa," Eigenheer anodaro. “Zvinorwadza! Rutsva rwese rwe 'kusangana nekutsi nyichana' kuri mumarwadzo emukadzi - kufadza kwemurume zvichikonzera kusagadzikana kwemukadzi. "

Pfungwa iyi inowanzo shandiswa kusevha-kunyadziswa, senge apo mukadzi wechiKristu akafananidza vagina raTaylor Swift nesandwich ham kuratidza kuti aive nehunhu. Uye chirevo chinoshoreka "kukanda imbwa inopisa pasi penzira" zvakare inoratidza kuti vaginas vevakadzi vanotambanudzwa mushure mekuita zvakanyanya zvepabonde.

Dambudziko, zvisinei, nderekuti iyi nhema yemadzimai, pamwe chete nedzimwe nhema dzevakadzi, haina kudzika musainzi.

Sayenzi inoratidza nguva nenguva kuti kusununguka kwechikadzi hakune hukama chero hupi nehupombwe. Ikoko zvakare hakuna kuve nekumwe kuongorora kuenzanisa vaginas veAsia vanhu kune mamwe madzinza.

Vanhu vazhinji vandakataura navo vanotiwo zvinoita sekunge hapana hwaro hwesainzi hweiyi stereotype. "Vakadzi vanouya mumhando dzose uye saizi," Nguyen anonongedza.

Zvisinei, sezvo ngano iyi ichinyanya kuvakirwa pazviitiko zvemunhu, zvinonyanya kuzviisa pasi, pachave nevamwe, semurungu asingazivikanwe wemakore makumi maviri nemanomwe, anoomerera kuti stereotype "ichokwadi zvechokwadi."

"Mune ruzivo rwangu, ndakazviona zvichiratidzika zvechokwadi uye nguva nenguva kuti vakadzi veAsia vabata vaginas," anodaro. "Ndingati vakasimba kupfuura vakadzi vemamwe marudzi."

Kune rimwe divi, Eigenheer ane zviitiko zvake zvinoratidza kupokana.

"Muhupenyu hwangu, ichi hachisi chokwadi," anodaro. “Hakuna murume akambondiudza kuti nyinyo yangu yanga yakasiyana neyevamwe vanhu. Uye kutaura kune vamwe vakadzi veAsia, ndinofunga vangangotaura zvakafanana. "

Irene Kim, ane makore makumi maviri nematatu mukadzi wekuKorea wekuAmerica anobva kuNew Jersey, anobvumirana, achiramba stereotype. Anoti hazvigoneke kuve chokwadi kune vese vakadzi veAsia.

"Iwe haugone kuisa chiratidzo chevanhu vese vane hunhu hwakadai," anodaro Kim. "Kana zvisiri zvechokwadi kumukadzi wese weAsia, saka hazvifanirwe kutaurwa nezvazvo sekunge zvirizvo."

Kunze kwekusavakirwa muchokwadi chesainzi, iyi stereotype yepabonde inokuvadza zvakare nekuti inosimbisa kukosha kwekunakidzwa kwevanhurume nekurwadziwa kwemukadzi.

"Hakuna mukadzi anoda kuomesesa," Eigenheer anodaro. “Zvinorwadza! Rutsva rwese rwe 'kusangana nekutsi nyichana' kuri mumarwadzo emukadzi - kufadza kwemurume zvichikonzera kusagadzikana kwemukadzi. "

Nekudaro, hazvishamise ngano yekuti vakadzi veAsia vane vaginas vakasimba vane zvinonetsa kune vakadzi kunze kwenharaunda yeAsia zvakare. Zvidzidzo zviri kuwedzera kuratidza kuti vakadzi vechi cis vanonzwa kurwadziwa (vangangoita makumi matatu muzana muUnited States) kana vakaita bonde rinopinda.

Sezvineiwo, kune vamwe vakadzi veAsia America - kunyanya avo vane makore gumi nemasere kusvika makumi maviri nerimwe ekuberekwa vanogara mumaguta makuru emahombekombe - vasina kana kumbonzwa nezve ngano iyi.

"Ichi chinhu here?" Inobvunza Ashlyn Drake, ane makore makumi maviri nerimwe-hafu-mukadzi wechiChinese anobva kuNew York. "Handisati ndambonzwa izvi."

Asi kufa ngano hazvireve kuti mhedzisiro inonyangarika pamwe chete nayo

Kutsvagisa kweGoogle kutsvaga kwe "tight vagina race" zvakare kunounza akati wandei tambo debunking iyi nhema. Nehurombo, pane kurasa zano zvachose, idzi shinda - kubva muna2016 - dzinoshandisa zvidzidzo zvidiki uye zvisina kukwana (izvo zvinotarisa kumarudzi matatu chete uye kusagadzikana kweweti) kugadzirisa lenzi kuvakadzi vatema panzvimbo.

Iko hakuna chikonzero cheiyo hombe kudzidza pamusoro pemadzinza uye vaginas zvakamboitwa. "Sei munhu achigona kudzidza izvo uye nechinangwa chei chingazoshanda zvakadaro?" anodaro Dr Nwadike. Anotaura kuti kune zvakawanda sei zvimwe zviratidzo zvehukuru hwepelvic kupfuura nhangemutange, senge mhando yemuviri, zera, uye kubereka. “Pane misiyano yakawandisa yekuita chirevo chakafara. Kana iwe ukatarisa pakukura, ndiyo chete metric. Ndinoongorora munhu kwete fungidziro. ”

Mubvunzo, nekudaro, hausi wekuti ichokwadi here vakadzi veAsia chaizvo vane vagina vakasimba kupfuura vakadzi vemamwe marudzi.

Kuva ne "rudzi rwei" hurukuro inovhiringidza zvakanyanya uye zvinowedzera kudzikisira kukosha kwevakadzi sevanhu kusvika kugutsikano yebonde yavanogona kupa kuvarume (kazhinji vachiregeredza zvavo kugarika nekunakidzwa).

Kunyanya kana kuchine zvidzidzo nemishumo yevakadzi vari kuita nemaune bonde kuti vafadze varume.

Panzvimbo iyoyo - apo ngano parizvino ine simba rakawanda rekukuvadza kupfuura rubatsiro - mubvunzo watinofanira kunge tichibvunza ndewekuti, nei kusangana nekutsi kwemukadzi kuchikosha?

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