Makundiro Akaita Chiuno Changu Kundimbundira Muviri Wangu Pane Chero Saizi

Zvemukati

• Iko kufara kwakagara kweinenge zuva
• Icho chidzidzo chine simba mukuzvida-rudo chinozivikanwa kune vazhinji vakadzi vanopfeka mabheji
• Kune yakadaro yakapfava, chiuno mabhudzi akabata zvakawandisa simba

Isu tinosanganisira zvigadzirwa zvatinofunga zvinobatsira kuvaverengi vedu. Kana iwe ukatenga kuburikidza nehukama pane ino peji, isu tinogona kuwana diki komisheni. Heano maitiro edu.

Rinenge gore rapfuura, ini ndakaraira peya yangu yekutanga yechiuno marozari mune tsamba. "Kufara" kwaizove kushaya pekutangira. Panguva iyoyo, ndakanga ndisingazive kuti vangazopedzisira vandidzidzisa zvakadii - asi panguva iyoyo, ndaive nechokwadi chekuti tambo yemabhero yaizoita kuti ndinzwe ndakanaka.

Chiuno marozari chinyakare chinowanikwa chevakadzi mune dzakawanda tsika dzeAfrica. Izvo zvakagadzirwa negirazi mabheji pane tambo.

Ini ndakatanga kusangana navo pandakadzidza kunze kwenyika kuGhana, uko ivo mucherechedzo wechikadzi, kukura, uye kuita zvebonde. Ivo vanowanzo chengetwa vari vega, chete kune vakasarudzwa vavakaroorana kuti vaone. Dzimwe tsika dzemuAfrica zvakare dzinobatanidza chiuno marozari nekubereka, kuchengetedza, uye nezvimwe zvinoreva.

Makore gare gare, ndakazoona kuti chiuno marozari aive akakurumbira muUnited States, futi. Vakadzi pano vanoapfeka nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakawanda, asi kushonga ndiko kungangove kwakanyanya. Mushure mezvose, chinangwa chekutanga chemabheji kunaka. Ivo vanokuita kuti umire uye uzviyemure pachako mugirazi, chiuno chakangoerekana chakazadzwa nehushu.

Zviuno zvangu zvechiuno pazvakasvika, ndakabva ndazvisungirira muchiuno changu ndokuzviyemura mugirazi, ndichizungunuka nekutamba uye kumira. Ivo vanowanzo kuve nemhedzisiro iyoyo pavanhu. Ndakaona runako rwandanga ndakatarisira.

Iko kufara kwakagara kweinenge zuva

Mushure mekuapfekedza husiku hwese, ini ndaifanira kuzvibvuma: chiuno changu marozari aive madiki. Dumbu rangu rakanga rakura neimwe nzira sezvo ndaive ndakanyatsoyera chiuno changu ndisati ndatenga. Iye zvino hura hwangu hwakachera muganda rangu. Ndakayamwa mudumbu mangu ndikanzwa ndasuwa.

Chechipiri-chakajairika chikonzero nei vanhu vachipfeka chiuno mabhudzi ndeyekurema uremu. Icho chinangwa chiri sezvo mabheji anomonera chiuno chemunhu, vanogona kuziva kuti dumbu ravo riri kukura, nekudaro munhu anogona kutora matanho ekuti azviite mudiki.

Asi ini ndaisada kuonda. Kana paine chero chinhu, ini ndaida fuma uremu.

Mabhero angu akakungurutswa akapfuura dumbu rangu, uye pandakatarisa pagirazi, ndakaona kuti dumbu rangu raibudikira kunze. Inozviita kazhinji. Ndaiwanzovenga kana ndaona dumbu rangu mugirazi.

Ini ndinonetsekana nekushushikana uye kushushikana, uye chikafu ndicho chimwe chezvikamu zvekutanga zvekuzvichengeta zvinonyangarika kana hutano hwangu hwepfungwa huchitambura.

Kana chiuno changu marozari chakasunga, ndakanzwa kusvotwa nedumbu rangu raibuda. Asi pavakakwanira, "zvaireva pachena kuti ndakanga ndisiri kudya zvakakwana. Huremu hwangu hunochinja-chinja nguva nenguva, uye ndaiziva kuti dumbu rangu kubuda rakanga risiri iro dambudziko chairo apa.

Uye saka, pane kuedza kuti dumbu rangu rikwane muchiuno changu hura, ini ndakatenga extender cheni inondibvumidza kuti ndigadzirise hura kuitira kuti vakwane mudumbu mangu. Ndinozviwana ndichigadzirisa kanenge zuva nezuva, dzimwe nguva kakawanda pazuva.

Kana hura hwangu husina kusununguka, chiyeuchidzo chinyoro chekuti ndingangodaro ndanga ndichirega kudya. Kana dumbu rangu rikakura - zvakanaka, ini ndinongorebesa tambo uye ini zvakadaro inzwa wakanaka.

Panzvimbo pekutsamwa, ndakura kuti ndibatanidze kusimbisa kwechiuno mabhandi nekunzwa kwekuita. Ndazvisimbisa nhasi. Ndaguta uye ndaguta.

Hazvina basa kuti dumbu rangu rakakura zvakadii, ndinonzwa ndakanakisa pandinotarisa muviri wangu mugirazi, uye zvese izvi ndezvekutenda kumabhero - vara ravo, magariro avo pachiuno changu, nzira yavanondifambisa nayo, uye nzira zvinoita kuti ndinzwe mukati.

Yakagadzirwa ine chirevo Sekureva kwaAnita, muridzi weThe Bee Stop, dhizaini iyi inonzi "Ho'oponopono," zvinoreva kuti "Ndatenda, ndinokuda, ndokumbira undiregerere, ndine urombo". Uyu mutsara unofungidzirwa kuti unorapa zvikuru kana zvataurwa kwatiri kana kana takabata mumwe munhu mupfungwa medu uye nepfungwa tichitaura kwavari.

Icho chidzidzo chine simba mukuzvida-rudo chinozivikanwa kune vazhinji vakadzi vanopfeka mabheji

Hongu, marozari anozivikanwa zvakanyanya nehuremu. Asi zvakanyanya uye zvakanyanya, ivo vari kushandiswa kune muviri positivity panzvimbo.

Mumwe wechiuno bead muimbi uye shamwari-ye-shamwari, Ebony Baylis, anga akapfeka chiuno mabhudzi kweanoda kuita makore mashanu uye achiaita iwo angangoita matatu. Paakatanga, akasangana nevanhu vazhinji vaifunga kuti maroad bhandi ndeevanhu vakaonda chete kana vanhu vaiyedza kudzikisa huremu.

“Kwandiri, kupfeka hura hwechiuno kwaisambove kwechimiro chemuviri wangu. Ini ndaingoda runako nekunzwa kwavo, "Ebony anondiudza. “Asi ini ndakadzidza kuburikidza nevandakavagadzirira. Kwavari, zvinovaita kuti vanzwe seksikäs uye vakasununguka paganda ravo. Vanoda kuti hazvirambidzwe uye vanokwanisa kuzvichinja kana kuzvibvisa, kana vachifunga kuti vanofanirwa kuita chimwe chimiro kana saizi imwe chete. "

Imwe shamwari, Bunny Smith, anga akapfeka zviuno zvechiuno kweanopfuura makore mashanu. Akawana vaviri vake vekutanga mushure mekunge kuzvishingisa kwake kwasvika pakaderera.

“Pese pandaitarisa mugirazi ndainzwa kushata uye kusakwana. Zvikamu zvangu zvakanamatira kana kubhowa zvakaita kuti ndide kuzvigura, ”anodaro.

“Mukuwasha wangu akati ndimboedza hura hwechiuno, uye ndaigara pamusika wemuAfrica saka ndakaenda ndikanozvitenga. Kwenguva yekutanga, ini ndaifarira kutaridzika kwandinoita maoko angu erudo. Uye ndainzwa kupenga, kwete nekuti ndakanga ndichangodzikira uremu (ndiyo yaive nzira chete pamberi) asi nekuti ndakaona muviri wangu muchiedza chitsva, sezvawaive. ”

Bianca Santini anga achigadzira zviuno zvechiuno kubva munaGunyana 2018. Akazvigadzirira rake rekutanga, muchidimbu nekuti vatengesi vazhinji vaizobhadharisa yakawedzera kune iwo anonzi "kuwedzera-saizi" mabheji.

“Vakachinja hupenyu hwangu. Ndinonzwa senge, ndinonzwa ndine chivimbo, uye zvakanyanya kukosha, ndinonzwa ndakasununguka, ”Bianca anondiudza.

"Ini ndinowanzo tora 'kuzvida-kwako' mapikicha emifananidzo kuti ndizviyeuchidze kuti ini ndakanaka AF uye ndinofanira kutaura kuti chiuno mabhudzi akawedzera iyo 'ini' nguva exponentially. Ivo vane nyama dzakadai pasina kuyedza. Ivo vakandigadzikawo nenzira yandisina kumboziva kuti ndaida. Chinhu chinondidhonza kuti ndidzokere pamoyo wangu uye mudumbu rangu nzvimbo. "

Bianca inogadzira marozari evakasiyana vatengi. Vamwe vavo vanovashandisa sezvaanoita - kudzamisa hukama hwavo nemiviri yavo. Zvimwe zvakare, zvinodzivisika, zvishandise pakurasikirwa nehuremu. Chero nzira, chinangwa chake kumhizha chakafanana.

“Zviuno zvangu zvechiuno zvakaitirwa kuzvida uye kuzvirapa. Ndinozvisika uye ndinobata chinangwa ichocho sezvandinoita, ”anodaro. "Pese pandinovanzwa pandinofamba zuva rose kana kuti pandinodya kana kunyangwe pandinoenda kunorara ndinoyeuchidzwa nezvechinangwa changu chekuzvida nekuzvitarisira."

“Kana ini ndikavaitira vamwe, kunyangwe kana akagadzirirwa kurema, ndinoramba ndakabata chinangwa ichocho panguva yekusika. Ndokusaka vanhu vachiuya kwandiri kuzogadzira izvozvi, zvekurapa nekudzivirira. ”

Kune yakadaro yakapfava, chiuno mabhudzi akabata zvakawandisa simba

Muviri unoshanduka, saizi, uye chimiro zvinongouya nenharaunda yekuve munhu. Iwe unozoratidzika wakanaka zvisinei. Ndozvandakadzidziswa nemuchiuno.

Ini netsaona ndakabvarura chiuno changu hura nguva pfupi yadarika, saka ndakavatumira kudzoka kumhizha kuti vagadzirise (shevedzera kunze kune inoshamisa Bee Stop!). Kuva ndebvu-kushoma kweinopfuura vhiki ikozvino, ndinonzwa ndakanakisa dang ndisina kupfeka, kunge chikamu changu chisipo.

Ndiri kufara kutaura, zvakadaro, kuti izvo zvidzidzo zvechiuno marozari hazvina kundisiya, kunyangwe ndisina mabheji.

Muviri wangu wakanaka - apo dumbu rangu rinobuda, kana chiuno changu chiri chidiki kwazvo, uyezve kana chiri pakati nepakati. Zviuno zvechiuno hazviite gadzira muviri wangu wakanaka. Ivo vanongoyevedza, anogara aripo chiyeuchidzo chekuti ndiri.

Kim Wong-Shing munyori muNew Orleans. Basa rake rinotenderera runako, hutano, hukama, pop tsika, kuzivikanwa, uye mimwe misoro. Bylines muMen's Health, HelloGiggles, Elite Mazuva ese, uye GO Magazine. Akakurira muPhiladelphia ndokuenda kuBrown University. Webhusaiti yake kimwongshing.com.