Ndezvipi Zvinodzingwa Kudzidziswa neni Nezve Mental Health

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Muchikoro chekurapa, ndakadzidziswa kutarisa pane zvakakanganisika mumuviri nemurwere. Ndakatenderera mapapu, ndakatsimbirira padumbu, uye palpated prostate, nguva yese iyi ndichitsvaga zviratidzo zvechinhu chisina kujairika. Mukugara kwepfungwa, ndakadzidziswa kutarisa pane zvainge zvisina kunaka mupfungwa, uyezve "kugadzirisa" -kana, mumutauro wezvokurapa, "kubata" -zviratidzo izvi. Ndaiziva kuti ndeipi mishonga yandinofanira kunyora uye riini. Ndaiziva nguva yekurarisa murwere uye nguva yekudzosera munhu iyeye kumba. Ndakaita zvese zvandaigona kuti ndidzidze kuderedza nhamo yemunhu. Uye mushure mekupedza kudzidziswa kwangu, ndakagadzira chiitiko chinobudirira chepfungwa muManhattan, nekuporesa sebasa rangu.

Ipapo, rimwe zuva, ndakawana runhare rwekumuka. Claire (harisi zita rake chairo), murwere wandaifunga kuti aifambira mberi, akabva andidzinga basa mushure memwedzi mitanhatu yekurapwa. “Ndinovenga kuuya kupurogiramu dzedu dzevhiki nevhiki,” akandiudza kudaro. "Zvese zvatinomboita kutaura pamusoro pezviri kuitika muhupenyu hwangu. Zvinondipa shungu." Akasimuka ndokuenda.

Ndakashamisika chose. Ndakanga ndichiita zvese nebhuku. Kudzidziswa kwangu kwese kwaive kwakanangana nekuderedza zviratidzo uye kuedza kugadzirisa matambudziko. Nyaya dzehukama, kushungurudzika pabasa, kushushikana, uye kushushikana zvaive pakati pematambudziko mazhinji andaizviona kunge nyanzvi ye "kugadzirisa." Asi pandakatarisa kumashure pane zvandakanyora nezve zvikamu zvedu, ndakaona kuti Claire aitaura chokwadi. Zvese zvandaimboita kwaive kutarisa pane zvainge zvichitadzika muhupenyu hwake.Hazvina kumbouya kwandiri kuti ndiise pfungwa pane chimwe chinhu.

Mushure mekunge Claire andidzinga, ndakatanga kuona kukosha kwazvo kwete kwekungochera pasi nhamo asi kusimbisawo simba repfungwa. Zvakava pachena kuti kukudziridza hunyanzvi hwekufambisa nzira yako kuburikidza nekukwira nekudzika kwezuva nezuva kwakakosha sekurapa zviratidzo. Kusaora mwoyo chinhu chimwe. Kunzwa wakasimba mukutarisana nekushushikana ndeimwewo.

Tsvakurudzo yangu yakandikwevera kundima iri kubudirira yepfungwa yakanaka, inova chidzidzo chesayenzi chokukudziridza mufaro. Mukuenzanisa neyechinyakare psychiatry uye psychology, iyo inotarisana zvakanyanya nehurwere hwepfungwa uye pathology, yakanaka psychology inotarisa pane kusimba kwevanhu uye kugara zvakanaka. Ehe, ini ndaive ndisina chokwadi pandakatanga kuverenga nezve yakanaka psychology, nekuti yaive inopesana nezvandakanga ndadzidza mune zvekurapa chikoro uye psychiatry kugara. Ndakanga ndadzidziswa kugadzirisa-dambudziko-kugadzirisa chimwe chinhu chakanga chaputsika mupfungwa kana mumuviri womurwere. Asi, sekutaura kwaClaire nenzira yechisimba, chimwe chinhu chaishayikwa munzira yangu. Nekungotarisa zviratidzo zvehurwere, ndakanga ndatadza kutsvaga hutano mukati memurwere airwara. Nekungotarisa pazviratidzo, ndakanga ndatadza kuona kugona kwemurwere wangu. Martin Seligman, Ph.D., mutungamiri munharaunda yemafungiro akanaka, anotsanangura zvakanakisisa: "Utano hwepfungwa hwakanyanya kudarika kusavapo kwechirwere chepfungwa."

Kudzidza maitiro ekudzoreredza kubva kuzvipingaidzo zvakakosha kwakakosha, asi zvakadii nezvekudzidza maitiro ekugadzirisa nezvinhu zvidiki - matambudziko ezuva nezuva anogona kugadzira kana kutyora zuva? Kwemakore gumi apfuura, ndanga ndichidzidza nzira yekurima kusimba-kusimba nekasero kadiki "r." Mapinduriro aunoita kune hiccups yemazuva ese-kana kofi yako ichiteuka pese pahembe yako chena paunobuda mumba, kana imbwa yako ichitsvedza pagumbo, iyo metro painosimuka uchingosvika pachiteshi, mukuru wako paanokuudza kuti inoodzwa moyo muchirongwa chako, kana mumwe wako achitora kurwa-kwakakosha kuhutano hwepfungwa nemuviri. Kutsvagurudza kunoratidza, semuenzaniso, kuti vanhu vane zvakashata manzwiro (senge kutsamwa kana kunzwa kwekusakosha) mukupindura kunetsekana kwezuva nezuva (senge traffic kana kutsiura kubva kune wepamusoro) vane mukana wekuvandudza nyaya dzehutano hwepfungwa nekufamba kwenguva.

Vazhinji vedu tinodzikisira kugona kwedu pachedu kwehutano uye kugona kwedu kukurira aya madutu emazuva ese. Isu tinowanzo tarisa yedu pachedu mamiriro mune akakwana mazwi-kushushikana kana kubhowa, kunetseka kana kudzikama, kwakanaka kana kwakaipa, kufara kana kusuwa. Asi hutano hwepfungwa hausi wese-kana-hapana, zero-sum mutambo, uye zvakare chimwe chinhu chinoda kutarisirwa zuva nezuva.

Chikamu chazvo zvinoenderana nemabatiro aunoita pfungwa dzako. Ngatiti unonongedza tochi muimba ine rima. Iwe unogona kuvhenekera mwenje chero kwaunosarudza: kumadziro, kutsvaga mifananidzo yakanaka kana mahwindo kana pamwe switch yemwenje; kana kutarira pasi nepamakona, uchitsvaga mabhora eguruva kana, zvakatoipa, mapete. Hapana chinhu chimwe chete icho danda rinowira pamusoro rinotora hunhu hwemukamuri. Nenzira imwecheteyo, hapana kana imwechete manzwiro, kunyangwe akasimba zvakadii, inotsanangura mamiriro ako epfungwa.

Asi kune zvakare akati wandei maitiro ayo isu tese tinogona kushandisa kuwedzera hutano hwepfungwa uye kusimudzira kugara zvakanaka. Izvi zvinotevera zviitiko zvinofambiswa nedata, zvakaedzwa-uye-zvechokwadi kurovedza kuti uwedzere kugadzikana kwako uye kukuchengeta wakasimba, kunyangwe munguva dzekunetseka.

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