Chii chinonzi Cuckolding, uye Nei Vanhu Vachishandurwa Naicho?

Zvemukati

• Chii Chinonzi Cuckolding? Chidzidzo Chekukurumidza Nhoroondo
• Sei Vanhu Vachinetsekana
• Maitiro ekutanga neCuckolding
• Sununguka, Vanodakara Vanoda!
• Ongororo ye

Cuckolding, nepo ichiita senge isinganyatso kuzivikanwa kana kutaurwa nezvayo, iri muchokwadi fungidziro yakajairika pakati pevakaroora. Mukutsvaga bhuku rake Ndiudze Zvaunoda, Justin J. Lehmiller, Ph.D., vakaongorora vanhu 4 175 veAmerica uye vakawana kuti 26 muzana yevakadzi vanoita zvepabonde, 52 muzana yevanhurume vanoita zvepabonde, 42 muzana yevakadzi vasina kuita bonde, uye 66 muzana yevanhurume vasina kuita bonde. Kune mamwe akazara masreddits paReddit yakapihwa kune r / cuckoldcommunity, r / cuckholdstories, uye kunyange r / cuckoldpsychology imwe neimwe ine makumi ezviuru emitezo.

Asi zvinorevei cuckolding, chaizvo?

Pano, mhinduro kumibvunzo yako yese ye cuckolding (pamwe nemimwe yaungasatomboziva kuti unayo) uye zano rekuti ungataurirana sei nezve cuckolding nemumwe wako (s).

Gara kumashure, zorora, uye rega iwe uongorore mukana weiyo nyowani yekuita zvepabonde.

Chii Chinonzi Cuckolding? Chidzidzo Chekukurumidza Nhoroondo

Nhoroondo yekubata cuckolding inogona kunge yakaoma - asi ndosaka, semudzidzisi wezvepabonde uye murapi wehukama, ini ndinofarira kwazvo kudzidzisa, kutyora zvinyadzo, uye kupa vanhu simba kuti vagashire zvavari. (Kunyangwe zvikamu zvako zvausingatozive nezvazvo parizvino!)

TBH, ini handisi fan of the internet's official definition of cuckold. Asi, nekuda kwenhoroondo uye nekuenderera mberi nekuparadza heteronormitve stereotypes munharaunda medu, ngatitaurei nezvazvo.

Sekureva kwa Merriam-Webster, cuckold murume murume ane mukadzi asina kutendeka. Mudzimai wemurume anoita chihure imboro.

Semuenzaniso: In Hamilton, mushure mekunge zvaonekwa kuti Alexander Hamilton iye ave achirara nemumwe mukadzi, murume wake anonyorera Hamilton achiti "uh oh, iwe waita iyo yakaipa yekuyamwa katsi."

Kwemakore (tenda kunaka), izwi rekuti cuckolding rakashanduka kuti rireve chimwe chinhu zvakanyanya pamitsara ye fetish kana kink umo munhu (anowanzonzi "cuck") anotenderedzwa neumwe wake (anowanzozonzi "cuckoldress" ) kuita zvepabonde nemumwe munhu (anowanzonzi "nzombe"). Mune akawanda mamiriro, iyo cuck inovhurwa zvakananga na watching mumwe wavo anorara nemumwe munhu.

Ehe, semamwe mazwi mazhinji munzvimbo yebonde, iyo chaiyo dudziro inogona kunge iri kududziro yevaviri vaviri uye izvo munhu mumwe nemumwe zvaari kubvumirana nazvo nemufaro (pamwe mushure mekuita hurukuro refu pamusoro penyaradzo).

Mazuva ano, unogona kubvunzurudza vakaroorana vakati wandei avo vanotora chikamu mukubata cuckolding uye vanogona mumwe nemumwe kuve nepfungwa dzakasiyana dzekuti cuckolding inorevei kwavari - ndiwo mashiripiti ekutaurirana, kuyedza, nenyika inogara ichichinja yebonde!

Sei Vanhu Vachinetsekana

Kana usati wambonzwa nezve cuckolding kana usati wambovaraidza pfungwa yekuzviyedza, unogona kunge uchinetseka kuti sei vakaroorana vazhinji vachizviwana zvinoshamisa.

Kune vanhu vazhinji, iyo pfungwa yekutarisa mumwe wavo achiita zvinhu zvebonde nemumwe munhu haifadzi. Rega ndikupe iwe pikicha: Unotanga kurara nemumwe wako nguva dzose uye zviri pachena, izvo zvinopisa! Asi, kashoma iwe kuti usvike pakuona zvinoita senge kubva kune mamwe maona uye izvo zvavanotaridzika chaizvo vachiita bonde. Ndiri kureva, ndeye kurarama-chiito porn, pamberi pechiso chako, uye mumwe wako ndiyo nyeredzi. (Yakabatana: Zvingaita Sei Virtual Reality Porn Inokanganisa Bonde nehukama?)

Kune vamwe vanhu vanofarira voyeurism (kunakidzwa nekuona vanhu vachiita bonde), kutarisa kunongo fadza sekuita muchiito (pamwe zvakatowanda). Uye kune avo vari varatidziri (avo vanofarira kuita bonde pamberi pevamwe), iyi zvakare inzira inonakidza yekuongorora izvo.

Uyezve, panogona zvakare kuve paine mamwe masimba emhando yepamusoro anotamba mumamiriro eecuckold. Kazhinji, nzombe iri mune yakanyanya basa, ichigadzira chiitiko kana mamiriro ezvinhu mukati kana vamwe vevamwe vanhu vanogona kuzviisa pasi.

Zvichienderana nehunhu hwevanhu vanobatanidzwa, cuckolding inogona zvakare kuve inoshamisa nzira yekuongorora nezvehukama hwako uchiramba uri mukati mehukama huripo. Chokwadi chinonakidza: Vanhu vanopfuura zviuru gumi nembiri vanotsvaga Google "bi cuckold" mwedzi wega wega. (Zvakafanana: Zvinorevei Bisexuality, Hazvireve, uye Maziviro Ekuziva Kana Iwe uri Bi)

Uye kune vamwe vanhu, kunyadziswa kwecuckold ndiko kukweva kukuru; Chaizvoizvo, iyo pfungwa yekunyengerwa (muchibvumirano) inounza manzwiro egodo uye kunyadziswa kunogona kuita kutendeuka kukuru. Kunyadziswa chaiko kufungidzira kwakajairika uye hama yepedyo yekutamba-kuzviisa pasi kwekutamba.

Cuckolding ingangoita mudziyo umo mijenya yemhando dzakasiyana dzinonakidza dzinogona kuitika: compersion (chiito chekuwana mufaro pakufara kwemumwe wako uye kukura), godo (iro hachisi hazvo chinhu chakashata), kuzadzisa fungidziro, simba kutamba - iyo mamiriro ezvinhu haaperi.

Maitiro ekutanga neCuckolding

Zvino, izvo iwe zvawakadzidza nezve cuckolding, unotanga sei? (Kana iwe nemumwe wako muchifarira kuyedza.)

Pfungwa yangu yekutanga kutaura. Izvi zvinogona kunge zviri pachena, asi rega nditsanangure.

Kutanga, taura nezve izvo mumwe nemumwe wenyu anowana zvinoshamisira nezve pfungwa yekukweva uye nei. Wobva watsanangura nezvemabasa achange achiitwa nemunhu wega-wega kana/paizoitika cuckolding. Nenzira iyi mese muri pane peji rimwe chete uye munogona kutanga kufunga zvakafanana.

Wobva watora mukamuri yekurara - asi kungofanana nemi vaviri. Paunenge uchiita bonde, taura sexy pamwe chete nezve izvo zvingave zviri kuitika izvozvi kana iwe uri mune cuckolding mamiriro. Rega munhu mumwe nemumwe agovane zvaanga achiita, zvavangada kuti mumwe wake aite, uye izvo munhu wechitatu anenge achinge achiita. Iwe unogona zvakare kufunga nezve imwe tsika cuckolding porn kuti uwane kugadzikana nepfungwa uye uone kuti ingaite sei. (Zvimwe pano: Maitiro Ekuve Noutano Makumi matatu)

Izvi zvakakosha nekuti zvinoita kuti zvinyatsoitika uye zvinokutendera kuti utambe iyi fungidziro pamwechete usati wasvetukira mune chero chinhu.

Wobva watanga kutarisa! Kune zvakawanda zvebonde-zvinosanganisirwa maapplication ayo vakaroorana vanogona kushandisa kutsvaga wechitatu-bato mudiwa kuti ajoine mafaro. Hashtag Vhura inobvumira vakaroorana kuti vaite nhoroondo pamusoro pavo, zvavari kutsvaga, uye nezvavanogadzikana nazvo maererano nehurongwa. Izvi zvinovimbisa kuti vanhu vanogona kudzikisira kutsvaga kwavo kuti vawane vanhu vanobvumidza chaivo kwekunakidzwa nekukweva cuckolding. Feeld ndechimwe chirongwa chekuita bonde chevakaroora uye vasina kuroora vakatarisa ku "date kupfuura zvakajairwa."

Izwi kune vakachenjera: Usambofa "wakashamisa" chero munhu ane cuckolding (kana chero chinhu chebonde pachinhu icho). Kana mumwe munhu akabvuma kurara newe asi iwe uri kuronga kuvaunza kumba kune mumwe wako ... iyo haisiyo nzira yakanaka. Kuvimbika, kutaurirana zvakanyanya, uye kuronga kunodiwa pazviitiko zvakawanda zvebonde - uye vimba neni, zvinoita kuti nguva inonaka ive nani kana isina kunetseka uye miganhu/miganhu yemunhu wese iri pachena! (Related: Maitiro ekuseta Miganhu nechero Munhu Muupenyu Hwako)

Sununguka, Vanodakara Vanoda!

Kana paine zvachose chero chinhu chaunobvisa kubva pane izvi, ngachive: kutaurirana, kutaurirana, kutaurirana. Bonde rakaoma, asi rinogona kunge risiri rakaomarara (uye rinonyanya kunakidza) kana iwe ukaunza zvese zvinotarisirwa nemiganhu pachena kuti mapato ese aripowo azvione. Wobva waenda kunakidzwa nekukotepa.

Rachel Wright, MA, L.M.FT., (iye) inyanzvi yezvepfungwa ine rezinesi, mudzidzisi wezvepabonde, uye nyanzvi yehukama inogara muNew York City.Iye mutauri ane ruzivo, mubatsiri weboka, uye munyori. Akashanda nezviuru zvevanhu pasi rese kuti avabatsire kuridza mhere zvishoma uye nekukwenya zvakanyanya.

Ongororo ye