Izvo Vanorapa Vanoshuvira Iwe Kuti Uzive Nezve Ivo Chavanoraja

Zvemukati

• Kana kurapwa kusingasviki
• Maonero ekurapa
• Kuongorora iwo wechokwadi mutengo wekurapa
• Dambudziko neinishuwarenzi
• Kana mari ichichengetedza vanhu kubva pakurapwa
• Varapi vari kuyedza kubatsira

Isu tinosanganisira zvigadzirwa zvatinofunga zvinobatsira kuvaverengi vedu. Kana iwe ukatenga kuburikidza nehukama pane ino peji, isu tinogona kuwana diki komisheni. Heano maitiro edu.

"Hapana anova murapi netarisiro yekupfumisa."

Anenge makore makumi maviri apfuura ndakawira mukushushikana kwakadzika. Yakanga ichivakwa kwenguva yakareba, asi pandakanga ndiine zvandinoramba ndichiti "kuputsika," zvakaratidzika sezviri kuitika zvese kamwechete.

Ndanga ndapihwa svondo kubva kubasa kwangu pazororo. Asi pachinzvimbo chekushandisa nguva iyoyo kuva nevandinoda kana kutanga zviitiko zvehoridhe, ndakazvivharira mumba mangu ndikaramba kubuda.

Mukufamba kwevhiki iyoyo, ndakaderera zvakanyanya nekukurumidza. Ini handina kurara, ndichisarudza kuti ndigare ndakasvinura kwemazuva ekupedzisira ndichiona chero chii chakaitika kuve pane tambo.

Handina kusiya mubhedha wangu. Handina kugeza. Ndakavhara mapofu uye handina kana kubatidza mwenje, ndichirarama nekupenya kweterevhizheni. Uye chikafu chega chandakadya, chemazuva manomwe chakatwasuka, yaive Gorosi Makumbo akanyikwa muchizi kirimu, yaigara yakachengetwa mukati memawoko ekusvika pasi pangu.

Pakazosvika "kugara" kwangu, ndakanga ndisingakwanise kudzokera kubasa. Handina kukwanisa kubva pamba pangu. Iyo chaiyo pfungwa yekuita kana kuisa moyo wangu kumhanya uye musoro wangu kutenderera.

Vakanga vari baba vangu vakauya pamusuwo wangu uye vakaona kusasimba kwandaive. Akandiisira nguva yekuonana nachiremba wemhuri yangu uye nemurapi ipapo.

Kareko zvinhu zvainge zvakasiyana. Kufona kumwe kubasa kwangu uye ndakaiswa pazororo rehutano hwepfungwa rekubhadharwa, ndapihwa mwedzi wese kuti ndidzokere kunzvimbo ine hutano.

Ini ndaive neinishuwarenzi yakanaka yaifukidza nguva dzangu dzekurapwa, saka ndakakwanisa kushanyira mazuva ese isu takamirira meds dzandakanzi ndipinze. Hapana kana nguva yandaifanira kunetseka kuti ndaizobhadhara sei chimwe chazvo . Ini ndaifanira kungo tarisa pakupora.

Dai ndaizove nekuparara kwakafanana nhasi, hapana chimwe cheicho chingave chiri chokwadi.

Kana kurapwa kusingasviki

Kufanana nemunhu wese munyika ino, ini ndasangana nekudzikira kwekuwana kwehutano husingadhuri, uye kunyanya husingadhuri hutano hwepfungwa, pamusoro pemakumi maviri emakore apfuura.

Nhasi, inishuwarenzi yangu inopa huwandu hushoma hwekurapwa kushanya. Asi zvinouyawo ne $ 12,000 pagore inobviswa pagore, zvinoreva kuti kuenda kuchipatara nguva dzese kunoguma nekubhadhara kwangu zvachose muhomwe zvakadaro.

Chimwe chinhu chandichiri kuita kanenge kashoma pagore, kana kungo tarisa mukati uye kugadzirisa pfungwa dzangu.

Chokwadi ndechekuti, ndiri munhu angangogara achigara zvirinani nekugadzwa kwese kurapa. Asi mumamiriro angu azvino, saamai vasina murume vanomhanyisa bhizinesi rangu, ini handigare ndine zviwanikwa zvekuita kuti zviitike.

Uye zvinosuruvarisa, kazhinji apo pandinenge ndichida kurapwa zvakanyanya kuti ndinogona kuzvitenga zvishoma.

Kurwira ndinoziva kuti handisi ndega pakatarisana.

Isu tinorarama munharaunda inofarira kunongedza munwe pakurwara kwepfungwa sechimbuzi chezvinhu zvese kubva mukushaiwa pekugara kusvika kupfura kwakawanda, asi mukuisa iyo mhosva isu neimwe nzira tichiri kukundikana kuisa pamberi vanhu kuwana rubatsiro rwavanoda.

Iyo yakashata system iyo isingamise chero munhu kuti abudirire. Asi havazi ivo chete avo vanoda kurapwa kwepfungwa vanotambura pamaoko eiyo system.

Ndivowo varapi pachavo.

Maonero ekurapa

"Hakuna munhu anova murapi netarisiro yekupfumisa," murapi wechidiki achiri kuyaruka John Mopper anoudza Healthline.

"Kugona kuita zvandinoita pakurarama ndicho chinhu chinoshamisa kwazvo pasi rino," anodaro. "Chokwadi chekuti pane chero zuva ripi zvaro, ndinogona kugara pamusoro pevadiki vatanhatu kusvika vasere uye nditaure nemaawa matanhatu kusvika masere, ndichivimba kukanganisa zuva remumwe munhu nenzira yakanaka, ndobhadharwa? Ndicho chokwadi chinondimutsa mangwanani oga oga. "

Asi ndeyekuti kubhadharirwa icho chikamu icho dzimwe nguva chinogona kuisa damper pabasa iro varapi vazhinji vari kuyedza kuita.

Mopper ndemumwe muridzi weBlueprint Mental Health muSomerville, New Jersey. Chikwata ichi chine iye nemukadzi wake, Michele Levin, pamwe nevarapi vashanu vanovashandira.

"Hatisisina network neinishuwarenzi," anotsanangura kudaro. "Varapi vasingatore inishuwarenzi vanowanzowana rap yakaipa kubva kune vamwe vanhu, asi chokwadi ndechekuti kana makambani einishuwarenzi akabhadhara mwero wakaringana, tinenge takasununguka kupinda mu-network."

Saka chii, chaizvo, icho "chiyero chakaringana" chinotaridzika?

Kuongorora iwo wechokwadi mutengo wekurapa

Carolyn Ball muchengeti ane rezinesi uye muridzi weElevate Counselling + Wellness muHinsdale, Illinois. Iye anoudza Healthline kuti pane zvakawanda zvinhu zvinoenda mukumisikidza mwero wekurapa.

“Semunhu akazvimiririra muridzi, ndinotarisa kudzidza kwangu uye ruzivo pamwe nemusika, mutengo wemba munzvimbo yangu, mutengo wekupa hofisi, mutengo wekushambadza, kuenderera mberi nedzidzo, fizi yehunyanzvi, inishuwarenzi, uye pakupedzisira , mutengo wekurarama, ”anodaro.

Nepo zvirongwa zvekurapa zvinowanzo mhanyisa varwere chero kubva pamadhora zana kusvika pamadhora mazana matatu paawa, zvese zvataurwa pamusoro zvabuda zvinobuda pamubhadharo iwoyo. Uye varapi vane mhuri dzavo dzekuchengeta, yavo yemabhiri yekubhadhara.

Dambudziko neinishuwarenzi

Kuita kweBhora ndeimwe isingatore inishuwarenzi, kunyanya nekuda kweiyo yakaderera mwero wemakambani einishuwarenzi ekubhadhara anopa.

"Chinhu chimwe chandinofunga kuti vanhu havazive ndechekuti nguva yekurapa inoshanda zvakasiyana sei kubva kune mamwe mabasa ekurapa," Ball anotsanangura. “Chiremba kana chiremba wemazino anogona kuona varwere vanosvika sere paawa. Murapi anoona imwe chete. ”

Izvi zvinoreva kuti nepo chiremba achakwanisa kuona, uye kubhadhara, vakawanda sevarwere makumi mana nemasere pazuva, varapi vanowanzo ganhurirwa kumaawa matanhatu anobhadharwa.

"Musiyano mukuru pamari!" Bhora rinodaro. "Ini ndinotenda zvechokwadi kuti varapi vebasa vanoita zvakakosha sekuita kunoita vamwe varapi, asi mubhadharo wacho wakaderera zvakanyanya."

Pamusoro pezvese izvo, kubhadhara kuburikidza neinishuwarenzi kazhinji kunouya nemari yekuwedzera, sekutaura kwechiremba wepfungwa Dr. Carla Manly.

“Tichifunga nezvemhando yekubhadharisa inishuwarenzi, varapi vazhinji vanofanirwa kuita chibvumirano nebasa rekubhadhara mari. Izvi zvinogona kuvhiringidza uye kudhura, ”anodaro, achitsanangura kuti mhedzisiro ndeyekuti murapi anowanzo gamuchira isingasviki hafu yezvakabhadharirwa pakutanga.

Kana mari ichichengetedza vanhu kubva pakurapwa

Therapists vanoziva yavo chikamu chemitero inogona kuve inodzivirira pakutsvaga kurapwa.

"Zvinosuruvarisa, ndinofunga izvi zvakajairika," anodaro Manly. "Vanhu vazhinji vandinoshanda navo vane shamwari nemhuri vanoda kurapwa asi havaende nekuda kwezvikonzero zviviri zvakakosha: mutengo uye kushorwa."

Anoti akabatsira vanhu vanobva kudunhu rese kuti vawane mari yakaderera kuendesa kurapwa kana zvichidikanwa. "Ini ndangoitira izvi kune mumwe munhu muFlorida," anotsanangura kudaro. "Uye iyo 'yakachipa mutengo' masevhisi aive pakati pe $ 60 kusvika $ 75 pachikamu, inova mari yakawanda kwazvo kuvanhu vazhinji!"

Hapana munhu ari kupokana kuti vanachipangamazano vanofanirwa kurarama, uye mumwe neumwe wevashandi vanoshanda Healthline akataura navo akaisa mitengo yavo aine izvo zvinodiwa mupfungwa.

Asi ivo vese vachiri vanhu vakapinda basa rekubatsira nekuti vanoda kubatsira vanhu. Saka, pavanotarisana nevatengi, kana vangangoita vatengi, vanonyatsoda rubatsiro asi vasingakwanise, vanozviwana vachitsvaga nzira dzekubatsira.

"Iyi yakaoma kwandiri," Ball anotsanangura. "Kuenda kurapi kunogona kushandura zvakanaka mararamiro eumwe munhu. Kugadzikana kwako kwepamoyo kwakakosha mukunakidzwa nehukama hwakanaka, kukudziridza chinangwa, uye kuvaka kuzvidzora kwakasimba. ”

Iye anoda kuti munhu wese awane mukana iwoyo, asi iye ari zvakare kuita bhizinesi. "Ini ndinonetseka kudzikamisa chishuwo changu chekupa rubatsiro kune wese munhu neicho chinodiwa chekuwana raramo," anodaro.

Varapi vari kuyedza kubatsira

Bhora rinochengetera akati wandei ekutsvedza masikero emahara pane yake purogiramu vhiki rega rega kune vatengi vanoda rubatsiro asi vasingakwanise kubhadhara zvizere mari. Maitiro aMopper anoita chimwe chinhu chakafanana, kuisa parutivi musangano vhiki rega rega izvo zvakanyatso pro bono kune vakasimbiswa vatengi vakaratidza izvo zvinodiwa.

"Kupa mamwe masevhisi pasina muripo kune vatengi vasina nzira zviripo zvakasungirwa mumitemo yedu yetsika," Mopper anotsanangura.

Manly anozadzisa chishuwo chake chekubatsira avo vanonyanya kudiwa nedzimwe nzira, kuzvipira vhiki nevhiki kunzvimbo yemishonga yekudhakwa nedoro, kuitisa boka rinotsigira mari pasvondo, uye kuzvipira nemavetera.

Vese vatatu vakataurwa vachibatsira vanhu kuwana zvinodhura masevhisi pazvinenge zvisingaite kuti vaoneke muhofisi mavo. Mimwe yemazano avo anosanganisira:

• makiriniki enharaunda
• koreji makampasi (ayo dzimwe nguva ane counselling grad vadzidzi vane yakaderedzwa mitengo)
• vezera rekupa mazano mabasa
• masevhisi senge Open Path Collective, isingabatsiri kubatsira vanhu kuwana yemuno yakaderedzwa mutengo kurapa masevhisi
• online kurapa, kupa masevhisi kuburikidza nevhidhiyo kana kutaurirana pamutengo wakaderera

Pane sarudzo dzinowanikwa kune avo vasina mari, asi Manly anobvuma, "Kuwana zviwanikwa, izvo zvinowanzo 'nyore' kune murapi kana imwe nyanzvi, zvinogona kuvhundutsa kana kutyisa kune mumwe munhu anotambura nekushushikana kana kunetseka. Ndosaka zvichikosha kuti tikwanise kubatsira pakubatsira. "

Saka, kana iwe uchida rubatsiro, usarega mari ichive icho chinhu chinokutadzisa iwe kubva kuchiwana.

Svikira kune wekurapa wemunharaunda yako, uye tsvaga zvavanogona kukupa. Kunyangwe iwe usingakwanise kuvaona, vanogona kukwanisa kukubatsira iwe kuwana mumwe munhu waunogona kuona.

Leah Campbell munyori uye mupepeti anogara muAnchorage, Alaska. Iye amai vasina murume nesarudzo mushure mekuteedzana kwezviitiko zvakatungamira mukugamuchirwa kwemwanasikana wavo. Leah ndiye zvakare munyori webhuku "Mumwe Asina Mbereko Mukadzi" uye akanyora zvakanyanya pamusoro wenyaya dzekushaya mbereko, kutorwa, uye kuva mubereki. Unogona kubatana naLeah kuburikidza neFacebook, webhusaiti yake, uye Twitter.