Queer Yoga Mudzidzisi Kathryn Budig Ari Kugamuchira Kuzvikudza Seiyo 'Chaiyo Chaiyo Shanduro' yeYega

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Kathryn Budig haasi fan yezvinyorwa. Ndiye mumwe wevadzidzisi veVinyasa yoga vane mukurumbira pasi rose, asi anozivikanwa nepepper burpees uye kusvetuka jacks mune dzimwe nzira dzechinyakare dzinoyerera. Anoparidza runako rweziya, grit, uye simba, asi anogara achizviputira mumachira anopfava uye fashoni yakashongedzwa, sekuratidzwa neake Instagram. Saka iwe paunobvunza Budig - uyo akaroora mutapi venhau uye munyori Kate Fagan mushure mekurambana nemurume wake - kuti atsanangure hutano hwake, haana kunyanyisa kuita kudaro.

"Ndinotenda rudo harufanire kusaina zita," anodaro panguva yeZoom kufona kubva kumba kwake kwaCharleston, kuSouth Carolina, uku Fagan achigaya kumashure. "Asi semunhu aive akaroora murume, ndakabva ndazivisa pachena kuti akatwasuka, kana mukati, ndaiziva kuti ndaiva bisexual - asi zvakare, handidi mavara." Budig anoti paakatanga kunzwa kumanikidzwa kuisa hunhu hwake hwepabonde, aivimba nezwi rekuti 'fluid,' asi kubva achinja magiya. "Zvino ini ndinoda 'queer' nekuti ingori iyi yakanaka, yakazara-mitsara inondifadza." (Inoenderana: LGBTQ Glossary yeGender uye Zvepabonde Tsanangudzo Vakabatana Vanofanira Kuziva)

Uye Budig haana manyawi, pasina mubvunzo anofara - mamiriro ekuti anonzwika zvine simba kwazvo mumakirasi ake epamhepo. (Semudzidzi wenguva refu waBudig pachangu, handina kukwanisa kuona asi kuchinja kwehunhu hwake pamusoro pemakore.) Kunyange hazvo zvemukati zvaramba zvichingori zvine mweya, zvinotapira, uye kazhinji zvinoseka pamusoro pemakore (iye achakwenya dhongi rako asi ita majee nezve puggle yake Ashi munzira), Budig anga achiratidzika seanopfavirira muhunhu hwake hwazvino, achimbundira maquirks ake, uye achikurudzira vadzidzi vake kuti vaite zvakafanana.

"Kwave kushanduka kukuru kwandiri, uye ndinofara nazvo," anodaro, achibvuma kuti kubva paakaroora Fagan muna 2018, akagadziridzwa kuita "shanduro chaiyo" yake. "Zviripachena, kudanana naKate yaive chikamu chakakura kwazvo - yakavhura maziso angu kuzvinhu zvakawanda. Basa rangu semudzidzisi kuita kuti vadzidzi vanzwe vakachengeteka uye vanogamuchirwa. Hazvigoneke kufadza munhu wese, asi zvazova hombe chikamu chemakirasi angu ikozvino kuti ndigadzirise zvakawandisa sezvazvinogona uye kuti nditaure nesarudzo dzangu dzemitauro - pasi pekureruka kwekuyedza kuve ndakabatanidzwa nemazita echikadzi. nezuro uye kugumbuka, asi ndiyo nzira yekushanduka uye kugara uchiedza kuita zvirinani. "

Ndinotenda kuti rudo runofanira kunge rusina zita.

Kathryn Budig

Kuzvipira kwaBudig mukuzvivandudza -ga kwakatanga kare - Kansas-akaberekerwa, murairidzi akakurira muNew Jersey anoti akatanga kutanga kuita yoga achiri mudiki. Paakazopedza kudzidza kuYunivhesiti yeVirginia, akanga atanga kudanana kwakazara nazvo, achipedza maawa maviri pazuva kuzvidzidzo zveAshtanga. Asi kusimba uku kwakazopedzisira kwaendesa kuneta, uye mushure mekukuvara kwakawanda, akachinja maonero ake ndokutanga kukudziridza tsika yaanoti yainzwa ichisimbisa mweya wake uye ichinyatsoita nzira yaaida kuratidza vadzidzi vake. Akasangana nemurume waaizoroora iye paakatanga kunzwa zvakanyanya kuenderana nehukama hwake neyoga, asi gore rakatevera, Budig anoyeuka achiona kuti aive nekuzvitsvakisisa pamberi pake.

"Kate akasvinudza nyika yangu munzira dzese," anodaro. "Ndakanga ndaroora kwegore kune wangu waimbove murume, uye isu tanga tiri tese makore mana panguva iyoyo. Ini ndaive kumusangano weESPNN Summit muSouthern California uye Kate aishanda semutariri. Iye aive akanaka uye ane tarenda uye anoshamisa uye ndakabva ndamufarira." (Related: ZveBonde Toys Zvekutenga Kubva Kumabhizinesi Madiki Mukupemberera Kudada)

Budig anoyeuka achizendamira kushamwari pachiitiko ichi uye achizevezera, "oh mwari wangu, akanaka kwazvo," iyo shamwari yakapindura, "'pinda mumutsara - munhu wese anomuda." Sezvo rudo rwekufungidzira rwaBudig rwakakura, shamwari yake yakaseka kuti pamwe achangoroora anofanira kutanga kufunga nezvewanano yechipiri.

"Paive nekufanotaura!" anoseka. “Asi zvakawedzera kujekesa nyaya yekuti ndakanga ndisingafari muhukama hwandaive nahwo, uye kwete nekuti ndakanga ndisiri nemukadzi — ndakanga ndisingafari nekuti ndakanga ndisina kusarudza murume akakodzera wekugara naye. ndakange ndazviziva kwenguva. "

Zvakadaro, Budig anoti haazvidembi nezve zvakapfuura uye anotenda kuti dai asina kuona kusazadzikiswa kwemuchato wake wekutanga, angadai asina kukwanisa kuziva simba remagineti raakanzwa kuna Fagan. "Handina chinhu kunze kwekutenda," anodaro. "Kurambana hakunakidze, asi zvakandiita mudzidzisi anonzwira tsitsi - ndinonzwisisa vadzidzi vangu zvakanyanya uye ndinokwanisa kuona zvinhu kuburikidza nemalensi akasiyana. Kune sirivheri yakawanda kwazvo ipapo."

Budig anoti kusangana naFagan kwakamutsa manzwiro aakatadzisa nekusaziva. “Ndaiva mumwe wevasikana vaduku vakarerwa nengano,” anodaro. "Ndakaziva kuti paiva nezvimwe zvakawanda - munzira yemubatanidzwa wechokwadi. [Hukama hwangu hwekare] hwakandidzidzisa kusazombogadzikana."

Ipo Budig akaveza zvake ngano naFagan, hukama hwavo hahuna kunge hwave nekurwa. Kunyangwe shamwari dzake uye mhuri nekukurumidza vaibvuma nezvechisarudzo chake chekunyorera kurambana uye kuteedzera kudyidzana kutsva, vazhinji vevadzidzi vake nevateveri vepamhepo vaive vashoma pane kutsigira, vachisiya mazwi ane hutsinye pane ake Instagram zvinyorwa uye vasingateedzere account yake mumapoka.

"Ini ndinofunga vanhu vakafunga kuti paive nezinga rekutengesa," anodaro. "Ini ndinofunga vanhu vanozvibatanidza kune zvavanoda rudo kuti vataridzike, kunyangwe kana vasingazive zviri kunyatsoitika muhukama hwevanhu vese ava vavanoona kuburikidza nefoni yavo skrini kana mumakirasi. Saka ndinofunga paive nezinga yekutengesa uye tani yekuvenga chingochani. " (Yakabatana: Sangana neFOLX, iyo TeleHealth Platform Yakagadzirwa neQueer Vanhu veQueer Vanhu)

Budig anoti kurwiswa kwekusava nehanya kwepamhepo kwakaoma mudumbu - kwete nekuti ainetsekana kuti kudzikira kwaakaita pasocial media kwaizokanganisa sei basa rake, asi nekuti akanzwa kuti mhinduro yacho inomiririra homophobia yakadzika dzika uye inoshingirira, zvisinei nekuti kwave kufambira mberi kwakadii. yakaitwa mumiriri weLBBTQ. "Zvakanga zvisinganyanyi kunetseka pamusoro pebasa rangu uye kunyanya kunzwa kusuwa kukuru pamusoro pevanhu," anodaro. "Iko tsinhiro inosuruvarisa yekuti tiri papi setsika uye nekumuka kukuru."

Budig zvakare anoti kusatenda kusanzwisisika kubva kuvatsigiri hakunyatso kubatsira kana. “Vanhu havazivi kuti zvinorwadza sei kuti, ‘Handigoni kutenda kuti izvi zvichiri kuitika muna 2021 — homophobia haigoni kuramba iri chinhu chaicho!’” anodaro. "Zvakanaka kuti havana kumbosangana nazvo, asi vanhu munharaunda ye LGBTQ vanoramba vachizviwana nguva nenguva."

"Chikamu chakanaka [nezve kuvhurika nezve hutano hwangu] chave chekuti vanhu vazhinji vakandiudza kuti havazvinzwisise uye vanoda," anodaro.

Kathryn budig

Zvakadaro, Budig anoti kazhinji, iye naFagen vanga vaine "rombo rakanaka" maererano nezvavakasangana nazvo zvechingochani asi anobvuma kuti vaviri ava vanoita nhamburiko yekudzivisa nzvimbo nevanhu vasinganzwe vakachengeteka.

Kune rumwe rutivi rwakajeka rwekusagadzikana kwakagoverwa naBudig mukati mehukama hwake naFagan. "Chikamu chakanaka ndechekuti vanhu vazhinji vakandiudza kuti havazvinzwisise uye vanoda," anodaro. "Ndine kukoshesa kwakadzama kune vanhu vanoda kunzwisisa uye pamwe havana ruzivo rwakanyanya kunze kwenyika ine huremu uye havagone kuputira pfungwa dzavo pakurambana nemurume uye kudanana nemukadzi." Budig anoti kubuda pachena kwake kwakurudzirawo mamwe madzimai ane twunhu twakadai kuti vasvikewo. “Ndakanga ndine madzimai akawanda aiuya kwandiri nenyaya dzavo dzakada kufanana nedzavo avo vakatenda kuti ini ndabuda pachena,” anodaro. "Ini ndinotenda kuwanda kuri pachena kwatinogona kupa, vanhu vazhinji vanokwanisa kuona uye kuchengeteka." (Zvakabatana: Ini ndiri Mutema, Queer, uye Polyamorous: Sei Izvo Zvine Basa kune Vangu Vanachiremba?)

Sezvo Budig arikuramba achishanduka pachake uye nehunyanzvi (achangobva kutangisa yake yepamhepo yoga chikuva inonzi Haus yePhoenix), anofunga nezvekare uye neshungu tariro yeramangwana.

"Ndakanga ndisina nyaya inoshamisa ichibuda - yangu yanga yakanyanya kuda kuwira mukati," anodaro. "Ndinotenda kuti isu tose tiri chibereko chetsika dzemadzitateguru uye tinogona kusunungura kukosha kwekuparadzanisa uye kuisa mazita ehutano hwepabonde. Ndinoda kuti vanhu vasiye mitemo iyi yakasimba yekuti ndiani wavanoda. funga vari. "Dai vana vakarerwa vasina pfungwa yekuti" pink zvinoreva musikana "uye 'bhuruu zvinoreva mukomana,' taivapa rusununguko rwekuti vave vanhu."

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