10 Mibvunzo Chiremba Wako Anotya Kubvunza Iwe (uye Nei Uchida Mhinduro)

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Iwe unongovaona kamwe chete pagore kana iwe paunenge uchirwadziwa zvakanyanya, saka hazvishamise kuti une nguva yakaoma yekutaura nedhodhi rako. (Uye isu hatitombotaure nezve kusanzwisisika kwekuyedza kubvunza doc yako mubvunzo iwe uchipfeka pepa rinokudzwa! yavo varwere. Uye izvo zvinogona kukanganisa hutano hwako. (Psst! Usapotsa izvi 3 Mirairo yaChiremba Yaunofanirwa Kubvunza.)

Vatsvagiri kubva kuYunivhesiti yeCalifornia, San Diego vakawana kuti zviitiko zvevanhu zvehudiki zvinokanganisa zvakanyanya njodzi yavo yechirwere chemoyo, kufutisa, chirwere cheshuga, chirwere chepfungwa, uye mamwe matambudziko ehutano.Vakauya nemibvunzo yeAdverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) iyo yakabvunza vanhu mibvunzo gumi pamusoro pekushungurudzwa kwevana, kushandisa zvinodhaka, uye mhirizhonga mudzimba uye vakapa munhu wega zvibodzwa. Iyo yakakwira zvibodzwa, zvakanyanya mukana wekuti munhu atambure kubva kune dzakasiyana siyana dzehutano.

Kunyange vaongorori vakangwarira kutaura kuti bvunzo iyi haisi bhora rekristaro kune hutano hwako, vakawana kuwirirana kwakasimba zvakakwana, zvichiratidza kuti iyi bvunzo inofanirwa kuve chikamu chezviitiko zvese zvemuviri. Saka nei zvisiri izvo? "Vamwe vanachiremba vanofunga kuti mibvunzo yeACE inokuvadza," Vincent Felitti, MD, mumwe wevanotungamira vatsvaguriri vechirongwa ichi, akaudza NPR. "Vanonetsekana kuti kubvunza mibvunzo yakadai kuchaita kuti misodzi uye marwadzo adzoke ... manzwiro uye zviitiko zvakaoma kubata nazvo mukushanya kwakaomarara kwehofisi."

Nhau dzakanaka: Kutya uku hakuna kurongeka anodaro Jeff Brenner, MD, mubairo weMacArthur Fellows uye mutsigiri mukuru weACE. Vazhinji varwere havasi kushushikana, uye mamaki eESCE, Brenner akatsanangura, "ichiri chaiyo yekufungidzira yatakawana yekushandisa hutano, kushandiswa kwehutano; kuputa, kudhakwa, kushandisa zvinodhaka. zvehutano zvinotaura nezve nguva dzose. "

Meseji vatsvagiri vanoda kuti varwere navanachiremba vabvise: Rudzi rwemba yatakakurira mairi-uye zviitiko zvatakava nazvo sevana-zvakakosha kuhutano hwedu, saka tinofanirwa kutanga kuita idzi hurukuro. Kunyangwe kungoita kuti varwere vafunge nezvehutano hwavo nhasi maererano nekushungurudzika kwehuduku inhanho munzira kwayo. Saka pakuongorora kwachiremba wako unotevera, kana chiremba wako asingazviunzi, pamwe unofanira kudaro.

Unofarira chikamu chako cheACE? Tora mubvunzo:

1. Pamberi pekuzvarwa kwako kwegumi nemasere, mubereki kana mumwe munhu mukuru mumba kazhinji kana kazhinji…

- kukutuka, kukutuka, kukuisa pasi, kana kukunyadzisa?

KANA

- kuita nenzira yakaita kuti utye kuti ungakuvara mumuviri?

2. Pamberi pekuzvarwa kwako kwegumi nemasere, mubereki kana mumwe munhu mukuru mumba kazhinji kana kazhinji…

- kusunda, kubata, kurova mbama, kana kukanda chimwe chinhu kwauri?

KANA

- akambokurova zvekuti une mavanga kana kukuvara?

3. Usati wasvitsa makore gumi nemasere ekuzvarwa, pane munhu mukuru kana munhu ane makore mashanu okukura kupfuura zvawakamboita…

- kukubata kana kukubata kana kuti wakabata muviri wavo nenzira yepabonde?

KANA

- kuyedza kana kuita zvemukanwa, nekunobuda nako tsvina, kana kusvirana newe?

4. Usati wasvika makore gumi nemasere ekuberekwa, wakambonzwa here kana kuti kazhinji ...

- hapana mumhuri yako anokuda kana aifunga kuti wakakosha kana kuti wakakosha?

KANA

- mhuri yako yaisatarisirana, kunzwana pedyo nemumwe nemumwe, kana kutsigirana?

5. Usati wasvika makore gumi nemasere ekuberekwa, wakambonzwa here kana kuti kazhinji ...

- iwe hauna kuwana chakaringana kudya, waifanira kupfeka mbatya dzakasviba, uye wakashaya mumwe anokudzivirira?

KANA

- vabereki vako vaive vakanyanya kudhakwa kana kukwirira kuti vakuchengete kana kukuendesa kwachiremba kana uchizvida?

6. Usati wasvika makore gumi nemasere ekuberekwa, mubereki wekubereka akamborasikirwa newe here kuburikidza nekurambana, kuraswa, kana chimwe chikonzero?

7. Usati wasvika makore gumi nemasere ekuberekwa, vaive amai vako kana amai vokurera:

- kazhinji kana kazhinji kusundidzirwa, kubatwa, kurohwa mbama, kana chimwe chinhu chakakandirwa kwaari?

KANA

- dzimwe nguva, kazhinji, kana kazhinji kurohwa, kurumwa, kurohwa nechibhakera, kana kurohwa nechinhu chakaoma?

KANA

- wakamboramba uchirova kanenge maminetsi mashoma kana kutyisidzirwa nepfuti kana banga?

8. Usati wasvitsa makore gumi nemasere ekuberekwa, waigara nemunhu chero upi zvake ainetseka nokunwa kana kudhakwa, kana aishandisa zvinodhaka mumugwagwa?

9. Usati wasvika makore gumi nemasere ekuberekwa, nhengo yemumba yaive yakaora mwoyo kana kurwara nepfungwa, kana mumwe weimba akaedza kuzviuraya?

10. Usati wasvika makore gumi nemasere ekuberekwa, nhengo yemumba yakaenda kujeri here?

Pese pawapindura kuti "hongu", zvipe pfungwa imwe chete. Wedzera pamwe chete kuti uwane huwandu hwakazara kubva pazero kusvika pagumi. Iyo yakakwira mamaki ako, inowedzerawo hutano hwako njodzi - asi usavhunduka zvakadaro. Vatsvakurudzi vanowedzera kuti iyo quiz ingori pokutangira; haina hanya nechero kurapwa kwawakaita kana zviitiko zvakanaka zvehudiki zvauinazvo. Kuti uwane rumwe ruzivo nezve chaiwo njodzi, shanyira iyo ACE yekudzidzira saiti.

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