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Pakazobuda nhau uya wekuhwina Oscar Jennifer Lawrence anga adaidza kuti yapera naColdplay kumberi Chris Martin, hatingati takavhunduka zvachose. Iyo Mitambo yenzara nyeredzi, 24, anga achidanana nemuimbi ane makore 37 kubvira muna Chikumi, nguva pfupi mushure meye "kuziva uncoupling" kubva Gwyneth Paltrow, aimbova mudzimai wake wemakore gumi, mukupera kwaMarch.

Mumwe wemukati akadaro US Vhiki kuti chikonzero chekurambana kwaive nekuda kwe "kupenga" kwemaitiro avo emabasa, izvo zvakaita kuti hukama hwavo "hwedombo." Uye apo isu tichibvuma kuti vaviri vacho vaitaridzika kunge vasingabviri kubva pakutanga, isu takave netarisiro yakakura kumusikana anodikanwa uye mudiwa wake mutsva.

Asi ikozvino sezvo vaviri ava vari kaput, isu tinofanirwa kubvunza huchenjeri hwaLawrence hwekusangosarudza wekuroorana naye makore gumi nematatu ekukura, asi zvakare murume achangobva mukuroora kwenguva refu (ane vana). Takataura nenyanzvi mbiri dzehukama pane zvatinofanira kurangarira tese kana uchifambidzana nevakuru, uye/kana kurambana nguva pfupi yapfuura, varume.

1. Ziva kuti anogona kunge asina zvese pamwe chete. Chokwadi, kuri kuyedza kufunga kuti kufambidzana nemurume akura zvinoreva kuwedzera kukura uye kugadzikana nekutadza, asi ungangoda kumisazve zvaunotarisira-zera ingori nhamba, mushure mezvose. "Usafunge kuti akura zvakanyanya kana ane mhinduro dzese nekuti akura," anodaro April Beyer, nyanzvi yekufambidzana uye hukama.

2. Iva nehupenyu hwako. "Ndakaona vakadzi vazhinji vakabatwa mukufungidzira kwekuchengetwa, ndokuzononotsa nzira yavo yega ingadai yakavaunzira chivimbo nekusimba," anodaro Beyer. Ita shuwa kuti uri pavhu rakasimba uri wega, pamoyo uye nemari, kuti iwe ugone kumira nemakumbo ako maviri kana mubatanidzwa ukanyungudika.

3. Kudzoka chinhu chaicho. “Kana munhu achangobva kurambana kana kuti akaparadzana kubva mukuwadzana kwenguva refu, zvichatora nguva kugadzirisa kurasikirwa,” anotsanangura kudaro Kelly Campbell, Ph.D., mumwe purofesa wepfungwa paCalifornia State University, San Bernadino. Kana vakaenderera mberi nekukurumidza, vanogona kunge vasingawanikwe pamoyo kune anotevera mudiwa. Chimwe chiratidzo cheyambiro: kuramba kutaura nezve ake ekare-kana kunyanyisa kunetseka nezvazvo - inogona kunge iri mureza mutsvuku waasina kugadzirisa kupera kwemubatanidzwa. Izvo iwe zvaunoda kutsvaga ndeye kwazvakarerekera, toni yakajeka paanotaura nezvazvo, kuratidza kuti ane rugare.

4. Vana vake vanouya naye. "Unofanirwa kuziva kuti vana vake-uye vekare-vanozove chikamu chehupenyu hwako kana iwe ukazoguma naye," anodaro Campbell. Uye kana uchiri mumakore ako makumi maviri, unofanira kufunga kuti izvi zvinorevei kuva mubereki-wekurera. Sezvo makore iwayo achishandiswa zvakanyanya kuziva kuti ndiwe ani semunhu mukuru, kuunza vana mumusanganiswa usati wagadzirira kunogona kuperetera dambudziko.

5. Kutsvaga kumhanya? Zvitore. Munhu achangobva kuroora anogona kupa mufaro wakawanda kwenguva pfupi, anodaro Campbell. Uyezve, kana iwe uchangobva "kusangana" iwe pachako (saLawrence, uyo achangobva kuparadzana nemukomana wake wemakore matatu), iwe nemurume wako mutsva munogona kunzwisisana pamusoro pemanzwiro amuri kutarisana nawo, anowedzera. Vadyidzani vane zvakawanda zvakafanana vanowanzove vanofara, saka zvirinani iyi ingave imwe nzvimbo yekufanana.

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