Tiri Kurasikirwa neVasikana Vedu Here?

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• Ongororo ye

Pazuva chero ripi zvaro, vasikana vadiki [vane makore gumi nematanhatu- neane makore gumi nemasere] vanogona kuwanikwa vachirasa kudya kwemangwanani uye kwemasikati muimba yekugezera yechikoro. Icho chinhu cheboka: kufurirwa nevezera rako, mushonga mutsva wesarudzo. Ivo vanoenda muzvikwata zviviri kusvika gumi nembiri, vachichinjana mumatanga, vachidzidzisana kuburikidza nayo. . .

"Muboka rangu reshamwari, takapindwa muropa nefive-pound-less syndrome.' Pondo shanu shoma inogara iri nani nguva dzose. Ndinofanira kubvuma, ndakazviita zvese kuti ndirasikirwe nehuremu. Ndakatsanya kwemazuva gumi ndakatwasuka, ndakadhakwa [sic] pamushonga, ndakashanda maawa akawanda kupfuura kusadya, ndakadya lettuce pm kungozvikanda.Ndinoziva kuti ndiri kurwara, asi ndinochengeta zvizhinji zvezvinhu izvi zvakavanzika.Vaviri veshamwari dzangu vanoziva nekuti [avo] vanorwara futi. ...

"Ndinovenga kuzvitaura, asi musikana akasarudzika asina anorexic kana bulimic, muchikoro changu zvakadaro. Izvi zvakajairika. I am normal and my friends are normal. Isu tiri vakadzi vemangwana."

Zvawabva kuverenga ndezvemwana ane makore manomwe -- haana zita rinoratidza kuti ndiani; kwete "mudikani kana pachokwadi" kumisa huvepo hwake, hapana kero yekudzoka kukoka mhinduro. Tingadai takangokanda tsamba mumarara. Asi isu taizoitei nevamwe vese vakaita seizvi - zviuru zvemhinduro dzakauya apo patakadaidza vasikana vese vari pakati pemakore gumi nerimwe kusvika gumi nemanomwe kuti vapindure ongororo yedu yemufananidzo wemuviri?

Kune ese miedzo nematambudziko iwe neni tingave takatambura, nhasi kukwira kuburikidza nekuyaruka kuri kutonhora zvakanyanya. Nepo iwo maronda ekutsvaga mweya emuzhizha akapfuura iye zvino necyberblur pane iyo superhighway yeruzivo, mumwe anotevera-musuwo muvakidzani anogona kunge achingogadzira mabhomba kuseri kwegomba rebibique. Hongu isu pwere tinogona kushushikana nekuita bonde, asi vasikana vemazuva ano vanonetsekana nekufa nazvo. Uye kunyangwe hutsotsi husiri hutsva, takambogara mukirasi tichifunga kana mukomana wepadhesiki rinotevera aive nepfuti yakatakura pasi pebhurugwa rake?

Chekupedzisira, ino inguva apo vana vane makore mapfumbamwe ekuberekwa vanoverenga macalorie avo nekukurumidza kupfuura mari yavo, uye kusagadzikana kwekudya kuri kwese kwese kwese kwakaita kwaRevi. Nguva, zvakare, apo vamwe vechidiki, mukusashivirira kwavo kurwisa miviri yavanovenga, vanodarika zvipunu nemaforogo, vachienda chaiko nebanga. "Hapana anoda kutaura nezvekuzvicheka, asi vasikana vanozviita," anodaro Peggy Orenstein, munyori we Vasikana veChikoro: Vasikana Vechidiki, Kuzvishingisa uye Nzvimbo yekuvimba (Doubleday, 1994), uyo akawana kuti chimwe chezvidzidzo zvake zvegiredhi rechisere aizvikuvadza nemazenga uye maudziro emidzanga. "Ndiyo nzira yekuita kutsamwa kwako pamuviri wako. Ini ndave kunze kwekutonga."

Vasikana vadiki vese vaendepi? Panzvimbo pekukura semaruva ari kutumbuka, zvinoita sekunge vaburitswa kunze kwebindu rehudiki sekanoni pfuti. Sezvingatarisirwa, kana vangobhururuka, vanobhururuka kuti vadzivise mhirizhonga.

Gumi neshanu izera iro zvese zvaungaite kumirira hupenyu kuti huve nani apo munhu wese akakukomberedza haatombozama kunzwisisa kuti yakaipa sei.

-16, Michigan

Tichiziva nezvedambudziko riri kukura, isu paShape takabatana neasina purofiti Melpomene Institute muSt. Paul, Minnesota, inozivikanwa nekutsvagisa kwayo nezvevakadzi vanoita basa. Tose pamwe chete, takagadzira chidzidzo chingaferefeta mhango yehupenyu hwemusikana uko, kune vamwe, chimiro chemuviri chinotanga kuora uye kusvibisa kuzvitemba kuzere, nepo kune vamwe, chivimbo chemuviri nepfungwa chinoramba chakakwirira. Nei paine musiyano? Taida kuziva. Tinogona here kudzidza kudzikisira maitiro ekuparadza uye kudzivirira kumwe kunetseka pamusoro pechikafu uye huremu izvo isu sevakuru tinotambura nazvo? Mhinduro dzinenge mazana matatu nemazana masere nemwedzi yakati wandei yekuongorora mumashure, isu tine dzimwe mhinduro. Asi kutanga, ngatitorei wechidiki-ziso kuona iro rakakomberedza data.

Sangana naCory (kwete zita rake chairo), ane makore 16 okukura anobva mutaundi diki muMichigan-rudzi rwemusikana anomaka ongororo yake nechiso chinonyemwerera, ane mukomana, uye chokwadi, anoshungurudza laxatives. ("Vasikana vakawanda kupfuura vaungafunga kuti vari kuzviita," anodaro Cory parunhare. "Vakaipa zvikuru vanoonekwa. Vanhu vakaita seni, hapana anozviona.") Mukufunga kwake, matambudziko anotanga nevasikana vachiri kuyaruka nokuti, "Isu hatikwanise kuzvibvumira kuva zvatiri chaizvo, saka tinotanga kunzwa sekuti munhu watiri kuvanza hapana chaanokodzera.Pasina chinotiratidza kuti tiri kudiwa, tinenge tarasika.Uye kurasika inzvimbo inotyisa. kuva chero. saka chero chikonzero cheupenzi, tinosvika pakufunga kuti kuva akanaka, kuva akakwana, kuva mukutonga kunotipa izvo zvatiri kutsvaga. "

Vasikana vazhinji vane makore gumi nerimwe kana gumi nembiri vanotanga kunyararidza manzwi avo uye kurasikirwa neushingi-hushingi hwekutaura pfungwa dzako kubva pamoyo-zvichienderana nebasa rekupayona raAnnie G. Rogers, Ph.D., naCarol Gilligan, Ph.D ., uyo pamwe nevamwe paHarvard Project yeWomen's Psychology and Girls' Development vave nemakore makumi maviri vachidzidza vachiri kuyaruka. Panguva ino, vanodaro vatsvagiri, vechidiki vanowanzo enda "pasi pevhu" nepfungwa dzavo chaidzo nemanzwiro uye vanotanga kunwisa kutaura kwavo ne "handizive."

Iko hakuna kwakawanda kukurudzira kune vasikana vadiki. Hazvina kumboti, "Zvakanaka, unogona kuzviita." Zvinogara zvichinzi, "Rega mukoma wako azviite." Zvinouraya.

-18, New Jersey

Muna 1991, ongororo yakaipisisa yakaitwa neAmerican Association yeUniversity Women (AAUW) yakaratidza kuti kuzviremekedza kunodzikira zvakadii sevasikana pavanopfuura nepwere, kunyanya pakati pevachena neHispanics: 60 muzana yevasikana vepuraimari vakati ivo vaigara vari " ndinofara sezvandiri,” asi 29 muzana chete yevadzidzi vechikoro chesekondari yakashuma zvakafanana - kudonha kunoratidza mukaha unowedzera mukuvimba pakati pevarume nevakadzi, tichifunga kuti vakomana vakangodonha kubva pa67 muzana kusvika 46 muzana. Zvichakadaro, chidzidzo ichi chakaona zvakare kuti nepo varume vechidiki vachidana matarenda avo sezvavanonyanya kufarira ivo pachavo, vakadzi vanovakira kukosha kwavo pachitarisiko chemuviri.

"Takafunga patakatanga kuti zvinhu zvaizosiyana makore makumi maviri mushure meTitle IX, kodzero dzevanhu, uye nemazana mazhinji evakadzi vava kuzviita zvikoro zvekurapa nemitemo," anodaro Anne Bryant, director director weAAUW. "Asi kunyangwe vasikana nevakomana vachiwana mamakisi akafanana - vasikana vanogona kutoita zvirinani-iwo mameseji avari kuwana kubva kunzanga, magazini, TV, vezera nevakuru ndezvekuti kukosha kwavo kushoma uye kuti kukosha kwavo kwakasiyana nekwevarume vechidiki .

Mubvunzo: Ndezvipi zvinhu zvinoita kuti unzwe zvakanaka pamusoro pechitarisiko chako?

Mhinduro: Pandinomhanya mamaira mashanu uye ndinogona kusvetuka kudya kwemasikati.

Mubvunzo: Ndezvipi zvinhu zvinoita kuti unzwe wakashata pamusoro pechitarisiko chako?

A: Pandinenge ndisingaite maekisesaizi uye [ini] ndinodya.

-17, Washington

Zvirokwazvo, musikana wezvechiri kuyaruka zera anodzidza kuyera kukosha kwake pasikero-iyo yakadzika nhamba, iyo yepamusoro yaanowana. Uye nemakoriyori uye magiramu emafuta zvino akadhindwa pazvinhu zvakawanda zvegirosari, anodya chaizvo pamasvomhu ekubvisa muviri. National Institute of Mental Health inofungidzira kuti muzana muzana yevasikana vachiri kuyaruka vanoita anorexia nervosa uye vamwe vaviri muzana kusvika kumatatu muzana evakadzi vechidiki vanova bulimia. Asi iwo manhamba anotarisa kune akanyanya makiriniki mamiriro. kubva mumaakaundi ese, kudya zvisina tsarukano kwakapinda ingangoita yese yekudyira yechikoro chesekondari.

Catherine Steiner-Adair, Ed.D., mutungamiriri wezvedzidzo, kudzivirira uye kuparidzira paHarvard Eating Disorder Center itsva, anoona zvirwere zvekudya semapinduriro ekugadzirisa "adaptive" kune tsika inoedza musikana wechidiki, "Kurasikirwa mapaundi mashanu uye iwe" ndichanzwa zvirinani, "uku ndichimumanikidza kuti azviite nenzara mupfungwa kuti aenderere mberi.

Kubva paudiki, anotsanangura Steiner-Adair, mukadzi anodzidziswa kuvimba zvakanyanya pakugamuchirwa nemhinduro kubva kune vamwe uye kuumba hunhu hwake mukati mehukama hwehukama. Asi panguva yehudiki anotarisirwa kuchinjisa magiya mu "nzira yekuzvigadzirira", achizvimiririra zvachose kubva kuvanhu sevanhu vanoshamwaridzana kuve - kana achida kuwana kudzora nekukwira manera ebasa.

Mune kumwe kuongorora, Steiner-Adair akapatsanura vasikana makumi matatu nevaviri, vane makore gumi nemasere kusvika gumi nemasere, kuita mapoka maviri: Vakadzi Vakangwara vechidiki vanogona kuziva tsika nemagariro asi vachiramba vakatarisa kukosha kwehukama sezvavaitsvaga kuzvizadza nekugutsikana. Vasikana veSuper Woman vaiita sevanosanganisa kuonda nekuzvimiririra, budiriro uye kuzivikanwa kwekubudirira kwakazvimirira, vachiedza kuve chimwe chinhu chakanakisa - mutambi ane mukurumbira, akapfuma zvakanyanya, mutungamiri wekambani. Kunyange zvazvo vakawanda vevasikana vacho vainetseka pamusoro pouremu hwavo, Steiner-Adair akawana kuti vasikana veSuper Women chete ndivo vaiva pangozi yehosha dzekudya.

Wese munhu anondiudza sisi vangu vakuru akanaka - ane anorexic uye bulimic.

17-Kanadha

Zviripachena, havazi vese vane makore gumi nematatu-vane chirwere chekudya, ndoda zviratidzo zveBulimia Club, asi mufananidzo wekurutsa kukuru unoratidzika kunge unonyatsorondedzera post-X chizvarwa chevasikana vadiki vari kuchenesa kwavo mukati mekutenda uye kuvimba- uchibatirira, panzvimbo pacho, kumatavi asina kusimba echitarisiko mumukwidza unotyisa kukwikwidza kuva mukadzi. Kazhinji, matavi anotsemuka.

"Tinofanirwa kutenda kuti takakosha, kuti hatifanirwe kunge takakwana, kuti isu tinofanirwa kuve zvatiri," anodaro Cory. "Asi iwe unogona kunyora mudenga izvozvo uye zvakadaro usingaite kuti vanhu vanzwisise ...

Pakupedzisira, hapana mumwe wedu anogona kupidigura tsika ari ega, asi mhedzisiro yeongororo yemufananidzo wemuviri inoratidza kuti sevanhu, tinogona kuita shanduko diki dzinowedzera. Kunyangwe tikabatsira mumwe musikana kurangarira mazwi ake uye nekunzwa chivimbo nezvemuviri wake, izvo zvichave zvishoma kudzikira kubva kuchizvarwa chedu chinotevera.

Ini handina zano rekuti ndinoratidzika sei. Mamwe mazuva ini ndinomuka uye ndinonzwa kunge rakakura rebhuru. Dzimwe nguva ndinonzwa zvakanaka. Iri kunyanyisa kupfuura hupenyu hwangu, icho chemuviri-chifananidzo chinhu.

- Cory, 16

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