Iyo 'Yakazvarwa Nenzira Iyi' Rondedzero Inokanganisa Nekuve Queer

Zvemukati

• Nhoroondo Pfupi ye'Kuzvarwa Nenzira Iyi'
• Iyo Nharo (s) Kurwisa 'Akazvarwa Nenzira Ino'
• Saka… Vanhu Vanozvarwa Queer?
• Isu Tinoenda Kupi Kubva Pano?
• Ongororo ye

Simudza ruoko rwako kana iwe wakamboshevedzera, kuzunungusa, uye shimmied pamwe chete nemashoko ekufananidzira "Ndiri munzira yakarurama, mwana ndakazvarwa nenzira iyi." Matambudziko ruoko rwako rwakasimudzwa. Nekudaro, kunyangwe zvisizvo, ungangove unoziva chave chiri mhere mhere yehondo kweanoda kusvika hafu yezana: Akazvarwa nenzira iyi.

Sezvineiwo zviri nyore, sirogani iyi yakaparadzirwa nevanorwira kodzero dzengochani dzekuchinja kwemagariro, pamutemo, uye zvematongerwo enyika kuburikidza nerwiyo, zviratidzo, uye kutaura. Uye munzira dzakawanda, zvinobudirira kudaro - "akazvarwa nenzira iyi" yaive yakatanhamara tagline yesangano rekuenzana kwemuchato, shure kwezvose.

Nekudaro, chirevo hachina chisina kukanganisa. "Apo rondedzero yekuti 'akazvarwa nenzira iyi' inopfupika kuri mukushaikwa kwayo," anodaro Rae McDaniel, chipangamazano wekiriniki ane rezinesi uye murapi wezvepabonde anogara muChicago. Uye kushayikwa kwe nuance kunogona kunge kuri kubata vanhu vekumukira kuwedzera kusunungurwa.

Nhoroondo Pfupi ye'Kuzvarwa Nenzira Iyi'

Mutsara wekuti 'akazvarwa nenzira iyi' wakatanga kupinda muduramazwi remaqueer nekuburitswa kwemuimbi wevhangeri nemurwiri weAIDS, rwiyo rwa1977 rwaCarl Bean, "I Was Born This Way." Iine mazwi enziyo "Ndiri kufara, handina basa, uye ndiri ngochani, ndakazvarwa ndakadai," rwiyo urwu rwakava rwiyo rweGBBTQ + yenguva yaro. Gare gare, yakafemerawo Lady Gaga's 2011’Akazvarwa Nenzira Iyi," iyo yakabatsira kupinza sirogani nekufema kwemweya mutsva, ichiibvumira kuenderera semhere mhere yeruzhinji rwevanhu vequeer. uri.)

Pfungwa yenyaya ye "akazvarwa nenzira iyi" ndeyekuti vanhu vanonyengera vanofanirwa kodzero nekuti hunhu hwavo hunhu uye hunhu - saka kunyima mumwe munhu kodzero nekuda kwehunhu hwavo kupusa sekuvanyima kodzero nekuda kweruvara rwemaziso avo.

Chikamu chechikonzero chakabata, sekureva kwaJesse Kahn, L.C.S.W., C.S.T., director uye murapi wepabonde paGender & Zvepabonde Therapy Center muNYC, ndeyekuti zviri nyore kune vanhu vasiri-queer kuti vanzwisise, uye nekudaro vanonzwira tsitsi. Mune mamwe mazwi, kana iwe uri pasi chaipo genetically asingagone yekukwezvwa nevanhu vevanhukadzi vakasiyana kubva kune vako, saka, zvakanaka, iwe unofanirwa kodzero.

Pakutanga, vanhu vazhinji vehuremu vakagamuchirawo chirevo chekubata nekuti chiri kupesana zvakananga nerondedzero yechitendero yakajairika iyo inotaura kuti queerness isarudzo yemararamiro, anodaro Kahn. Pfungwa yekuti queerness isarudzo yakabatana nepfungwa yekuti queerness chivi - uye nekudaro, chivi icho mumwe munhu aigona kudzivirira, dai vaive nechido chidiki, anowedzera akazivikanwa murapi wepabonde uye queer munhu Casey Tanner, MA, LCPC, nyanzvi yekambani yezvigadzirwa zvemhando yepamusoro LELO. "Akazvarwa nenzira iyi anorwisana neizvi nekuramba pfungwa yekuti umhandara hune hukama nehukama, uye pachinzvimbo (kune vanhu vechitendero) kuti Mwari akatiita nenzira iyi," anodaro. Zvinonzwisisika, ichi chinyorwa chinofadza kune vanhu vequeer vanoona hupombwe hwavo sechikamu chekuzvarwa kwavo - kunyanya vanhu vequeer munharaunda dzezvitendero.

Iyo Nharo (s) Kurwisa 'Akazvarwa Nenzira Ino'

Nepo sirogani yaibatsira munhoroondo, mazuva ano, vazhinji LGBTQ + vanhu vanotenda kuti chirevo chekubata chinobata kufambira mberi kwenguva refu.

Kutanga, inopa mukana kune avo vanosangana nehupombwe hwavo kana kuti murume kana mukadzi sechinhu chakagadziriswa, chisingachinji, asi ichikanganisa avo vanoona hupombwe hwavo kana kuti murume kana mukadzi sezvinhu zvinoshanduka, zvinoyerera, zvinogara zvichishanduka. (Ona: Chii Chinonzi Kuita Zvepabonde?)

Dambudziko neizvi? "Hapana musiyano mukuvimbika kune mumwe munhu aiziva kuti vanonetseka pazera remakore mana uye munhu anobuda muma60," anodaro McDaniels. Uye zvinodzima chokwadi chekuti vanhu vazhinji havazive kuti ivo vanonyengera kwete nokuti ivo kwete queer… asi nekuti ivo vakakurira munzvimbo inochengetedza kana inorwisa-LGBTQ + nharaunda uko kutsvagurudzwa kwepabonde kana kwevanhukadzi kwaisazove kwakachengeteka, kana nekuti pakashaikwa mukana wekuwana dzidzo kana mutauro, vanodaro. (Unoda chiyeuchidzo chekuti pane mazwi mangani akasiyana ezvekusvirana nevakadzi? Tarisa: LGBTQ+ Glossary of Gender and Sexuality Definitions.)

Iyo "akazvarwa nenzira iyi" pfungwa zvakare inofuratira chokwadi chepabonde uye murume kana mukadzi anogona kushanduka nekufamba kwenguva. Kune vamwe, shanduko iyi inoitika nekuti mutauro wezvepabonde uye murume kana murume wakashanduka, anodaro Tanner. “Mutauro une chekuita nezvevakadzi nepabonde unoshanduka nekukurumidza, uchipidigura makore matatu ega ega, saka hazvifanire kushamisa kuti matauriro atinozviita anogona kukurumidza kushanduka pamwe nekufambira mberi ikoko,” anodaro. "Naizvozvo hazvishamise kuti vanhu vagamuchire mutauro unonzwanana neruzivo rwavo, uyezve vozowana rimwezve izwi rinowirirana," anodaro.

Kune vamwe, hunhu hwavo hwepabonde kana kuti murume kana mukadzi hunoshanduka huri nyore nekuti kuzivikanwa kwavo, kutaura, uye kukwezva zvakachinja nekufamba kwenguva. Chokwadi, tsvagiridzo inoratidza kuti kuita zvepabonde chinhu chinoshanduka uye chinokura kusvika pakukura, sekureva kweimwe ongororo ya2019 yevanhu vangangosvika zviuru gumi nezviviri yakaburitswa mu Zvinyorwa zveBonde Ongororo. (Verenga zvakare: Zvazvinoreva Kusanganisira "X" Mumashoko akadai seWomxn, Folx, uye Latinx)

Chimwe chikonzero nei vamwe LGBTQ + vanhu vari kupokana ne "vakazvarwa nenzira iyi" kutaura nekuti inochengeta kodzero dzepamutemo dzakasungirwa kune munhu bonde nehunhu (uye chinzvimbo chemuchato), pane kupa vanhu vese kodzero dzose. Chaizvoizvo, idiki isingasununguke kumira pane kuti "munhu wese anofanirwa kodzero dzakafanana."

Saka… Vanhu Vanozvarwa Queer?

Pakupedzisira, uyu ndiwo mubvunzo usiri iwo. Sei? Nekuti nepo mubvunzo wekuti "chii chinoita kuti mumwe munhu ambe?" chinhu chinonakidza, dambudziko nderekuti, uyu mubvunzo unongobvunzwa nezve zvitupa zvakatumidzwa pasi peiyo LGBTQ + chirevo uye usambofa nezve hupombwe. Ndiwo mubvunzo unofungidzira kuti kuita bonde ndizvo zvakajairika, uye kuti chero humwe hupombwe chikanganiso chakakonzerwa nehunhu (DNA) kana kurera (kurera vabereki, tsika dzakatenderedza, kurerwa kwechitendero, nezvimwewo) kukanganisa. Mune mamwe mazwi, uyu mubvunzo unoita rakasviba basa reheteronormativity, iri zano rekuti munhu wega wega (uye anofanirwa kunge ari) ngochani uye cisgender (kana chirevo chako chechikadzi chichienderana nehunhu hwawakapihwa pakuzvarwa).

Kujekesa: Izvi hazvireve kuti queerness haisi yekuzvarwa - kune vanhu vazhinji ndizvo zvakanyanya.Asi, chinangwa apa ndechekutsvaga kuti sei kuramba tichishandisa "akazvarwa nenzira iyi" sekuchema kuungana kunotarisa zvakanyanya kuti sei vanhu vekumukira vakakodzera kodzero (nekuti isu takazvarwa nenzira iyi!) Uye hazvina kukwana kuti vanhu vese vachawana kodzero (chaizvo, nezuro).

Isu Tinoenda Kupi Kubva Pano?

Kunyangwe iwe uri queer iwe pachako, kana wakakomberedzwa nevanhu variko, zvakakosha kuti urangarire kuti queerness yakasarudzika zvakasiyana. Sekutaura kwaTanner, "hapana imwe nzira yekutaridzika, kuzviita, kumbundira hunhu hwepabonde, kubuda saiye, kana kusanganisa humambo." Uye nekuratidza kuti vanhu vese vekumusoro vanowana hunhu hwavo sedangwe, vanozvarwa nenzira iyi rondedzero inopindira pachokwadi ichocho.

Izvi zvinoreva here kuti isu tinofanirwa kumanikidza kumbomira paupombwe hwaLady Gaga? Aihwa! Zvisinei, izvozvo zvinoita zvinoreva kuti vabatsiri vechokwadi vanofanirwa kushandura kure nekururamisa sei nharaunda yeLGBTQ inokodzera kodzero, uye vanofarira kutiwana kodzero idzodzo. (Ona: Maitiro Ekuva Mubatsiri Wechokwadi uye Anobatsira)

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