Varume vanotiudza zvavanoshuvira kuti vamwe varume vazive nezve hutano hwepfungwa

Zvemukati

• 1. Sosaiti inotaurira varume kuti hazvigamuchirwe kuva nemanzwiro akawandisa.
• 2. Pane zvikonzero zvakawanda zvinoita kuti varume vasatsvage rubatsiro, kunyangwe vachiruda.
• 3. Dzimwe nguva, kunyangwe iwe uchiziva kuti unoda rubatsiro, zvinogona kuva zvakaoma kuziva kwekutangira.
• 4. Uye kunyangwe kutsvaga murapi kwakaoma uye kungangotora kumwe kuyedza uye kukanganisa, pakupedzisira kunokosha.
• 5. Uyezve, "kuwana rubatsiro" kunogona kutora nzira dzakawanda.
• 6. Vanhu kazhinji vanonzwa kurerukirwa mushure mekuzivisa vamwe zvavari kusangana nazvo.
• 7. Nyaya dzehutano hwepfungwa dzakajairika zvakanyanya kupfuura zvaunogona kufunga, asi nekutaura, vamwe varume vari kuedza kusimudzira ruzivo.
• 8. Nyaya dzehutano hwepfungwa dzinogona kunetsa kunyatsonzwisisa kana usati wambozvionera wega.
• 9. Chokwadi chekuti vanhu vane mukurumbira vanoita sevanonyanya kugadzikana kutaura nezve hutano hwavo hwepfungwa zvinokurudzirawo, dzimwe nguva kunyangwe kuisa zvinosetsa pane kuti kurarama nehurwere hwepfungwa kwakamira sei.
• 10. Majee ese padivi, nyanzvi mune ino ndima vane tariro yekutarisira.

Tsika yedu haigare ichisiya nzvimbo yekuti varume vataure kutambudzika kwemukati. Varume ava vari kuedza kuchinja izvo.

Kune chero munhu anorarama nematambudziko ehutano hwepfungwa, kutaura nezvazvo nemumwe munhu - ndoda chiremba wepfungwa - zvinogona kutyisa uye kuoma. Kutyisidzira.

Kune varume kunyanya, avo vakaudzwa hupenyu hwavo hwese ku "murume kumusoro" uye "kuva nesimba," kuwana zviwanikwa zvehutano hwepfungwa zvinogona kuratidzika kunge zvinopesana nezvinotarisirwa mutsika.

Asi pamusoro pemakore akati wandei apfuura, kwave nekukura kwechisimba uye kufarira kwakakomberedza nyaya yehutano hwepfungwa dzechirume, pamwe nekutenda kune avo vari mune vezvenhau vanoona avo vanga vachitaura nezvavanosangana nazvo.

Zvakakosha kutaura uye kurwisa kushorwa. Hezvino izvo izvo nyanzvi dzehutano hwepfungwa, vanozivikanwa, uye varume vari kugadzirisa nyaya dzavo dzehutano hwepfungwa vanoda kuti vamwe vazive, kusanganisira zvazviri kuve nekuongororwa kwehutano hwepfungwa, mabvunzire rubatsiro, uye nezvavanofunga ramangwana rehutano hwepfungwa hwevarume fanana.

1. Sosaiti inotaurira varume kuti hazvigamuchirwe kuva nemanzwiro akawandisa.

"Varume vanodzidziswa kubva vachiri vadiki, kungava kunongedzera patsika kana kuvaraira, kuva vanhu vakaoma, vasingacheme, uye 'kupaza," anodaro Dr. David Plans, CEO weBioBeats, uyo akaita zvakanyanya tsvagisisa munzvimbo ino. “Tinodzidzisa masoja nevarwi vane hunyanzvi, tobva tatarisira kuti vave nehungwaru hwemweya zvekuti vanozobuda pachena pavanenge vachida rubatsiro. Zvakaipisisa, isu tinovatarisira * never * kuda rubatsiro. "Tinofanirwa kuunza kushomeka, semusimboti wekusimba kwemanzwiro, muchimiro chehurume."

Chaizvoizvo, nyanzvi dzinoti, meseji dzinogamuchirwa nevarume sevana uye zvichikwira kuburikidza nekukura dzinovaodza moyo kubva pakuzivisa chero munhu kuti anoda rubatsiro. Kunyangwe nekutenda, izvi zviri kutanga kuchinja.

2. Pane zvikonzero zvakawanda zvinoita kuti varume vasatsvage rubatsiro, kunyangwe vachiruda.

"Zvinogona kuva zvakaoma kwazvo kubvuma kuti uri kunetseka semurume," Alex MacLellan, murapi uye mudzidzisi wekushushikana, anoudza Healthline. "Zvine musoro, iwe unoziva kuti munhu wese anodzika pasi, ane dambudziko nguva nenguva, kana anoona zvichinetsa kutsungirira, asi kazhinji zvinonzwa kunge ndiwe wega munhu asingaratidzike kuzvibata. Unorara wakasvinura usiku wega, uchishamisika kuti sei usingakwanise kuva mukutonga sezvawaifanira kuita uye uchiedza kwazvo kusarega chero munhu upi zvake achiona zvauri kuita chaizvo. "

3. Dzimwe nguva, kunyangwe iwe uchiziva kuti unoda rubatsiro, zvinogona kuva zvakaoma kuziva kwekutangira.

"Ndakasangana nevarume vazhinji vasingade kukumbira rubatsiro nekuti vanotya kutaridzika kunge vasina simba kana mapenzi," anodaro Timothy Wenger, murume wehutano hwepfungwa uye blogger kuThe Man Effect.

“Ichi chinhu chandiri kushanda nesimba kuti ndichinje. Ini ndinoda kuti varume vazive kuti kunetsana kwavo kwemukati kwakangofanana nechero kumwe kurwisana, uye izvi hazvivaite vashoma semurume. Zvandiri kuwana, zvakadaro, varume vazhinji havazive kukumbira rubatsiro. "

4. Uye kunyangwe kutsvaga murapi kwakaoma uye kungangotora kumwe kuyedza uye kukanganisa, pakupedzisira kunokosha.

"Semwana chete uye mwanakomana wemupi wezano ane hunyanzvi, iwe ungafunga kutsvaga kurapwa kungave kuri nyore," anodaro A.D. Burks, munyori we "The 4 STEPS: A Practical Guide to Breaking the Addictive Cycle."

“Zvisinei, zvakange zvakapesana chete! Ndakafunga kuti, ‘Murapi achandiudzei zvandisingatozive?’ Mushure mekukurudzirwa kubva kushamwari dzangu dzepedyo, ndakafunga kuronga nguva yangu yekutanga. Nehurombo, iye murapi chaiye anga asina kukodzera - asati asimbisa mupfungwa dzangu kuti ndaizviziva zvese. Asi, ini ndaive ndichiri kunetseka nekudhakwa. Nekutenda, chipangamazano wangu akandidenha kuti ndishanyire mumwe murapi. Kushanya kwangu kwekutanga kuna chiremba uya kwakachinja hupenyu hwangu uye pakupedzisira kwakandibatsira kugadzira 4 STEPS. ”

5. Uyezve, "kuwana rubatsiro" kunogona kutora nzira dzakawanda.

"Zvakanaka kucherechedza kuti 'kukumbira rubatsiro' haisi basa rinorema nguva dzose, rakaoma," anodaro Matt Mahalo, munyori uye mutauri uyo akabata nezvekutambudzika kwake kwehutano hwepfungwa.

"Dzimwe nguva, chimwe chinhu chakareruka senge maawa mashoma ekutambisa nyaya dzekudzosa uye matipi paYouTube zvinogona kukwana kuti utange munzira yekudzoka. Dzimwe nguva zvinongotora rwendo rwakareruka kuenda kuraibhurari. Semuenzaniso, nhanho yangu yekutanga yekumberi yakaitika ndichiverenga 'Unyanzvi hweMufaro.' ”

6. Vanhu kazhinji vanonzwa kurerukirwa mushure mekuzivisa vamwe zvavari kusangana nazvo.

Izvi zvinosanganisira muimbi Zayn Malik, uyo achangobuda pachena pamusoro pezviitiko zvake nekushushikana uye nedambudziko rekudya.

"Ndiri kunyatsofara kuti ndakazvibvisa pachipfuva changu, sezvo chero munhu ari paunonzwa sekunge uri kuchengeta chimwe chinhu kubva kune mumwe munhu. Iwe unofanirwa kutaura nezvazvo uye kujekesa mhepo, "akadaro Us Weekly mubvunzurudzo.

7. Nyaya dzehutano hwepfungwa dzakajairika zvakanyanya kupfuura zvaunogona kufunga, asi nekutaura, vamwe varume vari kuedza kusimudzira ruzivo.

"Ini ndinogona kukuudza, ini pamwe ndakave neinenge hafu yegumi nemaviri yekuora mwoyo kwandakaita. Uye uya muna 2014, ndakanga ndisingade kuve mupenyu, "Michael Phelps akaudza TODAY.

Tichifunga kuti 1 muvanhu vashanu vekuUS vanowana hutano hwepfungwa mune chero gore rakapihwa, zvakakosha kuti nyaya idzi dzive dzakajairika - uye ndizvo chaizvo zvakaita kuti Phelps aite pfungwa yekugovana ruzivo rwake nevamwe.

“Unoziva, kwandiri, ini ndakangotakura chete nezvese zvakashata manzwiro iwe aunogona kutakura pamwe chete kwemakore gumi nemashanu kusvika makumi maviri uye handina kumbotaura nezvazvo. Uye handizive kuti nei rimwe zuva ndakafunga kungovhura. Asi kubva musi iwoyo, zvave kungove nyore kwazvo kurarama uye zviri nyore kwazvo kunakidzwa nehupenyu uye chinhu chandino tenda kwazvo, "akadaro Phelps.

8. Nyaya dzehutano hwepfungwa dzinogona kunetsa kunyatsonzwisisa kana usati wambozvionera wega.

Mune rwiyo rwake "Mune Ropa Rangu," pop nyeredzi Shawn Mendes anotarisana nezvaakasangana nazvo nekushushikana, achiimba, "Ndibatsireiwo, zvinoita sekunge madziro ari kupinda mukati. Dzimwe nguva ndinonzwa kuda kurega."

Kutaura naBeats 1 nezve rwiyo urwu, akati, "Chaive chinhu chechimwe chinhu chakandirova mukati megore rapfuura. Izvi zvisati zvaitika, ndichikura, ndaive mwana akadzikama, akatsiga kwazvo. ”

Akacherechedzawo kuti zvinogona kuve zvakaoma kuti unzwisise izvo vanhu vari kurarama nekushushikana vari kusangana nazvo kusvika iwe uchizviwana iwe pachako. "Ini ndaiziva vanhu avo vakatambura nekushushikana uye ndikazviwana zvakaita senge zvakaoma kunzwisisa, asi zvino pazvinokurova, wakaita senge," Ah Mwari wangu, chii ichi? Uku kupenga, ’akadaro.

9. Chokwadi chekuti vanhu vane mukurumbira vanoita sevanonyanya kugadzikana kutaura nezve hutano hwavo hwepfungwa zvinokurudzirawo, dzimwe nguva kunyangwe kuisa zvinosetsa pane kuti kurarama nehurwere hwepfungwa kwakamira sei.

Muna 2017, Pete Davidson weMugovera Night Live akavhura nezve zvakaitika kwaari nekusingaperi kushushikana uye kwake kwazvino kuongororwa kweanonzi borderline hunhu kusagadzikana.

“Kushungurudzika kunokanganisa vanhu vanodarika mamiriyoni gumi nematanhatu munyika ino uye hapana mushonga wega, asi kune chero munhu arikubata, pane mishonga inogona kubatsira. Chekutanga pane zvese, kana iwe uchifunga kuti wakaora mwoyo, ona chiremba uye utaure navo nezvemushonga. Uye zvakare uve noutano. Kudya zvakanaka uye kurovedza muviri kunogona kuita musiyano mukuru, ”Davidson akakurudzira.

Akaenderera mberi nekunyemwerera: "Pakupedzisira, kana iwe uri muchiratidziro chemanheru-ehusiku husiku, zvinogona kubatsira kana ivo, iwe uchiziva, vakaita zvakawanda zvemitambo yako yemakomiki."

10. Majee ese padivi, nyanzvi mune ino ndima vane tariro yekutarisira.

"Sezvo varume vazhinji (kunyanya avo vari paziso reruzhinji) vachitaura pamusoro pekutambura kwavo uye ruzivo nehutano hwepfungwa, vamwe varume vanogona kuona kuti kurwa kuri kwechokwadi uye hausi wega," anodaro Adam Gonzalez, PhD, chiremba ane chiremba wepfungwa uye wekutanga director weMind-Muviri Clinical Research Center kuStony Brook Medicine.

"Tinogona kuramba tichiparadzira kuzivisa nekugadzirisa chokwadi chekuti zvinogona kuve zvakaoma kudzora kushushikana uye zvinodiwa zvezuva nezuva," anodaro.

"Zvakanyanya kukosha, tinofanirwa kuenderera mberi nekuburitsa meseji yetariro," anodaro Gonzalez. "Kune kurapa kwakanaka kwepfungwa uye mishonga inogona kubatsira kugadzirisa kushushikana, kushushikana, kushushikana, uye zvimwe zvinetso zvehutano hwepfungwa."

Julia aimbova mupepeti wemagazini akazova munyori wezvehutano uye "mudzidzisi pakurovedza." Kubva kuAmsterdam, iye mabhasikoro zuva rega rega uye anofamba achitenderera pasirese achitsvaga akaomeswa ziya ziya zvikamu uye akanakisa emuriwo mari.