Kuzvarwa Mune Denda: Maitiro Ekutarisana Nezvirambidzo uye Kuwana Rutsigiro

Zvemukati

• Varwere vane nhumbu vanoda rutsigiro
• Zvinhu zviri kuchinja, asi iwe hauna simba
• Funga dzimwe nzira dzekuwana rutsigiro
• Iva netarisiro dzinochinja-chinja
• Kutaurirana nevanopa
• Ita hukama nevanamukoti
• Iva wakagadzirira kuzvirwira pachako
• Rangarira kuti marongero aya ari kukuchengetedza iwe nemwana makachengeteka
• Usatya kukumbira rubatsiro

Sezvo COVID-19 kuputika kunononoka, zvipatara zveU.S. Zviri kuisa kushomeka kwevashanyi mumawadhi ekubereka. Vakadzi vane nhumbu kwese kwese vari kuzvishingisa.

Masisitimu ezvehutano ari kuyedza kudzora kutapurirana kweiyo coronavirus nyowani nekudzora vashanyi vasina basa, kunyangwe vanhu vachitsigira vari kwakakosha kuhutano hwemukadzi uye kugara zvakanaka panguva uye nekukurumidza achangozvara.

Zvipatara zveNewYork-Presbyterian zvakamiswa zvishoma zvese vashanyi, zvichitungamira vamwe vakadzi kunetseka kana kurambidza kutsigira vanhu panguva yebasa nekuzvara ichave tsika yakapararira.

Neraki munaKurume 28, Gavhuna weNew York Andrew Cuomo akasaina chirevo chepamusoro chinoda kuti zvipatara zvepasi rese zvibvumidze mukadzi kuti ave neumwe wake aripo munzvimbo yekubatira neyekusununguka.

Kunyangwe izvi zvichisimbisa vakadzi veNew York vane izvozvi izvozvi, mamwe matunhu haasati aita vimbiso imwechete. Kune vakadzi vane wavanofambidzana naye, doula, nevamwe vanoronga kumutsigira, zvisarudzo zvakaoma zvinogona kuda kutorwa.

Varwere vane nhumbu vanoda rutsigiro

Munguva yebasa rangu rekutanga uye pakusununguka, ndakanyengererwa nekuda kwepreeclampsia, dambudziko repamuviri rinogona kuuraya rinowanikwa neBP.

Nemhaka yekuti ndaive nechirwere chepreeclampsia chakakomba, vanachiremba vangu vakandipa mushonga unonzi magnesium sulfate panguva yekusununguka kwangu uye kwemaawa makumi maviri nemana mushure mekuzvarwa kwemwanasikana wangu. Mushonga uyu wakandisiya ndichinetseka zvakanyanya uye ndine groggy.

Ndichinzwa kutorwara kare, ndakapedza nguva yakareba chaizvo ndichimanikidza mwanasikana wangu kupinda munyika uye ndakanga ndisiri mundangariro kuti ndiite chero sarudzo yangu. Neraki, murume wangu aive aripo pamwe nemureri ane moyo munyoro.

Kubatana kwandakaita nemukoti iyeye kwakava nyasha dzangu dzinoponesa. Akadzoka kuzondishanyira pazuva rake rekuzorora apo chiremba wandakanga ndisati ndambosangana naye achigadzirira kundiburitsa, kunyangwe ndaive ndichiri kunzwa kurwara zvakanyanya.

Mukoti akanditarisa kamwe ndokuti, "Ah kwete, mudiwa, hausi kuenda kumba nhasi." Akabva atsvaga chiremba ndokuvaudza kuti vandichengete muchipatara.

Mukati meawa imwe izvi zvaitika, ndakadonha ndichiyedza kushandisa imba yekugezera. Kuongorora kwakakosha kwakaratidza kuti BP yangu yakanga yakwirirazve, zvichikonzera kumwe kutenderera kwemagnesium sulfate. Ini ndinorumbidza mukoti uyo akandimiririra pachangu nekundiponesa kubva kune chimwe chinhu chakanyanya kushata.

Kununurwa kwangu kwechipiri kwaisanganisira imwe mamiriro ezvinhu akaipisisa. Ini ndaive nepamuviri pe monochorionic / diamniotic (mono / di) mapatya, rudzi rwemapatya akafanana anogovera placenta asi kwete amniotic sac.

Pangu 32-vhiki ye ultrasound, takaona kuti Mucheche A akange apfuura uye Mwana B anga ari panjodzi yezvinetso zvine chekuita nekufa kwemapatya ake. Pandakapinda mukushanda mumavhiki makumi matatu nemaviri nemazuva mashanu, ndakaendesa kuburikidza nechimbichimbi C-chikamu. Vanachiremba vakatadza kundiratidza mwanakomana wangu asati aendeswa kuchipatara kwakanyanya.

Pandakasangana nachiremba wemwanakomana wangu, anotonhora, zvaive pachena kuti aisanzwira tsitsi mamiriro edu akaoma. Akatsigira pfungwa yakatarwa yekuchengeta vacheche: ita zvakanakira mwana zvisinei nemafungiro nezvido zvemumwe munhu mumhuri. Akazviburitsa pachena patakamuudza kuti tanga tichironga kufomesa-kudya mwanakomana wedu.

Izvo zvaive zvisina basa kuna chiremba kuti ini ndaida kutanga kutora mushonga unodiwa kune itsvo mamiriro ayo anorambidzwa kuyamwisa, kana kuti handina kumbobvira ndagadzira mukaka mushure mekuzvarwa kwemwanasikana wangu. Neonatologist akagara mukamuri yangu yemuchipatara ini ndichiri kubuda muanesthesia uye akandituka, achindiudza kuti mwanakomana wangu asara anga ari munjodzi huru kana tikamupa fomyula.

Akaramba achienderera kunyangwe hazvo ini ndaichema pachena uye ndichimukumbira kakawanda kuti amire. Kunyangwe ndichikumbira nguva yekufunga uye kuti aende, aisazo. Murume wangu aifanira kupindira omukumbira kuti aende. Ipapo ndipo paakazosiya kamuri rangu muhumhu.

Kunyange ini ndichinzwisisa kunetseka kwachiremba kuti mukaka wemuzamu unopa zvinovaka muviri zvinodiwa uye kudzivirira kweve preemie vacheche, kuyamwisa kungadai kwakanonotsa kugona kwangu kubata yangu itsvo nyaya. Hatigone kupa vacheche isu tichiregeredza amai - vese varwere vanofanirwa kutarisirwa nekufungidzirwa.

Dai murume wangu asipo, ndinonzwa kunzwa kuti chiremba angadai akasara zvisinei nekuratidzira kwangu. Dai akasara, handitombodi kufunga nezve maitikiro aangave akaita pahutano hwangu hwepfungwa nemuviri.

Kutuka kwake kwakandiisira pamusoro pemucheto kusvika mukusimudzira kusununguka kwekusununguka uye kushungurudzika. Dai akandikurudzira kuti ndiyedze kuyamwisa, ndingadai ndakarega mushonga waidiwa kugadzirisa chirwere cheitsvo kwenguva refu, icho chingadai chakave nemhedzisiro kwandiri.

Nyaya dzangu hadzisi dzekunze; vakadzi vazhinji vanosangana nematambudziko ekuberekwa. Kuva nemumwe wako, nhengo yemhuri, kana doula aripo panguva yekusununguka kupa nyaradzo uye nekukurudzira hutano hwaamai uye kugara zvakanaka kunogona kazhinji kudzivirira kushungurudzika kusiri madikanwa uye kuita kuti basa rifambe zvakanaka.

Nehurombo, iyo iripo paruzhinji dambudziko rematambudziko rakakonzerwa neCOVID-19 inogona kuita izvi kusagoneka kune vamwe. Kunyangwe zvakadaro, pane nzira dzekuona kuti amai vane rutsigiro rwavanoda kana vari pabasa.

Zvinhu zviri kuchinja, asi iwe hauna simba

Ndataura kuna vanamai vanotarisira uye nyanzvi yezvehutano hwepfungwa kuti uone kuti ungazvigadzirira sei kugara muchipatara izvo zvinogona kutaridzika zvakanyanya zvakasiyana nezvawanga uchitarisira nekuda. Aya matipi anogona kukubatsira kugadzirira:

Funga dzimwe nzira dzekuwana rutsigiro

Kunyange iwe ungave uri kuronga kuve nemurume wako naamai vako kana shamwari yako yepamwoyo newe paunenge uchishanda, ziva kuti zvipatara kutenderera nyika zvakachinja marongero avo uye kudzora vashanyi.

Sekutaura kwaamai vanotarisira Jennie Rice, “Isu tave kungobvumidzwa munhu mumwe chete akatsigira mukamuri. Chipatara chinotendera vashanu zvakajairika. Kuwedzera vana, mhuri uye shamwari havabvumidzwe muchipatara. Ndiri kunetsekana kuti chipatara chinochinjazve ganhuriro uye handichabvumidzwa munhu iyeye anonditsigira, murume wangu, muimba yekubatira neni. ”

Cara Koslow, MS, chipangamazano ane rezinesi kubva kuScranton, Pennsylvania, uyo anozivikanwa muhutano hwepfungwa, anoti, "Ndinokurudzira vakadzi kuti vafunge dzimwe nzira dzekutsigira basa nekusununguka. Rutsigiro rwechokwadi uye musangano wevhidhiyo inogona kunge iri dzimwe nzira dzakanaka. Kuva nenhengo dzemhuri kunyora tsamba kana kukupa zviyeuchidzo zvekuenda nazvo kuchipatara ingangove imwe nzira yekukubatsira kuti unzwe uri padyo navo panguva yekusununguka kana kusununguka. ”

Iva netarisiro dzinochinja-chinja

Koslow anoti kana iwe uchinetseka nekuzvidya moyo pamusoro pekuzvara muchiedza che COVID-19 uye nemitemo inoshanduka, zvinogona kubatsira kufunga kuburikidza nezviitiko zvishoma zvevashandi vasati vaberekwa. Kufunga nezvenzira dzakasiyana dzakasiyana ruzivo rwako rwekuzvarwa rungatambe zvinogona kukubatsira kumisikidza zvinotarisirwa zvezuva guru.

Nezvese zvinhu zvachinja zvakanyanya parizvino, Koslow anoti, "Usatarise zvakanyanya, 'Izvi ndizvo chaizvo zvandiri kuda kuti zviitike,' asi tarisa zvakanyanya pane, 'Izvi ndizvo zvandinoda.'"

Kurega kuenda kune zvimwe zvaunoda usati wazvarwa kunogona kubatsira kudzora zvaunotarisira. Izvi zvinoreva kuti ungatofanira kusiya iyo pfungwa yekuve nemumwe wako, wekuzvarwa mutori mifananidzo, uye shamwari yako sechikamu chekutakura kwako. Nekudaro, iwe unogona kuisa pamberi peumwe wako kuona kuzvarwa uri munhu uye kubatana kune vamwe kuburikidza nevhidhiyo kufona.

Kutaurirana nevanopa

Chikamu chekugadzirira kugara uchiziva nezve ako marongero epamutemo emupi. Amai vane pamuviri Jennie Rice vanga vachifonera chipatara chavo mazuva ese kuti vagare vachiziva pane chero shanduko dzinoitwa muchikamu chekuzvitakura. Mune iyo inokurumidza kuchinja mamiriro ekuchengetedza hutano, mahofisi mazhinji nezvipatara zvave zvichichinja maitiro nekukurumidza. Kutaurirana nehofisi yechiremba wako uye chipatara chako zvinogona kubatsira zvaunotarisira kuti zvirambe zviripo.

Uyezve, kuva nehurukuro yakavhurika uye yakatendeseka nachiremba wako kunogona kubatsira. Nepo chiremba wako angave asina mhinduro dzese mune ino nguva isina kumboitika, kutaura chero kunetsekana kwaungave uine pamusoro pechinogona kuita shanduko system yako isati yakubvumidza iwe nguva yekutaurirana usati wabara.

Ita hukama nevanamukoti

Koslow anoti kutsvaga kubatana nemushandi wako uye wekusununguka kwakakosha zvikuru kuvakadzi vachange vachisununguka munguva yeCOVID-19. Koslow anoti, "Vanamukoti vari pamberi chaizvo mukamuri yekutakura uye vanogona kubatsira kutsigira amai vanoshanda."

Chiitiko changu chaicho chinotsigira chirevo chaKoslow. Kuita kubatana nebasa rangu uye mukoti wekutakura zvakandidzivirira kubva mukudonha kuburikidza nekutsemuka kwenzvimbo yangu yechipatara.

Kugadzira kubatana kwakanaka, mukoti wezvevashandi uye wekusununguka Jillian S. anoratidza kuti amai vanoshanda vanogona kubatsira kukurudzira kubatana nekuisa kuvimba kwavo nemukoti wavo. “Rega mukoti [ini] akubatsire. Vhura izvo zvandiri kutaura. Teerera kune zvandiri kutaura. Ita zvandiri kukumbira. ”

Iva wakagadzirira kuzvirwira pachako

Koslow zvakare anoratidza kuti vanamai kuti vagare vakasununguka kuzvimiririra ivo pachavo. Nevanhu vashoma varipo kutsigira amai vatsva, iwe unofanirwa kuve wakagadzirira uye kugona kutaura zvaunonetseka.

Sekureva kwaKoslow, "Vakadzi vazhinji vanonzwa sekuti havakwanise kuve mumiriri wavo. Vanachiremba navanamukoti vari mumamiriro emagetsi mumabasa uye pakusununguka sezvo vachiona kuzvarwa mazuva ese. Vakadzi havazive zvavanotarisira uye havazive kuti vane mvumo yekutaura, asi vanoziva. Kunyangwe iwe usinga nzwe senge uri kunzwikwa, ramba uchitaura uye uchitaura zvaunoda kusvikira wanzwikwa. Vhiri rinotsvedza rinowana mafuta. ”

Rangarira kuti marongero aya ari kukuchengetedza iwe nemwana makachengeteka

Vamwe amai vanotarisira vanowana zororo mushanduko nyowani. Seizvo amai vanotarisira Michele M. vanoti, "Ndiri kufara ivo havasi kuzotendera wese munhu kupinda muzvipatara zvakapihwa kuti havazi vese vari kuteedzera nhungamiro yekupararira munharaunda zvakanaka. Zvinoita kuti ndinzwe ndakachengeteka pakuenda pakusununguka. ”

Kunzwa sekunge urikushanda kuchengetedza hutano hwako uye hutano hwemwana wako nekuteerera mitemo kunogona kukubatsira kuti unzwe kudzora mune ino isina chokwadi nguva.

Usatya kukumbira rubatsiro

Kana iwe ukazviwana iwe uchiwedzera kana kusingadzoreki kunetseka kana kutya usati waberekwa nekuda kwe COVID-19, zvakanaka kukumbira rubatsiro. Koslow anokurudzira kutaura nachiremba kuti akubatsire kugadzirisa kushushikana kwako. Iye anonongedzera nenzira kwayo kutsvaga murapi akasimbiswa kwehutano hwepeninatal hwepfungwa.

Vakadzi vane nhumbu vanotsvaga rutsigiro rwakawedzera vanogona kutendeukira kuPostpartum Support International kune runyorwa rwevarapi vane ruzivo muhutano hwepfungwa nehumwe hutano.

Aya mamiriro anokurumidza kuchinja. Koslow anoti, "Izvozvi, isu tinongofanirwa kutora zvinhu zuva nezuva. "Tinofanirwa kurangarira izvo zvatinogona kutonga izvozvi uye titarise izvo."

Jenna Fletcher munyori akazvimiririra uye musiki wezvinyorwa. Anonyora zvakanyanya nezve hutano uye hutano, kurera vabereki, uye mararamiro. Muhupenyu hwapfuura, Jenna akashanda semudzidzisi akasarudzika, Pilates uye murayiridzi weboka rekusimba, uye mudzidzisi wekutamba. Ane bachelor's degree kubva kuMuhlenberg College.