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Maniac arikupopota arikupopotera zvinyadzi pamharadzano, kunyangwe aine vana vake pachigaro chekumashure. Mukadzi anocheka pamberi pako mumutsara uye, kana iwe ukatarisana naye, anokuudza kuti ubate bhagi.

Vanhu vazhinji, zvinoita, havasi kutya kusunungura mazuva ano, kunyangwe vachiburitsa kutsamwa kwavo kune vakakodzera vatorwa, vavanoshamwaridzana navo kana vashamwaridzani vavanoshanda navo. Nhau dzakanaka dzevakadzi ndedzekuti isu takazosunungurwa kubva kumatambudziko emakore apfuura kuti tifanane nemadzimai (verenga: hapana kushevedzera) uye tiri kutaura kumusoro, zvine mutsindo uye zvakajeka. Asi mune ino positi grrrl-simba nguva, tiri kuwana chero kupi nekuratidzira kutsamwa kwedu?

Izvo zvinoenderana. "Kusadzorwa hasha inzira isingabatsiri kuti vakadzi vawane zvavanoda muhupenyu, "anodaro Susan Heitler, Ph.D., chiremba wezvepfungwa muDenver uye munyori we Simba reZviviri (Nyowani Harbinger, 1997). "Hasha dzisina kufanira dzinopomba vanhu kuti vanzwe vane simba, uye kutaura zvazviri vari kupa simba rakasimba pavanenge vachiita nehasha. Asi zvakanakisisa vachakunda muhondo uye vacharasikirwa nehondo."

Kunyange zvazvo kutsamwa kunowana vakadzi vakawanda zvavanoda munguva pfupi, mukufamba kwenguva kunosimudzira kusaremekedza uye kutsamwa. Heitler, uyo akashanda nevaroorani vari kuyedza kugadzirisa nyaya dzewanano uye akaburitsa vhidhiyo inonzi "The Angry Couple," akawana maitiro anowanzoitika pakati pevatengi. “Mukadzi wacho anopopota zvisina kufanira, murume obva abuda,” anodaro Heitler.

Kazhinji, anotsanangura kudaro Heitler, vakadzi vanotevedzera muenzaniso waamai vavo wekuzvidzora -- kutozosvikira vasisagone kuzvibata, vobva vaputika.

Iyo 4-nhanho mhinduro

Panzvimbo pokurega hasha dzichikukunda, chienzanise muchiito. Inotevera nguva iwe paunobviswa, shandisa hasha mukona yako. Semuenzaniso, unogona kutsamwira mumwe wako nekudzokera kuTV uchangodya kudya kwawakagadzira. Usati wataura wega (kana iye), "Iye Neanderthal asina hanya uyo anofunga kuti ndinofanira kumumirira," edza matanho aya:

1. Tarisa hasha sechiratidzo chekumira. "Tinogona kushatirwa sechiedza chegirini chekuita nekukurumidza," anodaro Heitler. Kumhanya kunoita moyo wako, pfungwa dzako dzinowedzera zvishoma nezvishoma zvidimbu pamwe chete - haugone kufunga zvakajeka. Mira uye upe yako yenguva yekufunga nguva yekubata nemanzwiro.

2. Wana ruzivo uye nzwisiso. Edza kufungisisa zviri kuitika. Pamwe ari kutevera muenzaniso wababa vake uye haasati afunga nezveimwe nzira.

3. Ongorora, Chii chandiri kuda? "Zvibvunze kuti chii chiri kukudya. Shandisa mhinduro kugadzira mhinduro ine musoro. Pamwe chaunoda ndechekuti akutende nekudya, kana kusuka ndiro, kana kuti iwe uzviite pamwe chete.

4. Tsvaga nzira inobudirira uye inokudzwa yekuiwana. Paunenge iwe waziva zvaunoda, simudza musoro wenyaya mune yako yakajairwa, yakasununguka toni yezwi.

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