Ndeupi musiyano uripo pakati pekunzwa nekuteerera?

Zvemukati

• Kutsanangura kunzwa vs. kuteerera
• Zvinorevei kuve anoteerera kana anoteerera?
• Ungaita sei zviri nani anoteerera anoteerera
• 1. Iva nechido chekuziva
• 2. Bvunza mibvunzo yakanaka
• 3. Usamhanyira kukurukura nekukurumidza
• 4. Zvisimbise pachinhu uye usatsauswa
• 5. Regedza kugadzira nyaya
• 6. Usaite dhiri hombe kubva mukukanganisa
• Iwe uri mutereri akaita sei?
• Kutora

Mhedziso

Wakambonzwa mumwe munhu achiti: "Unogona kunge uchindinzwa, asi hausi kunditeerera"?

Kana iwe uchiziva chirevo ichocho, pane mukana wakanaka kuti iwe uzive chinhu kana zviviri nezve musiyano uripo pakati pekunzwa nekuteerera.

Kunyangwe kunzwa nekuteerera kungaite senge vanoshandira chinangwa chimwe chete, mutsauko uripo pakati pezviviri wakakosha. Tichaenda pamusoro pemimwe misiyano yakakosha, uye tichagovana matipi ekuti ungavandudza sei hunyanzvi hwako hwekuteerera.

Kutsanangura kunzwa vs. kuteerera

Tsananguro yekunzwa ine chekuita nezvemuviri chiitiko chekunzwa mhere pane zvainoita nekuita zvine musoro nekubatana nemunhu ari kutaura newe.

Merriam-Webster inotsanangura kunzwa se "maitiro, mashandiro, kana simba rekuona kurira; kunyanya: pfungwa chaiyo inogamuchirwa nemheremhere uye manzwi sechinhu chinokurudzira. ”

Kuteerera, kune rumwe rutivi, kunoreva “kuterera kurira; kunzwa chimwe chinhu nekutarisisa kufunga; uye kufunga. ”

Clinical psychologist Kevin Gilliland, PsyD, anoti mutsauko pakati pezviviri husiku nemasikati.

"Kunzwa kwakafanana nekuunganidza data," anotsanangura kudaro.

Chiito chekunzwa chiri nyore uye chakakosha. Kuteerera, kune rumwe rutivi, kune mativi matatu. "Vanhu vanoita zvakanaka pabasa, kana muwanano kana hushamwari, ndivo vakasimbisa kugona kwavo kuteerera," anodaro Gilliland.

Zvinorevei kuve anoteerera kana anoteerera?

Kana zvasvika padudziro yekuteerera, tinogona kuiputsa nhanho imwe kumberi. Munyika yekutaurirana, pane mazwi maviri anowanzoshandiswa nenyanzvi: kuteerera uye kungoteerera.

Kunyatsoteerera kuteerera kunogona kupfupiswa mune rimwe izwi: kuda kuziva. United States Institute of Peace inorondedzera kunyatsoteerera senzira "yekuteerera uye kupindura mumwe munhu zvinovandudza kunzwisisana."

Mune mamwe mazwi, iyi ndiyo nzira yaunoda kuteerera kana iwe uchitsvaga kunzwisisa mumwe munhu kana iwe uchitsvaga mhinduro.

Pano pakatarisana nemagumo enzvimbo yekuteerera kuteerera kungoteerera.

Muteereri anongoteerera, sekureva kwaGilliland, muteereri asiri kuyedza kubatsira mukukurukurirana - kunyanya kubasa kana kuchikoro. Haisi nzira yakanaka yekutaurirana nevanhu. Ndosaka Gilliland achiti usashandise nemumwe wako kana vana sezvo ivo vachizozviona nekukurumidza.

Ungaita sei zviri nani anoteerera anoteerera

Zvino zvaunoziva musiyano uripo pakati pekuteerera nekuteerera, unogona kufarira kudzidza maitiro ekuvandudza hunyanzvi hwako hwekuteerera.

Gilliland inogovera matipi matanhatu anoshanda aunogona kushandisa kusimudzira hunyanzvi hwako hwekuteerera.

1. Iva nechido chekuziva

Muteereri anoshingaira anofarira zvechokwadi uye anoda kunzwisisa zviri kutaurwa. Paunenge uchidzidzira kuteerera kushingaira, iwe unofarira kuteerera kune izvo mumwe munhu ari kutaura, pane kuumba mhinduro yako.

2. Bvunza mibvunzo yakanaka

Izvi zvinogona kuve zano rinonyengera, kunyanya kana iwe usingazive kuti tsananguro yemubvunzo wakanaka chii. Nezvinangwa zvekuteerera zvinonzwika, iwe unoda kudzivirira kubvunza hongu / kwete mhando yemibvunzo, iyo yakavharwa-yakapera.

Pane kudaro, tarisa pamibvunzo inokoka vanhu kuti vatsanangure. Kumbira rumwe ruzivo uye kujekeswa. "Patinoteerera, manzwiro anobatanidzwa, uye tinonyatsoda ruzivo rwakawanda sezvinobvira kana tichida kufambisa zvinhu kumberi" anotsanangura Gilliland.

3. Usamhanyira kukurukura nekukurumidza

Kutaurirana hakufanirwe kunge kuri pachimhanyisa kumhanya. Paunenge uchitaura nemumwe munhu, funga kurerutsa munhaurwa. "Tinowanzozopedzisira taita nharo kana tichiedza kumhanyisa, uye hapana kumhanyisa kana tichifanira kuteerera," anodaro Gilliland.

4. Zvisimbise pachinhu uye usatsauswa

"Paunenge uchiedza kuve nerudzi rwekukurukurirana uko kuteerera kwakakosha, usaenda munzira dzetsuro," anodaro Gilliland. Mune mamwe mazwi, dzivisa kukanda misoro isina hukama kana kutuka kuti utsause kubva pachinhu chiripo, kunyanya kana chiri chakaoma.

Kuti udzivise kuita izvi, Gilliland anokurudzira kuti iwe urege hanya neruzha uye uzvisimbise kune iwe chikonzero chawatanga hurukuro kusvika yapera.

5. Regedza kugadzira nyaya

Wakambove uri mukutaurirana nemumwe munhu kwaunonzwa kuti yakawanda ruzivo iriko?

Nehurombo, kana isu tisina ruzivo rwese, Gilliland anodaro, tinowanzo zadza izvo zvisipo. Uye kana tichidaro, tinogara tichizviita nenzira isina kunaka. Ndosaka achiti regedza kuzviita uye dzokera kubvunza mibvunzo yakanaka.

6. Usaite dhiri hombe kubva mukukanganisa

Kana iwe uri wakanaka pakubvuma kukanganisa, ichi chinofanirwa kuve chiri nyore nyore zano kwauri. Zvisinei, kana kuudza mumwe munhu kuti wakanganisa inzvimbo yaunotambura nayo, kuteerera kushingaira kunogona kukuomera.

Panzvimbo pekudyarwa zvakanyanya kuti uve akarurama, edza kubvuma kana iwe wakanganisa. Gilliland anoti zviri nyore se "Yangu yakaipa, ini ndakanga ndisina kururama nezvazvo. Ndine hurombo."

Iwe uri mutereri akaita sei?

Shamwari dzako dzepedyo uye mhuri vanokuziva iwe zvakanyanya. Saka, kana iwe uchida kuziva nezve mhando yemuteereri iwe yauri, bvunza mumwe munhu ari padyo newe. Gilliland inokurudzira kuvabvunza iwo marudzi erudzi rwekukanganisa iwe iwe paunovateerera.

Anoti zvakare kuvabvunza mibvunzo nezve nzvimbo dzaunogona kuwana zvirinani. Kana uyu ari munhu waunopedza nguva yakawanda uine, iwe unogona kuvabvunza kana paine zvimwe zvidzidzo kana misoro yaunoratidzika kunge uri kutambura zvakanyanya nayo.

Mune mamwe mazwi, vabvunze kana paine dzimwe hurukuro kana misoro yaunotadza kudzidzira hunyanzvi hwekuteerera.

Kutora

Kuteerera kwakasimba hunyanzvi hwehupenyu hwese hunogona kukushandira zvakanaka muhukama hwako neshamwari, mhuri, uye vashandi pamwe navo. Zvese zvinotora kuedza kushoma, moyo murefu, uye kuda kuvapo nemumwe munhu, uye kunyatsofarira mune zvavanotaura.