Kusavimbika: Inyaya Yezvakasikwa vs Kurera?

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Kana isu tichitenda ese anotyisa stats kunze uko, kubiridzira kunoitika ... zvakanyanya. Huwandu chaihwo hwevadikani vasina kutendeka hwakaoma kudonhedza pasi (ndiani anoda kubvuma kune tsvina?), Asi fungidziro yehukama hwakakanganiswa nekubiridzira kazhinji inotenderera 50 muzana. Yikes ...

Asi pane kuita nharo pamusoro pekuti vangani vedu vanobiridzira, mubvunzo chaiwo ndouyu sei tinozviita. Zvinoenderana nezvidzidzo zviviri zvakaburitswa gore rino, tinogona kunge tine zvese zviri zviviri biology yedu uye marererwo atakaita mhosva yekusavimbika kwedu. (BTW, heino Uropi Hwako Pa: Mwoyo Wakaputsika.)

Zvisikwa

Zvinoenderana netsvagiridzo yakapihwa neASAP Sayenzi, mukana wekuti mumwe wako abire unogona kutariswa neDNA yavo. Kusatendeka kunosanganisira maviri akasiyana maitiro ehuropi. Yekutanga ine chekuita neyako dopamine receptors. Dopamine ihomoni yekunzwa-kunaka inoburitswa kana ukaita chimwe chinhu chinonakidza, sekurova kirasi yako yaunofarira yoga, kurova chikafu chinonaka chemashure-wekuita basa uye-iwe wakafungidzira-ine orgasm.

Vatsvagiri vakawana shanduko muiyo dopamine receptor inoita kuti vamwe vanhu vawedzere kuita zvine njodzi maitiro, sekubiridzira. Avo vaive nemisiyano mirefu yakati rebei vakataura kubiridzira makumi mashanu ezviuru zvenguva, nepo chete 22 muzana yevanhu vane misi mipfupi yakamira kusvika pakusatendeka. Chaizvoizvo, kana iwe uchinyanya kunetseka kune aya mafaro maurotransmitter, iwe unowanzo mukana wekutsvaga mufaro kuburikidza nenjodzi maitiro. Pindai kunze kwehukama.

Chimwe chinokonzeresa chebhayoloji kuseri kweziso rinodzungaira remumwe wako mazinga avo evasopressin-iyo hormone inoraira mazinga edu ekuvimba, kunzwira tsitsi, uye kugona kwedu kuumba hutano hwehukama hwemagariro. Sekureva kwevaongorori, kuva nemasikirwo akasarudzika evasopressin zvinoreva izvo zvinhu zvitatu zvinodonha: Iwe haugone kuvimba nemumwe wako, haugone kunzwira tsitsi mumwe wako, uye haugone kuumba hutano hwakanaka. chisungo icho hukama-hwakasimba hukama hwakavakirwa pairi. Iyo yakadzika yako vasopressin mazinga, iko kusatendeka kuri kuita.

Kurera

Vatsvakurudzi veTexas Tech University vakaona kuti kunze kwebiology yedu, zvakawanda zvinokurudzira kusatendeseka zvine chekuita nevabereki vedu. Mukudzidza kwavo kwevechidiki vangangoita mazana matatu, vakaona kuti avo vaive nevabereki vakabiridzira vaive nemukana wakapetwa kaviri wekuzvibiridzira.

Sekureva kwemunyori wekudzidza Dana Weiser, Ph.D., izvi ndezvekuti maonero edu ekutanga nezvehukama akaumbwa sei neayo atinoziva kwazvo: evabereki vedu. "Vabereki vanobiridzira vanogona kutaurira vana vavo kuti kusavimbika kunogamuchirwa uye kuti kuroora mukadzi mumwe chete hakusi kutarisira chaiko," anodaro. "Zvatinotenda uye zvatinotarisira zvino zvinoita basa mukutsanangura maitiro edu chaiwo."

Ndezvipi Zvimwe Zvinonyanya Kukosha?

Saka ndechipi chiri chifananidzo chiri nani cheziso rinotenderera: Yedu uropi chemistry kana iwo maitiro ekutanga? Maererano naWeiser, ichokwadi combo. "Kune mazhinji maitiro epabonde, genetics uye zvinokanganisa zvakatipoteredza zvinoshanda pamwechete kubatsira kutsanangura maitiro edu," anodaro. "Haisi nyaya yeimwe kana imwe asi kuti masimba aya anoshanda akabatana sei." (Uye kunyangwe chingave chinyararire, takaona kuti Kubiridzira Kunotaridzika Sei.)

Nemasimba ese ari maviri ari kutirwisa kana zvasvika pakutsvaga wekuroorana naye akatendeka, zvinoreva here kuti tapererwa zvachose? Kwete! “Ukama hwakasimba ndiyo imwe yenzira dzakanakisisa dzokuderedza mukana wokubiridzira,” anodaro Weiser. "Kuva nematanho akavhurika ekutaurirana, kugadzira nguva yakanaka, uye kubvumidza kutaurirana kwechokwadi pamusoro pekugutsikana pabonde kunogona kubatsira kusimbisa hukama hwedu hwehukama uye kutibvumidza kutaurirana kusagutsikana kwatinako muhukama hwedu."

Chinonyanya kukosha: Kemisitiri yehuropi uye kuratidzwa kwemaitiro ekutanga ndizvo chete vafanotaura yekusavimbika. Tingave kana kwete isu tinotapurika zvakanyanya, isu tichiri vanokwanisa chose kuita zvedu sarudzo dzakadzidziswa. Chengetedza nhaurirano yekubiridzira yakavhurika uye sarudza zvinoshanda nezvisingaite iwe nemumwe wako.

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