Chengetedza Kubhowekana Kunze Kwemubhedhuru

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Pakutanga kwehukama hwenyu, pakanga pane magetsi, chido, uye zvepabonde-zuva nezuva, kana kwete neawa! Makore gare gare, idambudziko kuyeuka nguva yekupedzisira iwe pawakanga usina kupfeka pamwe chete. (China chapfuura-kana kumirira, wanga uri mwedzi wapfuura here?) Hazvishamisi kana iwe usingayeuki: Vakawanda vakaroorana vakazvipira havasi kupisa mapepa sezvavaimboita, kazhinji nokuti vakadzi vakarasikirwa nechido. Mune kumwe kuongorora kunosanganisira vakadzi vanoda kusvika 1 000, vatsvakurudzi vakawana kuti 65 muzana yevaya vari muukama hwegore kana kuti pasi vakataura kuti vaida kuita zvepabonde kakawanda, zvichienzaniswa ne26 muzana chete yevakadzi vakanga varoorana kwemakore matatu. Kunze kwekutora hupenyu hwako hwerudo, kushayikwa kwekufarira bonde inhau dzakaipa kune hutano hwako. "Ongororo dzakawanda dzinoratidza kuti vanhu vane hupenyu hwekuita bonde vane hutachiona hwemwoyo hushoma, vanowedzera simba, uye immune system yakasimba," anodaro Beverly Whipple, Ph.D., muongorori wezvepabonde muVorhees, New Jersey, uye munyori wekubatana Sayenzi yeOrgasm. Heano zvitanhatu-zvechokwadi zvikonzero chishuwo chako chebonde chingave chakadzikira, uye izvo zviri nyore kufamba zvinokubatsira kuti udzokere mukubatana neako wepamoyo divi.

"I'm too stressed."

Matenga-ekukwirisa matanho anogona kukanganisa rudo. "Kushushikana kunosimudza kugadzirwa kwehomoni dzekurwa-kana-ndege senge cortisol, iyo inomisa mhinduro yekuzorora inodiwa pamatanho ekutanga ekumuka," anodaro Myrtle Wilhite, MD, muongorori wehutano hwepabonde muMadison, Wisconsin. Kuti uderedze mahormone ekushushikana, dzvanya maminetsi angangoita 30 ekurovedza muviri pazuva-uye kana zvichibvira, ronga maekisesaizi ako pedyo nenguva yaunoronga kuita yakachinjika. Vatsvagiri paUniversity yeBritish Columbia vakaona kuti vakadzi vakanyanya kumutswa kubva pakuona firimu inokanganisa pavakange vamboita kwemaminitsi makumi maviri zvisati zvaitika. "Kunyange kufamba nekukurumidza kunogona kukubatsira kuti ubatidzwe nekukurumidza nekuwedzera kuyerera kweropa, izvo zvinowedzera kunzwa," Wilhite anotsanangura. Bhonasi: Kuita zvepabonde chinhu chikuru chekushushikana mupfungwa zvakare. "Uchanzwa wakasununguka kana waita rudo nekuti orgasms inowedzera mazinga ehomoni inodzikamisa oxytocin, iyo inozorodza, yekurara kunzwa," anodaro Anita Clayton, MD, purofesa mudhipatimendi repfungwa uye neurobehavioral science pachikoro. Yunivhesiti yeVirginia uye munyori we Kugutsikana: Vakadzi, Bonde, uye Kutsvaga Kwehukama hwepedyo.

"Ndabhowekana nebonde. Ndoda kuona bhaisikopo rakanaka."

Zvishoma zvinhu zvinogona kuvandudza chishuwo chako, zvakanaka, chishuwo zvinobudirira pane kuziva kuti une mhedziso yakaoma pamberi pako. Kugadzira ma orgasm akasimba uye anowedzera kunakidza ndechimwe chezvakanakira kugara uchirovedza pasi pechiuno, chipfuramabwe chemhasuru chinotsigira dundira, urethra, uye mukadzi. (Ndidzo tsandanyama dzakafanana dzinokubvumira kuti umise kuyerera kweweti pakati pemvura.) Imwe ongororo yakaitwa muJournal of Clinical Psychiatry yakawana kuti vakadzi vane uriri hwepelvic husina kusimba vaisanyanya kuva nemheremhere pane avo vane simba. Heino nzira yekupa mamhasuru aya, ayo anopera simba zvishoma nezvishoma nezera, kurovedza muviri, kunowanzozivikanwa seKegels: Fungidzira pasi pechiuno chako serifiti inokwira nendege ina, nhanho yepamusoro ichive chiuno chako. Simudza uye svina kukwira kune yega yega gorosi, wakabata sekondi pane imwe neimwe "mira". Zvino dzika zvakare, huriri humwechete panguva. Kuti uwane mhedzisiro yepamusoro, dzokorora gumi kaviri kana katatu pazuva.

Kuti uwedzere kumutsiridza chido, funga kunze kweimba yekurara. Edza kutorazve hutsva hwemazuva ako ekutanga ekufambidzana nekuita chimwe chinhu chakasiyana pamwe chete. Mabasa akanakisa ndeaya anoita kuti adrenaline yako ipombi, senge kutasva chinotenderera, kudzidza kusevha, kana kunyange kutarisa chiitiko chakazara-zvinonakidza. "Kusangana nekumhanya-mhanya uku kunoita kuti uwedzere hukama hwako pabonde," anodaro Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., purofesa wekutsvagisa paYunivhesiti yeMichigan.

> "Foreplay yake inoda basa. Ini handimbobatidzwa."

Kungo pinda pasi pezvivharo kunogona kukodzera kuve foreplay kwake, asi vakadzi vazhinji vanoda yakawanda yekudziya-kumusoro. Chinangwa chako? Kuti uwanezve chishuwo chawakanzwa pawakatanga kuonana. Rega tarisiro ivake nekunyomba kwekudya panguva yekudya kana kutamba kwechinyakare. "Ita kuti ubate mumwe wako kazhinji, kunyangwe uchimupuruzira nepaseji kana kutamba uchimurova gumbo," anopa zano Lana Holstein, MD, murapi wezvebonde anomhanyisa chirongwa chevakaroora kuMiraval Spa muTucson, Arizona. Paunenge iwe uri mubhedhuru, ongorora kupfuura zvakajairika mafaro mapoinzi. "Kukurudzirwa kwenzeve nemutsipa zvinogona kumutsa zvikuru," anodaro Whipple. Edza nemhando dzakasiyana dzekubata zvakare, senge kukwenya uye masaja.

"Ndakawedzera uremu nguva pfupi yadarika uye handinzwe senge seksikarudzi."

Zvakajairika kufunga kuti iwe hausi unodikanwa kana iwe uchitakura mashoma ekuwedzera mapaundi. Asi zvitende kana kwete, mumwe wako anogona kunge asina kuona. Izvo zvinonyanya kukosha ndezvekuti iwe unorangarira iwe unokwezva, anodaro Orbuch. Edza maitiro ake ekusimudzira kuzvikoshesa pese paunotarisa mugirazi: Ziva hunhu hushanu hwemuviri hwaunoda, zvisinei nekuti hudiki sei. Unoda mhuru dzako dzakaumbwa? Akakomborerwa ane chiuno chakakombama? Kuchengeta hunhu uhu mundangariro kunowedzera muviri wako chivimbo- "Saka ko kana ndikakwira saizi? Ndine shama dzinoshamisa" -uye kukubatsira kuti unzwe wakasununguka muganda rako (risina kupfeka).

"Takabatikana."

Muzera rino rekurera teki-timu uye maawa makumi matanhatu ekushanda-vhiki, zviri kuramba zvichinetsa kuramba wakabatana. Asi ongororo ichangobva kuitwa kubva kuYunivhesiti yeArizona inoratidza kuti vanhu vakaroorana vanochiva zvakanyanya panguva dzekufambidzana kukuru kwepamoyo. Imwe nzira yekutanga kubatanidza ndeyekubvisa TV mukamuri yekurara: Vakaroorana vasina ivo vanoita zvepabonde kaviri kakawanda kupfuura avo vanavo, maererano nekuongorora kweItaly. Shandisa yako pre-snooze nguva yekutaura pane kudaro, rinopa zano mupurofesa weYunivhesiti yeMinnesota Paul Rosenblatt, Ph.D., munyori we Vaviri Mumubhedha. "Kana vanhu vari kutaurirana, vanobatana zvakanyanya, izvo zvinogona kuzopedzisira zvaita bonde," anotsanangura kudaro. Iwe unofanirwa zvakare kuedza kutiza kashoma pagore, kunyangwe iwe ukangoba uchienda kuhotera iri muguta rako chairo. "Kana iwe uchinge wakasununguka uye uine nguva yekusununguka, unenge uchiita bonde zvakanyanya," anotsanangura Alice Domar, Ph.D., chiremba wezvepfungwa paBeth Israel Deaconness Medical Center muBoston.

>"Haaite seanopinda."

Varume havasi ivo vanofanirwa kufunga nezve bonde, senge, ese mashanu masekondi? Saka nei zvichiita sekunge ari kugara achitarisa e-mail kana kuona TV pane kukukwezvera iwe mubhedhuru? Zvinetso zviri muhofisi kana kunetseka pamusoro pemari yako zvinogona kukanganisa bonde rake, anodaro Holstein. "Varume kazhinji havagovane zviri kuvanetsa, saka unogona kutotadza kuziva kuti chimwe chinhu hachina kumira zvakanaka," anotsanangura. "Asi kana achichengeta zvinhu kubva kwauri, anogona kunzwa kure kure pamoyo nepanyama." Bvunza mibvunzo kuti aite kuti avhure; kutaura nezvekunetsekana kwake kuchamubatsira kuona kuti haafanire kunetseka-kugadzirisa zvese ari ega. Imwe tsananguro yekudzikiswa kwake libido: Kana iwe wanga uchiramba kufambira mberi kwake munguva pfupi yapfuura, anogona kushushikana. "Hapana munhu anoda kurambwa achidzokororwa," anodaro Holstein. "Mushure mechinguva anoona kuti haufariri, uye anorega kuedza kakawanda." Kana mumwe wako achikurudzira bonde iwe usiri pachiri, usamurambe zvine chokwadi kwete. Panzvimbo iyoyo, bvunza cheki inonaya uye uone nguva ingangodaro iri nani kwauri-sekumuka kwehafu yeawa nguva yapfuura yekumutsa pakati-pe-machira musangano usati washanda.

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