Chii 'Rudo Bofu' Chingakudzidzisa Iwe Nezvewe Hwako Hukama IRL

Zvemukati

• 1. Kubatana kwepamoyo kwakakosha ... asi ndizvo zvinoita kukwezva kwemuviri.
• 2. Bonde chikamu chakakosha chehukama hwepabonde.
• 3. Kuvimbika kumberi GARA ndiyo nzira yokuenda nayo.
• 4. Tinogadzira nyaya dzedu dzakawanda muhukama.
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Ngatitaurei kuva vakatendeseka, zvirinani zviratidziro zveTV zvinotidzidzisa chii kwete kuita muhupenyu hwedu. Zviri nyore kugara mumapjama akapfava ane jira mask, uchiona mumwe munhu achigumburwa nehurukuro uye kufunga, 'Handingambodaro'. Asi, muchokwadi, chokwadi TV inovandudzwa, petri-dhishi vhezheni yehupenyu hwedu. (Uye zvinogona kuita kuti unzwe kunzwira vamwe tsitsi.)

Inogadzirwa here? Ehe. Icho chichiri chaicho uye chinodzokororwa? Ehe. Zvikasadaro, taisaiona.

Tinozviona isu pachedu, shamwari dzedu, mhuri, uye vatinoshanda navo muvanhu kana mavara ari paTV skrini. Saka, nepo, chokwadi ichi "marara eTV" "ane mhosva mafaro" -kuzvibata pazvakanakisa, unogona zvakare kusiya mubhedha wako zvine hungwaru pane pawakadonha pasi kana uchida zvechokwadi.

Ngatimbofunga nezvenhau yeNetflix inozivikanwa kwazvo yeTV, Rudo ibofu. Chiratidziro chinotanga neboka revarume nevakadzi vasina kuroora vanomhanyisa kufambidzana mu "pods" - vasingamboonana uye vachingonzwa izwi kubva kune rimwe divi, nechinangwa chekumisikidza kubatana kunobva pakukurukurirana, kutora kukwezva kwemuviri uye chemistry kunze. yeiyo equation (zvirinani pakutanga).

Iyo showa inomutsa mubvunzo, "Ko rudo ibofu here?" kukumbira vatori vechikamu kuti vadzikise avo vaane hukama hwakasimba navo kuti vasarudze munhu mumwe chete, vadanane zvisingaonekwe, vobva vapa chikumbiro chisingaperi kana kugamuchira mumwe. Hongu, kurudzira kuroorana ... kuburikidza nemadziro! Kana vakwikwidzi vabatanidzwa vanogona kuzosvika pakuona nekudyidzana.

Kwete kuenda kunoreva nhema: Pandakanzwa chirevo ichi, ndakamhanyisa maziso angu. Zvainzwika Vakaroora pa First Sight anosangana The Bachelor anosangana Mukoma. Nekudaro, sezvo ini ndiri mubatsiri weBachelor franchise recap podcast uye murapi wehukama, vanhu vazhinji vakatanga kundinyorera vachibvunza nezve. Rudo ibofu.

"Unofungei nezvehunhu hwaGiannina kuna Damian?"

"Mira, wafunga kuti Carlton akaita sei nemamiriro ezvinhu akadaro?"

"Unofunga kuti Jessica akambove nemanzwiro akasimba naMark here?"

Ndakakurumidza kushamisika. (Gwyneth Paltrow's new Netflix show irikurudzira hari, zvakare.)

Saka, iwe unogona kunge uchinetseka kuti chii chaungadzidze kubva kuratidziro ine chirevo chakashata kudaro kuzivisa hupenyu hwako chaihwo. Mhinduro? Zvishoma nezvishoma, chaizvo. Hezvino zvidzidzo zvina munhu wese anogona kudzidza nezvehukama kubva Rudo ibofu:

1. Kubatana kwepamoyo kwakakosha ... asi ndizvo zvinoita kukwezva kwemuviri.

Kubva pakutanga, Rudo ibofu vakaroorana, Kelly Chase naKenny Barnes, vaiva nekubatana kwedombo-kwakasimba kwehungwaru, asi pavakangopinda munzvimbo yepanyama, Kelly akati Kenny ainzwa sehanzvadzi yake kupfuura mudiwa wepabonde. Izvi zvakamutadzisa kuongorora chero hukama hwepabonde naye, zvinova zvinosuwisa.

Mubvunzo mumwe chete uyo purogiramu inobvunza kakawanda- "Rudo ibofu here?" -ndiwo wakakosha kufunga. IRL, isu tinozvibvunza mubvunzo uyu zvakare, zvinongonzwika zvakasiyana. "Ndezvipi zvinonyanya kukosha: kubatana kwepamoyo kana kubatana kwepanyama?" kana kuti "Zviri nani here kuva nekubatana kwepfungwa uye wozovaka muviri kana kutanga nekubatana kwemuviri uye kuvaka chidimbu chepfungwa?"

Sezvineiwo, pane zvese; Iwe unokwezvwa nechitarisiko chemunhu wacho, hunhu hwake, uye une kemikari yepabonde yaunogona kuvakira pairi. Asi, ko kana chimwe chezvinhu zvacho chikashaikwa? Ko kana iwe uchinyatsoda hunhu hwemumwe munhu, asi iwe usina iyo * spark *? (Yakabatana: 5 Zvinhu Zvese Munhu wese Anofanirwa Kuziva Nezve Bonde uye Kudanana, Zvinoenderana nehukama Therapist)

Nepo, haufanirwe kunzwa uchimanikidzwa kuita chero chinhu chausingadi kuita kana chisinganzwe kugadzikana, semurapi wezvepabonde, ndinokurudzira zvikuru kuongorora kuti kubatana kwemuviri / pabonde kunganzwa sei usati wafunga kuti hazvisi. zvinogoneka. Kune vamwe, izvi zvinogona kureva kuita bonde kuti uone kuti zvinonzwa sei pane zvese zvepanyama nemanzwiro uye kune vamwe, izvi zvinogona kureva kungoongorora hukama hwepedyo mukutaurirana kana kubata. Iwe unogona sei kutaura zvine mutsindo kuti hakuna hukama hwepanyama kana pasina mukana unopihwa wekuvandudza imwe?

2. Bonde chikamu chakakosha chehukama hwepabonde.

Musiyano uripo pakati pevaviri vane kemisitiri yepabonde nekukurumidza uye isingaite inoratidzwa zvakakwana kuburikidza Rudo ibofu varoorani Matt Barnett (aka Barnett) naAmber Pike maringe neambotaurwa Kelly naKenny.

Anenge pakarepo, Barnett naAmber vanodhonzwa pamwe chete, vasingatombo chengetedza maoko kubva kune mumwe nemumwe. Izvi, hongu, zvinopera kune imwe nhanho sezvo nguva ichienderera, asi zvinopa hwaro hwehupenyu hunogona kugara-kwenguva refu, hunonakidza, uye hunonakidza hupenyu hwepabonde (chero bedzi paine kutaurirana kwakanaka).

Vamwe vanhu vanotenda kuti kana hukama hwepfungwa huripo, bonde rinongoshanda kubva ipapo. Icho hachisi chokwadi. Vamwe vanhu zvechokwadi havawirirane pabonde.

Asi, usavhunduka! Yakawanda hukama hwehukama hunogona kugadziriswa nekutaurirana kwakanaka uye pamwe nerubatsiro rwekurapa. Paunenge uri mune zvisingawanzo mamiriro ezvinhu iwe unogona kunge uri weergiziki kune yako mudiwa yemurume, zvinowanzoita kuwanda kwezvimwe zvinhu zvinoita kuti kufamba kwako zvishuwo (kana kushomeka kwayo) kunetse.

Funga: misiyano mu libido, kutadza kutaurirana, zvido zvakasiyana uye mazano ekuti chii chinoita hupenyu hwepabonde "hwakanaka". Nzira yakanakisa yekurwisa zvese izvi zvinhu kudzidza nzira yekutaurirana zvinobudirira uye kudzidza muviri wako uye zvishuwo zvako. Zvakaoma chaizvo kutaurirana zvaunoda uye zvaunoda kana iwe usinga zive kuti pindura wega.

Zvepabonde hazvisi zvese, asi chikamu chikuru chehukama hwepamoyo. Iwe unogona zvachose kudanana nemumwe munhu, kuita zvepabonde zvisina kujairika uye kushandira kwazviri kuve kufunga-kuridza. Zvinongoda kushanda nesimba, pamativi evanhu vose—uye kuzvipira kuita basa iroro pamwe chete.

3. Kuvimbika kumberi GARA ndiyo nzira yokuenda nayo.

Rudo ibofu vaviri Carlton Morton naDiamond Jack vakairova ipapo ipapo mumapods. Carlton akarangana naDiamon achiri mumakumba, uye akabvuma, asi pavakangosvika kuzororo ravo rinopisa mu 'nyika chaiye', Cartlon akabvuma kumukomana wake mutsva kuti ane bonde-bhasi-bhomba rekudonha mushure chikumbiro, handiti?

Carlton anoenderera mberi achitsanangura kuti akarambwa nevakadzi munguva yapfuura mushure mekugovana kuti akarara naye uye anokwezva kune vese varume nevakadzi. Nehurombo, paanoputsa iyi nhau, Diamond hainyatso kubata nhau zvakanaka. Kubva ipapo akataura nezvaaizoita zvakasiyana, achitaura Vanhu.

Chidzidzo apa ndechekuisa makadhi ako ese patafura. Hapana kana chakakanganisika naCarlton kuve bondexual. Chakaipa kunyima ruzivo rwakakosha nezvako uye kufunga zvekupedza hupenyu nemumwe munhu usingamupe mukana wekuziva iwe wakakwana.

Munyika chaiyo, izvi zvinogona kunge zvichisiya ruzivo rwakakosha nezvebonde rako, hukama hwezvematongerwo enyika, zvikwereti, nyaya dzemhuri, zvishuwo zvepabonde kana kinks ... hazvina basa nemusoro, ingove wakatendeseka-nguva.

Kunyangwe iwe ukasangana mupodhi pane yakatarwa yeiyo chaiyo TV show, kubhawa, kana pane yekufambidzana app, kutendeseka inogara iri yakanakisa mutemo. Izvi hazvireve kuti iwe unofanirwa kutaurira waungazoroora naye zvese nezve iwe mumaminetsi makumi matatu ekutanga, asi zvinoreva kuti iwe unofanirwa kutendeseka nezve zvauri uye zvaunoda nekukurumidza kwete pane gare gare. Iwe haungade here kuziva pazuva rako rechitatu pane rechitatu gore kuti iwe hauna kufanana mukufunga sezvawaifunga?

4. Tinogadzira nyaya dzedu dzakawanda muhukama.

Rudo ibofu's, Jessica Batten naMark Anthony Cuevas vakawira kune mumwe nemumwe nekukurumidza mumapods, kunyangwe Jessica aivewo nekunzwa kwaBarnett, uyo akazopedzisira aine Amber. Imwe yemadingindira ekutanga ehukama hwaJessica naMark yaive gap yemakore gumi iyo Jessica aisakwanisa kuona ichipfuura.

Icho chaive chinyorwa chemuenzaniso muenzaniso wekugadzira nyaya muhukama uye kuipomera kune vamwe vanhu. Zvaive zvakajeka kuti Jessica aive asina kugadzikana nenyaya yekuti paive nemakore gumi pakati pemazuva avo ekuberekwa. Zvisinei, pane kutaura zvakawanda uye kutaura nezvazvo naMark, akaramba achingotaura kuti vamwe vaizoona sei ukama hwavo pane kuti iye pachake asava nechivimbo nazvo. Kunetseka uku ndiko (spoiler alert!) Pakupedzisira kwakatungamirira kuparara kwehukama hwavo ... paatari, kwete zvishoma.

Kana iwe uri kuona mumwe munhu mudiki, taura nezve musiyano wezera pamwe chete. Taura nezvekuti gap ingakanganisa sei zvazvino neramangwana rako. Taura nezvekunetsekana vamwe vanhu vanogona kunge vakavakirwa pakufungidzira kwevanhu munharaunda uye nemabatirwo aunoda kugadziriswa pamwe chete.

Tinogona kugadzira nyaya dzisipo kana tisina kugadzikana kana kusava nechokwadi kuti tinoda kuve muhukama. Jessica aishandisa uyu musiyano wezera seumboo hwekuti hukama hwavo hahuzoshanda, pane kungoti zvimwe haana kumuwana achikwezva, anga asingafare, kana kuti anga asina kugadzirira kuzvipira.

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