Nei Ndichiramba Kunzwa Ndiine Mhosva Yekushanda Kunze Mwana Wangu Akarara

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Rara mwana akarara: Iri izano amai vatsva vanowanda nekudzokorora (uye pamusoro) zvakare.

Mushure mekuita mwana wangu wekutanga uyu apfuura June, ndakazvinzwa zvisingaverengeke. Iwo mashoko akanaka. Kurara kunogona kutambudza, tisingataure zvinotyisa kune hutano hwako uye - kwandiri - kurara kwakagara kuri chinhu chakanakira hutano hwangu hwepfungwa nemuviri. (Pre-baby ndaigara ndichinyora maawa mapfumbamwe kusvika ku10 usiku.)

Asi pane chimwe chinhu *chimwe* chandagara ndakatendeukira kuti ndinzwe zvakanakisisa zvangu: dikita. Kurovedza muviri kunondibatsira kurova kushushikana nekusimbisa muviri wangu, uye ndinonakidzwa nekudzidziswa kwemadzinza uye kuyedza makirasi matsva.

Ndakaramba ndichiita zvandaiita panguva yekuzvitakura, zvakare. Ndakatoita 20-minute Stairmaster kurovedza muviri zuva rimwe chete ndisati ndasununguka mwanasikana wangu. Ndakatadza kufema, ndakadikitira, uye - zvakakosha - ndakadzikama zvishoma. (Ehe, iwe unofanirwa kutaura nechiremba wako usati waita zvakafanana panguva yako yekuzvitakura.)

Nekudaro, nepo ini ndaitya kutya kubatirwa kwekurara kunouya ruoko-mu-ruoko nemwana achangozvarwa, mumwe wemibvunzo yekutanga yandakabvunza chiremba wangu yaive,ndingaite basa rinhi zvakare?

Sezvo ndaigara ndichiita maekisesaizi asati aberekwa uye panguva yose yandaive ndave nepamuviri, chiremba wangu akandiudza kuti ndaigona kutanga nekufamba kuri nyore kana ndangonzwa ndagadzirira. Manheru andakasvika kumba ndichibva kuchipatara, ndakafamba kusvika kunoperera bhuroko rangu—zvichida isingasviki chikamu chimwe chete chegumi chekiromita. Ndizvo chete zvandainzwa kuti ndaigona kuita asi, neimwe nzira, zvakandibatsira kuti ndinzwe seni.

Kudzoreredza kubva pakuzvara hakusi kuseka-uye zvakakosha kuteerera kumutumbi wako. Asi nekufamba kwemazuva, ndakaenderera mberi nekufamba kwangu (dzimwe nguva nemwanasikana wangu mutrola, mamwe mazuva ndega nekutenda kumurume kana sekuru naambuya vaigona kumutarisa). Mamwe mazuva ndaingoita kutenderera nemba, mamwe mazuva hafu-mamaira, pakupedzisira mamaira. Munguva pfupi, ndakakwanisa kuwedzera kudzidzisa kwesimba rakareruka, futi. (Yakabatana: Vazhinji Vakadzi Vari Kushanda Kunze Kugadzirira Kubata)

Kudzidzira uku kwakandibatsira kujekesa pfungwa dzangu uye kwakandisiya ndichinzwa kusimba mumuviri wangu apo uchipora mumavhiki ekutanga iwayo. Kunyangwe maminetsi gumi nemashanu kana makumi matatu akandibatsira kunzwa senge yangu yekare uye akandibatsira kuti ndive amai vari nani, zvakare: Pandakadzoka, ndakava nesimba rakawanda, maonero matsva, kunyange chivimbo chakawedzera (tisingarevi kuti yaive chikonzero buda mumba-inofanirwa kune mamas matsva!).

Masikati ndakadzoka kubva kuchirongwa changu chemavhiki matanhatu mushure mekusununguka, ndakaenda kumhanyi yangu yekutanga mumwedzi mina apo amai vangu vakatarisa mwanasikana wangu. Ndakamhanya kiromita imwe ndichimhanya zvishoma kupfuura chero chinhu chandakanga ndambobaya. Pakupedzisira, ndakanzwa sokunge ndakanga ndisingachakwanisi kuenda kure, asi ndakazviita uye ndakanzwa zvakanaka kuzviita. Pandakadzoka ndakadikitira, ndakasimudza mwana wangu achibva anyemwererawo akanditarisa.

Chokwadi ndechekuti, pachinopa mubayiro, iyo nguva yekusununguka inogona kunge yakaoma chaizvo. Zvinogona kunetesa, kushushikana, kuvhiringidza, kutya - rondedzero inoenderera. Uye kwandiri, kugwinya kwagara kuri chikamu chekuti ndagara ndichikunda zvipingaidzo zvepfungwa zvakadaro. Kuchengeta kurovedza muviri sechikamu cheangu maitiro (verenga: kana ndichigona uye pandinonzwa nezvazvo) zvinondibatsira kuti ndinzwe kuramba ndichinzwa kugona kwangu, sezvazvaive panguva yekuzvitakura. (Yakabatana: Zviratidzo zvisingaoneki zvePostpartum Kushungurudzika Iwe Haufanire Kurega)

Kushanda kunze kunoisa hwaro hwekuti mwanasikana wangu andione zvandiri: mumwe munhu ane hanya nehutano hwake uye hutano uye anoda kuikoshesa. Mushure mezvose, apo ini ndiri kunyatsondishandira (mhosva!), Ndiri kumuitira iye. Kuita maekisesaizi chimwe chinhu chandinotarisira kunakidzwa naye rimwe zuva, uye ndinoda kuti andione ndichiteedzera hutano hwangu uye kugwinya.

Ini ndinodawo kugona kuve wangu akanakisa, akadzikama, anofara zvikuru paari. Uye hechino chinhu: Izvozvinoita zvinosanganisira kuve nechokwadi chekuti ndiri kuwana hope dzangu. Kurara mwana akararandizvo kuraira kukuru-uye kunogona kukupa simba rekuziyamwana achakarara iyoinotevera nguva yaanenge amborara. Mushure mezvose, kushanda kunze kana iwe wakazara uye zvachose wakarara-wakanyimwa? Padivi pezvisingaite (pamwe chete, kwete yakachengeteka zvakanyanya). Pamazuva iwayo pandaimhanya kwemaawa maviri kusvika matatu ekurara—uye kwakanga kwakawanda—waiwanzondiwana ndiri pamubhedha kupfuura paimba yokurovedza muviri apo mwanasikana wangu akakotsira. Asi apo mwanasikana wangu paakatanga kurara husiku hwese (kugogodza huni!) Uye nemazuva andaigona kubata hope nekurara mangwanani, ndakaponeswa zvachose nemavhidhiyo ekumba-kumba, zvirema zvemahara, uye matani. yemhuri inogara padhuze yaigona kuchengeta mwana.

Amai mhosva chinhu chatinonzwa *zvakawanda* nezvacho. Zviri nyore kuti unzwe uine mhosva kana iwe uchidzokera kubasa, kana iwe uchimhanya, heck, paunotora mweya kunze kweimba kure neudiki wako. Ipfungwa yekuwedzeredza asi iri yechokwadi. Ndinozvinzwawo. Asi kana ndichiita zvinhu zvandinoziva zvinondibatsira kuisa rutsoka rwangu rwakanakisisa kumberi — uye kuve munhu akanaka naamai ndingagone kuve — handisisina mhosva.

Gumiguru, ndiri mumiriri wenhangemutange yeReebok Boston 10K yeVakadzi. Ndiwo mujaho wemumugwagwa wanga uchienderera kubva kuma70s, ichikurudzira vakadzi kumisikidza bhawa kumusoro uye kudzingirira kwavo hutano uye kugwinya zvibodzwa. Vakadzi vakawanda vanomhanya nhangemutange yacho pamwe chete nevanasikana vavo kana kuti vanaamai vavo. Mujaho uyu ungangove daro riri kure zvikuru randichamhanya kubva pandakasununguka muna Chikumi. Kana akagadzirira, mwanasikana wangu achabatana neni mumhanyi anofamba, futi. Kana zvisiri? Anenge ave patambo. (Zvakafanana: Mashandisiro andiri Kushandisa Rudo Rwangu rweKusimba Kudzidzisa Mwana Wangu Kunakidzwa Nemaekisesaizi)

Ndinoda kuti akure achidzidzira kuita zvinhu zvaanoda-izvo zvinomufadza uye kugwinya; zvinhu zvinoita kuti anzwe ari mupenyu. Ndinoda kuti atevere zvinhu izvozvo, kuvarwira, kunakidzwa nazvo, uye kusambokumbira ruregerero kana kunzwa mhosva yekuzviita-uye nzira yakanakisa yandinogona kumuratidza nayo ndeyokuzviita ini.

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