Maitiro Ekuzvidzivirira Iwe MuMamiriro mashanu Anogona Kuita Njodzi, Sekureva kwaVanyanzvi

Zvemukati

• Iwe Uri Kufamba NemuRima uye / kana Sketchy Parking Lot Husiku
• Uri Kuteverwa, Kungave Netsoka kana Mumota Yako
• Zuva Rako Harina Kugadzikana Pushy
• Uri Kushungurudzwa NaBoss Wako kana Mumwe Mukuru
• Uri Kubhadharwa kana Kuteverwa Pane Ruzhinji Kufambisa
• Ongororo ye

Kune vazhinji vakadzi vezvemabhizimusi, kuvhura chigadzirwa- kusanganisa kwemwedzi (pamwe makore) eropa, ziya, uye misodzi-- inguva inonakidza. Asi kuna Quinn Fitzgerald naSara Dickhaus de Zarraga, iwo murangariro waive wakasarudzika zvakasiyana kana chigadzirwa chavo, Flare, chaenda kumusika.

"Zvinotyisa kuti chigadzirwa ichi chinofanirwa kuvapo," anodaro Dickhaus de Zarraga. "Tinovenga kuti tiri panguva ino."

Flare, yakagadzirwa neiyo duo, ese maHarvard Bhizinesi Chikoro grads, muna2016, ndeye yakangwara "bracelet" (Buy It, $ 129, getflare.com) yakagadzirirwa kubatsira vanhu kubuda vasina kuchengetedzeka kana kusagadzikana mamiriro. Akapfeka anodzvanya bhatani rakavigwa mukati mebracelet, achizivisa runyoro rwevakagara vasarudzwa (kana mapurisa) enzvimbo yavo. Iyo bracelet inogona zvakare kutumira runhare rwemanyepo kurunhare rweanoripfeka nekuda kwechikonzero chekukurumidza kubuda mumamiriro ezvinhu. (Zvese izvi zvinogona kugadzirirwa muapp yavo.)

Vaviri ava, avo vose vakashungurudzwa, vanoti vakagadzira Flare nekuti midziyo yakawanda yekuzvidzivirira panguva iyi yaigadzirwa nevarume. "Kare, maturusi chete ekuzvidzivirira yaive muridzo kana alarm yekuita ruzha, mhiripiri, chombo chekukuvadza mumwe munhu, kana kukumbira rubatsiro," anotsanangura kudaro Dickhaus de Zarraga. "Uye, zvichienderana nekuzivikanwa kwako, kana iwe uri munhu ane ruvara, [idzo sarudzo] dzinogona kukuisa mukati. zvimwe ngozi."

Munhoroondo yese, iro onus rave riri pawoman kune kudzivirira kushungurudzwa pabonde - kungave zvichireva kunwa doro (kana mapato zvachose), kudzivisa zvitaera zvekupfeka zvinganzi zvinotsamwisa (zvisinei naSarah Everard akapfeka bhurugwa redikita paakapambwa kuUK), uye kuita chero chinhu chinodiwa kudzivirira chero kutariswa - pane kudaro. kupfuura kuita chinjo huru munzanga kudzivisa zviito zvechisimba zvavapari vamene. (Yakabatana: Mushure meSarah Everard, Vakadzi Vari Kuwana Mazano Ekuramba Vakachengeteka - Asi NdiVarume Vane Maitiro Avo Anoda Kuchinja)

Ehezve, kutaura kuti isu tinogara munyika ine simba apo womxn haidi kutenga zvishongo zvine hungwaru, kudzidza kupenga zvombo zvehondo, kana kugara uchinetsekana nezve nharaunda yavo 24/7 zvakafanana nekuzviti tinorarama mumashure morudzi . Vanosvika vasere mu10 vakadzi vemuAmerica vane makore anopfuura 18 vakashumwa vachishungurudzwa mune imwe ongororo ya2018, nepo ongororo ichangoburwa yevakadzi vekuUK vakawana kuti nhamba iriko inogona kuve padhuze ne97 muzana. (Uye iwe uchifunga kuti saizi diki yemuenzaniso haitauri yakakura zvakakwana mufananidzo, imwe scan yehashtag #97perecent paTikTok, iyo inotaura zvakanangana nekuwanikwa kwechidzidzo, inopa humbowo hwakakwana hwekuti woxn vari kusangana nekushungurudzwa pabonde pamitengo inotyisa.) Gehena, kunyangwe aripo pabasa semukadzi Mutema anogona kukonzera kudzvinyirirwa. Kutaura zvazviri, vakadzi vechitema vanotaura nezvekushungurudzwa kwepabonde kubasa katatu nhamba yevakadzi vechichena, maererano nemushumo weNational Women's Law Center, sangano rekodzero dzepamutemo risingabatsiri.

Icho chokwadi chekuti vakadzi vanofanirwa kuzvidzivirira kubva mumamiriro asina kugadzikana (kana ane njodzi) - kunyanya, nevarume - zvinoyamwa. Asi chokwadi chiripo, sekuburitsa kunoita mushumo kubva kuWorld Health Organisation, huwandu hwakawanda hwechisimba kuvanhukadzi hunoitwa nevarume. Muchokwadi, chidzidzo ichi chinotaura kuti pakanga pasina kana dhata rakaringana rekuona mhirizhonga yebonde revamwe vakadzi. Pamusoro pazvo, mhirizhonga yakanangana nevakadzi vanotapurirana kana kuti murume kana mukadzi yakawedzera muna 2020, nerufu makumi mana nevana muUS - zvichiriita gore rakaipisisa parekodhi, maererano neHuman Rights Campaign.

Izvo zviri kutaurwa, nepo kutya kurwiswa hakufanire kukudzivirira kubva pakurarama hupenyu hwako, kutora mashoma matanho anodiwa uye kuzvishongedza neruzivo rwekuzvidzivirira kunogona kukubatsira kuti unzwe wakasununguka.

Pano, nyanzvi dzinofamba nemabatiro ekuita mamiriro mashanu angangoita njodzi aungazviwana uri mauri, uye kuti ungabuda sei nekukurumidza.

Iwe Uri Kufamba NemuRima uye / kana Sketchy Parking Lot Husiku

Munzvimbo dzauri kuenda kana kubva, kwaunoenda (sekunge magaraji ekupaka uye mijenya) ndidzo dzimwe dzenzvimbo dzinowanzo zivikanwa, sekureva kwaBeverly Baker, nyanzvi yekuzvidzivirira uye muvambi weAsphalt Anthropology muLos Angeles. "Idzi nzvimbo dzinoda kushingairira zvakanyanya, sezvo zviripo paruzhinji zvakakwana kuti mumwe munhu akusvike, asi kazhinji zvakavanzika zvakakwana kuti zvibvumirwe kushanda pasina zvapupu kana kupindira," anotsanangura Baker.

Paanopinda mugaraji kana kupaka, Baker anogara achiyambira vatengi vake kuti vatarise nzvimbo yacho. Kune mbiru, masitepisi, kana mota hombe idzo munhu anogona kuvanda kumashure? Dzivisa nzvimbo idzodzo, iye anopa zano, uye edza kupaka pedyo nepaunogona napo pekupinda kana kubuda.

"Zvakare, paunosvika, dzosera mota yako ipapo," vanopa zano. "Izvi zvinoreva kuti haufanire kufamba urefu hwakazara hwemota kuti usvike pamusuwo wedhiraivha uye unogona kubuda nekuonekwa kwakazara kwenharaunda yako."

Dzimwe shanduko-nzvimbo matipi kubva kuna Baker? Isa foni yako pasi, famba nekukurumidza uye nechivimbo nekutarisa kwako, uye maoko ako akasununguka (asi chengeta makiyi ako abate kuitira kuti ugone kukurumidza kuvhura uye kusvetuka mumotokari yako).

Oo, uye kutaura nezve iwo makiyi- - iwe unofanirwa kuvabata kunge banga pakati peminwe yako kurwisa chero vanouya, handiti? "Kune ngano yakagara iripo yekuti kubata kiyi dzako pakati peminwe yako chombo chakanaka chekuzvidzivirira, asi ichi hachisi chokwadi!" anodaro Baker. "Makiyi achaenderera mberi nekukanganisa nekukuvadza kupfuura kukutyisidzira."

Pane kudaro, Baker anokurudzira kutakura uye kuchengeta imwe mhando yezvombo zvekuzvidzivirira pedyo - kunyangwe zvichinyanya kuenderana nekunyaradza kwako uye izvo zviri pamutemo munharaunda yako. Izvi zvinogona kusanganisira mhiripiri kana rumwe rudzi rwepfuti (Tenga, $ 24, amazon.com), banga, tochi yepamusoro-danda (Tenga, $ 40, amazon.com) kutsausa munhu anorwisa, kana kunyange rinorema chinhu munzira yako, sekenduru rinorema, zvinhu pasherufu yemabhuku, kana chigero. (Yakabatana: Vatengi Vanoti Iyi Pepper Spray Yakaponesa Hupenyu Hwavo)

Uri Kuteverwa, Kungave Netsoka kana Mumota Yako

Kana paine chero chinhu chinotyisa kupfuura kupinda murima, ine mimvuri yekupaka garaji usiku, iri kufamba kana kutyaira uri wega - uye pamwe uchiteverwa. (Zvakafanana: Chokwadi Chine Hasha Nezve Kumhanya Kuchengetedzwa Kwevakadzi)

Nhanho yekutanga kana iwe uchifungidzira kuti uri kuteverwa ndeye kungotendeuka. "Imwe [mota] yaizofanira kuita U-kutendeuka kana kusiya mota yavo," anodaro Baker.

Kana uchikwanisa, Baker anokurudzira kufamba kuenda kwakachengeteka pane kungoenda kure nenjodzi. "Usatendeuka uye ufambe munzira yakasiiwa," anodaro. "Pinda mushop kana uchikwanisa."

Mufungo mumwe chete iwoyo unoshanda kana uchifungidzira kuti mota iri kukutevera iwe uchityaira. “Usaenda kumba kana uri kuteverwa,” anodaro Baker, achiona kuti unofanira kugara uchinanga kwakachengeteka kwaunogona mureza kuti ubatsirwe (funga: chiteshi chemoto, chiteshi chemapurisa, chitoro, kana kuti resitorendi).

Zuva Rako Harina Kugadzikana Pushy

Kunyange varwisi vachisvetuka kubva pamakwenzi kana mumagaraji ekupaka kuri kutya kuri pachena, kumwe (asi, kwakawanda) kurwisa kunoitika munzira dzepedyo, dzinozivikanwa: i.e. isinganetsi hasha Tinder zuva. (Yakabatana: 6 Dating Dos online uye Zvisingaitwe zveInternet Kuchengetedza)

"Kana iwe uri mumamiriro asina kugadzikana, tsvaga mumiriri," anopa zano Heather Hansen, nyanzvi yekuzvimiririra, muongorori wezvemitemo, uye gweta redzimhosva. Hansen anocherekedza kuti uyu anogona kuve chero munhu ari padhuze, angave ari bartender kana waunobata pamwe naye, kuti iwe ugone kuzivisa kuti iwe uri mune inonamira mamiriro. Iwe unofanirwa kukumbira mumiriri kuti apinze mukati mezuva rako (iti, kana uchifanira kusimuka kuti uende kuchimbuzi) uye ubvunze yakateedzana mibvunzo: "Vese varikuita sei?" kana kuti "uri kunwei kuno?" Anopa zano Hansen.

“Kana mupari wemhosva akaenderera mberi, anenge aripo anogona kungobvunza zvamuri kuita mose,” anodaro Hansen. "Izvi zvinonyanya kushanda kana munhu akatarisa achiratidza kuti murume uye mupari wemhosva anoitawo saizvozvo." Panguva iyoyo, Hansen anomanikidza, (netarisiro) zvaunogona kuvhura maererano nekusiya. Nepo zuva rako rakatenderedzwa, iwe unogona here kumaka pasi bartender kana mumwe munhu kubva kuchengetedzeka kuti apindire uye akubatsire kukuburitsa? Kunyangwe iwe uchizofanirwa kuongorora mamiriro ezvinhu (munhu wese achaita zvakasiyana), edza kumepu nzira dzekubuda kana munhu angopinda muchiitiko.

Imwe sarudzo ye (nenjere) ichibuda mune isina kugadzikana mamiriro kubhawa kana kuresitorendi: raira "ngirozi yakapfura." Sekutsanangura kwehutachiona TikTok kubva kune musiki @benjispears, pfuti yacho ndeye kodhi ye "Ndiri mudambudziko; ndibatsireiwo." Kunyange hazvo asiri ese masisitendi ane imwe (uye inogona kunzi chimwe chinhu kuitira kuchengetedza zvakavanzika kubva kune vanokanganisa), iwe unowanzoona chikwangwani chakatumirwa muchimbuzi chichizivisa mukadzi kuti ndiyo sarudzo. Kunyangwe nzvimbo yauri kutora chikamu, usazeze kungo mureza munhu pasi munzira, kana mukati, yekugezera kana usina chokwadi.

Kana pasina munhu ari padyo, kana kuti unonzwa kusagadzikana kubvunza pese pese, Hansen anokurudzira kuudza zuva rako rekumanikidza kumberi kuti hauna kugadzikana. Uye, hongu, edza kusabata chikafu chako kana chinwiwa kana chave chisiri kukuona, kunyangwe kwechinguva, senge mumwe munhu angadai akachikanganisa. (Zvakafanana: Ava Vechidiki Vakagadzira Huswa Hunogona Kubatsira Kuona Date Rape Drugs)

Uye kana zvinhu zvikawedzera, usatya kumuka uende. "Tora wekukwira kumba kubva kune mumwe munhu kana sarudza yekukwirisa-kugovana sevhisi," anodaro Baker, achiona kuti kana uchinetsekana nekuteverwa, unogona kukumbira chengetedzo kuti ikuperekedze kwaunoenda (kana kufonera mapurisa kuti akubatsire).

Uri Kushungurudzwa NaBoss Wako kana Mumwe Mukuru

Kana zvasvika pakunyomba maDM kubva kune vaunoshanda navo kana nguva isina kunaka ine VP yepamusoro-soro parwendo rwebasa, Hansen anosimbisa mutemo umwechete wakakosha (asi wakapusa) nekunetswa kwebasa: "Rugwaro. zvese –– kusanganisira zvese zvinoitika zvekushungurudzwa uye nemabatiro aunoita. Iva nezvose mukunyora kana uchikwanisa." (Anocherechedza kuti, mune dzimwe nyika, hazvisi pamutemo kurekodha hurukuro pasina kubvumirwa kubva kumapato ose, saka chengeta izvozvo mupfungwa.)

Hansen anocherekedza kuti kutsvaga mumiriri kwakakosha, futi. “Taura nemunhu ari muvanhu kana akapara mhosva ari mukuru wako, uye taura nemukuru wako kana ari munhu ari muvanhu,” anodaro.

Asi chii iwe chaunofanirwa kuita panguva yekuzvidzivirira uye kuparadzira mamiriro acho? "Izvi zvinonetsa, anodaro Hansen." Kunyangwe uchitaura nemunhu ari kukushungurudza kana shamwari yako, ndinokurudzira kuzvichengeta zvechokwadi uye nechinangwa: 'Paunoita izvi / iye anoita izvi, uye zvinondiita kuti ndinzwe seizvi.' "Kunyange uchishungurudzwa chiitiko chakanyanya pamoyo, kana uchikwanisa kushanda kuti upindure pane kuita, uchave mutsigiri akasimba zvikuru. "

Ehezve, kana pane chero nguva iwe uchityira kuchengetedzeka kwako uye uri munjodzi nekukasira, enda wakananga kumapurisa - zvakare, uine humbowo hwekushungurudzwa, kana iwe unayo.

Uri Kubhadharwa kana Kuteverwa Pane Ruzhinji Kufambisa

Zvakafanana kana urikuteverwa nemotokari kana netsoka, nekufamba kwevanhu, unofanira kunge wakananga kwakachengeteka kwete kure nenjodzi, anodaro Baker. Asi kusvika panguva iyoyo, kungotarisana newaunofungidzira kuti arikutsvaga iwe unogona kubatsira - kunyangwe zvichitaridzika kunge zvinotyisa. “Ndakaita izvi nomwoyo wangu uchimhanya,” anobvuma kudaro Baker. "Asi hechino chinhu: Kutyisidzira hakudi kuomarara. Vazhinji vacho vanofarira kukuita kuti utye. Flip script." Baker anoti kutaura chimwe chinhu nenzira ye "Unodei?" kana, zvakapetwa, "Nei uchinditevera?" inogona kubatsira.

Kana usiri kusununguka kusangana nemunhu wacho, zvakanaka, futi. Chinja mota dzechitima, buruka, uye mirira inotevera. "Zvirinani kunonoka pane kusagadzikana," anodaro Baker. Uye panguva ipi neipi apo iwe paunonzwa kunge uri munjodzi yakakomba, kusanganisira chero chezviitiko zviri pamusoro, usazeze kudaidza 9-1-1.

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