Bonde Kushungurudzika Kwakajairika - Heino Maitiro Ekubata Izvo

Zvemukati

• Chii chaizvo?
• Zvinoitika
• Ungazviziva sei (kana zvisati zvajeka)
• Nei zvichiitika
• Dzimwe nguva muviri wako
• Dzimwe nguva huropi hwako
• Uye dzimwe nguva iko kutenderera kwako - kana kushomeka kwayo
• Maitiro aunonzwa nezvazvo anosarudza zvinotevera zvinotevera
• Kana zvekuita zvepabonde zvisiri patafura
• Nzwisisa kuti sei bonde riri woga risiri patafura
• Teerera kumimhanzi inokudzora-pasi
• Rovedza muviri
• Kuzvipira
• Tsvaga munhu wekumbundira
• Chengetedza mamwe mabasa epanyama
• Rangarira kuti manzwiro ese ndeechinguvana
• Kana iri patafura, uye iwe parizvino uri wega
• Buruka newe
• Hazvina kushanda? Edza kuita rudo kwauri pachako
• Iva nehusiku humwechete kumira
• Funga nezve shamwari dzine mabhenefiti mamiriro
• Edza kufambidzana
• Bhadhara munhu anoita zvepabonde
• Kana iri patafura, uye iwe uri muhukama
• Kana usati wambozviedza, tanga bonde
• Taurirana, taurirana, taurirana
• Tora zvako zvekuenda-pabonde zviito patafura
• Kana iwe uchiri kunetsekana kuti uwanezve kutarisa
• Chinokosha

Isu tinosanganisira zvigadzirwa zvatinofunga zvinobatsira kuvaverengi vedu. Kana iwe ukatenga kuburikidza nehukama pane ino peji, isu tinogona kuwana diki komisheni. Heano maitiro edu.

Une chinoshamisira iwe haugone kuratidzika kunge wakatsvagisa ezvepabonde zvakasiyana? Bhura pasi pasi kune matipi kubva kune vezvebonde nezve maitiro ekuibata, kungave bonde riri patafura kana kwete!

Chii chaizvo?

Bvunza chero munhu akamboshungurudzwa pabonde uye ivo vachakuudza: Iyo sh * t ndeyechokwadi! Asi hachisi chinhu chauchazoona chakatsanangurwa mubhuku rekurapa.

Zvepabonde Tami Rose, muridzi weRomantic Adventures, chitoro chevakuru muJackson, Mississippi, anopa iyi dudziro:

"Kushushikana pabonde inzira yechisikigo kune kusaenzana pakati pezvaunoda (kana zvaunoda) pabonde uye zvauri kuwana kana kusangana nazvo izvozvi."

Inoratidza zvakasiyana mumunhu wese. Kune vamwe vanhu, inogona kuunza seyakajairika kutsamwa kana kusagadzikana, kune vamwe, kushushikana kana kushushikana. Uye kune vamwe, sekushaya hanya.

Iko kune bajillion akasiyana anokonzera, asi mamwe makuru acho anosanganisira:

• kushaya kwekumutsa
• kushaikwa kweargasm, kushomeka kwesimba kweargasm, kana kushomeka kweakawanda maasgasms
• kunyadziswa nemhando yebonde iwe yauinayo, yawakave nayo, kana yaunoda kuve nayo
• kusava nemhando yebonde iwe yaunoda kuve nayo

"Dzimwe nguva zvinofungwa nevanhu kusagadzikana pabonde iko kushayikwa kwekugutsikana nechimwe chinhu chiri kuitika muhupenyu hwavo," anodaro chiremba wezveuropi uye nyanzvi yehutano hwepabonde Dr.

"Dzimwe nguva mumwe munhu anozvinzwa nekuti havasi kunyatsopikiswa kubasa, uye dzimwe nguva imhaka yekuti havasi kubatana nemumwe wavo."

Zvinoitika

Kutanga, ziva kuti iwo manzwiro uye nekunzwa iwe kwauri kuve kwakazara uye zvachose zvakajairika!

"Zvisinei nebonde kana munhukadzi, anenge munhu wese achasangana nekushushikana pabonde pane imwe nguva muhupenyu hwake," anodaro chipangamazano wezvekurapwa pabonde Eric M. Garrison, munyori we "Mastering Multiple Position Bonde."

"Zvichida nekuti ivo vanoda kuita bonde kana mumwe wavo asingaite, kana nekuti vachida kurara naye uye vasina mumwe munhu wekuita naye."

Anowedzera kuti: "Midhiya yakawanda inowanzoita kuti tifunge kuti isu tinofanirwa kunge tichiita bonde rinoburitsa pfungwa nguva dzese, izvo zvinogona kuwedzera kukunzwa kwekushushikana nekushushikana patinenge tisiri kurara nepfungwa nguva dzese."

Ungazviziva sei (kana zvisati zvajeka)

Tsanangura manzwiro ako muzvipikisheni zvitatu. Enderera, nyora pasi.

Zvino tarisa kwavari. Kana zvipikisheni zvawanyora zviri zvese muraraungu uye unicorn, pamwe hauna kushushikana pabonde.

Asi kana zvese zvisina kunaka - kushatirwa, kutsamwa, kushungurudzika, kugumbuka, kugumbuka, nezvimwe - unofanirwa kuona kuti manzwiro aya anobva kupi.

Wakave uri pasi pe tani yekushushikana kubasa here? Pane mumwe munhu akakumisikidza iwe mune iyo Target yekupaka lot? Mikana ndeyako manzwiro asina kunaka ari kukonzerwa nemamiriro ekushushikana kana kushomeka kwekurara.

Kana, zvakadaro, pasina chakajeka chikonzero chevakadzi, inguva yekutarisa kune wega kana hupenyu hwepabonde hwepamoyo. Zvibvunze kuti:

• Tine bhoo rangu neni tave tichiita bonde shoma kupfuura zvakajairwa? Ini ndanga ndichidzikira zvishoma zvishoma?
• Mumwe wangu aramba here kukoka kwangu kwekupedzisira kukoka kurara naye (aka kufambira mberi)?
• Ndanga ndakaneta zvakanyanya kuti ndibvise kana kuita bonde ndisati ndarara?
• Pane zvinhu here zvandinoda pabonde zvandisingakwanise kuongorora?
• Ini ndanga ndichiita mu "riskier" hunhu kuti zvido zvangu zvepabonde zvasangana?
• Kuchinja kwazvino mumuviri wangu kana mishonga kwakanganisa kugona kwangu kuzadzisa bonde here?

Nei zvichiitika

"Kana zvasvika pakushungurudzika pabonde, kudzidza kuti sei zviri kuitika kwakakosha zvikuru kupfuura izvozvo ndizvo zvichiitika, ”anodaro Garrison. "Nei ichikubvumidza kuti uigadzirise zvakanaka."

Dzimwe nguva muviri wako

"Chero kukuvara kutsva, kurwadziwa kusingaperi, zvimwe zvirwere, kupindwa muropa, uye nyaya dzevakadzi dzinogona kukanganisa kugona kwako kuita bonde kana zemo, izvo zvinogona kutungamira mukushushikana pabonde," anodaro Garrison.

"Izvi zvinoitika kana wawakaroorana naye uchiita bonde naye ari kusangana nechimwe chezvinhu izvi."

Nekuti bonde panguva uye chaipo mushure mekubereka zvinogona kurwadza kana kusafadza kune vamwe varidzi vevhavha, zvakajairika kune vavakaroorana navo kunzwa kushungurudzika pabonde panguva ino, anodaro.

Mimwe mishonga yakaita seanodzvinyirira, inosarudza serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), kudzivirira kuberekwa, uye beta-blockers (kutumidza vashoma) inozivikanwa zvakare kuva nemhedzisiro inonakidza pane libido uye orgasm.

Kana iwe uchangobva kuenda kune mumwe wemishonga iyi, taura nachiremba wako nezve mhedzisiro iwe yauri kusangana nayo.

Dzimwe nguva huropi hwako

"Kushushikana uye kushushikana, kunyanya kana kuri kuenderera, kunogona kukanganisa zvakanyanya Persona libido, kufarira bonde, kugona kurara, uye zvimwe," anodaro Berman.

Zvimwe chete zvinoenda pakuora mwoyo. inoratidza kuti vanhu vakaora mwoyo vanoita bonde kashoma, vane yakaderera libido, uye kazhinji havagutsikane muhukama hwavo.

Uye dzimwe nguva iko kutenderera kwako - kana kushomeka kwayo

"Nevanhu vakaroorana, chero nguva mumwe murume paanonzwa kushungurudzika pabonde [uye] vasina kutaurirana zvakakwana zvishuwo zvavo newavakaroorana naye, zvinosiya mumwe wavo murima kune zvido zvavo," anodaro Garrison.

Kana, zvinogona kuti iwe netoyi yako kana wawakaroorana naye hamusingawirirane. Zvinoitika. Zvepabonde zvatinoda uye zvatinofarira zvinochinja nekufamba kwenguva.

Maitiro aunonzwa nezvazvo anosarudza zvinotevera zvinotevera

Iwe unoda kugadzirisa manzwiro aya here? Kana iwe unoda kuvamirira kuti vaende vega? Sarudzo ndeyako.

Zvisinei, Garrison anoti inguva yekutsvaga rubatsiro rwepabonde kana nyanzvi yehutano hwepfungwa kana manzwiro aya ari:

• kukanganisa mari dzako
• kukanganisa kubata kwaunoita mumwe wako kana vamwe vanhu muhupenyu hwako
• zvichikonzera kuti uite nekukurumidza kana munzira dzawaisazoita, sekurega basa kana kubiridzira mumwe wako

Kana zvekuita zvepabonde zvisiri patafura

Zvichida mumwe wako munguva pfupi yapfuura akatamira kuyambuka nyika. Kana pamwe iwe uri wega Langer Ranger uyo parizvino akarara pamubhedha.

Kana iwe uri kuyedza kupaza kuburikidza nekushungurudzika uku usingashandise ako kana mawoko emumwe wako maoko (kana muromo), aya matipi anogona kubatsira.

Nzwisisa kuti sei bonde riri woga risiri patafura

"Kana mumwe munhu akavhiringidzika pabonde asi asingade kuita bonhora, vanofanirwa kuona kuti nei zvakadaro," anodaro kiriniki wezvepabonde Sarah Melancon, PhD, pabonde uye hukama hwehukama hweSexToyCollective.com.

“Kukura kwako usina hukama pabonde kutaura here? Iwe unonzwa kunyara nezve kuita bonhora here? Hauzivi maitiro ekuti uuye here? ”

Kana kutumira bonde-zvisina kunaka kuri kukutadzisa kubva pabonde wega, iye anokurudzira kushanda nachiremba wepabonde - bonhora ndiwo mumwe wemishonga yakanakisa yekushungurudzwa pabonde!

Teerera kumimhanzi inokudzora-pasi

Zvino ndizvo kwete iyo nguva yekuyerera Iyo Weeknd, Mabhangi, kana chero mimwe mimhanzi pane yako yepabonde playlist.

Pane kudaro, tora vhoriyamu kumusoro kune chimwe chinhu chill, sevanhu kana acoustic.

"Mumhanzi chinhu chine simba chekunyengedza mafungiro," anodaro Britney Blair, muvambi wekiriniki yekurapa bonde The Clinic uye mushandirapamwe weRudo, chirongwa chiri nani chebonde.

Rovedza muviri

Kickboxing, inopisa yoga, CrossFit. Blair anoti kana iwe wawana chiitiko chakakodzera iwe, kuburitswa kwesimba uye kumhanyisa kwema endorphin kunogona kubatsira.

Kuzvipira

Inogona kurira semufaro, asi Blair anoti, "kubvisa pfungwa yako kubva pane yako kuenda pane imwe kunogona kubatsira."

Uyezve, dzimwe nguva kungoita chimwe chinhu kunze kwekuvhenekera pamusoro pekuti wakashushikana pabonde sei kunogona kubatsira, anodaro.

Tsvaga munhu wekumbundira

Garrison anoti dzimwe nguva hakusi bonde rauri kushuvira kana uchishungurudzwa pabonde - kubata kwevanhu.

"Inozivikanwa senzara yeganda, kana tichifamba kwenguva refu tisina kumbundirana, kumbundirana, kana kumbundira mumwe munhu, tinoshuva kubatwa - kunyangwe isiri bonde," anodaro.

Edza kumbundira Amai vako nekuwedzera kwenguva inotevera nguva yaunomuona. Kana bvunza BFF yako kana vangave vari pasi peNetflix uye vombundira. Kana, enda ku - kana kuitisa! - mutambo wekumbundirana.

Chengetedza mamwe mabasa epanyama

Isu hatisi kungotaura nezve tsvina pano!

"Zvakajairika kuti vanhu varege kuteerera zvavanoda mumuviri senzara, nyota, uye kurara," anodaro Melancon.

Semuenzaniso, kangani iwe waakaramba uchipururudza uye uchizviudza iwe "mamwe mashanu maminetsi!" kusvikira dundira rako rave kuda kuputika?

"Dambudziko nderekuti kana iwe ukarega kuteerera muviri wako, izvo zvinomirawo" kutaura "kwauri," anodaro.

"Kutanga kuongorora nemuviri wako nezve zvido zvevanhukadzi kunogona kukubatsira kuti uwedzere kuziva zvido zvako zvepabonde."

Uye kana iwe uchiziva zvako zvebonde zvido? Zvakanaka, iwe uri nani kukwanisa kuvaita vasangane uye kudzivirira kusagadzikana pabonde zvachose. Kukunda!

Rangarira kuti manzwiro ese ndeechinguvana

"Hapana munhu anonzwa akaora mwoyo, kana chero mumwe manzwiro, nekusingaperi," anodaro Blair. "Iva netsitsi newe, uye uzive kuti izvi zvakare zvichapfuura."

Kana iri patafura, uye iwe parizvino uri wega

Kwete boo, hapana dambudziko. Haufanire kunge uri muhukama hwakakomba kuti uwane yako.

Buruka newe

Ndizvozvo, inguva yekuwiza.

Kana yako yekurohwa-sitiroko isiri kubatsira iwe kupaza kuburikidza nekushushikana kwepabonde uku, shandura iyo kumusoro!

Unogona kuedza:

• refu, nemaune kurova kumusoro uye pasi
• jagged, diagonal kurohwa
• kubata yako "iyo" gwapa
• kuwedzera kana kudzikisira kumhanya kana kumanikidza

Hazvina kushanda? Edza kuita rudo kwauri pachako

"Kana ukaita bonhora nekukasira, ungangoita senge urikuda kupedza nazvo, unogona kusanyatsogutsikana uye ungatonzwa kushushikana," anodaro Melancon.

Ndicho chikonzero nei achikurudzira kuita rudo kwauri. "Tora nguva yako, uye uchaguma wagutsikana."

Iwe unogona kutomboedza edging, aka orgasm kutonga, izvo zvinosanganisira kuzvivaka iwe chaipo kusvika kumagumo e-orgasm kasingaperi kusvikira iwe pakupedzisira wazvirega uchipedzisa nehukuru bang.

"Kugadziridza kunofungidzirwa kunoguma 'zvirinani' kana 'hombe" orgasm, zvinoreva kuti inogona kushanda mukubatsira iwe squash kushungurudzika kwepabonde, "anodaro Garrison.

Iva nehusiku humwechete kumira

Chero bedzi munhu wese aibvumirana - uye ari muchimiro chendangariro chakakodzera ku kubvuma - uye unoziva kuti iyi ndiyo husiku husiku kumira mamiriro, izvi zviri kwazvo patafura.

Ingova nechokwadi chekudzidzira bonde rakachengeteka.

Ah, uye ndokumbira utumire shamwari shamwari nguva isati yakwana kuti mumwe munhu azive kwauri kuenda, kana kuti urikukoka "mutorwa" kuti auye.

Funga nezve shamwari dzine mabhenefiti mamiriro

Chokwadi, FWBs unokwanisa nyangadza. Asi kana munhu wese ari kumberi nezve izvo zvavari kutarisira kuti vabude mumamiriro ezvinhu - mune yako, kugutsikana pabonde - mamiriro ezvinhu unokwanisa zvakare kuve anotyisa!

Kana iwe uine shamwari yawanga uchidanana nayo (uye pamwe watove wakabatana kare kamwe), unogona kuedza kubvunza:

• "Inzwa wakasununguka kunditumira eye-roll emoji (kana kufuratira chinyorwa ichi zvachose!) Kana usiri pasi. Asi iwe unonzwa sei nezve shamwari dzine mabhenefiti mamiriro? "Handisi kutsvaga kufambidzana naye parizvino, asi hachisi chakavanzika chandagara ndichikuwana wakanakisa."
• “Hei :). "Ini parizvino handisi kutsvaga hukama hwakakomba, asi ndinoda kukukokai kuno husiku hwemafirimu erudo, kana muchida."

Paunenge uchigadzira chako chinyorwa (kana kunyangwe zvirinani, uchichiunza icho IRL), tevera iyi mirawo:

1. Iva akatendeseka kuti hausi kutsvaga chimwe chinhu chakakomba.
2. Tsanangura chaizvo zvauri kutsvaga (bonde).
3. Ita shuwa kuti munhu anzwe kugadzikana achiti kwete.
4. Usabvunze zvakare kana kuita kuti vanzwe kusanzwisisika kana vakati kwete.

Edza kufambidzana

Kungoita kuti iwe hausi muhukama ikozvino, hazvireve kuti haugone kana kusazove nemwedzi mitatu kubva zvino… Uye nepo zvisiri izvo nguva dzose, kufambidzana kunowanzoenzana nekuona.

Nekudaro, kana iwe uchinzwa "kugadzirira" (vimba ura hwako pano, vanhu) kufambidzana, pinda nyika yekufambidzana!

Unokwanisa:

• Dhawunirodha maapplication.
• Udza vanhu kuti uri kudanana zvakare!
• Kumbira shamwari dzako kuti dzikumise.
• Bvunza mumwe munhu kunze, kana paine mumwe munhu wawanga uchipwanya.

Bhadhara munhu anoita zvepabonde

Wadii kuita kuti zvishuwo zvako zvepabonde zvisangane nerubatsiro rwehunyanzvi? Uyo waunosarudza kukwereta zvinoenderana nekuti zvaunofarira pabonde ndezvipi.

Semuenzaniso, kana iwe uri mune:

• uchizviisa pasi, unogona kuhaya Dominatrix kuti ikusunge
• kutarisa mumwe munhu achiita bonhora, unogona kuhaya webcam modhi
• uchipa muromo, unogona kukwereta akazvimiririra pabonde contractor

Kana iri patafura, uye iwe uri muhukama

Pasina mubvunzo, kunzwa kushushikana pabonde kana uchidanana nemumwe munhu kunonhuhwa. Neraki, pane zvinhu zvaunogona kuyedza.

Kana usati wambozviedza, tanga bonde

Kana nyaya iri pakuti iwe nemumwe wako mabuda mutsika yekukochekerana uye yanga iri mineeee, Berman anoti zvinogona kunge zviri nyore sekukoka mumwe wako kuti [isa zvekuita bonde pano] newe!

Ndiani anoziva, pamwe vanga vachishushikana pabonde senge iwe.

Taurirana, taurirana, taurirana

Kana "kungoita bonde" kusiri kuzokushandirai imi vaviri, inguva yekuita hurukuro yakatendeseka nemumwe wako nezve izvo zvaunonzwa uye nei.

"Iyi hurukuro inogona kunge yakaoma," anodaro Garrison. "Asi zvakafanira."

Usanzwe mhosva yekuda kutaura neako bho nezvekuti ungaita sei hupenyu hwako hwepabonde kuti hufadze kune imi mese.

Hedzino dzimwe nzira dzaungaunze pamwe neumwe wako, zvinoenderana nekuti urikushungurudzika pabonde kuri kubva kupi:

• "Ndanga ndichiverenga chinyorwa pamusoro pekurovera, uye ndinofunga chiitiko chepedyo chandingada kuedza newe. Ndicho chinhu chaungade kudzidza zvakawanda nezvazvo uye kuedza pamwe chete? ”
• “Ndinoziva kuti P-in-V bonde harina kubvira rikwanisike kwamuri kubva pakazvarwa mwana, asi ndingafarire kuedza nedzimwe mhando dzehukama. "Icho chinhu chaungade kuvhenekwa?"
• "Ndinonzwa sekuti hatina kuita bonde nekuda kwe [X nyaya], uye ndinoda chaizvo kutaura nezvazvo. Ndasuwa kunzwa ndiri pedyo newe. ”

Tora zvako zvekuenda-pabonde zviito patafura

Kana iwe nemumwe wako muine tsika yekuita bonde - sezvinoitwa nevakawanda venguva refu - kutonga "zvakafanana zvekare, zvekare zvekare" zvinogona kukubatsira iwe kuenda pabonde uchibva kune imwe nzvimbo yekuyedza.

"Panzvimbo pekuita 'zvakajairwa,' iwe have kutora nguva yekutamba pamwe chete nekuona zvimwe zvinonzwa zvakanaka, ”anodaro Melancon. Kunakidzwa!

Kana iwe uchiri kunetsekana kuti uwanezve kutarisa

Kwayedza zvataurwa pamusoro, asi uchiri nemanzwiro ese ausingazive zvekuita nawo? Yenguva yekuunza hutano.

Kuita zvepabonde uye hukama hwepfungwa izano rakanaka kana iwe uchinetseka nekunyadziswa pabonde, zvido zvepabonde, uye kushungurudzika pabonde.

Zvakafanana zvinoenda kana iwe uchitsvaga mumwe munhu wekuenda naye bho.

Chinokosha

Kuve nekushushikana pabonde kunogona kuve kwakanyanya.

Kunyangwe iwe usina kuroora kana kuzvipira kwehupenyu - uye uchida kuzviita neako seksikäs pachako kana kwete - pane nzira kwete kwete chete mira kushungurudzika pabonde, asi kuti ugutsikane pabonde!

Gabrielle Kassel ndeye New York-based bonde uye hukama munyori uye CrossFit Level 1 Mudzidzisi. Iye ave munhu wemangwanani, akaedzwa anopfuura mazana maviri vibrator, uye akadya, akadhakwa, uye nekukweshwa nemazimbe - zvese muzita rezvenhau. Munguva yake yemahara, anogona kuwanikwa achiverenga mabhuku ekuzvibatsira uye enganonyorwa dzerudo, kumanikidza bhenji, kana kutamba matanda. Mutevere pa Instagram.