Sei Ini Handina Kurega Kenza Iinditadzise Kubudirira (Yese 9 Nguva)

Zvemukati

• Mashoko matatu aya aityisa
• Kurarama nekenza kunorevei?
• Kubudirira uchifa nekenza
• Ndicharamba ndichibudirira

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Kupona kenza chero chinhu zviri nyore. Kuzviita kamwe chete chingave chinhu chakaomesesa chawati waita. Kune avo vakazviita kanopfuura kamwe chete, munoziva pachenyu kuti hazvitombova nyore. Izvi zvinodaro nekuti kenza yega yega yekutsvaga yakasarudzika mumatambudziko ayo.

Ndinozviziva izvi nekuti ndiri munhu akararama nekenza kasere, uye ndiri zvekare kurwisa kenza kwenguva yepfumbamwe. Ndinoziva kuti kurarama nekenza kunoshamisa, asi kubudirira negomarara kuri nani. Uye zvinogoneka.

Kudzidza kurarama paunenge uchinzwa kunge urikufa chinhu chinoshamisa, uye icho chandazvipira kubatsira vamwe kuita. Heano maitiro andakadzidza kubudirira nekenza.

Mashoko matatu aya aityisa

Kana chiremba akati, "Une gomarara," nyika inoita kunge ichapidiguka. Kunetseka kunobva kwavapo. Unogona kuzviwana wakakundwa nemibvunzo yakaita seiyi:

• Ini ndichada chemotherapy?
• Ndicharasikirwa nevhudzi rangu here?
• Ko radiation ichakuvadza kana kupisa?
• Ndichada kuvhiyiwa here?
• Ndicharamba ndichikwanisa kushanda panguva yekurapwa here?
• Ndichakwanisa kuzvichengeta pamwe nemhuri yangu here?
• Ndichafa here?

Ndanzwa mazwi matatu anotyisa aya mapfumbamwe akasiyana nguva. Uye ndinobvuma, ndakazvibvunza iyi mibvunzo. Nguva yekutanga yandaitya zvikuru, ndakanga ndisina chokwadi chekuti ndaigona kutyaira kumba ndakachengeteka. Ndakapinda mukutya kwemazuva mana. Asi mushure meizvozvo, ndakadzidza kubvuma kuongororwa, ndakatsunga kwete chete kupona asi zvakare kubudirira nechirwere changu.

Kurarama nekenza kunorevei?

Google "ichirarama" uye ungangowana tsananguro iyi: "Kuenderera mberi nekurarama kana kuvapo, kunyanya mukutarisana nedambudziko."

Kubudikidza neangu ega kenza hondo uye mukutaura neavo vanokanganiswa nekenza, ndaona kuti izwi iri rinoreva zvinhu zvakawanda kuvanhu vazhinji. Pandakabvunza zvinoreva kurarama mukati medunhu rezvechiremba, chiremba wangu akati kurarama nekenza kwaireva:

• Uchiri mupenyu.
• Uri kuenda kuburikidza nematanho kubva kuongororwa kusvika kurapwa.
• Iwe une akawanda sarudzo pamwe nezvakatarisirwa zvemhedzisiro mhedzisiro.
• Uri kurwira mushonga.
• Iwe hautarisirwe kufa.

Pataitaura nevamwe varwi vegomarara munguva dzangu zhinji ndiri muchipatara, ndakazoona kuti vaiwanzove nedudziro yakasiyana yezvaireva kurarama. Kune vakawanda, zvaingoreva kuti:

• kumuka zuva rega rega
• kukwanisa kubuda pamubhedha
• kupedzisa zviitiko zveupenyu hwezuva nezuva (kuwacha uye kupfeka)
• kudya nekunwa pasina kurutsa

Ndataura nemazana evanhu vari kurapwa makore makumi mana apfuura murwendo rwangu neakasiyana kenza. Kuomarara uye mhando yegomarara padivi, ndaona kuti kupona kwangu kwave kutsamirawo pazvinhu zvinopfuura chirwere pachacho, kusanganisira:

• mishonga yangu
• hukama hwangu nachiremba wangu
• hukama hwangu nevamwe vese vechipatara
• hunhu hwangu hwehupenyu kunze kwemamiriro angu ekurapa

Vanhu vazhinji mumakore apfuura vakandiudza kuti kurarama kunongoreva kusafa. Vazhinji vakati havana kumbofunga kuti pane chimwe chinhu chekufunga.

Wanga uri mufaro kwandiri wekukurukura nzira dzavanogona kubudirira. Wanga uri mufaro wangu kuvabatsira kuti vaone kuti vanogona kurarama hupenyu hune pundutso. Zvave zvichinyatso kutyisa kuvaratidza kuti vanobvumidzwa kufara uye kuwana mufaro pavanenge vachirwisa cancer.

Kubudirira uchifa nekenza

Iyo oxymoron yekurarama iwe uchifa. Asi mushure memasere ehondo dzekenza dzakabudirira, ndiri pano kuzokuvimbisa kuti zvinonyanya kuitika kupfuura iwe zvaunoziva. Imwe nzira yakakosha yandakabudirira kuburikidza uye nepakati pekuongororwa kwegomarara nekuzvipira kuhutano hwangu uye kudzivirira chirwere.

Kwemakore, kuziva muviri wangu kana uchinge wanyatsonzwa zvakanaka kwakandibatsira kuona kana zvinhu zvisina kumira zvakanaka. Panzvimbo pekuishuvira kure kana kufuratira zviratidzo zvemuviri wangu kuti ndibatsirwe, ini ndinoita.

Ini handisi hypochondriac, asi ndinoziva nguva yekuenda kuna chiremba kuti andotariswa. Uye nguva uye nguva zvakare, yakaratidza kuve zano rangu rinobereka kwazvo. Mu2015, pandakashanyira wangu oncologist kunotaura zvakakomba nyowani kurwadziwa uye kurwadziwa, ndakafungidzira kuti kenza yangu yadzoka.

Aya akange asiri marwadzo enguva dzose eArthritis. Ndakaziva kuti something was wrong. Chiremba wangu akabva araira kuongororwa, uko kwakasimbisa fungidziro dzangu.

Kuongororwa kwacho kwakanzwa kunetesa: kenza yemazamu, iyo yakanga yapararira kumapfupa angu. Ndakatanga radiation ipapo, ichiteverwa nekemotherapy. Chakaita hunyengeri.

Chiremba wangu akati ndichafa pamberi peKisimusi. Makore maviri gare gare, ndiri kurarama uye ndiri kubudirira nekenza zvakare.

Kunyange ini ndakaudzwa kuti kuongororwa uku hakuna mushonga, handina kusiya tariro kana kuda kurwa uye kurarama hupenyu hune chinangwa. Saka, ndakaenda mune inobudirira modhi!

Ndicharamba ndichibudirira

Kuva nechinangwa muhupenyu kunoita kuti ndirambe ndiri mupenyu uye ndakatsunga kurwa. Ndiwo mufananidzo muhombe unoita kuti ndirambe ndakatarisa kuburikidza nematambudziko. Ndinoziva kuti zvinogoneka kune chero munhu kunze uko achirwa kurwa kukuru.

Kune iwe, ndingati: Tsvaga kufona kwako. Ramba wakazvipira. Tsamira pasisitimu yako yekutsigira. Tsvaga mufaro kwaunogona.

Aya ndiwo mazwi angu anondibatsira kurarama hupenyu hukuru mazuva ese uye kubudirira:

• ndicha ramba uchinyora mabhuku.
• ndicha enderera kubvunzurudza vashanyi vanonakidza pawairesi yangu.
• ndicha ramba uchinyorera pepa rangu remuno.
• ndicha ramba uchidzidza zvese zvandinogona nezve sarudzo dzekenza yemazamu.
• ndicha enda kumisangano uye mapoka ekutsigira.
• ndicha batsira kudzidzisa vanondichengeta nezve zvandinoda.
• ndicha ita chero zvandinogona kutsigira vanhu vane gomarara.
• ndicha kuraira avo vanondibata kuti ndibatsirwe.
• ndicha ramba uchitarisira kurapwa.
• ndicha ramba uchinamata, uchibvumira rutendo rwangu kunditakura kupfuura.
• ndicha ramba uchipa mweya wangu chikafu.

Uye kwenguva yakareba sezvandinogona, ini kuda ramba uchibudirira. Uine kana usina gomarara.

Anna Renault munyori akaburitswa, mutauri weveruzhinji, uye radio show host. Iye zvakare akapona gomarara, ave nemitambo yakawanda yegomarara mumakore makumi mana apfuura. Iyewo amai naambuya. Paanenge asiri kunyora, anowanzowanikwa achiverenga kana kushandisa nguva nemhuri uye neshamwari.