Polysexual Inorevei?

Zvemukati

• Polysexual Inorevei?
• Polysexual vs. Pansexual, Omnisexual, uye Bisexual
• Polyamory vs. Polysexual
• Kuongorora Polysexuality
• Ongororo ye

Kune avo vasinganamate kune heteronormative, hukama hwemurume mumwe chete, inguva inonakidza yekuve mupenyu. Pfungwa dzebonde kumhanyisa iyo gamut hachisi chinhu chitsva, uchinge wazviita sekureba kwevanhu vanga vari pasi pano, asi nzanga yemazuva ano yakazosvika panzvimbo apo, kana iwe uchida, iwe unogona kuisa zita chairo pane chero bonde maitiro kana kuzivikanwa kwechikadzi.

Pakutanga zvizvarwa zvaive zvisina humbozha hwakafanana. Kunyangwe mazwi akadaro anga aripo kwekanguva, mazhinji mavara haana kuwana chinomiririra kana kuremekedza kwavakakodzera zvakakwana - tora pansexual, semuenzaniso, izvo zvaisazivikanwa chaizvo kuruzhinji kusvika Miley Cyrus azivikanwa sepansexual muna 2015. zvakafanana zvinogona kutaurwa nezve polysexual, izwi rakatanga kushandiswa muma1920, asi harina kuzviita kune rakakura kusvika 1974, apo Noel Coppage akanyora chinyorwa Ongororo yeStereo maanotaura nezva David Bowie, pakati pevamwe, seane polysexual. Panguva iyoyo, Coppage akaburitsa izwi iri mune asexual, bisexual, uye pansexual, izvo zvisiri chaizvo chaizvo.

Saka zvinorevei kuita polysexual, chaizvo? Hezvino zvese zvaunoda kuti uzive.

Polysexual Inorevei?

Kana iwe uchizivikanwa zvakanyanya - kana chete kujairirana - nezwi rekuti "polyamory," zvinogona kuita sekunge zvinofambidzana nehupombwe, asi handizvo. Yekutanga rudzi rwehukama husina murume mumwe chete hwehukama hwekuti mumwe munhu anopinda muhukama hunopfuura humwe, nepo hwekupedzisira huri hwebonde.

"Sezvazviri nezvese zvebonde nemazita ehunhu, chirevo chaicho [chepa polysexual] chinosiyana zvichienderana nekuti ndiani arikutsanangura uye / kana kuzvizivisa," anodaro murairidzi wechikadzi wepabonde Gabrielle Kassel, mubatanidzwa weBad In Bed: Iyo Queer Bonde Dzidzo Podcast. "Chinamato chekutanga 'poly' chinoreva zvakawanda kana kuwanda. Saka, kazhinji, mumwe munhu ari wepabonde anobvuma kuti vane mukana wekudanana, kuita zvepabonde, uye / kana kukwezva pamoyo nevarume vakasiyana vakasiyana."

Kune zvakare mureza wepanegumi.

Iko polysexual inotaridzika kunge isina kuiswa mumatombo. Izvo zvinosiyana kubva kumunhu kumunhu, zvichibva pane wavanokwezva kwaari, chinovawo chimwe chinhu chinogona kuchinja nekufamba kwenguva. "Mumwe murume wepabonde rimwe chete anogona kukwezhwa nevarume, vanhu vasiri vebhinari, uye vanhukadzi," anodaro Kassel. "Kunyange mumwe munhu angave anokwezva kuvarume, vakadzi, uye vasingaite mabhinari." (Ona: Zvazvinonyatsoreva Kuve Kwete-Bhinary)

Mune mamwe mazwi, hapana imwe nzira yekuita polysexual.

Polysexual vs. Pansexual, Omnisexual, uye Bisexual

Zvinogona kuve zvakaoma kuti unzwisise mutsauko uripakati pematemu aya. Kunyangwe ivo vari vese vanoita zvebonde uye vanogona kugovana zvimwe zvakafanana - zvinoti, ese anotsanangura maitiro ezvepabonde anoreva kuti munhu anokwezvwa nevarume kana vakadzi vaviri - ivo vachiri vakaparadzana kubva kune mumwe nemumwe.

Bisexual: Bisexuals kazhinji vanoisa pakati pavo zvebonde mukati mebhinari kune yavo yevanhurume uye yeumwe murume kana murume, anodaro Tiana GlittersaurusRex, polyamorous mudzidzisi uye muratidziri, uye mubatsiri -muvambi weThe Sex Work Survival Guide. Bisexuality inogona kuonekwa sechimiro chepolysexuality sezvo ichitsanangura kukwezva kune vanopfuura munhurume mumwe chete.

Pansexual: Zvichakadaro, "pansexual inoreva kukwezva pabonde kune chero munhu zvisinei nehunhu hwake kupfuura bhinari yemurume nemukadzi." Kukwezva uku, anotsanangura Kassel, ndekwe "vanhu kwese kwese zera revakadzi." Kune avo vari pabonde, mukadzi kana murume haatambe chinzvimbo mukukwezva kwavo kune munhu. Pane kudaro, ivo vanotarisa kupfuura kwevakadzi, vachiona kuti kukwezva kwavo kwakanangana nehunhu hwemunhu, njere, kuona kwavanoita nyika, kuseka kwavo, mabatiro avanoita vanhu, uye zvimwe zvinhu zvekuve munhu achigovana pasi rino nemumwe munhu. zvisikwa. Pansexuality inosiyana nehupombwe nekuti vanhu vanoziva sevane polysexual vanogona kukwezva kune vamwe - asi kwete ese - kutaura kwevakadzi, uye vanogona kukonzeresa kutaura uku mukukwezva kwavo vachipesana nekukwezvwa nemumwe munhu zvisinei nehunhu. (Inoenderana: Iyo 'Schitt's Creek' Nguva Yakaita Kuti Emily Hampshire Aone Kuti Aive Pansexual)

Omnisexual: Kunyangwe zvakasiyana, omnisexual (chivakashure "omni" zvichireva "zvese"), ichiri kufanana nekuve pansexual. Pane misiyano yezviviri izvi zvekusangana pabonde "nekuda kwekuziva kuzere kwemurume kana mukadzi, kwete kuve nehupofu hwevakadzi," inodaro GlittersaurusRex. Ndiko kuziva kwevakadzi uku kunopatsanura pansexuality uye omnisexuality kupfuura zvese. Uye omnisexuality yakasiyana nepolysexuality pakuti vanhu vanozvizivisa sevepolysexual vanogona kukwezvwa nevakawanda - asi kwete hazvo vese - varume nevakadzi.

Polyamory vs. Polysexual

Hongu, prefix "poly" inochengetedza zvarinoreva "vazhinji" kunyangwe uri kutaura nezve polyamory kana polysexuality, asi musiyano mukuru pakati pezviviri ndewekuti polyamory hukama hwehukama, uye polysexual hunhu hwepabonde. Kuita zvepabonde ndewako waunokwezva naye pabonde, nepo hukama hwehukama iri mhando yehukama iwe yaunofarira kuita mairi.

"Mumwe munhu ane polyamoriki anokwanisa kuda vanhu vazhinji panguva imwe chete, uye anosarudza kuita hunhu, hukama hwakavimbika uko kuita pamwe, kukurudzira, uye kuda vanhu vazhinji panguva imwe chete kunotenderwa (uye kutokurudzira!)," Anodaro Kassel . Chero ani zvake, zvisinei zvavo zvebonde - kusanganisira, asi zvisina kuganhurirwa kune polysexourse - anogona kuve polyamorous. (Yakabatana: Heino Icho Chaicho Chemhando Yehukama Chaicho Chaicho - uye Izvo Icho Chisiri)

Nekune rimwe divi, avo vane polysexual vanogona kuzviwana vari mune chero rudzi rwehukama, sezvo hunhu hwepabonde uye hukama hwehukama hazvina chekuita nemumwe, kunyangwe vachipindirana nguva nenguva.

"Vanhu vane polysexual vanogona kuva murume mumwe chete, monogam-ish, polyamorous, kana chero humwe hukama hwehukama," anodaro Kassel. (Zvakabatana: Chii Chinonzi Ethical Non-Monogamy, uye Inogona Kukushandira Iwe?)

Kuongorora Polysexuality

Sezvo chero nyanzvi yezvepabonde ichakuudza, kuwanda kwekuita zvepabonde hakusi kungoreba zvakanyanya, asi iwe unogona zvakare kutsvedza uchikwira nekudzika mukati mehupenyu hwako. (Iyi pfungwa chinhu chiduku chinonzi kunyungudika kwepabonde.) Ndeupi maitiro auri mumakore edu ekuma20 angave asina kufanana neaunoona nawo mumakore edu makumi matatu - uye zvakafanana zvinogona kutaurwa pamusoro pehukama hwehukama. Sezvo iwe uchikura semunhu, unogona kuda kuziva, zvaunofarira zvinogona kushanduka, uye dzimwe nguva izvo zvinogona kutungamira kune zvimwe zvishuwo, pahukama uye pabonde. Saka, kana iwe wakambozivikanwa sechimwe chinhu, asi uchinzwa uchidaidzwa nezwi rekuti "polysexual," saka inzwa wakasununguka kuongorora.

"Senge chero kuita bonde, kumutsa kwako uye chishuwo chako zvinoratidza kana uri murume kana mukadzi," anodaro GlittersaurusRex. Funga kutarisa mumabhuku ane hukama hwepabonde nehukama uye podcast, uye nekutevera vanodzidzisa vehukama pasocial media, kuti ugone kudzidza zvakawanda uye uone kuti zvinoita sei muchirevo.

Ehe, hapana kana mumwe wehukama hwehukama kana hukama hwehukama huri nani pane chero humwe. Chokwadi, munhu angashandira mumwe munhu zviri nani, asi izvozvo zvinogona kutaurwa nezvezvinhu zvakawanda muupenyu. Ingori nyaya ye, muno uye ikozvino, kuziva izvo zvakakunakira zvishuwo zvako zvepabonde uye zvehukama, uye kuzembera mazviri. (Verenga zvakare: Nei Ndichiramba Kunyora Zvepabonde Zvangu)

Mufaro wakawanda muhupenyu wakatorwa kubva pabonde rako uye / kana hukama hwehukama, uye kwakatarisana kwakasiyana kunogona kukupa nzira nyowani dzekuona rudo uye kugutsikana pabonde. Izvo zvese nezve kuongorora izvo zvinoita kuti iwe ufare uye kuzvibvumira iwe kuenda kune iwo mufaro kunyangwe iri mune nyowani uye isina unchartered mvura.

Ongororo ye