Zvepabonde Zvako Kare Zvirikukutambudza?

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Ndihwo manheru eChishanu, uye zvinhu zviri kupisa pasi pevhu. Miromo yake iri munzvimbo dzese dzakakodzera, ari kutaura zvinhu zvese zvakanaka, uye ipapo nekukasira, ex wako anopinda muuropi hwako. Pamwe chaive chinhu chakaitwa nemurume wako. Kana pamwe zvinoita kunge pasina chikonzero zvachose. Uye nepo mukomana wako du jour angave asina chaanoziva chakaitika, kudzamara warega kufunga nezvewaimbova murazvo wako, hauzodzoke munzira.

Kuwanda kwako kwevekare-kunyangwe zvakakamurwa sei - kunokanganisa hupenyu hwako hwemazuva ano hwepabonde. Mushure mezvose, kunyange zvazvo varume vekare-kare vari nhoroondo (uye vazhinji, ndinoonga zvakadaro!), Vachiripo. Mukomana uya wekukoreji uyo akakuita kuti uone chemistry inogona kunge iri padhuze nekuoneka uye kuti off-zvakare mukomana wausingakwanise kudzora maoko ako vese vaive nebasa rekuumba zviitiko zvako kumashure kwemikova yakavharwa. Dambudziko nderekuti, vamwe vedu vane zvirangaridzo zvirinani pane vamwe kana zvasvika pakukundwa kwekare. Saka heino maitiro ekubvisa zvipoko zvakajairwa zvevadyidzani zvakapfuura, svika pakuwirirana neyako yemazuva ano sitch, uye uve zvachose panguva yekurara.

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Bust it: Mukomana wauinaye anoshamisa, asi mukomana wawaiva naye kare aiva naye zvinoshamisa hunyanzvi hwekurara-kuti iwe unoshuvira kuti dai uchizowana zvakare. Mubvise mupfungwa dzako nekutaura pamusoro pezvishuwo zvako kuna VaZvino. Zvepabonde zvakanyanyisa kupfuura chiitiko chemuviri, uye kugona kutaura chokwadi pamusoro pekutendeuka (kana kumuratidza zvaunoda) ndicho chinhu chakakosha, anodaro Holly Hein, Ph.D., munyori we Kubata pabonde: Icho Chinoshamisa Chokwadi Chiri Kuseri kwerudo, Ruchiva, uye Kusavimbika.

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Bust it: Kunyangwe kwaive kufamba kwakashata zvakanyanya kana kutaura kwawakambotaura pakati pechiito kuti haugone kuzununguka, ndangariro dzisingaite-dzakanaka dzinogona kukwira panguva dzisina kunaka. Kana chiri chimwe chinhu chausingakwanise kubva mumusoro mako, kungave nekuti zvichiri kunyadzisa kana kuti chiri kukunetsa, chiunze nemurume wako, Hein anoratidza. Iwe haufanire kuenda mune zvakadzama, asi kuiburitsa kunogona kuve nhanho yekutanga mukuregedza pfungwa kuenda. Zvichakadaro, kana chiri chinhu chawakaedza uye chausina kufarira, saka zvakanyatso chena kuti chibvise pane yako yekurara repertoire izvozvi. "Zvaunonzwa wakasununguka kuzviita mushure megore kana maviri muhukama hwakasiyana zvakanyanya pane zvaunogona kunzwa wakasununguka nazvo mushure memwedzi mishoma," anoyeuchidza Karen Ruskin, Psy.D., munyori we Chinyorwa cheKuroora chaDkt Karen.

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Bust it: Pamwe iwe naiye wakasarudza kugara shamwari kana pamwe iwe wakapinda mune diki cyberstalking. Chero chikonzero, akanamatira mumusoro mako. Hazvishamise kuti nyanzvi dzinobvumirana paunonyanya kumuvharira mukati mehupenyu hwako hwezuva nezuva, zvishoma zvaanozobuda panguva dzeX-ratidziro. "Kunyangwe iwe uchiziva kuti haana kukukodzera, muviri wako unokwanisa kungoda chemistry yawanga uine ex," anodaro Ruskin. Kana izvo zvikaita senge zviri izvo, saka zvakanakisa kugadzira imwe chinhambwe pakati pako imi vaviri. "Hakusi kuitirwa hutsinye, kutaura chokwadi," anodaro. "Zvichida iwe newawakambodanana naye munogona kuva shamwari mugore kana maviri, asi unoda imwe nguva yekuti chemistry itonhore."

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Bust it: Kufungidzira chinhu chakajairika chehupenyu hwepabonde hune hutano, Wagner anodaro. "Isu tiri vanhu pfungwa dzedu dzinopota dzichienda ikoko. Chero vasingapindire hukama pakati pako nemumwe wako hapana chekutyira." Mushure mezvose, kuzvikomberedza nekadiki kadiki hakuna kumbove kwakaipa kune yekurara. Asi kana iwe uchigara uchiwana pfungwa dzako dzichidzungaira kana kuti uchifanira kuunza mufananidzo wemumwe mukomana kuti unakirwe, saka chingangove chiratidzo chekuti chimwe chinhu hachina kunaka muhukama hwako.

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