Nzira Yekupfuura Nekurambana, iyo Buddhist Nzira

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Kushungurudzika chiitiko chinoparadza chinogona kusiya chero munhu achibata kuti anzwisise kuti chii chakakanganisika-uye kazhinji kacho kutsvaga kwemhinduro kunotungamira kune yako yekare Facebook peji kana pasi pebhodhoro repinot noir. Kunzwa kuda kunwa kana kuti kuda kushamwaridzana nemunhu akutadzira kunonzwisisika, asi hakuwanzobudiriri. Saka, saka, ndeipi nzira iri nani yekuona maitiro ekukurira kurambana?

Ndiwo mubvunzo watakabvunza Lodro Rinzler, New York City-akavakirwa Buddhist meditation mudzidzisi uye munyori webhuku idzva. Rudo runorwadza, muhomwe-saizi gwara rekurapa kubva pakurwadziwa pamoyo, akafuridzirwa muchidimbu neruzivo rwake rwekubata nekuputsika kuroora, kufa kweshamwari yake yepamwoyo, uye kurasikirwa nebasa rake nekukurumidza kuteedzana. Mukunyora vhoriyamu iyi, akagara mumwe-on-one nevakawanda veNew Yorkers avo vakamuudza nyaya dzavo dzerudo nekuodzwa mwoyo, uye mhinduro dzaive dzakasiyana-siyana uye dzichibva pamwoyo.

"Zvainakidza kwazvo kuona saga yakazara-izere kuti kusuwa kwemoyo kunoratidzika kunge kwakasiyana kwazvo kubva kumunhu kuenda kune mumwe munhu, uye hukama hwese hune humwe hwakasiyana, asi manzwiro akasimba ipapo kazhinji anonzwa-kutengeswa, kunzwa hasha, kunzwa kuora moyo," kunzwa sekunge hauchazombodazve, chero zvingave-kuti isu tese tinosangana nezvinhu izvi panguva dzakasiyana kungave murudo rwepamoyo kana neimwe nzira, "anodaro Rinzler.

Achitora kubva mumadingindira aya, pamwe nekudzidza kwake kwe2,500-makore ekare ehuchenjeri tsika inova Buddhism, Rinzler anopa nguva-yakaedzwa nzwisiso uye zano rekubatsira nekurapa kwekusuwa kwemoyo. Nguva inotevera paunozviwana wava mushure mekurambana kwakashata, tevera matanho mana ataurwa pasi apa kuti akubatsire kunzwa zviri nani nekukurumidza kupfuura iwe unogona kuvhura bhodhoro iroro rewaini.

1. Dzidzira Kuzvitarisira

In Love Hurts, Rinzler anonongedzera chakavanzika chedzidziso dzinozivikanwa seMafaro mana, idzo dzakavigwa mumamongi mukati meTibet kwemazana emakore. Zvinonzi kana iwe ukaita zvese zvina zveizvi muzuva rimwe chete unonzwa uchisimudzwa uye uine simba rakavandudzwa resimba. Zvinoitika chete kuti maitiro aya anoenderana nezano rezvehutano iwe raungawana kubva kumurairidzi wezvehutano, mudzidzisi, kana chiremba wepfungwa, uye zvinhu zvaungangoregeredza paunenge uchidzedzereka kubva kumagumo ehukama:

• Idya zvakanaka
• Rara zvakanaka
• Fungisisa
• Exercise

Iyi miitiro inogona kunzwika yakapusa, asi kudzika pamoyo kunoshungurudza; inokatyamadza iyo system uye muviri wako unoda kuzorora, kudya kwakaringana, uye nzvimbo kuitira kuti upore kubva pairi. Pane zvakawanda kune iyi pfungwa kupfuura tsvakiridzo yekare-inokwira ngano inoratidza kuti kurara kwemhando yepamusoro, kufungisisa, uye kurovedza muviri zvese zvine mhedzisiro yemafungiro (dzimwe nguva kushanda mumaminitsi mashoma) uye zvinogonawo kubatsira kuderedza mhedzisiro yenguva refu yekuora mwoyo.

Edza nenzira dzakasiyana dzekuzvichengeta. Nepaunogona napo, sarudza zvinovaka muviri (kana kuti zvishoma, idya chimwe chinhu) uye zvibvumira kurara zvakanyanya kupfuura zvaunowanzoda. Kana iwe uri mutsva mukufungisisa, tevedzera rairo iri mu # 2 pazasi kuti utange. Kana chiitiko chimwe chete chikanzwa chakanyanya kusimba, sekumhanya, saka edza kuchishandira muchirongwa chako chezuva nezuva. Nenzira iyo, iwe unozoziva kuti kweinenge chikamu chimwe chezuva, iwe unenge uchizvitarisira iwe mukati mekushungurudzika kwemoyo, anopa zano Rinzler.

2. Shandura Nyaya Yaunozvitaurira

Kuti tigone kupora kubva pakurambwa uye kuwana kurambana, isu tinofanirwa kusiya yakawanda yenyaya nyaya dzatinozvitaurira isu pamusoro pekuti tichazogara tichiitirwa sei kana kuti tisingazombowana rudo. "Kutambura kwedu kwakawanda kunoenderera nenyaya," anodaro Rinzler. "Apo patinonzwa kuodzwa mwoyo pamusoro pehukama hwepabonde, kazhinji hatingoti, 'Kune uku kunzwa kunonyura mugomba redumbu rangu uye ndinongonzwa kuneta.' Tinoti, 'Ndinoshamisika kuti vari kuitei iye zvino, ndinoshamisika kana vari kuona mumwe munhu ...' Nyaya dzinoita kuti kutambura kurambe kuchienderera mberi.

Imwe yedzakanakisa nzira dzekucheka kuburikidza neiyi yemukati hurukuro ndeyekufungisisa. Rudzi rwekufungisisa Rinzler anodzidzisa hunowanzo kunzi "kufunga" nekuti zvinosanganisira kuunza pfungwa izere kuchinhu chimwe: mweya. (Tine Gwaro rako rekutanga rekufungisisa.)

Kuti atange, anokurudzira kungozviedza kwemaminitsi gumi pazuva. Gara zvakanaka pamutsago kana chigaro mune isina kugadzikana nzvimbo, gadzira timer kwemaminetsi gumi, uye ingova newe. Fema zvakasikwa uye nyatsoteerera kufema. Kana pfungwa dzako dzichidzungaira mumifungo, ingobvuma izvozvo, zvichida nokutaura chinyararire “kufunga,” wozodzoka kukufema uine pfungwa dzakajeka. Izvi zvinogona kuitika kakawanda pamusoro pemaminitsi gumi uye zvakanaka. Pakupera kwechirongwa, tambanudza kwechinguva uye pinda zuva rako nekufunga uye nemoyo wakashama.

3. Paunoyedzwa Kubata Wako Ex, Ita Izvi Panzvimbo

Pakati pemeseji, Instagram, uye mamwe masocial media nzvimbo, pane nzira dzisingaperi dzekubatana nemunhu akakukonzera kusuwa kwemoyo. Asi haisiriyo nzira yaunokunda nayo kurambana. Kazhinji kana tichiita izvi hazvisi nekuti isu tinoda kujekesa mhepo, asi nekuti isu tarasikirwa neyakajairika nzira yekudyidzana nemunhu iyeye uye tiri kutaurirana nezveimwe yakafanana yezvataimbova nazvo, Rinzler anonyora mukati. Rudo runorwadza.

Paunenge uine chido chekuonana newawaimbova wako, imbomira uye utarise chikonzero chechikonzero nei uchida kusvika, anokupa zano. Imhaka yokuti une chimwe chinhu chine revo chaunoda kutaura here, kana kuti chinongova chokuzorodza kwechinguvana?

Kana chikonzero chako chisina kujeka kana chakanaka (uye iva wakatendeseka kwauri pano!), Rinzler anokurudzira kuti uedze chiitwa ichi: Tora mweya wekufema. Nyora pasi foni yako. Isa ruoko rwako pamwoyo wako uye ubatanidze zvakare nemuviri wako. Kufungisisa uye kurovedza muviri inzira mbiri dzakanaka dzekuita izvi. Chinokosha ndechekuti uzvidzore kubva mukukwezva kuda kuti usvike-pamusoro-nguva iyo itch ichaenda. (Onawo: Nzira 5 dzekutarisana neKuparadzana kwe 'Bofu')

4. Rega Kurwadziwa Kwako

"Chimwe chezvinhu zvine hungwaru zvandinoziva, Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche, akambopa chibvumirano chekusiya zvinorwadza zvezviitiko zvedu," Rinzler anogovera mubhuku rake. "'Rudo rwakasanganiswa nenzvimbo runonzi kurega kuenda.'"

Kana iwe uchishuvira kurega marwadzo ako, wedzera chimwe kana zvese zvezvinhu izvi uye uone zvinoitika, anodaro Rinzler. "Kana vanhu vakapfuura nekurwadziwa pamoyo ivo havafunge kuti vachazombozvikunda, uye vanogona kunge vasiri munzira dzavanoda nekuti zvinogona kutora nguva yakareba kuti zviporese zvinhu izvi. Asi isu tinoshanduka nekufamba kwenguva. Isu dziri kugara dzichichinja uye dzine mvura yakawanda kupfuura yatingafunga. Mwoyo yedu yakatsiga kuti igamuchire marwadzo ehupenyu uye tose tinopora neimwe nzira.

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