Kakawanda Sei Vakaita 'Zvakajairika' Vaviri Vanoita Bonde?

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• Avhareji
• Imba Yako Ine Matambudziko Here?
• Maitiro Ekubvumidza Yako Bonde Drives

Pane imwe nguva muhupenyu, vazhinji vakaroorana vanozvibvunza uye vanozvibvunza kuti, "Ndeipi pavhareji huwandu hwepabonde urwo vamwe vakaroorana vari kuita?" Uye kunyangwe mhinduro yacho isina kunyatsojeka, varapi vebonde vataura zvinhu zvakawanda nezvenyaya iyi chaiyo. Izvi ndizvo zvavanotaura, pamwe nemamwe matipi ekuwedzera kuti akubatsire iwe kuti utore hupenyu hwako hwepabonde munzira!

Avhareji

Pane mumwe mubvunzo pakati pezvekurapa pabonde nezve izvo zviyero zvepakati ndezvevakaroora muhukama hwakazvipira. Mhinduro dzinogona kubva kamwechete pasvondo kusvika kamwe pamwedzi! Apo Ian Kerner, PhD, paakabvunzwa kuti anopindura sei kune vakaroorana vanomubvunza kuti vanofanira kuita bonde kangani, akati, "Ndakagara ndichipindura kuti hapana mhinduro chaiyo.

Kana vaviri vakamira kuita bonde, hukama hwavo hunova panjodzi yekutsamwa, kusabatana, kusavimbika uye, pakupedzisira, kurambana.

Mushure mezvose, hupenyu hwepabonde hwevaviri hwakakanganiswa nezvinhu zvakawanda zvakasiyana: zera, mararamiro, hutano hwemumwe nemumwe uye zvakasikwa libido uye, zveshuwa, mhando yehukama hwavo hwese, kungodoma mashoma

"Kunyange hazvo pangasave nemhinduro chaiyo kumubvunzo wekuti vakaroorana vanofanira kusangana pabonde kangani, nguva pfupi yadarika ndanga ndisinganyatsoenzana uye ndichikurudzira vakaroorana kuti vaedze kuzviita kamwechete pasvondo." Sekureva kwaDavid Schnarch, PhD, kuburikidza neongororo yakaitwa nevanhu vanopfuura zviuru makumi maviri, vakaroora vakaona kuti chete 26% yevakaroora varikurova kamwe-pavhiki, vazhinji vevakabvunzwa vachiita bonde kamwe chete kana kaviri pamwedzi, kana zvishoma!

Zvisinei, kumwe kuongorora, kwakadhindwa muYunivhesiti yeChicago Press makore gumi apfuura, kwakataura kuti vakaroorana vari kuita bonde kanomwe pamwedzi, zvinova zvishoma zvishoma kana kaviri pasvondo. Uye muchidzidzo chechitatu, zvakataurwa kuti kubva pavakuru zviuru gumi nezvitanhatu vakabvunzurudzwa, vatori vechikamu vekare vaive vachiita bonde kanokwana ka2 kana katatu pamwedzi, nepo vadiki vatori vechikamu vakati vairara navo kamwechete pasvondo.

Imba Yako Ine Matambudziko Here?

Vazhinji vezvekurara pabonde vanobvumirana kuti kuita bonde zvisingasvike kagumi pagore chikonzero chakaringana kunongedza imba yako seisina bonde. Nekudaro, kushaya bonde hazvireve kuti imba yako iri mudambudziko, sekureva kweSchnarch. Nepo bonde ingave iri nzira iyo vakaroorana vanowanzo kuratidza rudo rwavo uye chishuwo kune mumwe nemumwe, kushomeka kwepabonde hazvireve kuti uri kuenda kunozorora, asi chiri chinhu chaunofanirwa kuwana mubato. Dr. Kerner vanoti, "Bonde rinoratidzika kunge riri kukurumidza kuwira pasi pezita reAmerica rekuita; asi, mune yangu ruzivo, kana vakaroorana varega kuita zvepabonde hukama hwavo hunova panjodzi yekutsamwa, bato, kusavimbika uye, pakupedzisira, kurambana. Ndinotenda kuti nyaya dzepabonde: Ndidzo nhindi dzinoita kuti tirambe tiri pamwe chete uye, pasina izvozvo, vakaroorana vanova 'shamwari dzakanaka' zvakanyanya, kana kuti 'vanogara vachipopotedzana' zvachose. ”

Maitiro Ekubvumidza Yako Bonde Drives

Pane zvinhu zvakawanda zvinoda kuwira munzvimbo kuti uite zvepabonde chinhu chauri kuda. Mune vakaroorana vazhinji, mutsauko mumaonero unogona kuva dambudziko. Al Cooper, anobva kuSan Jose Marital uye Zvepabonde Center, anoti, "Kazhinji, zvisinei, matambudziko evakaroorana kazhinji haanyanyi kuita nezvebonde, pane se, kupfuura kuenda pabonde.

"Kana zvekuita bonde rako zvisina kuenzana, chinangwa chako kusangana pakati, kurara nemunhu anodarika mumwe chete, asi pamwe kushoma pane vamwe vanofarira." - Dr. Gail Saltz

Hapana kuda kwevaviri pabonde chero nguva yakatarwa inoenderana zvakakwana. Chinokosha ndechekuti vaviri vanotaurirana zvakanaka sei nguva apo mumwe anotanga uye mumwe achiramba. ” Sezvo nenyaya dzese muhukama, bonde uye kuwanda kwauinako zvinoda kurerutsa.

Zvinogona kuita kunge gomo rakakura kukwira, paunofunga nezvezvimwe zvinhu zvese zvaunosangana nazvo zuva nezuva. Kuwacha, basa, kubika chikafu, kuchenesa, uye mamwe mabasa anowanzoita kunge akakosha pane kukurumidza nemumwe wako; asi bonde rinogona kunakidzwa zvakare! Kerner anoti, "Kana tangomira kuzviita, zviri nyore kuti ubatike mukudonha; asi kana tangodzokera munzira, tinorangarira kuti takarasikirwa zvakadii. Tsumo yekare yekuti ‘ishandise kana kurasa’ ine imwe chokwadi. Saizvozvowo zano rangu, 'edza, ucharifarira.' ”

Pakutanga, zvinogona kureva kuronga bonde uye kuita iyo nguva inotungamira kune iyo bonde ive yepedyo. Gumbatiranai zuva rega rega, rovedza muviri kuti uwedzere testosterone yako mazinga, uye bvisa zvinovhiringidza, sekomputa neTV. Kana iwe uchiri kuine matambudziko nekugona kuita zvehukama, kuona chiremba wezvepabonde kunogona kunyatso kukubatsira iwe nemumwe wako pasi peji rimwe chete!