1 mu5 yeShamwari Dzako Iri Kinky - Iwe Unofanira Kuve Iwewo?

Zvemukati

• Ngatidzokerei kwechinguva: Chii chaizvo chinokodzera sekink?
• Kinky bonde inogona kubatsira mune dzimwe nzira dzinoshamisa
• Kunzwisisa kinky bonde zvisizvo, zvisaririra, uye ngano
• Vakadzi vanofarira kink, futi
• Iwe hausi "kupenga" kuedza BDSM
• Iwe haudi yakawanda yemhando yepamusoro michina
• Kuchengeta yekurara kutamba kunonakidza uye kwakachengeteka
• Zvese zvinotanga nemvumo
• Mashoko akachengeteka haasekwi
• Funga nezve (uye taura nezve) yako "miganho yakaoma"
• Ita chokwadi chekutambudzika chinonakidza - uye pasina mhedzisiro yehutano
• Kuchengeta mushure kwakakoshawo
• Rangarira: Kinky bonde ndizvo zvaunoda kuti zvive

Hafu yevagari vanofarira kink

Kugovana ruzivo rwepedyo rwehupenyu hwako hwepabonde kuchiri kukuru kwazvo. Asi kana iwe usingakwanise kutaura nezvazvo neshamwari dzako dzepedyo, zviri kuunza mukamuri yekurara zvichave nyore kwazvo?

Dai zvaisave zvevazhinji erotica uye yakapusa zvinyadzi (mhoro, "Makumi mashanu maGrey eGrey"), iwe ungangodaro usina kuziva zvakawanda nezvekuyedza miganhu mubedroom. Uye dai zvisiri zvekusazivikanwa zvidzidzo, isu tingangotadza kuziva kuti vangani vekuAmerican vakaedza - uye akafarira - kurova uye kusungirana.

Ichokwadi ndechekuti dzimwe shamwari dzako dzakambozviedza - uye mumwe chete pavashanu anozviita chikamu chemutambo wavo wenguva dzose mumba yekurara. Sekureva kweiyo, inopfuura makumi maviri neshanu muzana yevanhu vakuru vanoita zvepabonde vanoita zvekutamba, nepo vanopfuura makumi maviri muzana vakaita zvekusungwa uye kurohwa.

Zvichida zvakanyanya kushamisa? Imwe ongororo yakawanikwa kuti ingangoita hafu yevanhu 1,040 vakaongororwa vaifarira kink, kunyangwe dai vasina kuwana mukana wekuiongorora. Uye pane kuwedzera kwekutsvagisa kuti kuwana ruzivo mukamuri yekurara kunogona kuve nezvakanaka zvakawanda, zvese kune hutano hwako uye hukama hwako.

Ngatidzokerei kwechinguva: Chii chaizvo chinokodzera sekink?

Kunyange izwi rekuti kink risina dudziro yezvekurapa kana yehunyanzvi, kazhinji kacho tsika dzebonde dzinowira kunze kwekokorodzano - zvinowanzoonekwa sezviito zvakaita sekubata nerudo, kutaura kwerudo, kutsvoda, kupinda mukati memukadzi, kuita bonhora, uye bonde remukanwa. "Kink" pachayo inoreva chero chinhu chinokombamira kure ne "chakatetepa uye chakamanikana," kunyangwe paine mashoma mapoka anowanzo kuwira pasi pekambure rebonde rekinky:

• BDSM. Kana vanhu vazhinji vachifunga nezvekinky bonde, ivo vanofunga nezveBDSM, ina-tsamba mavara anoreva nhanhatu zvinhu zvakasiyana: Kusungwa, Kuranga, Kudzora, Kuzviisa, Sadism, uye Masochism. BDSM inosanganisira yakakura kwazvo zviitiko zvezviitiko, kubva pachiedza padhaya kurova uye hukuru / kuzviisa pasi-kutamba-kutamba kumapato evasungwa uye kutamba kwekutambudzika.
• Kufungidzira uye kutamba-kutamba. Imwe yemhando dzakajairika dze kinky bonde inosanganisira kugadzira fungidziro dzezviitiko. Izvi zvinogona kuve zvakapusa sekutaura nezve fungidziro pamubhedha, kune yakaoma sekupfeka zvipfeko kana kuita zvimiro pamberi pevasingazive.
• Fetishes. Mumwe chete pavarume nevarume nevakadzi anofarira kutamba kwevanasikana, zvinotsanangurwa sekurapa chinhu chisingaite kana chikamu chemuviri pabonde. Zvakajairika fetis dzinosanganisira tsoka neshangu, dehwe kana rabha, uye mutambo wedhireya (hongu).
• Voyeurism kana kuratidzira. Kutarisa mumwe munhu achibvisa hembe kana kuona vaviri vachiita bonde vasina ruzivo, zvakajairika kufungidzira, nepo kuita bonde munzvimbo yeruzhinji iri imwe nzira yekuratidzira. Zvese zviri zviviri zvinoshamisa zvakajairika (uye kinky) - 35 muzana yevakuru vakaongororwa vaifarira voyeurism.
• Bonde reboka. Makumi matatu, mapato ezvepabonde, madhiri, uye zvimwe - kurara pabonde chinhu chero chinosanganisira vanhu vanopfuura vaviri. uye 18 muzana yevarume vakapinda muchikwata chebonde, nepo kunyangwe akakwira zvikamu zvakaratidza kufarira pfungwa.

Kinky bonde inogona kubatsira mune dzimwe nzira dzinoshamisa

Inzwa sainzi kutanga kunze: Kinky bonde rinogona kukubatsira kuti unzwe zvirinani uye uve nepfungwa dzakanaka. Zvakawanikwa kuti vese vane mukurumbira uye vanozviisa pasi vashandi veBDSM vaive:

• zvishoma neurotic
• zvakanyanya kudzvanywa
• yakavhurika kune zvitsva zviitiko
• kunyanya kungwarira
• kushoma kwekuramba-kunzwisisika

Ivo zvakare vaive nepamusoro-soro kuzviisa pasi pehukama zvichienzaniswa neboka rinodzora. Izvi zvinogona kureva zvinhu zviviri: Kuti vanhu vane hunhu uhwu vanokwezvwa nekinky bonde, kana kuti kinky bonde rinogona kukubatsira iwe kukura uye kuwana chivimbo. Asi iyo yekupedzisira inogona kuitika, kunyanya apo isu tichitsvaga zvakanyanya nezve mhedzisiro yekinky bonde.

Semuenzaniso, vakawana kuti vakaroorana vaiita zvakanaka, vanobvumirana sadomasochistic (SM) chiitiko chaive nematanho akaderera eanokuvadza kushungurudzika mahormone cortisol, uye zvakare akataura manzwiro akakura ehukama hwepedyo uye hwehukama mushure mekutamba kwavo pabonde.

Uye ongororo yekutanga yezvishoma zve "switch" (vanhu vanotora chinzvimbo chakapesana chavakajaira, senge domhu inova sub) vakawana kuti kubvumirana BDSM kunogona kudzora kushushikana nekuunza pfungwa kune yakachinja "kuyerera. ”Mamiriro ekuziva. Izvi zvakafanana nemanzwiro anoita vamwe pavanosangana ne "mumhanyi wepamusoro," vanoita mukugadzira hunyanzvi, kana kuita yoga.

Kunzwisisa kinky bonde zvisizvo, zvisaririra, uye ngano

Hazvishamisi kuti sezvo isu tisingataure nezve kinky bonde, kune yakawanda ngano uye zvisirizvo fungidziro dzakatenderedza. Ngatibvisei mhepo pane mashoma akajairika kink stereotypes.

Vakadzi vanofarira kink, futi

Nepo chaiwo marudzi e kinky bonde achiwanzo kukwezva zvakanyanya kune rimwe bonde kupfuura iro - semuenzaniso, varume vazhinji vanofarira kutamba tsoka dzevacheche, nepo vazhinji vakadzi vachifarira kurwadziwa sezvikamu zvebonde - vese varume nevakadzi vanoda kuongorora kink nezve zvakaenzana.

Iwe hausi "kupenga" kuedza BDSM

Mune main media midhiya, BDSM inowanzo kuve yakabatana nekushungurudzwa uye chisimba. Vamwe varapi vakatombotarisana nekutambudzwa nekusarurwa nekuda kwemakink avo. Asi zvidzidzo zvinoratidza kuti munhu wepakati anoita kensheni yekubvumirana ane pamusoro-pavhareji hutano hwepfungwa.

Iwe haudi yakawanda yemhando yepamusoro michina

Mufananidzo wehombodo-yakapfeka dominatrix ine chikwapuro chakaenzana inogona kusvetuka mupfungwa kana iwe uchifunga nezve kinky bonde. Asi chaizvo, zvese zvaunoda kufungidzira uye mudiwa uyo ari mutambo.

Kana iwe uchinakidzwa nezvimwe fetusi kana uchida kuongorora nyika zvakanyanya, pane zviripo zvitoro zveizvozvo. Asi kuyedza kink hakusi kungoita semidziyo-inorema sekuti, tamba, munharaunda yako yekutandarira hockey ligi. Iwe hautombodi kuvhara maziso kana mahandcuffs kana iwe uchida kutamba uchitamba nekunzwa kushaya kana kudzvinyirira - tai kana pillowcase inogona kushanda muzviitiko zvese izvi.

Kuchengeta yekurara kutamba kunonakidza uye kwakachengeteka

Kunyangwe kinky bonde iine mabhenefiti mazhinji, uye kunyangwe ichigona kuve chero chaunoda iwe nemumwe wako, kuchine zvimwe zvinhu zvishoma zvaunofanira kuchengeta mundangariro kuti kutsvagurudza kwako kunakidze, kuve kwakachengeteka, uye kwakanaka.

Zvese zvinotanga nemvumo

Mvumo yekuziva hachisi chimwe chinhu chinoitika usati wawana mumwe wako, icho chinhu chinofanirwa kuitika usati waita bonde, kunyanya kana iwe uchiedza chimwe chinhu kinky kekutanga. Kutaurirana kwakakosha kuhukama hwakanaka hwepabonde, asi kwakakosha kana iwe uchitsvaga hukuru / kuzviisa pasi mabasa kana zvinogona kukonzera marwadzo.

Mashoko akachengeteka haasekwi

Chikamu chekufungidzira kwako chingangosanganisira kuzvidzora kana kuramba - izvo zvakajairika kupfuura zvaungafunge pakati pevakadzi. Kuti uve nechokwadi chekuti iwe unogona kuti kwete mune yako yekufungidzira nyika, asi zvakadaro uine nzira yekutaura zvakajeka kuti kwete kune mumwe wako, shandisa rakachengeteka izwi raunobvumirana pariri usati wawana kinky. Mutsara wekutanga waunogona kushandisa ndewe mwenje mutsvuku (mira) uye mwenje wegirini (Ramba uchienda).

Funga nezve (uye taura nezve) yako "miganho yakaoma"

Wese munhu aneganho dzakasiyana uye miganhu. Nepo kuvhurwa kune mitsva yekurara zviitiko kwakanakisa, kuvhurika nezve izvo iwe zvausingade kuongorora (sezvazvisati zvamboita, zvachose) zvakakosha zvakaenzana. Kurukura izvi "miganho yakaoma" nemumwe wako pachena - hapana chikonzero chekunyara.

Ita chokwadi chekutambudzika chinonakidza - uye pasina mhedzisiro yehutano

Chikamu chakakura chekinky bonde chiri kusanganisa marwadzo uye mafaro. Nepo vazhinji vakaroorana vachiita mutsetse nekurova kana kurova, avo vanoongorora dzimwe nzira - dzakadai sekurwadziwa kwepamu uye kwepamuviri - vanofanira kuzvidzidzisa kuitira kuti varege kukuvadza zvakakomba kana kwenguva refu kumaturu kana tsinga.

Kuchengeta mushure kwakakoshawo

Kunyangwe vachiita bonde risiri rekinky, vakadzi vanogona kusangana "," izvo zvinosanganisira zviratidzo zvakaita sekushushikana, kutsamwa, kana kuchema zvisina chinangwa. Kuverenga izvi nekutarisira kumashure, uko kunosanganisira kushamwaridzana kwepamoyo uye kutaurirana, kwakakosha, kunyanya kune BDSM.

Saka usangoenda kunorara mushure mekuita bonde zvakanyanya. Tarisa nemumwe wako uye iva nechokwadi chekuti vakanaka nezvakangoenda pasi.

Rangarira: Kinky bonde ndizvo zvaunoda kuti zvive

Kink inogona kutaridzika zvakasiyana zvakanyanya kune vakaroora vakasiyana, uye izvo zvakanyatsonaka. Kutsvaga kink hakufanirwe kutanga nekutenga sutu yemuviri weganda uye chikwapuro. Zvinogona kuve zvakapusa sekuona zvinoitika kana iwe ukapunzika kubva pane yako yenguva yekurara maitiro uye wopinda nyika nyowani yebonde.

Iwo mapfumo epakati ekubudirira kwekinky bonde akafanana neayo eayo chero akasimba, marefu-marefu hukama:

• kutaurirana
• kuvimba
• kunzwisisa
• kutsungirira

Uye ikozvino zvaunoziva kuti sainzi-inogamuchirwa, usarega magariro-akavakirwa mumagariro kupinda munzira yemafaro ako. Enda ugoita misikanzwa.

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