Kudzidza Kurega

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Iwe haugone kurega mumwe wako wekare, unoshuva kuti dai waipedza nguva shoma pabasa uye nguva yakawanda nevana, une kabati izere nembatya dzisingakwani- asi haugone kutsungirira . Ndezvipi zviitiko izvi zvakafanana? "Ivo vese vanoremedza iwe, vachikusiya wakanamatira kare," anodaro Ryan Howes, Ph.D., chiremba wezvepfungwa muPasadena, California. Takatendeukira kune nyanzvi kuti tiwane nzira dzakanakisa dzekupfuura nadzo nyaya dzakakosha: Hasha, kuzvidemba, ex wako uye zvipfeko zvisingakwane. Kudzidza kurega hazvisi nyore, asi zvinogutsa zvinoshamisa, zvichikusiya uine nzvimbo muhupenyu hwako hwechimwe chinhu chiri nani.

Kurega Hasha

Kunyange zvazvo zvakajairika kugumbuka kana mumwe munhu akakukanganisira, zvinova zvisina kunaka kana iwe usingakwanisi kurega kuzvidzora. "Mupfungwa kudzokorora kudarika kwese kutenderera kusingagumi kunongowedzera hasha dzako uye kunopera simba rako," anodaro Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., muongorori paUniversity yeCalifornia, Riverside.

Vatsvakurudzi vanokurudzira kunyora pasi zvese zvakaitika uye kuti wakanzwa sei nezvazvo. "Icho chiito chekuisa mazwi pabepa chinokumanikidza kutora nhanho kumashure, kuve nechinangwa, uye kunyora manzwiro ako," anodaro Lyubomirsky. "Kupinda muanalytical mode kunoita kuti chiitiko chacho chisava nemunhu uye kunoita kuti unzwisise zvikonzero zviri shure kwayo kuti ugone kuzvirega."

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Vashoma vanhu vanopinda muhupenyu vasingafungi nezve nzira isina kutorwa kana kushuvira kuti dai vakaita imwe sarudzo pamharadzano yakakosha. "Icho chikamu chekuva munhu," anodaro Caroline Adams Miller, munyori we Kugadzira Hupenyu Hwako Hwakanakisisa. "Yechipiri-yekufungidzira kazhinji inotanga mumakore ako makumi maviri pamusoro pezvinhu sekusatsvaga hukama kana kusarudza zvisizvo zvisizvo kukoreji. Uye mukati mehupenyu, kusahadzika kwako kungangoita nezve sarudzo dzakapfuura - kuti hauna kusiya basa risingagutsi makore kutanga kana kuva nevana pawakanga uri mudiki.

Kana iwe ukazviwana iwe uchigara uchibvunza, "Ko kana?" ndicho chiratidzo chekuti pane chiri kushaikwa kubva muhupenyu hwako, uye iwe unofanirwa kufunga nezvekuteerera kuhope idzodzo dzemasikati, anodaro Miller. Semuyenzaniso, kana uri kuzvikanda wega kuti wakagadzirira basa rakagadzikana pane kutsvaga rudo rwako rwekuita, edza kunze kwekugadzirwa nenharaunda yako yemitambo yemitambo uye ona zvinoitika.

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Hakusi kuzvidemba kwese kuri nyore kurega. Miller anoti mumamiriro ezvinhu apo iwe haugone kudzokera kumashure munguva uye kugadzirisa zvinhu zvose, unofanira kuziva kuti wakaita zvakanakisisa zvawaigona panguva iyoyo. Asi usazvirega uchibva pachirauro zvachose. "Ndiwo marwadzo mashoma ekuzvipa mhosva anotibatsira kuve munhu kwaye," anodaro Miller. "Pamwe pane chimwe chiito chaungatora ikozvino kugadzirisa."

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Hukama hwekare hunowanzo kunzwa sekufa sekureva kwaTerri Orbuch, munyori we 5 Nyore Matanho Ekutora Yako Muchato Kubva Pakanaka kuenda Kukuru. “Chimwe chinhu chakanyanya kuoma kugamuchira ndechekupera kwerudo,” anodaro. Uye, nemoyo wako nepfungwa dzakadyiwa newawakamboita, hapana mukana wekuti iwe uwane unotevera unoshamisa mukomana.

Kana uchiri kudanana nemukomana wako wekare, mubvise muupenyu hwako. Kutanga, bvisa zvinhu zvese zvaunazvo zvinokuyeuchidza nezvake. Ita poindi yekudzivirira mahaunts ako ekare uye edza kutsiva tsika dzawakaita sevanhu vaviri neitsva.

Tevere, Orbuch anoti, zvibvunze kana uchimusuwa zvechokwadi kana kana uchingori wega. Zviedze: Nyora pasi hunhu hushanu hwakakosha kwauri uye ona kana hunoenderana nezvaaifanira kupa. "Nguva zhinji, ex wako anga asina chaunoda uye chaunoda," anodaro Orbuch. Hauna kugutsikana here? Kumbira shamwari dzako nemhuri kuti vaone maonero avo. "Tinowanzokanganwa zvakaipa totarisa pane zvakanaka," anodaro Orbuch. "Asi vamwe vanhu muhupenyu hwedu havadaro."

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Iwe unogona kufunga kuti wadhiropu izere nenguo idiki zvakanyanya kuita kukurudzira kurasikirwa nemapaundi gumi-asi ndizvo chaizvo zvakapesana. "Idzo saizi 6 dzemabhurugwa dzinozotaridzika zvakakwana paunorasikirwa nehuremu ndezve ramangwana rekufungidzira uko iwe uri mutete iwe," anodaro Peter Walsh, munyori we Rerutsira: Ida Zvauinazvo, Iva nezvaunoda, Fara Nezvishoma. "Asi vanokutungamira kuti unzwe sekukundikana." Kuchengeta seti ye "mbatya dzakakora" zvakaenzana zvinoderedza, zvichiratidza kuti iwe unogona kuwedzera huremu chero nguva.

Mhinduro haisi rocket sainzi. "Pfuura nepakati pese," anodaro Walsh. "Zvibvunze, 'Izvi zvinowedzera kukosha kuhupenyu hwangu izvozvi here?' "Iva nehutsinye. Kana mhinduro iri kwete, ibva apa. Nekubvisa zvipfeko zvekushuvira, unosunungura nzvimbo yezvimedu zvinoita kuti muviri wako wazvino utaridze zvinoshamisa.

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