13 Mazano Ekuita Bonhora eChidzidzo Chekuita Solo Inofuridza Pfungwa

Zvemukati

• 1. Inyore mukati.
• 2. De-stress kare.
• 3. Tarisa.
• 4. Dhizaini zuva rako wega.
• 5. Lube kumusoro.
• 6. Ita mari mu vibrator.
• 7. Nangidzira pfungwa pamhando diki dzemafaro.
• 8. Ita kuti zviroto zvako zvive zvakasviba.
• 9. Ongorora erotic arts.
• 10. Teerera muviri wako wose.
• 11. Zvishoma nezvishoma.
• 12. Chinja nzira yako.
• 13. Kufema.
• Ongororo ye

Zvakanaka, zvingangoita kuti wakambozvibata iwe kare, kunyangwe uchingoita zvekugezesa mushawa panguva iyoyo yekuyaruka kwevechidiki. Izvo zviri kutaurwa, vanhu vazhinji vanozvarwa nemukadzi havanyatso kuziva maitiro ekuita bonhora, ndoda kurega kusvika O izere vega.

Uye zvakanaka, chikamu chechikonzero mhando yekushungurudza. "Sosaiti inodzidzisa vakadzi kuti kunakidzwa kwavo kunokosha chete mumamiriro ezvinhu ekupa mudiwa wechirume kufara - uye izvi hazvisi zvechokwadi. Kuzvifadza ndechimwe chezvinhu zvinopa simba uye zvakanyanya izvo mukadzi anogona kuita munyika ino, "anodaro. Rena McDaniel, M.Ed., chiremba wezvepabonde muChicago.

Kudzidza kuita bonhora kunogona kuwedzera chivimbo chako uye kufara kwako pachako. Asi hazvisi izvo zvese: Zvinogona zvakare kukubatsira iwe kuwana zvaunoita uye zvausingade iwe pachako, izvo, zvakare, zvinogona kuita kuti zvive nyore kwauri kuti unakirwe - uye kunyatsobva - nemumwe (kana maviri ... kana matatu ... chero chii chinoyangarara chikepe chako!). (Uye haufanire kukanganwa nezve epic hutano hunobatsira bonyora, futi.)

Uye kana usina kuzvibata kwemakore (zvichida kubva pakuroora kana kuita vana), saka ungangodawo chidzidzo chitsva chekuti unozvibata sei, zvakare - izvo, BTW, zvakajairika. "Miviri yedu inokura, inoshanduka, uye inochinja nekufamba kwenguva, uye bonhora inogona kuva nzira yekuramba tichionana uye kugara takajairana nemiviri yedu nemafaro edu," anodaro Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D., nyanzvi yezvemagariro evanhu uye chipangamazano wehukama nehukama muSan. Diego.

Kana iwe usati wambove nerombo rakanaka nehurukuro yega, yeuka: Hapana munhu anowana buff mushure merwendo rumwe kuenda kujimu. Kuwedzera kwaunoita, unowedzera kudzidza kwete bonhora chete asiwo maitirwo ebonhora iwe, anodaro Emily Morse, murapi wezvepabonde uye anotambira podcast Zvepabonde naEmily. "Funga nezvayo sebasa remumba, kunze kwekunge bvunzo yekupedzisira inonakidza kwazvo."

Kune rimwe divi, iwe unogona kunge uchitoziva yakatarwa seti yekufamba (kusanganisira chaizvo nzira yekuzvigadzika pachako) kuvimbisa mugumo nguva dzese. Asi kunyangwe kana nzira yako yakaedzwa-uye-yechokwadi ichishanda sechishongo, nekufamba kwenguva chiitiko ichocho chingatanga kunzwa zvishoma, zvakanaka, chijairira.

Pano, nhanho dzakasimba dzekuita yako yekutanga (kana yekutanga munguva) chikamu chega chibudirire - kana iwe uchingoda kubuda muhutsika hwepabonde wega.

1. Inyore mukati.

"Paunozviita zvakanyanya, zvichava nyore kupfuura nepamaroadblocks uye unakirwe nezvakanaka zvebonhora," anodaro Morse. Unonzwa sekunge hauna kana nguva? Zviise pakarenda yako, anodaro. McDaniel anobvumirana, achiwedzera, "Isu tinopa nguva yezvinhu zvakakosha kwatiri. Zvipe mvumo yekushandisa nguva mukunakidzwa kwako." (Zvakafanana: Nei Unogona Kutya Kuzvibata - uye Maitiro Ekukundisa)

2. De-stress kare.

"Kushungurudzika kunogona kuve kumwe kuuraya kukuru kwekuita bonde kwemukadzi, saka kudzidza kudzikama uye kuzvinyaradza ndeimwe yeakanyanya kurovedza aunogona kugona," anodaro Morse.

Ichokwadi: Maitiro ekuita zvepabonde evakadzi anonyanya kunetseka kune kushushikana kupfuura kwevarume, zvichireva kuti iwe unogona kunge uine nguva yakaoma yekunzwa kumutswa kana iwe uri mumhepo yakaipa, maererano nekutsvakurudza kubva kuKinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, uye Reproduction. . "Chinyengeri ndechekuita zvinhu kuti uzvibatsire kuzorora uye kudzikisira pamberi unotorova mubedroom. Ita maekisesaizi, famba famba, dhirowa bhavhu rakanaka, kana kuseta maminitsi gumi nemashanu kuti ufungisise, "anodaro Morse. Kana kana iwe usingakwanise kuita seunorova mweya wakashata, saka usamanikidze; unogona kugara uchitaura , ziva maitiro ekuzvigadzira wega zuva rinotevera.

3. Tarisa.

"Kugadzikana kunotanga nekuziva," anodaro McDaniel. "Paunoisa parutivi kuzvitonga uye kusvika pakuita bonhora nepfungwa yakavhurika uye inoda kuziva, zvinokubatsira kuti ugadzikane muganda rako." Imwe nzira yakanaka: Tanga kuongorora. Gunsaullus anoratidza kuisa timer kwemaminetsi gumi nemashanu kusvika makumi maviri, kubata girazi reruoko, uye kujairana kwete nekungonzwa chete, asiwo kutaridzika kwenzvimbo dzako dzebonde. "Zvishoma nezvishoma fambisa minwe yako kutenderedza dumbu rako, mazamu, dumbu, zvidya, uye vulva. Tamba nemiromo yako yemalabia, fambisa iyo, tenderedza minwe yako kumusoro uye pasi - ingoita kuti unzwe nezve muviri wako kunge uri mutorwa unoshanyira nyika itsva, "anodaro.

4. Dhizaini zuva rako wega.

Gunsaullus anokurudzira chimwe chinhu chaanodaidza kuti "bonyora yekufungisisa" - uchishandisa kufunga uye nepfungwa shanu dzose kuti ugadzire wega nzvimbo yekudanana, yekurera uye inodziya. Zvitorere bhavhu rakazara nemabhuru negirazi rewaini, dzosera mwenje mubedroom, uye wobatidza makenduru mashoma - gadzira mhando yemagariro iwe iwe yaungadanana naye. (Unoda mamwe nhungamiro pazviri? Tarisa uone inotungamirwa naGunsaullus.)

Unoda kudzoreredzwa zvishoma zvekuisa mumood? Edza Kwakanaka Vibrations Mushure meRima, saiti ine yakakura muunganidzwa yevakadzi-inoshamwaridzika porn, inoratidza Morse. (Kana izvi: Iyo Nyowani Nyowani Iyo Inoshandura Hupenyu Hwako Hwepabonde)

5. Lube kumusoro.

"Lubricant yakafanana nemunyu wenyika yepabonde - ine simba rekuita kuti zvese zvinzwe (kana kuravira) zvakanyanya nani," anodaro Morse. Zvidzidzo zvakagara zvichiratidza kuti kuwedzera lube mukugadzira rudo kunogona kuwedzera zvakanyanya kugutsikana nekunakidzwa - uye zvakafanana zvinogona kutaurwa pamisangano yega, anodaro McDaniel. "Lube rinogona kuva shamwari yepamwoyo yekuona kunakidzwa nekuita bonhora." Ingoshandisa donhodzo kutanga uye kunyorera zvakare sezvinodiwa paunenge uchienderera mberi nerwendo rwako rwekuita-kuzvigunwe.

McDaniel anokurudzira System JO Agape (Buy It, $17, amazon.com), mafuta ane mvura aanofarira nekuti akagadzirirwa kutevedzera mafuta ako echisikigo kana Astroglide (Buy It, $9, amazon.com), imwe formula yakavakirwa mumvura yakachengeteka kumatoyi ako epabonde. Nezve Silicone-based lubes, Morse anokurudzira Pjur (Buy It, $ 20, walmart.com) kana Überlube (Buy It, $ 29, amazon.com), ayo anotsvedza uye akakwana kutamba kweminwe. Chero nzira, dzivisa mafuta-based lubes, ayo akaoma kuchenesa uye anogona kuputsa zvose makondomu uye zvepabonde. (Uye usatya kuunza lube mukati mehushamwari yako frolics - ndeimwe yezvishanu mafambiro kune orgasm manheru ano.)

6. Ita mari mu vibrator.

"Imwe yeshamwari dzangu dzepedyo anga asati amboshandisa vibrator ndisati ndati atenge imwe. Akanditumira mameseji kunonoka husiku achiti" OMG. Ini ndaisatomboziva, "anodaro McDaniel.

"Ichokwadi chakaoma kuti vakadzi vanoda kurudziro yemakoko kuti vasvike panhengo, uye ma vibrator anoiswa pasi rino nekuda kwechikonzero ichocho," anodaro Morse. Kana iwe wanga uchingove kushandisa minwe yako, inguva yekuzvibata iwe: Kana iwe wagadzirira kuyedza bonde toyi, Morse anokurudzira kutanga diki. Bullet vibes senge We-Vibe Tango (Buy It, $ 60, amazon.com) kana Pocket Rocket (Buy It, $ 22, amazon.com) zvinoshamisa zve clitoral kukurudzira, inokwanisika, uye nyore kushandisa, iye anopa. Iye anodawo zvigadzirwa zveMugutsi, izvo zvinoshandisa mweya kumanikidza kukurudzira kutenderedza uye kudhonza pane yako clitoris pane kuibata zvakananga, ichipa zvishoma zvakananga uye zvakanyanya kukurudzira.

7. Nangidzira pfungwa pamhando diki dzemafaro.

“Mufaro wose unofadza,” anodaro McDaniel. "Izvi zvingaite sezviri pachena, asi kazhinji vakadzi vanoisa kumanikidza pavari kuti vawane kunakidzwa kwakasarudzika kusati kwaitika uye panguva yekuita bonhora, izvo dzimwe nguva zvinonzwa kuve nekumanikidzwa." Panzvimbo pekuisa pfungwa pauta-chica-wah-wah mhando yemafaro, edza kungozvipira mukugutsa. Tora bhati rinopisa rakareba nemafuta, zvinonhuwira, uye makenduru; teerera mimhanzi inoita kuti unyemwerere; pfeka mbatya dzako dzakapfava; idya zvokudya zvakanakisisa; shandisa pfungwa dzako. "Kazhinji, izvi zvinomutsa nzvimbo dzekunakidzwa dzehuropi hwako uye kukurudzira iwe kuti uwane mafaro," anowedzera.

8. Ita kuti zviroto zvako zvive zvakasviba.

"Kumutsa kunotanga mumusoro mako uye kunoshanda kwakadzika," anonongedza Morse. "Kana pfungwa dzako dzakanaka uye dzichivhurwa, hazvizoiti nguva yakareba kusvika muviri wako wese watevera." Kuti utore huropi hukuru hunofadza pabhodhi, tanga kufungidzira. "Funga nezvechiitiko chako chepabonde chinopisa uye chidzokorore mumusoro mako, kana kurega pfungwa dzako dzichidzungaira kunosangana nemutorwa ane hunhu-chero chii chinobatsira kuti unzwe." Uye rangarira, ifungidziro yako. Hapana anoziva zviri mumusoro mako kunze kwako, saka hapana chikonzero chekunzwa kunyara kana mhosva pane izvo zvinobatidza moto wako. (Sezvineiwo, vamwe vakadzi vari kushandisa BDSM senzira yekurapa.)

9. Ongorora erotic arts.

Nepo varume vachifarira kuona zvinonyadzisira nekuita bonde chaiko, vakadzi vanobatidzwa zvakanyanya nemavhidhiyo ezvepabonde ane nyaya yekongiri, iyo inogadzirisa manzwiro, inodaro chidzidzo mu International Zvinyorwa zveKushaya Kwekutsvaga. Uye rangarira, nepo porno ichiba iyo show kana zvasvika kune bonhora zvinhu, kune nyika yese yeanoratidzira hunyanzvi kunze uko. "Vamwe vanhu vanonyatsoshandurwa nemaitiro ekuona, vamwe nemashoko ekutaura kana zvakanyorwa, vamwe vachirasika mune yakanaka fantasy. Edza nemhando ipi, pamwe chete nemhando ipi yezvinyorwa, inoita kuti motokari yako ishande, "anodaro McDaniel. (BTW, kana iwe uchinetseka kuti "unozviita sei iwe pachako?" Ungangoda kuverenga pamusoro pekuti ungaita sei ese akasiyana marudzi emaoko ekutamba.)

10. Teerera muviri wako wose.

Muviri wako wese unokwanisa kunakidzwa, anodaro Gunsaullus, saka enda kune zvishoma kunze kwemiganhu kuongorora. “Tora ruoko rwako kana chitoyi chako wochifambisa uchitenderedza zvidya zvako zvemukati, vulva yose yekunze, uye kunyange dumbu rako nemazamu kana uchida,” anodaro. Sayenzi inogona kukupa zano rekuti utange kupi: Edza kubatika zvishoma pamutsipa, ruoko rwemberi, uye kumucheto kwemadzimai (kumucheto kwemukadzi padyo neiyo anosi) uye kumanikidza uye kudedera pane minyatso uye clitoris - zvese izvi zvimwe zvacho nzvimbo dzepamusoro-soro dzemafaro muchidzidzo mu Zvinyorwa zveBonde Mushonga. Asi bata zvese uye udzidze wega, uchiteerera kune rudzii rwekunzwa uye kumanikidza kunonzwa kunofadza kwauri, anowedzera Gunsaullus. Pro tip: Toyi yakadai saJe Joue's Mimi Soft (Tenga Izvo, $89, amazon.com) yakanakira izvi sezvo zvese zvakapfava uye zvinodedera.

11. Zvishoma nezvishoma.

Vanhu vazhinji vanoshuvira kuti mumwe wavo apedze nguva yakawanda ari paforeplay - saka usamhanyisa zvinhu pamwe newe. Enda katatu uchinonoka kupfuura iwe zvaunofunga, unofanirwa Morse. "Bonyora rakanyanyisa nezverwendo sezvo kuri iko kuenda." Tora nguva yekuongorora ese mativi emuviri wako - kubva pamutsipa wako kusvika zasi kusvika zvidya zvemukati - usati watamira mukati weziso renzombe. Teerera kune izvo zvinonzwa zvakanaka, zvirinani, uye zvakanakisa, uye tendera iwo manzwiro ekuvaka. Mhedzisiro yacho ichave yakakodzera kukamirira.

12. Chinja nzira yako.

Mhando dzakasiyana ndizvo zvinonhuwirira pabonde - kunyangwe mhando yauinayo newe, anodaro Morse. Kana iwe usati wachinja yako sitiroko kana kumhanyisa kubva pawakatanga kudzidza kuita bonhora kana kuzvibata nemunwe kunyanya, ndiyo nguva yacho.Semuenzaniso, kana iwe uchizvirovera wega mu diagonal pateni - uchifambisa minwe yako pamusoro pekorisita yako kubva kudivi kuenda kudivi - edza kusiyanisa yako sitiroko nzira nekuipuruzira uchishandisa iko kumusoro-uye-pasi kufamba pane. Imwe sarudzo: Shandisa munwe mumwe kutsvaga madenderedzwa akatenderedza clitoris yako pasina kuibata zvakananga, anodaro Morse. Kuguma kwemitsipa kucharamba kuchikurudzirwa zvisina kunangana, izvo zvinobatsira kuvaka kusagadzikana kukuru uye mufaro usati watombopinda zero pane yako yekunakidzwa nzvimbo.

13. Kufema.

"Unogona kushamisika kuti vangani vakadzi vanobatwa nezviri kuitwa nemaoko avo zvekuti vanokanganwa kufema. Kutarisa kufema kwako kunovaka kubatana kwakadzika nemuviri wako, uye zvakare kunobatsira iwe kutiza chero pfungwa dzinovhiringidza senge 'Ndiri kuita here kurudyi? ' kana 'Tiripo zvakadaro?' "akadaro Morse. Zviri nyore: Ingo tarisa kutarisisa kwako kune yako inhale uye exhale - muviri wako unozoita zvimwe zvese. (Funga kugadzirisa mukati memweya wako neaya matatu maitiro ekufema.)

Ongororo ye